Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Mister_DoItNice]

I don’t know women who speak like that in real life.

 

[delta]

So, I met a girl in September at my school's FGC scene because we both play Tekken. Not long after we started talking and getting close. I had no feelings at the time, and just felt like she was a friend to me. Then, she started to do all these things that basically said she liked me. One instance in particular is when she cosplayed as Josie around Halloween and showed up to the local with it on while I was playing. I sure as hell noticed it, and didn't know how to react. I really took it as nothing, then she started to show more signs like flirt with me, always talk to me on the regular, etc. I never noticed any of these until about last week, because I'm a dense fukker. At the same time, I had a little interest in her and was wondering if I could shoot my shot but never did because I thought I was out of her league.

So I tell some of my homeboys about all this shyt and every single one of them said that she clearly likes me if she's been doing all this. She's been over at my house a few times to play Tekken with me alone, and my roommates came home and saw and they even knew from there that she liked me. So Friday, I go to therapy and talk about it to my therapist and she pretty much says the same thing that everyone else has been saying, but to ask her out or just ask her about her feelings. I walked her to work that same day and she asked me "So what do you see me as?" and I said a good friend, but hesitant and took it back to tell her that she's a girl that I'd date. So all of that pretty much confirmed everything that has happened up to this point, but she told me that she can't commit to any relationship right now, and any date she'd go on right now is nothing serious. I think there's something going on in her head making her feel like that, I don't remember what, but I know her only ex treated her like shyt and she's done things like tell me all the ways that she'd like guys to ask her out, told me things she'd tell her girlfriends, and other things. I pretty much accepted what she said and she said it'd be best if we remain as friends for right now. But, recently, I've started actually catching feelings for her. I don't really know what to do but wait. There's no other girls that pique my interest, and at the same time I don't actively chase after people because I stopped that long ago.

I'm just stuck... there's a mutual like here, but she isn't ready to commit. I don't know what else I can do here.

every girl says this. EVERY SINGLE ONE

Yet, who's the most likely guy she will cheat on you with?

 

[Claudex]

Yeah, I've asked her. She's been pretty honest with me about everything, and there's a lot of things she hates about guys for some reason.

The thing is, she knows that we both like each other, and she's the one who told me to just remain friends. I could honestly get over her and just go back to not having feelings, or I could wait. I've been thinking about it and I've thought about it all being a waste of time to me. I value a friendship, but I'm just gonna keep my options open.

I've made mistakes in relationships before (I'm 21) and I'm probably gonna make them again. Lord knows what will happen. The whole thing in my mind is because my last and only relationship was just straight up toxic, I figured I could give this a shot but that most likely is NOT happening.

But yes, I agree, this could be a mistake. I'll learn from it if it is.

Meh, as long as you're aware of the bolded you'll be alright. I was overreacting, there's no reason to treat a mere experience like it's the end of the world.
Wishing you a lot of luck young breh.

 

[Prynce]

I just wish these lessons with women weren't so hard and painful. I hate it

 

[VertigoKnight]

I just wish these lessons with women weren't so hard and painful. I hate it

All part of the game sadly, but we should learn from each one.

 

[Shadow King]

Is it...










Happening?

 

[Shadow King]

To my brehs who got back in the gym recently, how is your progress coming along? If it’s slow going right now, don’t worry. Stick with it. I turn 31 tomorrow and I look and feel like a completely different person than I was a year ago, in so many areas.

It all started in the gym. Keep pushing.

Not a "back" in the gym breh but the 5th was a year anniversary for me starting...this past Sunday was the first time a female not related to me said something about my body.

When it comes to new attention, I think brehs starting off husky and working their way down have it better than cats like me who start small, most strange women probably won't choose/eyefukk me till I'm pro DB status lol

 

[Reverie]

every girl says this. EVERY SINGLE ONE

Yet, who's the most likely guy she will cheat on you with?

Her ex did some stupid shyt and got trapped with a Viet exchange student at my school, smh.

