Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[CrossBones]

The only chick I ever dated with a kid, she was slick with that shyt

I was 19, so I aint know no better but, her little girl was barely 12 months. That joker aint even stay around for a year We ended up goin to the zoo & these old ladies there were saying how cute we looked cuz I guess they thought I was the daddy & we looked like a young family. Shorty's eyes were tooooooooooo wide, I deaded that shyt so fukkin quick....

I wasnt that young, I just thought that she was going to be smart about hers like I was showing her I was about mine. I had my ex at a distance too, but I never mixed the two or saw one while I was fukking with the other. so I kept it low key, but I saw the drive and the hard work she put down. she did cook, clean, go to school, do real estate, start up her own business, and she was a friend. she looked out for real though. made sure I was always cool or satisfied when we were around each other. even helped me cheat on one of my finals in school.

but when mr whats his name called her, that was it. she was out for the winter.


and if thats what it is, then Im not the one. see when she told me about him, it was that he was out of state, had another baby mother after her, and never was about shyt, Im like, okay so youre not with him. I get it. and youre here in school making something of yourself.

you know like he was dead out the picture. but that was not the case. no

men we need to look at it like, that man that she had a child/children with was her first choice, and most likely he still sits pretty high at the top for her. they dont like to admit failure, so chances are she will try to work it out again for him. basically shes not going to give him up unless he gives her up. regardless of what she says about him, chances are good that woman will always fukk with him.


I learned its good to just go find someone on my level. no kids, no crazy entitlement issues, nothing. just fair is fair. we need to be on close to equal grounds and have a strong understanding. I need a woman from a good family who values respect and her word.

 

[CrossBones]

"nikka sit your bytch simp ass down, im the man in this relationship, since Hillary bytches aint gotta let you men have power over me"

the more consumed a woman is about "feminism" in 2012, the more she aint about shyt

no woman can talk to a man like that unless he lets her. everything is fake in their world until we decide to get real and introduce her to reality with the shyt.

if women want to turn into amazons and be all about that action... then youll see all they will do is run to the police and talk shyt in interviews after getting uppercut or thrown through a window.

 

[CASHAPP]

I need a fellow quiet introverted girl

 

[CrossBones]

I need a fellow quiet introverted girl

man, they like to say opposites attract, but they dont as far as values. or at least they shouldnt.

see I think a woman can have a different peronality type then you, but she has to respect and accept your disposition, just like you have to hers. the personality can be different, but the character cant.

its ultimately the values that matter most. and what is her values? if she doesnt cook, clean, bring comfort to her man, cooperate, love, submit to you because of what you bring, than what good is she?

 

[Scustin Trillberlake]

might die alone because they were on some bullshyt when they were younger[/I]

The thought of women carousel riders dying alone only makes me

They treat "nice guise" like shyt in their 20's then expect them to pick up the tab when the game has been played.

fukk that, LET THEM BURN.

 

[Atlrocafella]

I know I wouldn't....thats why Im like

At least your sister came to the realization of her situation, albeit at it being very late in her 30's. these girls in their 20s out here yelling "I don't want no man who won't accept me and my 3 girls". Well prepare yourself to potentially be alone for the rest of your life cause nikkas barely even dealing with chicks with 1 kid. Smh.

Single mothers love me though, especially the ones I went to high school with. Now it's "I always liked you", "why didn't you ever speak to me, I would of have gave you a shot"

 

[kevm3]

What I'm starting to notice now that cats here are kicking the real is that women ARE taking heed and starting to change things up. Women respond to what men want. That's why simp negroes are so dangerous... They never tell a woman what they really want and okey doke unacceptable behavior. We tell women we want high quality women who will cook and clean for their man and we RESPOND to it, aka deal with them and show them the affection, attention and all of that, then they will respond in like.

We actually have a topic on the main board about women cooking for their man STARTED by a woman. You let it be known what you want and show appreciation for those quality women and you will be rewarded.

