Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Iceson Beckford]

For relationships it's good. For getting laid it's a terrible trait...I would know.

We got an infant in the house
How old are you?

Almost 18

 

[drugxglory]

What do yall do when a chick says she'd rather be friends first before a relationship. I never experienced this.

Actually as a i got older i started to tell chicks this myself, i started to understand having a girl as a friend first is better than jumping into a relationship. Gives them a idea of what i like and dislike without having a hesitation of what they think about it, they can take it or leave it.

 

[GETTINIT23]

So I've been dating this one girl the past few weeks. Well since late July. Great girl, but man... I sometimes don't know where I'm at with her. Maybe it's the fact it's a woman that is one of the most attractive women that I've dated or something. I get nervous around her but I don't show it.

She's introverted. She has mentioned to me once before that she feels many compliments are insincere... for example today I mentioned her eyes and she said "I do have green eyes" and I almost sensed she was rolling her eyes in her mind.

She doesn't seem huge into PDA but she will touch me every now and then, I will touch her. When she greets me she kisses me.

I see her once a week. She works for the government so it's hectic.

I will say though that if I suggest something for us to do and she can't make it, she offers something else instead. When I see her she spends quality time with me, 4-6 hours usually. She is probably one of the few women that I've seen rarely pull out her phone. She is always present and engaged when we are together.

She also always offers to pay. If I pay for something she will try and make up for it by paying for something else. I appreciate that because a lot of women will waste my money.

So I think her being mad introverted throws me off. I will talk and sometimes I feel like I will say something stupid in front of her and it puts me on edge. But really she is showing me she values our time together in one form or another...whether by thanking me, being present, paying up, etc.

She has mentioned to me that she wants to take things slow and that's what we are doing. I'm not used to this shyt I won't lie. I can lay girls within two dates if they are into me, but this girl is a different breed and I could see a future with her.

Just me ranting and venting. I may be bugging and should be OK with taking it slow since she's quality. I've talked to other women of course but she is the one I want.

she have kids? anything else that would make her life hectic? you live in a city? suburbs? how close do you guys live to each other?

 

[GETTINIT23]

Yeah I think she maybe has something that is preventing her from going forward. It could be something like her work life could be consuming her a lot and she doesn't have time for a relationship, or like you said she may be damaged.

I've asked her has she ever been married. She hasn't. No kids either. It's a bit odd for someone her age to not be cuffed.

First few dates I asked more serious stuff about her relationships. The past few times have been us just doing stuff together and enjoying our time with one another. I mentioned today about me wanting kids to gauge her response. She didn't really answer whether or not she wanted any but she enjoys them. I was hoping she would divulge it.

She will kiss me and even make out with me though, so I don't think she's doing that to pass the time. She could reject me any time.

She knows I'm dealing with my father's death now and I'm going through some job stuff though. She is kind hearted and empathetic sure, but she is showing me signs of interest and it's not a string along. She always drops hints of us doing something in the future.

But I should press and ask her more stuff.

just saw your response about the kids, but would be interested to see if you live in the city or not and if shes close

you are making excuses for her. If a girl is into you it doesnt matter how hectic her life is she will make time for you. If she is actually telling you her life is hectic thats a good thing because she enrtusts you with telling you about her life, if this is you making an observation you are making an excuse

pros
she pays for dates, shes into you
she counter offer dates when she cant make them, shes into you

cons
she said to take things slow, that's her way of saying you are taking things too fast chill out
how old is she?

 

[International Playa]

If a woman is in to you, she will make it easy for you.

She will make it easy for you to see her, she will make it easy for you to setup dates, she will make it easy for you to contact her, she will return your missed calls or texts as soon as she can, she will make it easy for you to have flowing conversations, she will make it easy for you to fukk her. Etc

If a woman is NOT in to you, she will make it hard for you & put up roadblocks in the hope you get it that she is not interested

She will put up roadblocks such as she is busy, she got school, her life is hectic, she will let you know, she is not feeling well, she wont return your calls, she will take hours to respond back to your texts (women always have their phone in their hand lol)

Here are examples I experienced this past year

A female I dated for few months, she came to the first date & she was sick, nose running, had a fever & a headache. She should have cancelled the date, but she later told me she didnt want to cancel, she didnt want me to think I wasnt interested. This female clearly had high interest in me.

Another female recently, I tried to set up a date to meet up, she kept on making excuses & told me she will let me know. She never did let me know. I saved my myself time & money, I could have wasted time & money only to find out she aint interested after a few dates. She had low interest or no interest at all.

Brehs its important to quickly read a womans level of interest in you. It saves you time & money before you go on numerous dates that go nowhere.

 

[Deafheaven]

If a woman is in to you, she will make it easy for you.

She will make it easy for you to see her, she will make it easy for you to setup dates, she will make it easy for you to contact her, she will return your missed calls or texts as soon as she can, she will make it easy for you to have flowing conversations, she will make it easy for you to fukk her. Etc

If a woman is NOT in to you, she will make it hard for you & put up roadbloack in the hope you get it that she is not interested

She will put up roadblocks such as she is busy, she got school, her life is hectic, she will let you know, she is not feeling well, she wont return your calls, she will take hours to respond back to your texts (women always have their phone in their hand lol)

Here are examples I experienced this past year

A female I dated for few months, she came to the first date & she was sick, nose running, had a fever & a headache. She should have cancelled a date, but she later told me she didnt want to cancel, she didnt want me to think I wasnt interested. This female clearly had high interest in me.

Another female recently, I tried to set up a date to meet up, she kept on making excuses & told me she will let me know. She never did let me know. I saved my myself time & money, I could have wasted time & money only to find out she aint interested after a few dates. She had low interest or no interest at all.

