Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Princess Coco]

That could be true....She probably settled for you because other guys wasn't checking for her like that due to her being overweight. At the same time, good women are hard to find. You'll probably be kicking yourself for letting her go but you'll bounce back eventually.

Do you think big women should just settle for whatever man they can get? Im 500 pounds and i feel like i don't have a right to have standards.

 

[InDePickWest]

Do you think big women should just settle for whatever man they can get? Im 500 pounds and i feel like i don't have a right to have standards.

If you got a vagina...nikkas will fukk you.

You BETTER have standards.

 

[InDePickWest]

Thinking bout this girl more and more. I literally can't wait till the next day when I get to see she's calling. Never felt this way in high school and I been in and out of these nikkas heart.

She's so beautiful and special.
I hate having to wait but I don't want to tell her like Brandy I wanna be down so quickly but shyt it might slip out sooner than later.

 

[LoMax30]

Hitting the gym tomorrow. Been slacking. But I'm back on it. I feel positive about 80 percent of the time. Conversation is still my major malfunction. In terms of running out of things to talk about. I feel I need to just do more things. I need to fully embrace being awkward. I just don't know how. I kept trying to follow everyone else's playbook to no avail. I just know I'd be a catch. .

If conversation is your issue there's two things you can do to improve. First, you can practice your conversation with cashiers in stores, bartenders, or waitresses, etc. If you're in line paying for something and no one is behind you, chat her up. This is good because you get a chance to talk/flirt with a woman, get a bit more comfortable but you aren't obligated to talk long. Second, when you're out on a date or talking to a woman in the wild, have a set list of 5 topics that you can ask about that'll get her to talk. I usually go for where she's from, family, free time/hobbies, food, music/concerts, travel. Usually those topics have a couple facets to them you can use to pick her apart. Whenever she answers a question, use her answer to ask another question. And in some cases if you ask the right questions she'll do all the talking for you

 

[LoMax30]

Quick random thoughts from someone who has learned a couple things the hard way and seen more than a few homies crash and burn:

-Don't go do OD googling/research into a girl you met. You may find out some things you didn't didn't need to know or weren't for you to knowThen you'll end up talking yourself out of a situation that could've been good.

-If a girl is kicking it with you and showing obvious interest she's doing it for a reason. Don't over analyze it, just go with it. Don't go asking her (or even yourself) why she's dealing with you. Your insecurities show and they are NOT attractive

-Others spoke to this but even after you meet a chick and you're dealing with her, DO NOT let that hamper you from improving yourself. Hit the gym, pursue school/education, get to the shmoney, keep at your hobbies/interests. Women LOVE men who stay true to their positive goals

-If you're getting to know someone there's nothing wrong with showing/communicating you're interested. DO NOT put her on a pedestal though. That's an easy way to get your emotions and mental health effed up. Trust me, women come and go. Even if you are in the ill drought of meeting women, as long as you stay focused on doing you (see previous point) and keeping positive the good ones will eventually find you

 

[Lo-Co]

If conversation is your issue there's two things you can do to improve. First, you can practice your conversation with cashiers in stores, bartenders, or waitresses, etc. If you're in line paying for something and no one is behind you, chat her up. This is good because you get a chance to talk/flirt with a woman, get a bit more comfortable but you aren't obligated to talk long. Second, when you're out on a date or talking to a woman in the wild, have a set list of 5 topics that you can ask about that'll get her to talk. I usually go for where she's from, family, free time/hobbies, food, music/concerts, travel. Usually those topics have a couple facets to them you can use to pick her apart. Whenever she answers a question, use her answer to ask another question. And in some cases if you ask the right questions she'll do all the talking for you

I do the cashier thing mostly. My typical topics are
Music
Films
College
Food
And voice acting

I typically run with stuff about voice acting and films. Stuff where I try to feel in my zone.

 

[Lo-Co]

Don't go asking her (or even yourself) why she's dealing with you.

Did that once. It was out of paranoia that I was going to get played. Insecurity was a mother fukker

 

[全能の神]

Thinking bout this girl more and more. I literally can't wait till the next day when I get to see she's calling. Never felt this way in high school and I been in and out of these nikkas heart.

She's so beautiful and special.
I hate having to wait but I don't want to tell her like Brandy I wanna be down so quickly but shyt it might slip out sooner than later.

