Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

Smh well I guess I just need to figure out how to get over her.

the alarm is souunding friend. I am going through the same thing just get outta there and find shelter somewhere else

good analogy. Thats why people will tell you, when you notice the signs just evacuate.

You smell the smoke, hear the alarm and then finally see the large flame in the form of an argument. It may be your fault, perhaps you left the stove on too long. Or maybe a fuse just blew in the basement and theres nothing you could do to prevent it. Either way, are you gonna stand there and keep trying to throw buckets of water on it hoping the fire lessens slowly (when it will in fact make shyt worse)...or are you gonna bounce and call the fire department to handle the business?

One could say the fire department is a good friend she confides in or a family member to talk some sense in to her. Either way, its out of duke's hands. If the fire is too large and the home is beyond repair, youre better off purchasing a different home with that insurance policy than trying to rebuild for probably the same price. Otherwise...the house is saved and you move forward with caution based on what you've learned.

Just how I see it

 

[NerdNash]

This thread is really the bible.

 

[NerdNash]

I don't know brehs. I guess I'll just take all this advice and filter out what ill keep with me and what I won't. Ill keep it 100 tho I want to work this out with her. She's a good girl man and it ain't too many around. She's good with my daughter and that means a lot to me. I'm willing to gamble on this one. If I lose I'll still be able to learn from it.

 

[Ohene]

I don't know brehs. I guess I'll just take all this advice and filter out what ill keep with me and what I won't. Ill keep it 100 tho I want to work this out with her. She's a good girl man and it ain't too many around. She's good with my daughter and that means a lot to me. I'm willing to gamble on this one. If I lose I'll still be able to learn from it.

I feel you. When you know the girl is good it makes it that much more difficult. Personally I decided to play chess but that is cause the issue isnt as large or defined. You did your dirt though breh

 

[Oye]

I don't know brehs. I guess I'll just take all this advice and filter out what ill keep with me and what I won't. Ill keep it 100 tho I want to work this out with her. She's a good girl man and it ain't too many around. She's good with my daughter and that means a lot to me. I'm willing to gamble on this one. If I lose I'll still be able to learn from it.

I lost a good girl and while it hurts she's not the only good woman out there. It could hurt much more in the end.

 

[NerdNash]

I feel everything y'all saying. Trust me. I'm going to try to make this one work. If down the road it doesn't that'll be just another notch on the lessons belt.

Sidenote: That SPICEBOMB cologne is dope. Lol I suggest y'all fukk with it

 

[Turbulent]

I don't know brehs. I guess I'll just take all this advice and filter out what ill keep with me and what I won't. Ill keep it 100 tho I want to work this out with her. She's a good girl man and it ain't too many around. She's good with my daughter and that means a lot to me. I'm willing to gamble on this one. If I lose I'll still be able to learn from it.

It's your choice at the end of the day. Just realize your going into a situation where she will always have moral superiority over you. Deep down, you don't want that situation. Deep down even SHE will be miserable into that situation. because it makes her de de facto leader of the relationship. She will resent that. and she'll resent you because it will be your fault she's the leader. no woman wants to lead in a relationship.

She doesn't want to be with a dude who thinks he can't do better. she wants to be with a dude better than her who still chose her out of many other options. and if your words, actions or demeanor betray that, shell sense that and will look for a better man while she's with you.

there are no guarantees but if you still want to save the relationship, realize your best bet is to reclaim your manhood back and to be willing to take the L on this one (and not just bluff, to actually be ready for that). These are your best odds because it will make you more attractive to her. By accepting her terms you might actually buy a few months or whatever but you're putting it on the credit card and reducing your odds of saving the relationship. you suffer from a case of the oneitis friend. you thinking you can't do better will be the cause of your doom (and i sincerely hope for your sake i'm wrong on this)

but again, it's your choice, good luck to you and whatever happens, learn from it.

 

[NerdNash]

I feel you. When you know the girl is good it makes it that much more difficult. Personally I decided to play chess but that is cause the issue isnt as large or defined. You did your dirt though breh

nikka I did so much dirt it's a shame Smfh. I've piped mad chicks, my babymom... Tried to holla at her friends and chicks she knows. All kinds of young dikkhead shyt smh it's wack when I think about it

 

[OSUBaneBrowns]

I don't know brehs. I guess I'll just take all this advice and filter out what ill keep with me and what I won't. Ill keep it 100 tho I want to work this out with her. She's a good girl man and it ain't too many around. She's good with my daughter and that means a lot to me. I'm willing to gamble on this one. If I lose I'll still be able to learn from it.