 

[bucks3115]

there is one girl that i chat with , its been more than 2 months
we never saw each other face to face
so i dn't wanna invite her outside , i want to invite her at my cribs so we can chill
first she said she doesnt feel comfortable coming at the cribs but i told her dont worry u will be fine
but she keep say she busy and keep saying lets do it next time

yesterday i tried again , she say be patient with me

be patient ,we ve been chatting for a long time

what can i do ?

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

there is one girl that i chat with , its been more than 2 months
we never saw each other face to face
so i dn't wanna invite her outside , i want to invite her at my cribs so we can chill
first she said she doesnt feel comfortable coming at the cribs but i told her dont worry u will be fine
but she keep say she busy and keep saying lets do it next time

yesterday i tried again , she say be patient with me

be patient ,we ve been chatting for a long time

what can i do ?

She has a nikka and you are the phone boyfriend she confides in when the nikka she's with or wants is ignoring her needs.
Any bytch who talks to u for that long without meeting u clearly doesnt want you.
I know cause i've had bytches when I was younger who would hit me up to flirt only when they were bored or angry at their dude, but those bytches never actually wanted me like that.

 

[NeilCartwright]

Met up with my first Latina chick after moving out to south Texas. Had some coffee. It was all good but some things were different

-She has a lil nephew named "Coyote"
-She was mentioning cac movies i never even heard of before
-But she loves Allen Iverson, and im assuming she fcks with nikkas (obviously)


Ima let it play out but i never thought id be in this position. Potentially wifing anything other than a black chick. Guess i gotta get with the country's changing demographics

*Edit, lil homies name is Kyrie

 

[twan83]

Met up with my first Latina chick after moving out to south Texas. Had some coffee. It was all good but some things were different

-She has a lil nephew named "Coyote"
-She was mentioning cac movies i never even heard of before
-But she loves Allen Iverson, and im assuming she fcks with nikkas (obviously)


Ima let it play out but i never thought id be in this position. Potentially wifing anything other than a black chick. Guess i gotta get with the country's changing demographics

What part of south Texas? Not a lot of blacks depending on where u at. Most in Houston and Dallas area. U will meet blacks but what it comes down too if she fits the bill ur looking for but with limited options interracial happens often.
Me personally don’t care what race but blacks ain’t many where I’m at in Texas

 

[bucks3115]

She has a nikka and you are the phone boyfriend she confides in when the nikka she's with or wants is ignoring her needs.
Any bytch who talks to u for that long without meeting u clearly doesnt want you.
I know cause i've had bytches when I was younger who would hit me up to flirt only when they were bored or angry at their dude, but those bytches never actually wanted me like that.

She nt the one who hit me up
Im always the one who hit her up when we chat
So u think she's just nt interrested like that

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

She nt the one who hit me up
Im always the one who hit her up when we chat
So u think she's just nt interrested like that

even worse. if you always the one then its clear she dont fukk with u like that. she sees u as a chat buddy to flirt with when shes bored. cut your loses my nikka and move on to the next one. Delete her number and never speak to her again. she is gonna wonder after like a month why u aint hit up as usual and then try to text bait you by initiating a convo. IGNORE it and live your life.

























I know its hard but just do the right thing breh :mjcrycap:

 

[NeilCartwright]

What part of south Texas? Not a lot of blacks depending on where u at. Most in Houston and Dallas area. U will meet blacks but what it comes down too if she fits the bill ur looking for but with limited options interracial happens often.
Me personally don’t care what race but blacks ain’t many where I’m at in Texas

I was in culture shock my first two days down here. I mentioned it before but I'm coming from 5 yrs in Atlanta, at an HBCU. I'm in Corpus Christi. Where you at?

I've pretty much come to grips with the fact Ima have to be on the interracial tip. Tinder been good to me as far as seeing what females are out here though.

Shyt just had me fcked up after the first meeting w/her. I talked so much shyt about white women when I was in Atlanta bc I could. It's the black mecca out there. Now look at me

She real life had a nephew named "Coyote", like after the small canine. I don't judge, and real talk Ima still keep kicking it w/her but that's some weirdo shyt in the black community