Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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OK, we established the problems, but what are the REAL solutions?
Advice on online dating, quick/non-gimmicky/natural phrases to grab attention to women, and the attitude for those who are new to the dating game and want to be successful.
Advice on online dating, quick/non-gimmicky/natural phrases to grab attention to women, and the attitude for those who are new to the dating game and want to be successful.
Online dating is a cesspool if you're using free sites, mainly because the guy to girl ratio is all fukked up, dudes generally don't want to pay for a service they can get for free. Where as the females who are interested in a relationship will pay to avoid the scumbag type of nikkas. The free sites are flooded with dudes, average women get HUNDREDs of messages a day.
My advice for women as a whole regardless of it being online or not is always look for the nerdy, reserved, homebody type of females, preferably from a stable 2 parent upbringing. If she's a former tomboy and awkward with guys, even better, women like that usually have interests beyond just fashion, celebrities and taking pictures of themselves. If she doesn't drink you're on the road to success, if she drinks wine/champagne every once in a while that's cool, but if she's the type of chick that gets drunk/hammered/wasted/fukked up or smokes weed, keep it moving.
Footnote - Women that smoke weed have typically fukked a dude just to get some weed.
There's no solutions to be honest.
I suppose just heed the advice of others when first meeting a chick. Remember they're gonna all be on their absolute best behavior early on(even crazy ppl hide their crazy at first LOL)....and what's funny is, they're usually genuine with it. Alot of them(tho some do) don't always have plans to play you right off the bat....it just happens once some other dude comes in the pcture or an ex hits them up, or they listen to their friends, etc.
Far as online dating, it's a crap shoot.... This last girl I was talking to, she liked my physique right off the bat...so the words I was saying to her were only icing on the cake. Remember, you can say something to them exactly the same as someone else, and she's gonna go with whichever one is cuter. She doesnt know you from Joe Schmo. If ur cuter, she's gonna pick you.....but just remember if another dude better looking than you messages her, now he's on top. I wouldnt take 99% of women online seriously at all.
Also, I've seen dudes agressively grab chicks hands at the club and then bag them. In my days of overly respecting any & every woman, I always thought that method was rude & 100% guaranteed fail...but I've seen it work and I was like
, and I've also seen it fail 
. So there no method. Just be you. Every chick won't like you. But some will. Me personally, I'm going back to my old way which worked. I used to be really shy, so I'd just ignore them all. But tehn I noticed they came around more.
and so I started acting that way on purpose. 
The best girls I ever talked to/dated gave off a vibe or made motions to me that let me know they liked me or all but told me they liked me....then all you have to do is ask them out.....you are in control. On top of that, it sets you apart from the other guys they meet who throw themselves at them. Now that I understand the game a little better, it makes them think you're cool about the situation and dont care one way or the other. You're "mysterious" and they can't figure out why you're not drawn to them like evry other dude. Of course this method cuts down on the quantity of women you have, but the quality is usually better.
why do you feel like you have to win them over or grab their attention? this is your life, your movie. you are the director and if they wanna enter your movie you do the casting. you walk up to these women and have normal conversations about normal shyt and if they don't respond to you you've talked to 1 out of billions and it didn't work so why would you care? its not your last chance.
the model you subscribe to where the burden is on you to "win" the woman is wrong. there's the guy that's looking for the technique and hears someone say "be yourself" and when he hears this his reaction is "that doesn't work" then there's that same guy after he's tried all the techniques and now knows they don't work and he hears "be yourself" and thinks to himself "why would i do anything but that?" when be yourself makes sense to you then you've mentally arrived where you need to be.
stop using techniques and lines and start deciding who you are, what you will do and what you want. beyond that say whatever you want to say but say it from a place where if it works it works and if she doesn't respond she never wanted you in the first place. these women aren't responding to techniques and lines they're responding to you.
if a woman you weren't feeling walked up and delivered a clever line is there really anything she could say to you to change your opinion on her? its about the person themselves, the total package and how the beholder feels about that package. nothing can be said to change the table. when you say something and it works its because you worked not what you said.
