Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[goku]

I do think some of the best relationships start from "friendship" but that's when it's a two way street. Ala meeting in a church group, school or whatever and the bond grows and you both have the same feelings

However once you've let your feelings been known and its unrequited then it's bushes .

If you slept with a "friend", and you want more and she doesn't

You never have to convince someone to be with you,

so the friend came back and sent me an 8 page letter apologizing.. basically said that she's a broken woman with issues with insecurity and couldn't see how i could love her when she wasn't good enough for me, and sabotaged what we had because she was insecure and scared.. that she ruined the greatest thing to ever happen to her in her life and that she was sorry she hurt me and regrets cheating.

I already forgave her, but I don't think I'm going to reply or talk to her anytime soon. If I do, it'd only be to say she should get counseling to deal with her issues.. I still love that woman, but .. yeah.

Thanks for all the advice.

 

[MikelArteta]

There are tons of broken people out there with insecurities who don't cheat

The things she utters are typical of women who cheat when they exit the fog and the guilt starts to eat them up. They apologize but continue to absolve themselves of their actions.

Its because daddy wasn't there broken home, insecurities, she got "scared".

So why not communicate , why not go to a therapist why not seek help instead of hopping on another dikk

See if your a good guy, and treated her well the guilt eats them.up, they need to know you forgave them while still not admitting they were at fault.

Forgiveness for you is great, however you don't have to associate.

I forgive I forget but I don't associate

so the friend came back and sent me an 8 page letter apologizing.. basically said that she's a broken woman with issues with insecurity and couldn't see how i could love her when she wasn't good enough for me, and sabotaged what we had because she was insecure and scared.. that she ruined the greatest thing to ever happen to her in her life and that she was sorry she hurt me and regrets cheating.

I already forgave her, but I don't think I'm going to reply or talk to her anytime soon. If I do, it'd only be to say she should get counseling to deal with her issues.. I still love that woman, but .. yeah.

Thanks for all the advice.

 

[goku]

There are tons of broken people out there with insecurities who don't cheat

The things she utters are typical of women who cheat when they exit the fog and the guilt starts to eat them up. They apologize but continue to absolve themselves of their actions.

Its because daddy wasn't there broken home, insecurities, she got "scared".

So why not communicate , why not go to a therapist why not seek help instead of hopping on another dikk

See if your a good guy, and treated her well the guilt eats them.up, they need to know you forgave them while still not admitting they were at fault.

Forgiveness for you is great, however you don't have to associate.

I forgive I forget but I don't associate

yeah, you're right. she did say sorry and that she fukked up and that she's an a$$hole, all that, but those are just words at the end of the day. whenever i get around to replying, if i ever dom it will be to say we had something great but we can't go back to what we had.

i miss her, and a part of me is glad she realizes how much of a mistake she made in letting me go, but i dont think her and i can ever be close again.. not eve nas friends. at least ,not withou a lot of therapy on her part and a lot of time away for me.

 

[The ADD]

yeah, you're right. she did say sorry and that she fukked up and that she's an a$$hole, all that, but those are just words at the end of the day. whenever i get around to replying, if i ever dom it will be to say we had something great but we can't go back to what we had.

i miss her, and a part of me is glad she realizes how much of a mistake she made in letting me go, but i dont think her and i can ever be close again.. not eve nas friends. at least ,not withou a lot of therapy on her part and a lot of time away for me.

She made the mistake. No need for you to suffer

 

[twan83]

@twan83


I hope you don't mind me asking, but what made you marry again?

Do you trust your wife?

How did you get to a point to trust your wife?

i had no plans of marrying again after the shyt i went thru with myself and the kids to be honest

it just came out of nowhere to be honest
just clicked and felt right and i still felt true to myself never did i sway nor did i change which was a first for me with anybody


do i trust her sure but that 100% trust i just dont do with anybody i like to keep it more of that 5-10% of that just in case that bs shyt wanna happen I'm always prepared and it wont hit me as hard if it ever came to fruition just how i am after dealing with women
u can call it a fail safe or back up when shyt hits the fan u can reboot easier that way is the way i look at it

i got to the point where i could trust her for these reason and it grew more over the years

how she is with the kids and the interaction
how she is with me and my health
how she is if she lies and her response
how she is if she makes a mistake and her response with action too it