Just remember that the relationship is based on her rules and regulations now, not yours.

 

[Ohene]

I feel everything y'all saying. Trust me. I'm going to try to make this one work. If down the road it doesn't that'll be just another notch on the lessons belt.

Sidenote: That SPICEBOMB cologne is dope. Lol I suggest y'all fukk with it

Viktor Rolf right? I almost copped that. It was between that and a Diesel cologne but I had to bang with the Dior. Good choice breh

 

[NerdNash]

It's your choice at the end of the day. Just realize your going into a situation where she will always have moral superiority over you. Deep down, you don't want that situation. Deep down even SHE will be miserable into that situation. because it makes her de de facto leader of the relationship. She will resent that. and she'll resent you because it will be your fault she's the leader. no woman wants to lead in a relationship.

She doesn't want to be with a dude who thinks he can't do better. she wants to be with a dude better than her who still chose her out of many other options. and if your words, actions or demeanor betray that, shell sense that and will look for a better man while she's with you.

there are no guarantees but if you still want to save the relationship, realize your best bet is to reclaim your manhood back and to be willing to take the L on this one (and not just bluff, to actually be ready for that). These are your best odds because it will make you more attractive to her. By accepting her terms you might actually buy a few months or whatever but you're putting it on the credit card and reducing your odds of saving the relationship. you suffer from a case of the oneitis friend. you thinking you can't do better will be the cause of your doom (and i sincerely hope for your sake i'm wrong on this)

but again, it's your choice, good luck to you and whatever happens, learn from it.

See that's the thing. The "I got him by the balls factor" is all that scares me. I ain't worried about her thinking I can't do better. She knows for a fact I got a stable of chicks to choose from.

If only I could figure out how to show her I'm a changed man and all the stuff I did was a different me....a while letting her know I still own my nuts....

I don't think me promising I changed is "tender". It's honestly how I feel...

 

[NerdNash]

Viktor Rolf right? I almost copped that. It was between that and a Diesel cologne but I had to bang with the Dior. Good choice breh

shyt is fiiiiiiire

 

[MikelArteta]

Damn this thread is really picking up

It's always amazing reading stories and ish sounds exactly like mine to a tee

 

[MikelArteta]

And man run your just grasping for straws and making excuses now "she's good with my daughter" . There is a probably a woman out there who would be great with your daughter, stop settling especially for poisonous women

 

[RickyGQ]

Ok brehs.... So me and my girl still aren't clicking. Her whole vibe is different. I'm trying to love her and fall back from my bs but I think she's just still stuck on the old sh!t I did. I can just sense that she isn't feeling me anymore or maybe I'm just paranoid cuz I know I been a horrible boyfriend in the past.

Last night no sex again and I told her I didn't care if we didn't and that I was done with pressing her for sex. Her reply "well if we both don't care that's not a good thing" . I told her i can't keep trying to defend old stuff I did. Her reply was "it's not about that its about fixing things". That's bs to me because even if I live 100% right she wil still bring up old shyt. It's just how it is.

Can't front ... Don't know what to do. I love her and I can actually see myself being with her but its kinda like she has me by the balls. I feel like I need to do something to get my manhood back lol. Either that or just cut her off but to keep it all the way real...I'm horrible at attemping to cut her off. I always end up texting her and being right back.

The perfect scenario would be for me to just cut off all communication phone and text and just kinda vanish. Out of nowhere. No reply no nothing. She'll either come crawling or be done and move on to some next guy (if she hasn't already)

Smh I feel like a sucka.

I need y'all to be brutally honest and also suggest what I should do...

(I honestly think she is screwing someone else but I can't prove it. She use to always want to f*ck now she's either tired or she says all she can think about is the foul stuff I did and it kinda turns her off. I don't think it's that deep i think some guy is bangin her out or at least giving her attention)

Take that L dog... and next time be prepared for the L from the jump so it won't be so hard this time...

EDIT: Also breh, sometimes you gotta lie in the bed you made... you fukked up but you can't let her hold that over you... like everyone said, apologize but make it clear that you can't live an apology... that's what taking the L is about, things will be by your terms, she can't (and doesn't want to) control this relationship, and by having you on your heels trying to make up for something that you will never really be able to will have her above you... shyt will NEVER work that way... "Relationships are a one way street, if you ever find yourself in the car behind your girl, you gotta take the first exit and get the fukk out of there."