Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[letti cook]

I really don't expect anything from these girls anymore tbh. One thing I notice, the type of effort i show I never get that back from them misty of the time

i struggle with this myself. Ive taken so many L's being proactive that I fall back..and sometimes I fall a little too far back...its hard to figure out the balance between putting in effort and letting her come to you...the unfortunate truth is, if they aint showing effort, they aint really fukking with you like that

its been said many times in this thread...women that really fukk with you will make it easy.

 

[LoMax30]

Yeah I've done long distance. You have to have a goal in mind to connect with one another though if you are doing that I will say that. But depending on what you want in life it is probably hard to find compatibility so I get that.

When you're older you're more set in your ways. I think at 34 I'm not too stringent but I remember dating a girl when I was 27 and just overlooking some of her flaws like it was nothing. Now I can get irritated by minor things and know I can't deal with certain things. This girl I had sex with is asking me to hang out and this is around my bday and it is annoying me a bit lol. I can't always talk or see you I have other things going on.

Where can I find my smart, sexy, athletic counterpart?!

I did long distance when I was younger but honestly I didn't really have an end goal so it was partially my fault it didn't work. I'm adult enough to say that now. I might be stupid to entertain this new chick considering the crazy distance but that compatibility we have, albeit only from a few encounters, kinda has me like eff it I'll take the risk.

I feel you though about people wanting your time. I'm an introvert (NOT socially awkward) so I'm pretty comfortable spending time alone. On the flip, since I ain't had a steady girl in years I'm a little scared that might work against me if I get serious with someone. I'm so used to doing things my way on my time at my pace.

So are you on some "I'ma deal with these randos until the right one comes along" or are you starting to limit the casualness?

 

[ViShawn]

I did long distance when I was younger but honestly I didn't really have an end goal so it was partially my fault it didn't work. I'm adult enough to say that now. I might be stupid to entertain this new chick considering the crazy distance but that compatibility we have, albeit only from a few encounters, kinda has me like eff it I'll take the risk.

I feel you though about people wanting your time. I'm an introvert (NOT socially awkward) so I'm pretty comfortable spending time alone. On the flip, since I ain't had a steady girl in years I'm a little scared that might work against me if I get serious with someone. I'm so used to doing things my way on my time at my pace.

So are you on some "I'ma deal with these randos until the right one comes along" or are you starting to limit the casualness?

Well it is only a mistake if you didn't learn from it I say.

I'm not sure. I'm in a "singles" town for sure and not many people want to settle down. I had sex with this one girl a few weeks ago, well two but I know one just wanted "fun" so I didn't care. The one I clicked with more ghosted on me a few days. I hit her up a week later and she said "I got a "lets settle down" vibe from you and you're an amazing guy and I just can't". It sort of unnerved me a bit because I felt like with that girl I was good enough to fukk but not relationship material. Granted she was out of a 4 year relationship so that says more about her than me.

I tend to think that casual sex is more empty but I've had a few fun encounters and I guess I will take some to pass the time. But I lost my father a few months ago and seeing how happy my mother and father were solidifies that's what I want more in a relationship. But how do you balance mental, emotional, and sexual compatibility all in one person?! It burns you out putting yourself out there and getting mixed results, anywhere from flakes to a girl being into you, but you not into them, you wasting your time, rejection, etc. It doesn't make me jaded but it certainly is exhausting to me and draining.

The search continues for me but I know there is a point where I deal less with randoms because deep down that isn't my thing.

 

[DropTopDoc]

i struggle with this myself. Ive taken so many L's being proactive that I fall back..and sometimes I fall a little too far back...its hard to figure out the balance between putting in effort and letting her come to you...the unfortunate truth is, if they aint showing effort, they aint really fukking with you like that

its been said many times in this thread...women that really fukk with you will make it easy.

Sometimes you gotta pursue, and put pride aside, sometimes a great chick don’t fall in your lap

 

[Lord Bison]

For those looking for a companion but find it hard, look on the flip side. It's not that bad to live that Dan Blizerian lifestyle either. I'd love to have a companion too but my money and finances come first. If a woman shows up who wants that security, stability and provisioning and she earns it great. If not, I'll just be on my Dan Blizerian shyt. Either way I'll be living like

 

[Goon for hire]

I think this bytch is trying to play mind games with me

She was wearing one of my old hoodies today, that I let her wear and she didn't give it back a few weeks ago, it was my old sophomore basketball hoodie with my name and number on it.

