Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[TRUEST]

Y’all better be careful running with that AMS bullsh1t.

 

[Balla]

Y’all better be careful running with that AMS bullsh1t.

What u mean bro

 

[TRUEST]

.”double post

 

[YOGEBEAR09]

I started dating this one girl back in January and I don't know what to make of her. I work with her, and have known her for 3-4 years. She is east African, religious (at least more than me), doesn't curse, no kids, two jobs, only 3-4 long term relationships prior, she seemed like a great pick up.

That being said I have allowed her the option of a break instead of breaking up and I think I played this wrong.

Here is some backstory on shyt she has said to me and how she behaves.

Early on in our relationship we are talking on the phone and she tells me she had a dream that I was choking her, and not the sexy type, but the assault type, wtf.

She tells me she can't believe the shyt that comes out of my mouth, she can't take jokes and gets offended easily.

She called me an a$$hole on the subway, not very loudly, but nonetheless, shyt was disrespectful to say that shyt in front of other people.

She consistently blows me off. Doesn't text back regularly, turns off her phone or ignores. She says this is because she doesn't really use her phone like that, but I see her on it when I come to work. She sits away from me on the subway at times. She declines rides home when I offer them. She only texts me now when she has a question pertinent to her.

She had friends over at her place from Africa for 3 weeks in February, in which time I got none of her attention.

Multiple times we don't see each other one on one for 2 weeks or more.

Haven't been on a dinner date since March 1st, I haven't seen her one on one since April 20th.

Had two conversations with her in the second week of May, in which she admitted to distancing herself maybe subconsciously. She said she did have some issues with me, but also her own personal issues, that she needs to fix herself first. Asked if she still wants to be with me or break up. Says she does love me more than anyone before and wants to be with me. She said her distance is because of personal things, I think she is depressed about something but she doesn't want to share, prefers to keep it to herself. We decided we would take a break, though she couldn't give me a firm commitment on how much time it would take, I asked if this would take six months because I am not waiting around that long and she said no, still she couldn't give me a time frame. I said maybe we should call each other to keep in touch but try again later once she has herself together. She said she feels bad right now because she knows she hasn't been able to make herself available the amount that we deserve for a relationship to work. We have only spoken on the phone once since these two conversations for 20 minutes. She is going on vacation with her friends in a few weeks as well.

I wanted to break it off when I had my last one on one conversation with her, but she seemed like a great girl and I didn't want to throw it away. Plus I see her everyday at work. Any advice, should I set deadlines for this "break" we are one, or tell her we are done.

Man get rid of that bytch

 

[semicko82]

Y’all better be careful running with that AMS bullsh1t.

Why

 

[xzenothunder]

I have to get accustomed to checking women,

I don’t usually give a fukk about shyt tests and the escalating disrespect so I typically respond in a joking matter but I see sometimes they want you to be stern.


It also makes me despise how “mean” women are lol, they really try to cut into your insecurities for no fukking reason. You can genuinely be the nicest nikka in the world.
But tell her your an orphan and she’ll use it against you eventually.

 

[Balla]

I have to get accustomed to checking women,

I don’t usually give a fukk about shyt tests and the escalating disrespect so I typically respond in a joking matter but I see sometimes they want you to be stern.


It also makes me despise how “mean” women are lol, they really try to cut into your insecurities for no fukking reason. You can genuinely be the nicest nikka in the world.
But tell her your an orphan and she’ll use it against you eventually.

Or worse, her dumbass will tell u some shyt, you tell her some shyt, then she’ll throw that shyt in your face, then you throw her shyt in her face, and she starts crying and bytching why are you throwing shyt in her face.

fukkin bytches man

 

[Torrez]

No prob, but do what you think is right, that way you felt you did the right thing in your own way.

I told her after work today that it has been about a month, and she was like "i know" and was very apologetic in her tone, but I told her maybe it is best we be friends, she said yes she was thinking that. She was trying very hard get away because she had an appointment at the bank, but I wouldn't let her.

She kept promising during this interaction that she'll call me and we'll talk about it. She didn't like the whole situation we were outside on the sidewalk, but that is the only place I could catch her. Also, why you going to call me wtf, I told her I don't have time for her playing games and stringing me along. She says she is not playing games. I told her it's over and she kept saying she will call me today.... Yeah now she'll call me to talk, once I have broken it off, typical bullshyt, I ain't picking that call up.

