Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[1thouwow]

Anyways my ex told me how she planned on us getting back together, but she wanted us to be friends and work on our friendship first

I told her she was lying, she's only feeling this way now because she knows I'm going out and women are actually feeling the breh. That it's been five months if she actually thought I'd sit and wait for her yeah right.

Are u gonna fukk again or not? What’s the point of entertaining it if the relationship has come to a dead end?

Smh fukked around on my girl last don’t even know how it happened 1st time I’ve done it.

Elaborate

My ex hmu last night asking if I was awake so I responded then the next morning got a my bad I was drunk text. Told her in not tripping n that it's cool.

She saw me yesterday earlier bc I gave her something ofc I had my swavor up. I feel like she playing games so I'm just keeping it cool like w/e if it ain't sex what is it then.

At first I was like damn, but then said lemme get back to my paper and school and not even entertain these feelings. I got a get money get swole with fye grades train 2 get on

Y’all nikkas really gotta learn to ignore chicks. If you know she playing mind games with u, it’s ok to leave the text message on “read”.

 

[Malik1time]

Any of you brehs approach girls during daytime
Their is a bus stop in my school that has a lot of cute girls but I never approached them. Is it too late cuz they notice that I'm at the bus stop every Tuesday and Thursday? Wouldn't they think that I'm werid after all this time I finally approach them

 

[eufemism]

Any of you brehs approach girls during daytime
Their is a bus stop in my school that has a lot of cute girls but I never approached them. Is it too late cuz they notice that I'm at the bus stop every Tuesday and Thursday? Wouldn't they think that I'm werid after all this time I finally approach them

Hell yeah bruh that's a lick



I usually just hit em with the I see you all the time but we've never talked before


It actually gives you a reason to approach and not make it awkward

 

[Ohene]

alot of breh's in here wouldn't have female problems if they had an abundance mentality. What i mean by that is, that girl you stressing or feeling some kinda way about because of what she did or didn't do...is just 1 girl.

I could understand if she was the last female on earth and it was a "the best man" gets her....but thankfully, that isn't the case in the real world. There is another 5, 10, 100, 1000, 10,000, 1,000,000, 1,000,000,000 women out there that are better than that 1 girl. So why feel some kinda way?

yea she is fukkable, but if she doesn't wanna fukk you, accept it and move on. By you feeling some type of way means you lack self-confidence because you believe that if she didn't want you then another woman of her same caliber wouldn't either...which isn't the case. Not every single girl is the same.

instead what you should be thinkin is...."eh...she rejected me...but the next girl that looks like her or better may not"...so you try again. Now imagine you succeed with that next girl, ask yourself, would you really be thinkin about ole girl that rejected you?

that is what having abundance mentality is.

meh...thing with the abundance mentality is that an abundant amount of women aint really shyt. so when you come across one that you really vibe with or really like then they stand out and youre inclined to want them saying fukk the rest. if you wanna mac and be a player the rest of your life then sure the abundant mentality can gwan. but if youre truly looking find one chick that you can hold down the abundant mentality may be more detrimental than it is rewarding

 

[J.E.T.S]

Annoyance:

When a female that you've been with for a while and introduced her to new things... starts a new job or go to a new school. She then makes new female friends and then she change. Wants to be single and "be free" all of a sudden... or start doing things that she didn't normally do. With a personality that you've basically molded.

Women are followers.

 

[J.E.T.S]

I figured that and i know attention to them is a life force, but like is it that important from a guy you don’t even want to do shyt with? Seems like a mental issue to me

Exactly!!!

It makes me want to curse them out. There's a girl at my job like this.

I tried to fukk a couple of times... She'll flirt with me and everything. Texted each other randomly. The end result was "we work together " bullshyt excuse both times.

I ignore her and focus on work then she starts to randomly text me again "are you ok" and "how you doing?" Crap. Come grabbin on my arms at work talkin bout "we'd have a cute baby.".

Uh, little bitty bytch... I'M 32!!! get TF away from me attention whoring. Don't nobody got time to play these games with you!

 

[Uitomy]

Exactly!!!

It makes me want to curse them out. There's a girl at my job like this.

I tried to fukk a couiple of times... She'll flirt with me and everything. Texted each other randomly. The end result was "we work together " bullshyt excuse both times.