I went over to her and said "I'm gonna need that shyt back."

Didn't say shyt else to get the rest of the day.

She's back with her man, she needs to be wearing his shyt. But the nikka is straight trash (football)

nikka is a benchwarmer on a garbage ass football team that has only won one game this year.

I'm Gonna get my one of my female friends to hook me up with one of the girls she hangs out with. I gotta get my self respect back

 

[ISO]

Headed to SUNY Oneonta and Albany this weekend, tryna catch at least one kill

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Going to air force recruiter todayyyy

 

[John Reena]

I think this bytch is trying to play mind games with me

She was wearing one of my old hoodies today, that I let her wear and she didn't give it back a few weeks ago, it was my old sophomore basketball hoodie with my name and number on it.

I went over to her and said "I'm gonna need that shyt back."

Didn't say shyt else to get the rest of the day.

She's back with her man, she needs to be wearing his shyt. But the nikka is straight trash (football)

nikka is a benchwarmer on a garbage ass football team that has only won one game this year.

I'm Gonna get my one of my female friends to hook me up with one of the girls she hangs out with. I gotta get my self respect back

Bruh........leave that girl alone. U givin off loser/stalker vibes.

 

[True Blue Moon]

I think this bytch is trying to play mind games with me

She was wearing one of my old hoodies today, that I let her wear and she didn't give it back a few weeks ago, it was my old sophomore basketball hoodie with my name and number on it.

I went over to her and said "I'm gonna need that shyt back."

Didn't say shyt else to get the rest of the day.

She's back with her man, she needs to be wearing his shyt. But the nikka is straight trash (football)

nikka is a benchwarmer on a garbage ass football team that has only won one game this year.

I'm Gonna get my one of my female friends to hook me up with one of the girls she hangs out with. I gotta get my self respect back

You're being straight up disrespectful to this thread and everyone here sharing and trying to learn.

 

[ViShawn]

Chick that said she wasn't interested in me after dating me has been trying to reel me back in with likes and Snapchats lol. Even told me Happy Birthday when I didn't tell her the same a few days ago. Just been showing active indifference.

 

[Goon for hire]

Bruh........leave that girl alone. U givin off loser/stalker vibes.

You're being straight up disrespectful to this thread and everyone here sharing and trying to learn.

So I can't post how im getting over the chick in here

She was wearing my shyt and I just posted how I got it back.


I won't post about her anymore though, I'm done with it.

 

[True Blue Moon]

So I can't post how im getting over the chick in here

She was wearing my shyt and I just posted how I got it back.


I won't post about her anymore though, I'm done with it.

The shyt we preach in here isn't just tactics to look good bro. It's sharpening each other up to be men that live by their principles.

Meaning, you don't bush a chick to "win" or get revenge. You do it because she no longer has a purpose in your life.

You're hating on her man and talking about getting with one of her friends to make her jealous

Motherfukkers are in here with failed marriages. Dudes have fought depression after a chick hurt their self-esteem and self-worth. Brehs are grieving lost relatives while trying to get back out there and date.

But here you come every day ignoring everyone's advice to completely forget about this girl that doesn't like you and is only toying with you. Then every time you say you understand and we give you the benefit of the doubt for being young, you just come back the next day with a longer post showing that you're ignoring everyone's advice and just want to vent.

For you to not just feel like you have to get your self-respect back, but to do so on some "Hey, look at me. I'm with one of your friends now. Jealous? " shows that this chick is still your sun, moon and stars and you're choosing to hold on to that pointless hope instead of honoring yourself and listening to what dudes who have been there and done that are trying to tell you.

And it's your call, but knowing that there are dudes in here fighting to go through some meaning of life shyt to change, yeah it's disrespectful to just use this as your vent session if you have no intention of trying to move past this girl.

You're a young man that can create life and elevate yourself to do anything on this earth and there's women aret there just waiting to find a man and treat him like a king.