I'm low-key jealous. I miss having these feelings

 

[Mr210]

Fellas how long do you tend to date a woman before considering getting in an actual monogamous relationship with hee

 

[Bless't]

guys, being resentful or feeling the need to vent does no good.

i've said it many times before, the world is changing and things are the way they are. women dont owe u sh1t. and u cant change the spoiled nature of the modern day woman.

what u can do is put urself in a position to use them for ur benefits. which means working on urself...and no, i'm not talking about the gym. there are many fit guys out there who live in the gym. if u spend all ur time "looking good", u'll damn near wanna kill urself if the woman u really want skips over u for someone who u perceive to be less "fit" than u.

working on urself, as i've said before is focusing on ur money. good looking fit people come a dime a dozen. people with an abundance of tangible resources (money), do not! this is a fact. i dont give a damn what anyone says. finding a dude who's 6'3 and dashingly gorgeous is not hard. go to the closest supermarket or mall and u'll find them. but finding a dude with money, yeah, that is an exotic status. so, which would u rather be? if ur short or ugly or whatever, obviously, the physical is out the window for you. but lucky for u, there's a variety of different ways to get a woman attracted to you.

when u do get ur money, if u are able to, this thread should be ur bible as to how to weed out women who may seek to use u for ur "resources".

i read the posts in here about guys who are hurt because they just aren't getting any positive attention from the women they want. and honestly, i feel really bad. like, really, i do. i cant imagine what it must feel like to not have had a girl u really like, like u back. that's a terrible way to live. but, like i've said, if u cant get women through ur looks, u have to put urself in a position that allows u to use them for ur benefits. women are attracted to the physical, as well as power, status, money. put urself in a position to acquire these "other" statuses, and u'll have a lot more options at ur disposal.

when ur money is right, then u can go live in the gym. sure, u can hit the gym and still work on ur money. but can u really? i know people that spend hours in the gym. and these people have 9 to 5 jobs. when u get done with ur 9 to 5, and u spend 2 hours at the gym, what time do u have left to devote to spending on really working on urself???

put urself in a position of power and u can use people however u want.

It is possible to make money and also live a healthy lifestyle without sacrificing time for potential women you may meet.

Just saying.

 

[RichieRich]

It is possible to make money and also live a healthy lifestyle without sacrificing time for potential women you may meet.

Just saying.

I took it as not relying solely on the gym. Work on money, physical and mental

 

[Bless't]

I took it as not relying solely on the gym. Work on money, physical and mental

Yeah, you right.

@TRUEST

 

[Ohene]

It is possible to make money and also live a healthy lifestyle without sacrificing time for potential women you may meet.

Just saying.

thats what I was telling @craz_eddy probably 100 pages back

 

[International Playa]

Fellas how long do you tend to date a woman before considering getting in an actual monogamous relationship with hee

Personally I make them work for it. Usually they start asking for commitment after we have had sex a couple times. They start asking questions like "What are we?"

 

[True Blue Moon]

I netflix & chilled with my homegirl last night . She hit me up on snapchat the night before drunk, saying that she missed me and wanted us to talk again. Real cute black chick from the Chi, on the bbw side of the game. She picked me up and we went back to apartment to drink & hangout outta town.

I was being playful and tried to give her a kiss on the cheek, but she wasn't having it saying that were just friends, no kissing, no touching etc.

A few hours later, we ended up fukking with Baby Boy playing in the background.
Afterwards, she was like "Ain't this some shyt, I brought you here to just hangout as friends and you ended up in my p*ssy"

I'm just like


We both passed out then went to sleep. But we know where we stand. We may never get into a relationship but we'll always be cool. She knows that I'm gonna be moving in a few weeks, and we don't do long distant relationships.

Way to go for it and get it. Too many dudes take rejection and her not instantly spreading her legs as a bad thing, when 90% of the time if a chick is giving you energy but rejects you, it means "not now" or that she's not warmed up enough or she wasn't feeling the way you did something etc. That's when you chill, regroup and escalate again after some time has passed. The end result is the chick being like "How did this happen?!", when you both know that it was building toward that.

Sex always has to be the man's "fault", and that means rolling with the punches and recognizing those little token rejections as part of the dance, instead of getting all hurt and taking it personal. This is a key that brehs gotta recognize, because it's easy to write women being women off as playing games if you don't understand them.