 

[CrossBones]

basically. theres a surplus of p*ssy out there. we're really the ones in demand. dont let a ho sideline you or put you anywhere but at the top. theres more women out there anyways. if she is terrible in the areas where you need her to be good, you know shes jump off and get out status.

 

[jadillac]

I probably shouldn't have posted something so sensitive but, I did it because, if there's any women who comes into this thread and mistakenly comes across this post.....I just want yall to know, you might be Ms. Hot shyt now but, once them years gone, they gone....Be mindful who you give them too....

Damn breh.

I know you didnt wanna post that about ur sister, but it's real. I've posted stuff in here about my parents and other ppl I know closely, so it's cool.

Other day, I saw this girl on twitter post this, "Getting married at 21 is like leaving a party at 9:30pm"

I was like This is what alot of these women think. They can play around for years and years and then get serious about marriage. They wanna dictate EVERYTHING in their life....pass up good men along the way. Then be wishing for fairytale relationships when they're older.

You might meet a good man at 21 that you'll NEVER meet again.

They don't realize that tho.

It's hard to even come by a decent friend these days who'll stick with you, you think you can just mess over/mislead/turn away a potential HUSBAND?

It's like I said, they may know one or two other women who played around for years then evetually found them a guy to settle down with.....and they think they can all gamble like that.

 

[jadillac]

At least your sister came to the realization of her situation, albeit at it being very late in her 30's. these girls in their 20s out here yelling "I don't want no man who won't accept me and my 3 girls". Well prepare yourself to potentially be alone for the rest of your life cause nikkas barely even dealing with chicks with 1 kid. Smh.

My cousin has a friend like that....she'd bad too.

I told her a couple weeks ago to put me on and my cousin was like

"You don't even want her....for real...she's the one who a dude offered to buy her a drink and she told him, 'Umm I know you see me sittin here w/ my girls....if you gonna buy me a drink you gotta buy ALL of us a drink'...."

Also, what's funny is, these women who swear by their girls....their girls will the FIRST one to find a man after they told you to "just be single, girl"....

 

[beezy]

Aight brehs, if you remember, I'm the guys that some pages back was unsure of my situation being 23 married with a kid and all that.. Well, shyt just got real I'm facing the big D my nikkas..

I've read in these pages that once a girl disrespects you, it's a sign that she never will respect you like she should cuz if you forgive her she thinks its ok to do it again next time. Well there's been times in the past this bytch disrespected me; she's hit me, called the cops on me TWICE, the second time being cuz "she was drunk" and don't even remember doin it or why she did it (for no reason; mind you I've never hit her or nothin like that) and she be tryin to pull slick shyt fam.. I thought we was past all that, we had been doin better with not takin arguments to another level etc and been to counseling and marriage retreats.. Yet yesterday she had the audacity to do this shyt: she was goin out with my boy's girl and we were gonna stay in with the kids, just chill watch tv smoke a lil hookah, whatever.. Then this bytch gets mad talkin bout she can't even trust me to watch our own son and blah blah, basically thinking I was gonna go over there and bullsht and ignore my son to me it's just she was mad cuz I wasn't stayin home babysittin for her while she had a good old time cuz she hates it when I have fun without her. She thinks its unfair that I go chill with the nikkas while she doesn't even have friends like that. Not my fault. Anyway I'm just like whatever, I'm not arguing with you, Idc, your just tryna guilt trip me and are blowin up actin irrational cuz I'm not feeding into it. So she says forget it, we're not going anywhere.. Turns the car around and drives home.. I get out the car and go to get my son out, and she just takes off.. Really bytch? it's like that huh? Aight. Call my nikka up and tell him to scoop me, so I go chill with him til she's done goin to dinner with my son and her friend (they had to change plans since they had the kids now) then I got in the car when she came to drop ol' girl off. I tell her that's some foul ass shyt considering she should be walkin on eggshells since I told her I'm not puttin up with no more disrespect.. Then she have the nerve to go to a store,ignore me when I ask for what, and buys a bottle of liquor. Like YO is this chick SERIOUS!? I told her after the last time we had a incident over her bein drunk and making stupid decisions that she ain't drinkin like that no more. Blatant disregard for my word even after she said she wasn't drinkin like that no more. And wanna act all cool sayin shyt like I ain't her dad.. I lost it. I told her fukk you I'm done. Your going home (to jersey; I live in hawaii) like when is enough, truly enough brehs? She can be a good girl and all that like I described but c'mon son! I can't be forgiving her for deal breaker shyt i done told her already I wasn't puttin up with. And I got a career with a top secret security clearance man, I can't be living afraid that she could just get mad one day and ruin my career and life.. She's clearly still wild after 4 years of tryin to tame her. And she hasn't even put up a fight about it.. Today she's been packin and looked into flights, divorce stuff, the whole nine.. I'm kinda at a loss tbh.. Like should I just proceed with all this like that? She don't even appreciate all I've given her and done for her, she's cool with just tossin it.. But after a few words with her just now of course she blamin it on me sayin she's just doin it cuz it's what I want and I broke it off, and that she just wants it to happen ASAP so she don't have to deal with me any longer than necessary.. Basically I know that if I said no, don't go, we can fix it, she won't.. the question is, do I want to stop her? I don't know. And I only have like 1 day to decide! the flight is on Wednesday 5am, and she wanna get started on divorce paperwork tomorrow.. Wtf do I do or think fam.. Sorry for the novel, just once again I seek expert opinions and advice from nikkas I know GET IT. Help me