those things exceeded what I'm accustom too

she dont really lie to me at all it rarely happens now people do lie but when she has it was never anything serious now
she she makes mistakes she the type where she cant stand doing wrong it eats her up she apologizes with sincere and quickly and tries deeply to fix it by all means necessary. she can't stand me being mad at her at all makes her feel bad

health wise is one of my biggest weakness cuz i need someone understand and even then its hard to be with someone like that knowing there mood changes all the time. she wont be perfect when it comes too it but she does enough to where I'm satisfied and doesnt judge me or fault me cuz of it
she feels bad and tries to make things easier for me as much as possible

nobody will understand what i went thru when i first got sick and how i am now its very difficult and sad situation but i make the best of it as i can

she not perfect but she fits what i look for in a female cuz she gets me
she not a dime piece she dont dress the way i prefer but all that shyt dont matter too me if u treat me with respect and kindness

80/20 rule

at same time she knows i dont tolerate shyt and will hit her with the real quick if i need too cuz i'll be fine by my damn self and dont need a woman to be happy at all i have everything i need in my kids and thats truly what matters to me more than anything in this world

once guys realize the inner beauty of the female and also know themselves and know they dont need them but if it happens thats great if not thats great
then life or relationships will be that much easier for them

love is a great feeling but its not the most important thing to me in a relationship or marriage i do think u need it but not that madly love or high love

i will say communication, loyalty, respect then love in that order is what i prefer

 

[MikelArteta]

i had no plans of marrying again after the shyt i went thru with myself and the kids to be honest

it just came out of nowhere to be honest
just clicked and felt right and i still felt true to myself never did i sway nor did i change which was a first for me with anybody


do i trust her sure but that 100% trust i just dont do with anybody i like to keep it more of that 5-10% of that just in case that bs shyt wanna happen I'm always prepared and it wont hit me as hard if it ever came to fruition just how i am after dealing with women
u can call it a fail safe or back up when shyt hits the fan u can reboot easier that way is the way i look at it

i got to the point where i could trust her for these reason and it grew more over the years

how she is with the kids and the interaction
how she is with me and my health
how she is if she lies and her response
how she is if she makes a mistake and her response with action too it


those things exceeded what I'm accustom too

she dont really lie to me at all it rarely happens now people do lie but when she has it was never anything serious now
she she makes mistakes she the type where she cant stand doing wrong it eats her up she apologizes with sincere and quickly and tries deeply to fix it by all means necessary. she can't stand me being mad at her at all makes her feel bad

health wise is one of my biggest weakness cuz i need someone understand and even then its hard to be with someone like that knowing there mood changes all the time. she wont be perfect when it comes too it but she does enough to where I'm satisfied and doesnt judge me or fault me cuz of it
she feels bad and tries to make things easier for me as much as possible

nobody will understand what i went thru when i first got sick and how i am now its very difficult and sad situation but i make the best of it as i can

she not perfect but she fits what i look for in a female cuz she gets me
she not a dime piece she dont dress the way i prefer but all that shyt dont matter too me if u treat me with respect and kindness

80/20 rule

at same time she knows i dont tolerate shyt and will hit her with the real quick if i need too cuz i'll be fine by my damn self and dont need a woman to be happy at all i have everything i need in my kids and thats truly what matters to me more than anything in this world

once guys realize the inner beauty of the female and also know themselves and know they dont need them but if it happens thats great if not thats great
then life or relationships will be that much easier for them

love is a great feeling but its not the most important thing to me in a relationship or marriage i do think u need it but not that madly love or high love

i will say communication, loyalty, respect then love in that order is what i prefer

see a woman like that I could see myself getting serious with and marrying you got a good one

 

[Atlrocafella]

Spring action is in effect, One on my D heavy right now, another shorty lined up for next week, and even an old chick tryna get back in the picture ...overall things looking real good.. Eat my brehs..Those sundresses about to come out.

 

[Turbulent]

It's just I think I'm past the "notch on the belt" shyt.