I ignore her and focus on work then she starts to randomly text me again "are you ok" and "how you doing?" Crap. Cone grab on my arms at work talkin bout "we'd have a cute baby.".

Uh, little bitty bytch... I'M 32!!! get TF away from me attention whoring.

It’s a plot, she’s definately mentally trying to control the situation but physically is having a hard time controlling herself, most women would do much better with men not playing those grey lines. And then when you get turned off all the way they want to be desperate and that flood of emotions makes them so unbearably horny cause they’ve evolved to the point that any emotions (mad happy sad, confused, surprised) makes their clitoris l ring like a flash grenade in your face.

 

[sheedteef]

To all my dudes 30 years old and below I think we have to adjust our expectations when dealing with women of the same kind. I've come to learn and accept that most women nowadays are just not interested in building with somebody from the ground up or dating traditionally. Maybe its just in Toronto, but you'll be hard pressed to find a woman with the qualities that any man of respect would want in his woman. If you have graduated from university/college and havent built some sort of solid relationship with a girl good luck. Even the ones that you think do/might have the qualities you look for in a woman are often so jaded or delusional when it comes to men and their expectations that it is just too hard get anywhere with them. Getting your foot in the door is one thing...hell...even fukking them is one thing (its easy as hell). But to build a steady, fruitful, long lasting relationship...the kind that takes effort and patience? It is damn near impossible. And it doesnt matter how good of a catch you think you are either. It dont matter how educated, good looking/fit, funny, gentlemanly you are. It don't matter what job you got. It dont matter what you drive. It dont matter how much bread you got. It dont matter where you live. Between the jadedness, delusion and overall mentality that the average girl has nowadays its just very difficult.


But hey...maybe its me

Truth.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Its weird. Smashed my ex, she brought her dog over spent the night with me. Telling me how it felt nostalgic and we shared laughs etc. Then the next morning sent her home. Ofc she's holding my hand wants to kiss and told me I was the last person she slept with. Which made things funny bc she wasn't the last person for me. Telling me not to kiss her at school, I'm like I be ducking you tho. I hit it raw and came in her. Mom told me don't get her pregnant. Then she hmu later that night too. Then I called her yesterday for sex but she had school work and on her period etc. I had to be up at 4am so I'm indifferent.

Its just weird I be feeling when her older brother came to visit her he got in her ear about me like dumbass you need to get back with him and fix this. But idk taking it a day at a time. Meanwhile I'm good. Gotta focus on lifting and school. Started my second job today. Thank you @Zeu$ btw

 

[sheedteef]

To add on to what asantehene said, it’s tough but not impossible. We just gotta soft through a lot of em to find what you’re looking for. It’s understandable when a woman has job, car, place to stay,etc. and she got hers. It’s another when a woman doesn’t have those things but has the mentality of the women who do have those things and bigs herself up as if she has any of those things if not all of them. Real love ain’t gone.. it’s just harder to find because people ain’t willing to work together to establish anything. People want to microwave relationships rather than plant them nowadays.

 

[Ohene]

To add on to what asantehene said, it’s tough but not impossible. We just gotta soft through a lot of em to find what you’re looking for. It’s understandable when a woman has job, car, place to stay,etc. and she got hers. It’s another when a woman doesn’t have those things but has the mentality of the women who do have those things and bigs herself up as if she has any of those things if not all of them. Real love ain’t gone.. it’s just harder to find because people ain’t willing to work together to establish anything. People want to microwave relationships rather than plant them nowadays.

That's the problem in my opinion... The girls who don't have a pot to piss in thinking theyre on the level of boys that are doing well for themselves. Dudes will talk to these women because they see potential and think they can put them on some game, upgrade them, put them on the right path and then build but women don't see it that way. In their mind, if a man is hollering at em they're on the same level by default. Scales is lopsided. One might say, "well then go find a chick on your level" but it aint that easy for both sides. In some parts of the world (Toronto is one of them) black people are so scarce that coming across attractive women can be difficult in itself let alone finding black people who have all their shyt together. For a black girl with her shyt right it can be hard to find black men on her level and vice versa.