 

[Malta]

Aight brehs, if you remember, I'm the guys that some pages back was unsure of my situation being 23 married with a kid and all that.. Well, shyt just got real I'm facing the big D my nikkas..

I've read in these pages that once a girl disrespects you, it's a sign that she never will respect you like she should cuz if you forgive her she thinks its ok to do it again next time. Well there's been times in the past this bytch disrespected me; she's hit me, called the cops on me TWICE, the second time being cuz "she was drunk" and don't even remember doin it or why she did it (for no reason; mind you I've never hit her or nothin like that) and she be tryin to pull slick shyt fam.. I thought we was past all that, we had been doin better with not takin arguments to another level etc and been to counseling and marriage retreats.. Yet yesterday she had the audacity to do this shyt: she was goin out with my boy's girl and we were gonna stay in with the kids, just chill watch tv smoke a lil hookah, whatever.. Then this bytch gets mad talkin bout she can't even trust me to watch our own son and blah blah, basically thinking I was gonna go over there and bullsht and ignore my son to me it's just she was mad cuz I wasn't stayin home babysittin for her while she had a good old time cuz she hates it when I have fun without her. She thinks its unfair that I go chill with the nikkas while she doesn't even have friends like that. Not my fault. Anyway I'm just like whatever, I'm not arguing with you, Idc, your just tryna guilt trip me and are blowin up actin irrational cuz I'm not feeding into it. So she says forget it, we're not going anywhere.. Turns the car around and drives home.. I get out the car and go to get my son out, and she just takes off.. Really bytch? it's like that huh? Aight. Call my nikka up and tell him to scoop me, so I go chill with him til she's done goin to dinner with my son and her friend (they had to change plans since they had the kids now) then I got in the car when she came to drop ol' girl off. I tell her that's some foul ass shyt considering she should be walkin on eggshells since I told her I'm not puttin up with no more disrespect.. Then she have the nerve to go to a store,ignore me when I ask for what, and buys a bottle of liquor. Like YO is this chick SERIOUS!? I told her after the last time we had a incident over her bein drunk and making stupid decisions that she ain't drinkin like that no more. Blatant disregard for my word even after she said she wasn't drinkin like that no more. And wanna act all cool sayin shyt like I ain't her dad.. I lost it. I told her fukk you I'm done. Your going home (to jersey; I live in hawaii) like when is enough, truly enough brehs? She can be a good girl and all that like I described but c'mon son! I can't be forgiving her for deal breaker shyt i done told her already I wasn't puttin up with. And I got a career with a top secret security clearance man, I can't be living afraid that she could just get mad one day and ruin my career and life.. She's clearly still wild after 4 years of tryin to tame her. And she hasn't even put up a fight about it.. Today she's been packin and looked into flights, divorce stuff, the whole nine.. I'm kinda at a loss tbh.. Like should I just proceed with all this like that? She don't even appreciate all I've given her and done for her, she's cool with just tossin it.. But after a few words with her just now of course she blamin it on me sayin she's just doin it cuz it's what I want and I broke it off, and that she just wants it to happen ASAP so she don't have to deal with me any longer than necessary.. Basically I know that if I said no, don't go, we can fix it, she won't.. the question is, do I want to stop her? I don't know. And I only have like 1 day to decide! the flight is on Wednesday 5am, and she wanna get started on divorce paperwork tomorrow.. Wtf do I do or think fam.. Sorry for the novel, just once again I seek expert opinions and advice from nikkas I know GET IT. Help me