Me personally, I'm going back to my old way which worked. I used to be really shy, so I'd just ignore them all. But tehn I noticed they came around more.
let me ask you a question: do you define what you want or does what you want define you? what i mean is do you choose what you want or does what you want determine who you are?
there's no techniques. its about you being conformable in your own skin and indifferent to the outcome. lack of neediness. if you're shy then be shy but if you're not why act that way because you think it will get you something?
if a guy simps but deep down he's not a nice guy or a simp and he gets to fukk the woman he targeted did he win or lose?
Free online dating sites are a cesspool of crap. Women who respect themselves and are not attn seekers usually last 1-2 weeks then the dikk picks and Pervs and all the notes bug them so they delete, or are hidden. If you are serious about online dating better to pay the 10-15 a month for match or e harmony.
I refuse to pay to talk to women so
When I messed with dating sites I never messaged chicks first. I'd just sign in and wait and chicks always bit and sent me messages.
And just be yourself live for yourself stop worrying how to attract women with gimmicky cologne and lines. The best women you will meet in your life is when you least expect it and you are just being yourself and going about your day.
I'm out of th game now I don't care anymore, I'm just a work then home person no social networks, yet I've
Still has convos struck up with me a supermarkets Walmart etc
Just be yourself!!
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Turn Your Love Around - George Benson
You've got the love
You've got the power
But you just don't understand
Girl, you've been charging by the hour
For your love
I'm tryin' to show how much I love you
Still believe in romance
You're taking way too many chances
With my love
I remember
When you used to be
The talk of the town
All you get is lonely
Turn your love around
Don't you turn me down
I can show you how
Turn your love around
Without the woman I can make it
But I need the girl to stay
Oh, don't you let the lady take it
All away
When the woman need's
A taste of yesterday
But you stay at home
All they get is lonely
You've got the love
You've got the power
But you just don't understand
Girl, you've been charging by the hour
For your love
I'm tryin' to show how much I love you
Still believe in romance
You're taking way too many chances
With my love
I remember
When you used to be
The talk of the town
All you get is lonely
Turn your love around
Don't you turn me down
I can show you how
Turn your love around
Without the woman I can make it
But I need the girl to stay
Oh, don't you let the lady take it
All away
When the woman need's
A taste of yesterday
But you stay at home
All they get is lonely
Bro, I already said there is no technique, and to just be yourself.
But at some point, what if you notice that being yourself works? Then that in & of itself becomes a technique. ANYTHING you do in life, if it works, can be defined as a technique. And everyone has something like that in most areas of their life.
I did the online dating thing for a while. Met tons of women. I prefer meeting them in person first. The key thing is make them feel comfortable. But the most important thing is for you to feel comfortable. Establish eye contact, if you can't sense a connection, drop it. If you do sense a connection. Compliment her clothing, smile, etc. and take it from there. A girl can be the baddest chick in the world, but if she isn't vibing with you, you're just another thirsty dude. As far as dating, pay the first date. If she suggests a second, you pay for food and she pays for drinks/extra shyt. Dating is a combined effort. Be yourself, but act dont like its if your on an interview. Be yourself, make her feel like she's on an interview. The key is to realize a woman is a woman. They come in all shapes and sizes and their easily replaceable. Date with your brain and not your heart. If you don't think it's gonna work now, it probably won't work later.
I didn't mean use gimmicky lines or bullshyt like that nor do I bow down to a chick thinking that she is superior, its just that I heard that online dating is way different than to pick up a chick on the street/ club/ bar.
I ain't searching for love, just another way to get a fukk buddy
I ain't searching for love, just another way to get a fukk buddy
As men we spend too much time being concerned about attracting women.