 

[Balla]

I told her after work today that it has been about a month, and she was like "i know" and was very apologetic in her tone, but I told her maybe it is best we be friends, she said yes she was thinking that. She was trying very hard get away because she had an appointment at the bank, but I wouldn't let her.

She kept promising during this interaction that she'll call me and we'll talk about it. She didn't like the whole situation we were outside on the sidewalk, but that is the only place I could catch her. Also, why you going to call me wtf, I told her I don't have time for her playing games and stringing me along. She says she is not playing games. I told her it's over and she kept saying she will call me today.... Yeah now she'll call me to talk, once I have broken it off, typical bullshyt, I ain't picking that call up.

Don’t be friends and don’t pick up that phone. Good job.

Could you imagine if you actually waited until she got back from vacation? You would be going crazy with thoughts about her for another month.

She didn’t even tell you yet what was wrong.

What do you think happened? Did you guys work more and had less time together? Did she go out with friends more ? Did y’all argue more?

There’s always a reason, you should try to think on why this is happening, so you have a better handle with the next chick and you can nip this shyt in the bud real quick.

 

[Torrez]

Don’t be friends and don’t pick up that phone. Good job.

Could you imagine if you actually waited until she got back from vacation? You would be going crazy with thoughts about her for another month.

She didn’t even tell you yet what was wrong.

What do you think happened? Did you guys work more and had less time together? Did she go out with friends more ? Did y’all argue more?

There’s always a reason, you should try to think on why this is happening, so you have a better handle with the next chick and you can nip this shyt in the bud real quick.

From our conversation last month, there were two minor things about me she didn't like, and she said everything else was about her. I really think she is depressed, like not where she wants to be in life, and thus is unsure about the relationship. I also think there are issues back home in her home country she is dealing with. We never really argued.

She just had no time. She works all day Mon-Thurs 9am to 9pm and Friday 9-5 and Saturday morning to noon. So for free time she only has Friday evenings, Saturday after 1pm, and Sundays, but she had started to choose to go somewhere with her brother, or go to dinner with work friends, or schedule like 5 + appts in a day and we couldn't get any time together in person.

Outside of that she doesn't care for texts, well if I am not seeing you in person and you don't care for texts, and your phone doesn't have a voicemail, and you rarely pick up how am I supposed to contact you. She has always been hard to reach by phone because of how much she works, she would only hit you back when she was on the bus or at home. But recently she wasn't replying at all. And she would say oh my phone was off all weekend, or I went out of the city and turned it off, etc.

But yea I am not picking up that phone, if she wants to speak to me and hash the bullshyt out she can do it in person after work on Monday or another day.

Usually I am very pessimistic with these chicks, but this girl seemed so perfect, soft spoken, kind and sweet. I let myself get tricked by her kind words, promises, beauty, and didn't evaluate her behaviour as I should have.

It may be a little hard to not be friends because we were kind of friends before this, I have known and interacted with her for over 3 years at work and walk to the subway with her consistently and chat...this is partly why I had a lot of trust in her... I thought I knew her better. I could cut that off for a little while though. We just work very close together so it would be hard to do entirely.

 

[Balla]

From our conversation last month, there were two minor things about me she didn't like, and she said everything else was about her. I really think she is depressed, like not where she wants to be in life, and thus is unsure about the relationship. I also think there are issues back home in her home country she is dealing with. We never really argued.

She just had no time. She works all day Mon-Thurs 9am to 9pm and Friday 9-5 and Saturday morning to noon. So for free time she only has Friday evenings, Saturday after 1pm, and Sundays, but she had started to choose to go somewhere with her brother, or go to dinner with work friends, or schedule like 5 + appts in a day and we couldn't get any time together in person.

Outside of that she doesn't care for texts, well if I am not seeing you in person and you don't care for texts, and your phone doesn't have a voicemail, and you rarely pick up how am I supposed to contact you. She has always been hard to reach by phone because of how much she works, she would only hit you back when she was on the bus or at home. But recently she wasn't replying at all. And she would say oh my phone was off all weekend, or I went out of the city and turned it off, etc.

But yea I am not picking up that phone, if she wants to speak to me and hash the bullshyt out she can do it in person after work on Monday or another day.