Damn bruh, the shyt hit the fan for you, sorry it had to go down like that my dude. I know what you mean about drinking, I don't drink so of course my girl follows suit as well, but she likes wine when watching TV and that's about as far as I let her go. So I can understand putting your foot down on that, women make some truly awful decisions when they drink, and the fact that they're smaller than us means they get drunk extremely fast.

Tell her you want to separate for some time, not outright divorce yet, see if you're ok with living without her first before you make that decision. Divorce paperwork tomorrow? From the sounds of it she's just using this as an excuse and might have been planning this for a while. This argument might have just been what she was waiting for. Normally I'd say just forget her, but since there's a child involved you should move with caution, are you ok with her taking your son with her and only getting visitation?

 

[Newzz]

Aight brehs, if you remember, I'm the guys that some pages back was unsure of my situation being 23 married with a kid and all that.. Well, shyt just got real I'm facing the big D my nikkas..

I've read in these pages that once a girl disrespects you, it's a sign that she never will respect you like she should cuz if you forgive her she thinks its ok to do it again next time. Well there's been times in the past this bytch disrespected me; she's hit me, called the cops on me TWICE, the second time being cuz "she was drunk" and don't even remember doin it or why she did it (for no reason; mind you I've never hit her or nothin like that) and she be tryin to pull slick shyt fam.. I thought we was past all that, we had been doin better with not takin arguments to another level etc and been to counseling and marriage retreats.. Yet yesterday she had the audacity to do this shyt: she was goin out with my boy's girl and we were gonna stay in with the kids, just chill watch tv smoke a lil hookah, whatever.. Then this bytch gets mad talkin bout she can't even trust me to watch our own son and blah blah, basically thinking I was gonna go over there and bullsht and ignore my son to me it's just she was mad cuz I wasn't stayin home babysittin for her while she had a good old time cuz she hates it when I have fun without her. She thinks its unfair that I go chill with the nikkas while she doesn't even have friends like that. Not my fault. Anyway I'm just like whatever, I'm not arguing with you, Idc, your just tryna guilt trip me and are blowin up actin irrational cuz I'm not feeding into it. So she says forget it, we're not going anywhere.. Turns the car around and drives home.. I get out the car and go to get my son out, and she just takes off.. Really bytch? it's like that huh? Aight. Call my nikka up and tell him to scoop me, so I go chill with him til she's done goin to dinner with my son and her friend (they had to change plans since they had the kids now) then I got in the car when she came to drop ol' girl off. I tell her that's some foul ass shyt considering she should be walkin on eggshells since I told her I'm not puttin up with no more disrespect.. Then she have the nerve to go to a store,ignore me when I ask for what, and buys a bottle of liquor. Like YO is this chick SERIOUS!? I told her after the last time we had a incident over her bein drunk and making stupid decisions that she ain't drinkin like that no more. Blatant disregard for my word even after she said she wasn't drinkin like that no more. And wanna act all cool sayin shyt like I ain't her dad.. I lost it. I told her fukk you I'm done. Your going home (to jersey; I live in hawaii) like when is enough, truly enough brehs? She can be a good girl and all that like I described but c'mon son! I can't be forgiving her for deal breaker shyt i done told her already I wasn't puttin up with. And I got a career with a top secret security clearance man, I can't be living afraid that she could just get mad one day and ruin my career and life.. She's clearly still wild after 4 years of tryin to tame her. And she hasn't even put up a fight about it.. Today she's been packin and looked into flights, divorce stuff, the whole nine.. I'm kinda at a loss tbh.. Like should I just proceed with all this like that? She don't even appreciate all I've given her and done for her, she's cool with just tossin it.. But after a few words with her just now of course she blamin it on me sayin she's just doin it cuz it's what I want and I broke it off, and that she just wants it to happen ASAP so she don't have to deal with me any longer than necessary.. Basically I know that if I said no, don't go, we can fix it, she won't.. the question is, do I want to stop her? I don't know. And I only have like 1 day to decide! the flight is on Wednesday 5am, and she wanna get started on divorce paperwork tomorrow.. Wtf do I do or think fam.. Sorry for the novel, just once again I seek expert opinions and advice from nikkas I know GET IT. Help me