Starting to demand more from these women. The same way these women talk all that "He needs to be a 6 foot educated street guy with $_____ salary and (insert unrealistic bullshyt here)"...

if they don't have a car then

tell her to find a way to come through. if she isn't down with the play

 

[jeh]

I feel like simpin at a all time high man. Nikka can't even post in a thread without a nikka hounding a bytch he don't know or even fukked before. Shyt inbox man. Never hating though, or slipping. You gotta do what you gotta do. But homie, you asking a million oand one questions and shyt, talking bout "I been digging you gurl since I was lurking" son. Son. Man this shyt here for the birds brehs. I AIN'T tripping though. Players gone play. And real players get choose always. My bad fellows for the rant

 

[Atlrocafella]

I feel like simpin at a all time high man. Nikka can't even post in a thread without a nikka hounding a bytch he don't know or even fukked before. Shyt inbox man. Never hating though, or slipping. You gotta do what you gotta do. But homie, you asking a million oand one questions and shyt, talking bout "I been digging you gurl since I was lurking" son. Son. Man this shyt here for the birds brehs. I AIN'T tripping though. Players gone play. And real players get choose always. My bad fellows for the rant

I always find it funny when niccas are pressed to holla at chicks on here, pretty good indicator that they are a weirdo or when they are out in public with women in their face.

 

[Atlrocafella]

"Sooo when are we going to hang out again?"



Interested in hearing the brehs perspective on when to stop initiating the dates.

Back in the day, this used to be a problem of mines, I would be the one initiating all the dates, coming out of pocket for all expenses, only for the chick to decide a couple of weeks or months later that she was no longer Interested, and I'm left with a depleted account and a bruised ego

Since than I never go past 2 dates before I expect these chicks to start initiating and showing some initiative to prove that they are interested in me as much as I'm interested in them.

This definitely helps weed out the leeches and bum ass females you wouldn't want to be dealing with anyway. I had one broad who played the part and acted all interested when we hung out the first two times, after she inquired about a 3rd date, I told her to set something up and the bish vanished , you gotta be careful with the courting, cause these chicks will take it as long as you keep giving it away.

 

[The ADD]

"Sooo when are we going to hang out again?"



Interested in hearing the brehs perspective on when to stop initiating the dates.

Back in the day, this used to be a problem of mines, I would be the one initiating all the dates, coming out of pocket for all expenses, only for the chick to decide a couple of weeks or months later that she was no longer Interested, and I'm left with a depleted account and a bruised ego

Since than I never go past 2 dates before I expect these chicks to start initiating and showing some initiative to prove that they are interested in me as much as I'm interested in them.

This definitely helps weed out the leeches and bum ass females you wouldn't want to be dealing with anyway. I had one broad who played the part and acted all interested when we hung out the first two times, after she inquired about a 3rd date, I told her to set something up and the bish vanished , you gotta be careful with the courting, cause these chicks will take it as long as you keep giving it away.

Sounds smart:
1st date coffee/light drinks
2nd date: Something more formal but budget smart

If she's initiating after that keep going if not KIM

 

[MikelArteta]

All I can say is the next woman I commit to will be my wife. What I mean by that is I don't casually date, I'm not actively searching. I'm just living my life and for the next woman to even get my commitment will be a woman of worth I could see myself marrying. If the checkpoints aren't be met I'm not wasting my time on something seasonal when I can be doing so much better things. I've only given my commitment you can say to two women but I was young and dumb and didn't know better. I'm so much wiser and i'm thankful for those experiences.

 

[The ADD]

All I can say is the next woman I commit to will be my wife. What I mean by that is I don't casually date, I'm not actively searching. I'm just living my life and for the next woman to even get my commitment will be a woman of worth I could see myself marrying. If the checkpoints aren't be met I'm not wasting my time on something seasonal when I can be doing so much better things. I've only given my commitment you can say to two women but I was young and dumb and didn't know better. I'm so much wiser and i'm thankful for those experiences.

Serious question fam:

All good relationships have an element of compromise. How flexible are overall is she has say 8.5 out of 10 check points with what she doesn't have being easily explainable?

 

[MikelArteta]

Serious question fam:

All good relationships have an element of compromise. How flexible are overall is she has say 8.5 out of 10 check points with what she doesn't have being easily explainable?

A woman won't compromise on a man shorter than her, or working a dead end job etc. etc.

My checkpoints can't be compromised. I can't compromise loyalty, I can't compromise her respecting me and viewing me as valuable. I can't compromise her morals etc., I can't compromise on a woman building with me.

I can't compromise on things like these and others when this will probably be a woman I could see myself marrying.

My checkpoints aren't some 5'9 slim but curvy in the right places, perfect teeth a great career etc., but my checkpoints are stuff that I just can't compromise on.