Brehs its important to quickly read a womans level of interest in you. It saves you time & money before you go on numerous dates that go nowhere.

 

[ViShawn]

just saw your response about the kids, but would be interested to see if you live in the city or not and if shes close

you are making excuses for her. If a girl is into you it doesnt matter how hectic her life is she will make time for you. If she is actually telling you her life is hectic thats a good thing because she enrtusts you with telling you about her life, if this is you making an observation you are making an excuse

pros
she pays for dates, shes into you
she counter offer dates when she cant make them, shes into you

cons
she said to take things slow, that's her way of saying you are taking things too fast chill out
how old is she?

Nope no kids. She is going to be 33 soon. I'm going to be 34 soon.

We live in the city. Yeah I realize I have to either be comfortable with the pace she wants or dip. I can accept her pace since I have shyt to figure out too...dealing with my father's death has been proven to be harder than expected. I'm also looking at different job options.

 

[Cynic]

Almost 18

It's about to be an interesting 10 years for you young lad...

Just make sure you don't get women preggo and take everything girls say with a grain of salt

Oh yeah, one last thing.........



Don't Get married Breh

 

[Iceson Beckford]

It's about to be an interesting 10 years for you young lad...

Just make sure you don't get women preggo and take everything girls say with a grain of salt

Oh yeah, one last thing.........



Don't Get married Breh

You right, I'm very slowly starting to see the dynamics shift and girls have less power. Getting married don't make no damn sense in 2017 either.

 

[GETTINIT23]

Nope no kids. She is going to be 33 soon. I'm going to be 34 soon.

We live in the city. Yeah I realize I have to either be comfortable with the pace she wants or dip. I can accept her pace since I have shyt to figure out too...dealing with my father's death has been proven to be harder than expected. I'm also looking at different job options.

Sorry to hear about your father. It seems you already know what to do though, and it's not even about accepting her pace, make it your pace too. There is no harm in taking things slow while making yourself the best possible version of yourself possible.

If you start focusing too much on her and less on yourself that will reflect on to her and cause her to push away. If you do you and keep her in that mix that will most likely attract her towards you. Plus if you live in a city there should always be new and fun things to do

 

[Dreamzeedream]

If a woman is in to you, she will make it easy for you.

She will make it easy for you to see her, she will make it easy for you to setup dates, she will make it easy for you to contact her, she will return your missed calls or texts as soon as she can, she will make it easy for you to have flowing conversations, she will make it easy for you to fukk her. Etc

If a woman is NOT in to you, she will make it hard for you & put up roadblocks in the hope you get it that she is not interested

She will put up roadblocks such as she is busy, she got school, her life is hectic, she will let you know, she is not feeling well, she wont return your calls, she will take hours to respond back to your texts (women always have their phone in their hand lol)

Here are examples I experienced this past year

A female I dated for few months, she came to the first date & she was sick, nose running, had a fever & a headache. She should have cancelled the date, but she later told me she didnt want to cancel, she didnt want me to think I wasnt interested. This female clearly had high interest in me.

Another female recently, I tried to set up a date to meet up, she kept on making excuses & told me she will let me know. She never did let me know. I saved my myself time & money, I could have wasted time & money only to find out she aint interested after a few dates. She had low interest or no interest at all.

Brehs its important to quickly read a womans level of interest in you. It saves you time & money before you go on numerous dates that go nowhere.

I won't really trip on the money I just hate wasting my time because that's something u can't get back

 

[ViShawn]

Sorry to hear about your father. It seems you already know what to do though, and it's not even about accepting her pace, make it your pace too. There is no harm in taking things slow while making yourself the best possible version of yourself possible.

If you start focusing too much on her and less on yourself that will reflect on to her and cause her to push away. If you do you and keep her in that mix that will most likely attract her towards you. Plus if you live in a city there should always be new and fun things to do

Well I just got a job offer today so life has gotten a little less complicated now

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Don't go back. Stay strong. We've all go soft spots for exes. I had an ex that broke my heart. She came back 4 years later to 'check in' on me basically. She was now a single mom of two kids, working on her PhD (good for her) but obviously feeling low value in the dating market. She admitted that she checked up on me on FB, looked at videos of me doing cool stuff, etc. She saw my life was good after our break up.

Point is we were going in two separate directions. We met at a certain point but that is no more. Move on and find someone you're better with. I get it though...we all romanticize our exes in one form or another.

I hear that.

Monday I asked for her friends number bc she works near me, she said I could drop the stuff off and I told her "no I'm not messing with her anymore bc she made me feel like trash. She threw me away.

Then she called me and was like "I'll come over now" and I said "no I gotta leave" then went on about how she made me feel, then she tried to respond and I hung up. Then she started to text my phone like crazy for an hour, and finally gave me her friends number. I texted her friend, and then texted her bc she said I wanted to hurt her, and I didn't.

We talked, she decided to come get the book that evening, and we spoke about feelings and then moved on to talk about other stuff.

She keeps repeating "we're not getting back together" before and after we had sex, but was in cahoots with getting coffee, and we spoke on the phone for 30 minutes last night.

I feel like I need to fall back, especially since I came in her 2 days ago, but my emotions were tripping on me making me feel like I need to text her "I'm sorry I said stuff to hurt your feelings...emotional burnout, etc"

But again I know I need to fallback so I can get my own emotional burn out taken care of.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

So I been messing with this shorty on the island who has an “open” relationship. I normally wouldn’t entertain a situation like this but her man lives on mainland Portugal. I hit it a few times and she done went full blown freak on me. She talking about me hitting raw, threesomes, etc. I just think about her man and I’m like Damn man. These are truly savage lands out here.

 

[BadBoy]

Where can I find some french girls at