I'm married too breh.

You cant be "crying wolf", because now it seems like you really werent ready for the "fukk you I'm done" and she's calling your bluff on it. You only have 2 options now, take it back or let her leave.

If you want her back, tell her you want to talk to her husband to wife before making this type of decision. That you dont want her to leave, but that you cant take this type of actions from her. That you dont like when she drinks and that, MORE importantly, you guys have a son together. You are not gonna let her disrespect her infront of your son to make your son believe that this is how men are supposed to be treated by their women.

Tell her, "NO! I aint your dad.....I'm your husband, and you need to respect me as The Man I am as I respect you as my wife. I'm not tolerating you disrespecting me at all anymore, talking down ON me or to me...especially in front of my son! Now, I want us to be together, but if you dont think you can do that...then maybe we may need to go seperate ways, because I'm tired of being treated as or talked to as less than the man I am."

Let her know how you feel breh, trust me. I went thru this from July - October of this year and it changed EVERYTHING. It's like my wife realized that she cant pull that shyt no more, because I'm gone and when I leave, it's over.
Be like "You dont wanna be treated like less than a wife and Im not gonna be treated like less than a husband and more importantly as a man."

Talk to her asap and see if you can talk some sense into her, since it doesnt seem like you are ready for her to leave or the marriage to end.







And dont be the boy who cried wolf again

Dont ever tell a woman "fukk you....I'm Done!" and not mean it, because she will take anything you say after that as "whatever", knowing you dont really mean what you say. Only say what you mean, and mean what you say when you talking to your wife.

I hope I helped you from 1 married man to the next. Oh, I'm 28...wife 26. We've been together since I was 23 and she was 20.

 

[beezy]

Damn bruh, the shyt hit the fan for you, sorry it had to go down like that my dude. I know what you mean about drinking, I don't drink so of course my girl follows suit as well, but she likes wine when watching TV and that's about as far as I let her go. So I can understand putting your foot down on that, women make some truly awful decisions when they drink, and the fact that they're smaller than us means they get drunk extremely fast.

Tell her you want to separate for some time, not outright divorce yet, see if you're ok with living without her first before you make that decision. Divorce paperwork tomorrow? From the sounds of it she's just using this as an excuse and might have been planning this for a while. This argument might have just been what she was waiting for. Normally I'd say just forget her, but since there's a child involved you should move with caution, are you ok with her taking your son with her and only getting visitation?