Usually I am very pessimistic with these chicks, but this girl seemed so perfect, soft spoken, kind and sweet. I let myself get tricked by her kind words, promises, beauty, and didn't evaluate her behaviour as I should have.

It may be a little hard to not be friends because we were kind of friends before this, I have known and interacted with her for over 3 years at work and walk to the subway with her consistently and chat...this is partly why I had a lot of trust in her... I thought I knew her better. I could cut that off for a little while though. We just work very close together so it would be hard to do entirely.

If you don’t mind me asking, how old are y’all and do y’all work together or y’all work close together? What do y’all do?

Maybe I read it wrong and thought y’all had the same job, so I’m thinking how she can’t find time?

But bro the proof is there, she made time for other things, other than her boyfriend. She couldn’t see you over doing any other thing that she did instead?

I would just be done with her man. If you mean friends and in be polite and say hi, then sure, but if you mean friends as in y’all still doing what y’all doing now with no fukkin going on ain’t gonna cut it.

My man, my opinion to you is to just leave it alone, you’ll be happier and more sane. You hit it already, you know what she feels like, smells like, etc.

Think about all of the good times y'all had and keep it moving, no need to go after this girl anymore.

She not even talking to u my g, why u even want to be friends with her makes no sense.

If she likes you she’ll come around.

 

[Torrez]

If you don’t mind me asking, how old are y’all and do y’all work together or y’all work close together? What do y’all do?

Maybe I read it wrong and thought y’all had the same job, so I’m thinking how she can’t find time?

But bro the proof is there, she made time for other things, other than her boyfriend. She couldn’t see you over doing any other thing that she did instead?

I would just be done with her man. If you mean friends and in be polite and say hi, then sure, but if you mean friends as in y’all still doing what y’all doing now with no fukkin going on ain’t gonna cut it.

My man, my opinion to you is to just leave it alone, you’ll be happier and more sane. You hit it already, you know what she feels like, smells like, etc.

Think about all of the good times y'all had and keep it moving, no need to go after this girl anymore.

She not even talking to u my g, why u even want to be friends with her makes no sense.

If she likes you she’ll come around.

We are both in our early 30's. We work together but not the same job. She sometimes assists people that have my job. I do training and she is like an office admin/receptionist person in the same office.

Yeah sorry, when I said friends, I meant like I'll remain polite at work, hello's and goodbyes. And sometimes I will have to leave with her because it's protocal as she locks up the building and they need one extra person. But yeah I am doing pretty much what you are saying cutting her off, and if she comes around so be it, but until then no more effort from me.

 

[Killigraphy]

When do you eventually divulge your real profession?

Never...these are birds, the less they know about me, the better. Adds to the mysterious tall, dark, rogue persona. Now if I'm looking for a relationship, I'm much more of an open book, but with random chicks? Never.

 

[Killigraphy]

These women
Known this chick for a while, we been flirting when we see each other in person, but never really talk outside of that..
2 nights ago, we're on our flirty shyt, and she starts kissing and feeling up on me..
So in my mind she's game
I text her later to come by my spot let's chill, she just says naah
I'm just like cool.

Do I bush, or try again later? Personally I think I need to bush, I feel she's just playing games

Invite her to a night out drinking....on your way to, take a detour, buy cheap vodka, and pluck the bird in the park. Liquor handles all situations.

 

[Killigraphy]

I have to get accustomed to checking women,

I don’t usually give a fukk about shyt tests and the escalating disrespect so I typically respond in a joking matter but I see sometimes they want you to be stern.


It also makes me despise how “mean” women are lol, they really try to cut into your insecurities for no fukking reason. You can genuinely be the nicest nikka in the world.
But tell her your an orphan and she’ll use it against you eventually.

One of the main reasons I lie when I'm plucking birds at the local watering hole. They have zero ammunition. I'm tall, tanned, have long hair, a square jaw, deep voice, and I'm articulate. I'm already bullet proof, the witty responses, are just more to see how made she gets. Ultimately shyt tests will be with you forever, I just insult them back, watch them cry and move on. Victory for me yet again. There's really nothing more pleasing than watching a bird, hamster through her irrational thoughts, then cry about you calling her "immature" or a "child". shyt is so delicious, it fukking fuels me.