But here you are following behind this chick for scraps and stressing over her, even though she treats you like her gossip girl, a free ride home and a self-esteem boost.

Meanwhile, she's on her knees after school every day turning her mouth into a cylinder shape and bobbing her head for a dude who only had to send a few half-ass text messages to get what you dreaming of

Love yourself my young, G. I don't know you but I know for a fact you're better than this. Get over this chick man.



EDIT:

I re-read your post. If you meant you're gonna get one of your homegirls to hook you up with a different friend and not a friend of the girl you like then I read it wrong and apologize.

But my point remains breh. Don't even take time out to vent about this chick or worry about what she's doing. You gotta develop that mindstate. Getting your jacket back should just be getting your jacket back as far as this chick is concerned. Nothing more, nothing less.

 

[Goon for hire]

The shyt we preach in here isn't just tactics to look good bro. It's sharpening each other up to be men that live by their principles.

Meaning, you don't bush a chick to "win" or get revenge. You do it because she no longer has a purpose in your life.

You're hating on her man and talking about getting with one of her friends to make her jealous

Motherfukkers are in here with failed marriages. Dudes have fought depression after a chick hurt their self-esteem and self-worth. Brehs are grieving lost relatives while trying to get back out there and date.

But here you come every day ignoring everyone's advice to completely forget about this girl that doesn't like you and is only toying with you. Then every time you say you understand and we give you the benefit of the doubt for being young, you just come back the next day with a longer post showing that you're ignoring everyone's advice and just want to vent.

For you to not just feel like you have to get your self-respect back, but to do so on some "Hey, look at me. I'm with one of your friends now. Jealous? " shows that this chick is still your sun, moon and stars and you're choosing to hold on to that pointless hope instead of honoring yourself and listening to what dudes who have been there and done that are trying to tell you.

And it's your call, but knowing that there are dudes in here fighting to go through some meaning of life shyt to change, yeah it's disrespectful to just use this as your vent session if you have no intention of trying to move past this girl.

You're a young man that can create life and elevate yourself to do anything on this earth and there's women aret there just waiting to find a man and treat him like a king.

But here you are following behind this chick for scraps and stressing over her, even though she treats you like her gossip girl, a free ride home and a self-esteem boost.

Meanwhile, she's on her knees after school every day turning her mouth into a cylinder shape and bobbing her head for a dude who only had to send a few half-ass text messages to get what you dreaming of

Love yourself my young, G. I don't know you but I know for a fact you're better than this. Get over this chick man.



EDIT:

I re-read your post. If you meant you're gonna get one of your homegirls to hook you up with a different friend and not a friend of the girl you like then I read it wrong and apologize.

But my point remains breh. Don't even take time out to vent about this chick or worry about what she's doing. You gotta develop that mindstate. Getting your jacket back should just be getting your jacket back as far as this chick is concerned. Nothing more, nothing less.

Thanks for the advice breh, but yeah you misunderstood my post, I am getting a female friend of my mine to hook me up with one her friends


I am completely done with the other girl and moving forward and focusing on basketball now.

Trust me I'm reading this thread and trying to soak it all in, not trying to be someone's self esteem boost/gossip girl/chauffeur again

I appreciate all the guys in here taking time and giving me advice

Oh yeah and I know there are some dudes in here dealing with some real life shyt and not petty high school shyt that I'm dealing with, im gonna show them and the thread more respect and only post when I need actual advice and not to just vent.

 

[True Blue Moon]

Thanks for the advice breh, but yeah you misunderstood my post, I am getting a female friend of my mine to hook me up with one her friends


I am completely done with the other girl and moving forward and focusing on basketball now.

Trust me I'm reading this thread and trying to soak it all in, not trying to be someone's self esteem boost/gossip girl/chauffeur again

I appreciate all the guys in here taking time and giving me advice

Oh yeah and I know there are some dudes in here dealing with some real life shyt and not petty high school shyt that I'm dealing with, im gonna show them and the thread more respect and only post when I need actual advice and not to just vent.

Godspeed breh

And to be clear, I'm not shytting on you having high school problems because that's as real to you now as my marriage is to me. We just wanna see you upgrade your problems. It'll still be age appropriate but with a little more game, which only comes with experience.