damn, thankfully you're online right now lol. but yea man, sounds sketch dont it? i confronted her about it and said the same thing, but na, we were good up until the argument escalated like that. and shes all about keepin us together, and has always said she would never want it to happen and didnt even want it to be an option. i mean, she has nothing. wtf she gonna do now? move in with her parents and start from scratch. this is like the last resort and its really her pride it seems. shes very prideful and if i tell her fukk off, shes the type that WILL. just to prove a point. to add on, i know shes homesick, bored here, and misses her family thats goin thru a rough time as well. her own parents are splittin up and its been tearin her up. i know she wanted to be home for the holidays for that cuz her moms trippin talkin bout leavin to puerto rico next month. anyway, its a combination of things. i could also say shes tired of goin thru it with me too. we argue alot and she dont want us to keep doin it like this in front of our son. we been stressin eachother, addin on to the already tons of stress we got. this isnt even the fisrt time ive sent her packin. i did it 2 years ago and told her i didnt love her no more. a few weeks later i took it back pretty much.. it was another rough patch we had hit. i guess she thinks by goin all the way ASAP we can avoid any future confusion/playin games with eachother. i guess shes tired of my constant on and off love for her tbh.. shes been more committed and loving for a long time now.. and i dont feel i can blame myself cuz feelings isnt somethin i got control over. and btw, yea, i let up on the drinking thing and said its cool to have a glass of wine, or a lil somethin if we go out on social occasions.. but na, this bytch went and bought a bottle of vodka. knowing were in the thick of arguing. girls are so irrational when upset man. and that kind of volatility is just somethin idk if i should put up with. my son is the hardest thing in the world for me to let go, and truth be told, if it werent for him i dont think we woulda lasted this long.. i dont want him away from me, i dont want other nikkas in his life, and i dont want him learning from his mom and her family and not me. but ima be leavin next summer to live in the DC area where i will be 2 hours away and can come get him every other weekend or whatever.. sucks man, but idk.. i also been thinkin that maybe the sooner we get this over with the better, in terms of less time married and limited assets to divide.. better now than later when i got more to lose right?

 

[beezy]

I'm married too breh.

You cant be "crying wolf", because now it seems like you really werent ready for the "fukk you I'm done" and she's calling your bluff on it. You only have 2 options now, take it back or let her leave.

If you want her back, tell her you want to talk to her husband to wife before making this type of decision. That you dont want her to leave, but that you cant take this type of actions from her. That you dont like when she drinks and that, MORE importantly, you guys have a son together. You are not gonna let her disrespect her infront of your son to make your son believe that this is how men are supposed to be treated by their women.

Tell her, "NO! I aint your dad.....I'm your husband, and you need to respect me as The Man I am as I respect you as my wife. I'm not tolerating you disrespecting me at all anymore, talking down ON me or to me...especially in front of my son! Now, I want us to be together, but if you dont think you can do that...then maybe we may need to go seperate ways, because I'm tired of being treated as or talked to as less than the man I am."

Let her know how you feel breh, trust me. I went thru this from July - October of this year and it changed EVERYTHING. It's like my wife realized that she cant pull that shyt no more, because I'm gone and when I leave, it's over.
Be like "You dont wanna be treated like less than a wife and Im not gonna be treated like less than a husband and more importantly as a man."

Talk to her asap and see if you can talk some sense into her, since it doesnt seem like you are ready for her to leave or the marriage to end.







And dont be the boy who cried wolf again

Dont ever tell a woman "fukk you....I'm Done!" and not mean it, because she will take anything you say after that as "whatever", knowing you dont really mean what you say. Only say what you mean, and mean what you say when you talking to your wife.

I hope I helped you from 1 married man to the next. Oh, I'm 28...wife 26. We've been together since I was 23 and she was 20.

I feel you breh, but the problem is that at the time, i DID feel like that lol.. and if you read my posts from before, it WAS somethin already on my mind, i just didnt have a reason to yet.. i guess its just the speed at which its all happening and just the fact that im only human, i cant just detach from something ive built on for 4 years so easily without second thoughts and without certain fears of regretting things in the future.. the thing is, that like you, i also put my foot down a few months back. i told her the deal, and that i wasnt tolerating no disrepect no more.. AND SHE DID IT AGAIN. wtf. so if im truly a man of my word and mean what i say, at this point it should be bushes for her, but its just not that easy when it comes down to it.. lets be real here.. when things are good, its dumb easy to say yea, one slip up and your gone, and talk about how easy it is to leave.. but when the time comes to commit.. emotions can be a mother fukker..