 

[Deafheaven]

Its weird. Smashed my ex, she brought her dog over spent the night with me. Telling me how it felt nostalgic and we shared laughs etc. Then the next morning sent her home. Ofc she's holding my hand wants to kiss and told me I was the last person she slept with. Which made things funny bc she wasn't the last person for me. Telling me not to kiss her at school, I'm like I be ducking you tho. I hit it raw and came in her. Mom told me don't get her pregnant. Then she hmu later that night too. Then I called her yesterday for sex but she had school work and on her period etc. I had to be up at 4am so I'm indifferent.

Its just weird I be feeling when her older brother came to visit her he got in her ear about me like dumbass you need to get back with him and fix this. But idk taking it a day at a time. Meanwhile I'm good. Gotta focus on lifting and school. Started my second job today. Thank you @Zeu$ btw

one day at a time is all you can do. Take solace in the fact if you really do treat women right they will usually come back around and then its up to you to decide what to do from there. look at it throughout this thread even. stand up brothers usually have the ex place herself in their orbit some way.

 

[Iceson Beckford]

I been feeling real lately. I understand that girls my age arent remotely serious and will use the fukk out of you. Luckily I learnt this the easy way but its made me colder.

I dipped my toe back into my college dating pool and realised that I have zero game but Im learning.

Decided to try and hit up my female friend to see what her reaction was and build my confidence. Friendzoned but my stock has risen slightly. She aint putting me on with her friends tho so she might have to get bushed.


However the amount of simping is fukking alarming. Speaking on the friend above, theres guys trying to take her out to expensive relationships and shyt even tho shes curving em and straight up saying shes flirting with other people.

Shes a good person and doesnt take advantage of them but others would run that bill up.

Thinking of trying to hit some other girls up and get my confidence up more. Finally getting over the mental block and anxiety.

 

[Iceson Beckford]

She just left with him too


The ether is too real breh



I needed this wake up call though. I'm going to the gym, getting certed up, I'm gonna glow belee dat

shyt like this is why Im turning cold.

The universe dont care whether you’re good or not. Im tired of hearing men taking Ls over and over again.

nikkas like you and myself taking Ls that burn the soul for no God damn reason but fukk the self pity we gotta eat.

 

[Shadow King]

Dont hit up a chick that only talks to or text you when you intiate it. Smh

At what point is this evident though? The burden of initiation is always on the man so 9 times out of 10 we're initiating anyway.

To all my dudes 30 years old and below I think we have to adjust our expectations when dealing with women of the same kind. I've come to learn and accept that most women nowadays are just not interested in building with somebody from the ground up or dating traditionally. Maybe its just in Toronto, but you'll be hard pressed to find a woman with the qualities that any man of respect would want in his woman. If you have graduated from university/college and havent built some sort of solid relationship with a girl good luck. Even the ones that you think do/might have the qualities you look for in a woman are often so jaded or delusional when it comes to men and their expectations that it is just too hard get anywhere with them. Getting your foot in the door is one thing...hell...even fukking them is one thing (its easy as hell). But to build a steady, fruitful, long lasting relationship...the kind that takes effort and patience? It is damn near impossible. And it doesnt matter how good of a catch you think you are either. It dont matter how educated, good looking/fit, funny, gentlemanly you are. It don't matter what job you got. It dont matter what you drive. It dont matter how much bread you got. It dont matter where you live. Between the jadedness, delusion and overall mentality that the average girl has nowadays its just very difficult.


But hey...maybe its me

It ain't just you and it ain't just Toronto. At the end of the day the prevailing forces in 21st century relationships, casual or not, are lust, entertainment, and drama. Have the raw physical/aesthetic magnetism, possess and display your resources and knowledge in multiple fields, and the activity level and nonchalance to keep them at arm's length, clamoring for more and chasing. And that's on top of the jadedness and delusions prevalent in them.

This is why no matter what I'm told on here, I'm not playing till I have every good card in hand. Till I'm a 7'5" guard with a 50" inch vertical and the wet jumper from the other 3 point line. Till I'm a 6'8" 320 pound linebacker with a 4.2 40, 60 reps on the bench and a 50 Wonderlic. If your birth year is 199X as male you might as well stack every advantage possible, more so if you're a "late bloomer".