lately i believe in myself more. but i dont feel like im attractive enough to approach women. ive always felt like i have to be better than that particular woman physically, mentally, basically in all categories. to a degree for her to take interest. ive felt like no woman wants a man that they are better than, basically thinking women want a man they can show off to other women. anyways i need to hit the gym. gonna land this job about a mile from my house. my ascending shall begin
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Be a man that a woman can respect and that is responsible, that alone will command her to notice. Trust me that goes a longer way than the superficial stuff.
People like in company of people that are improving themselves.
women follow hypergamy, but chemistry and a connection will veto that out plus money and status does not equal loyalty. Hell in terms of money status, education, attention my girl is "better" than me in those areas. But I'm confident and dhave that "connection"
Define what you bring to the table
i feel like i bring deep insight and conversation into a relationship. but im sure a lot of others can say that. my mellow nature makes me come off as completely boring to some, but i can be fun if its just people i know.
"he who compares is not wise", its a self defeatist attitude. Who cares what the next person is "offering" or what they bring to the table, what you have is unique as there is only one you. There's one you and billions of women
Instead of morphing into a different character find a woman who likes you for you, example last friday I was with my girl all we did is went to a park and took out our cameras and take photos of scenery boring as hell to some, but were both into photography and thats how we bonded that evening it cost absolutely nothing but we where there for like 3 hours.
waltthizzney
All Star
brah your underestimated what ignoring these hoes does to their heads. the less attention you pay to them the more they will want you. its a fukking game to them.
hmm.. never thought of it like that. i hate that i do that honestly. i dont want to change me but i feel like someone that likes me for me seems near nonexistent at times. ive felt like since ive had bad relationships that women only were there for what i brought to them rather than who i was.
waltthizzney
All Star
I met my current girl online but I got lucky she was just on there for a month trial and went on zero dates, and is religious like me and not even from this filthy west civilization but from africa just came to the west for grad school and now living here permy.
keep telling yourself that brah
I met my current girl online but I got lucky she was just on there for a month trial and went on zero dates, and is religious like me and not even from this filthy west civilization but from africa just came to the west for grad school and now living here permy.
keep telling yourself that brah
RealAssanova
Vagitarian
naa. Not looking nor has any come my way. I just can't wait to go back home and hit the gym and finish school next summer.
besides, even if i was to meet a girl that is everything i'd ever want, i still wouldn't be with it. Right now, i am not in any state to be tied down...and if that means losing out on potential, than so be it. I am willing to accept those consequences. But that's not to say that i'll keep her as my main...she just won't know.
Action Mike
All praise..
It could have been triggered by you moving upward and succeeding at work while she was stuck doing the same. Just a thought.
Was her emotional downfall around the time of your promotion/work progression? Maybe she was semi bored/apathetic before but was holding on for the sake of the relationship. Then, you becoming happy and excited about something in your personal life set her off and made her spiral.
Edit* It may hurt for a while. Stay strong and concentrate on your work life.
These were my thoughts as well..
Action Mike
All praise..
I came to find later I did the right thing, for both our sakes even. Used me a cruch for what she was going though..and has literally blown up.
b_priest9mm
A work in progress...
Got called "negative" today because I told some friends of mine that I wouldn't approach a girl unless I knew that she was at least somewhat physically attracted to me in the first place and said that women were every bit as visual as men are, and that the only difference is that women get insulted for it...so I made it clear that I was on their side.
I still got taken to task and called all kinds of names like "scared", etc.
Then I brought up the point about how girls complain all the time about "creeps" and men that they're clearly not into approaching them and giving them unsolicited attention, so finally, when a guy who's clearly not entitled agrees with them on the issue, they still complain!
There is no making these hoes happy.
/grinds my gears
I still got taken to task and called all kinds of names like "scared", etc.
Then I brought up the point about how girls complain all the time about "creeps" and men that they're clearly not into approaching them and giving them unsolicited attention, so finally, when a guy who's clearly not entitled agrees with them on the issue, they still complain!
There is no making these hoes happy.
/grinds my gears
So girl i've been seeing is getting super impatient i feel, We've known each other for four months and been dating for two months. So far she's asked me when can she meet my mom, told me she wants things to move forward a little faster, even asked me that "where is this going" question 
. She's told me that she is interesting in having kids in the future and i am too but i know for sure i don't want it to be right now. I told her to chill out and relax, lets take our time with this but she feels like i'm going to lose interest in her and that i kept her waiting those first two months of knowing each other. 
Should i take this as a red flag?.
. She's told me that she is interesting in having kids in the future and i am too but i know for sure i don't want it to be right now. I told her to chill out and relax, lets take our time with this but she feels like i'm going to lose interest in her and that i kept her waiting those first two months of knowing each other. Should i take this as a red flag?.