Knowing how to dress, what to say, and all of these rehearsed ideas in order to get women.
Reality is that you really don't want all women to be attracted to you. You want to limit it to the type of women you want in your life.
A successful man will always attract a multitude of women, and most of them are not good women.
An attractive man will always attract a multitude of women, and most of them are not good women.
We always talk about being successful and looking presentable, but what's really important is to have standards when it comes to women. And these standards should not be solely based on looks. I've seen numerous dudes wife chicks simply based on how they look, not realizing that one day they would get tired of the pu$$y, and would have to deal with this woman with no substance, no goals, and no ambition.
Learn to go against immediate gratification when it comes to woman. Is f*cking with her worth the long term price you have pay?
Don't let your d*ck, eyes, or heart make decisions for you when it comes to women.
Remain logical and realistic. Create a checklist.
I will share mine with you brothers shortly
Knowing how to dress, what to say, and all of these rehearsed ideas in order to get women.
Reality is that you really don't want all women to be attracted to you. You want to limit it to the type of women you want in your life.
A successful man will always attract a multitude of women, and most of them are not good women.
An attractive man will always attract a multitude of women, and most of them are not good women.
We always talk about being successful and looking presentable, but what's really important is to have standards when it comes to women. And these standards should not be solely based on looks. I've seen numerous dudes wife chicks simply based on how they look, not realizing that one day they would get tired of the pu$$y, and would have to deal with this woman with no substance, no goals, and no ambition.
Learn to go against immediate gratification when it comes to woman. Is f*cking with her worth the long term price you have pay?
Don't let your d*ck, eyes, or heart make decisions for you when it comes to women.
Remain logical and realistic. Create a checklist.
I will share mine with you brothers shortly
Seth Brundle
Sick with it
Standards are key.
So I called out this teacher girl on whether she was dating other cats, and it turns out she's shy as hell and had been legit busy. Her ex of 5 years cheated on her, so we have that in common, which is nice.
I told her she better not take that out on me, that I got my being a cuckold out of my system and I refuse to be anybody's pin-cushion for vengeance. She's down with that.
Funny thing is, I have the power and respect now in this arrangement.
For now.
So I called out this teacher girl on whether she was dating other cats, and it turns out she's shy as hell and had been legit busy. Her ex of 5 years cheated on her, so we have that in common, which is nice.
I told her she better not take that out on me, that I got my being a cuckold out of my system and I refuse to be anybody's pin-cushion for vengeance. She's down with that.
Funny thing is, I have the power and respect now in this arrangement.
For now.
Standards are key.
So I called out this teacher girl on whether she was dating other cats, and it turns out she's shy as hell and had been legit busy. Her ex of 5 years cheated on her, so we have that in common, which is nice.
I told her she better not take that out on me, that I got my being a cuckold out of my system and I refuse to be anybody's pin-cushion for vengeance. She's down with that.
Funny thing is, I have the power and respect now in this arrangement.
For now.
I'm not saying she IS lying....but comeon, if she was lying is she gonna come right out and say,
"You got me!"lol
The girl I was talking to was in school and had gotten a part time job in additon to her full time...I had every reason to believe she was "busy" when she said it.
But just use your gut.
Rocket Scientist
Superstar
Aight case in point a female friend of mine.We went to school and all. She calls me and we kickin it on the phone during my lunch break etc. Later that day I need help on a work project,so I call ol girl up asking her to help me and what not.She says she will. 2 Days later I call her around 10 PM reminding her,because she is forgetful.She gives me the ol "im a lil busy right now".Telling from her tone,I can sense bs.I text her on some sarcastic tip later that night "didnt mean to interupt your date".She responds "not on a date just out with my homeboy".Remind you this is a worknight.So im working on the project and she calls me like "Im gonna be a little late" and I told her forget it. Moral of story is...when women start pulling the im gonna be late,im busy card out of the blue,thats when you got to him them with their own medicine.