Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DeuceZ]

this thread should be required reading freshmen year in college brehs...would have saved me a lot of time and $

 

[sixsixtwo]

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[beezy]

but why cant you flip the script? why he goto be the one feeling the "emptyness". why cant his wife be the one running back on some "i cant live without u sh1t".

women are the emotional ones. and for ANY relationship to work the woman has to be the one that's the most emotionally invested. if he's the one running back on some i cant live without her bs, its clear the relationship is just doomed. cause after 2 weeks ol girl shoulda been going nuts over what he could be doing.

yall n1ggas need to stop letting these movie type plots dictate ur lives. if its the guy thats missing the woman more, that guy is so fuccked i can even begin to tell u.

yall are takin this outta context SHE IS way more emotionally invested, I told her to leave, and she HAS been torn up about it and wants to come back badly. all i was saying was that i didnt expect to want her back like this so soon; and its for good reason because in an older post i described her as being a really good girl; wifable to anybody that knows her; loyal, honest,no body count, good looking, knows her role and plays it well etc. my issue is that im young and dont appreciate what i got cuz it always seems more fun to be out partyin, fukkin random hoes, and doin whatever i want.. now im thinkin thats not worth throwin a diamond in the rough in the bushes. not to mention shes the mother of my son.

 

[TRUEST]

yall are takin this outta context SHE IS way more emotionally invested, I told her to leave, and she HAS been torn up about it and wants to come back badly. all i was saying was that i didnt expect to want her back like this so soon; and its for good reason because in an older post i described her as being a really good girl; wifable to anybody that knows her; loyal, honest,no body count, good looking, knows her role and plays it well etc. my issue is that im young and dont appreciate what i got cuz it always seems more fun to be out partyin, fukkin random hoes, and doin whatever i want.. now im thinkin thats not worth throwin a diamond in the rough in the bushes. not to mention shes the mother of my son.

in that case u need to go get ur girl. the more time u let go, the more n1ggas that will be introduced into her life. it may already been too late. ur diamond may have already been fuccked up. but do what u goto do

 

[Drew Wonder]

brehs, maybe ya'll could interpret this for me. just started talking to this 30-year-old (I'm 24.) we hit it off really well on our first date. during our second date we had the following exchange

Me: You probably don't wanna drink too much since you gotta drive home(she lives an hour away)

Her: I thought I was staying at your place tonight

Me: *on the inside I'm * but on the outside I'm yeah, sure. you can do that

Her: You were supposed to say "no, it's a little too early for that and I wanna get to know you more." That was a test, you failed that one

I played it off, laughed it off a bit and she wasn't mad or anything. after our date she texted me saying she really liked me but she didn't wanna rush into anything and wanted to take her time

my thing is I genuinely do like her and I see the potential for something special, beyond just some jumpoff shyt. but shyt, I'm not gonna turn it down if she offers...regardless of how early lol. but do ya'll think i should've responded different when she said that?

 

[beezy]

brehs, maybe ya'll could interpret this for me. just started talking to this 30-year-old (I'm 24.) we hit it off really well on our first date. during our second date we had the following exchange

Me: You probably don't wanna drink too much since you gotta drive home(she lives an hour away)

Her: I thought I was staying at your place tonight

Me: *on the inside I'm * but on the outside I'm yeah, sure. you can do that

Her: You were supposed to say "no, it's a little too early for that and I wanna get to know you more." That was a test, you failed that one

I played it off, laughed it off a bit and she wasn't mad or anything. after our date she texted me saying she really liked me but she didn't wanna rush into anything and wanted to take her time

my thing is I genuinely do like her and I see the potential for something special, beyond just some jumpoff shyt. but shyt, I'm not gonna turn it down if she offers...regardless of how early lol. but do ya'll think i should've responded different when she said that?

Na breh, you did the right thing by keepin it 100. dont be scared to offend her, dont put on no act like you're this nice guy whos not tryna get the puss.. thats what gets you friendzoned and shyt.. BELEE DAT!

EDIT: Personally, i woulda played her a lil bit by sayin some shyt like "Whoa whoa whoa, i am not that kinda girl, you pervert lol" in a sarcastic kinda way.. gotta flip the script on her namean.

 

[Malta]

brehs, maybe ya'll could interpret this for me. just started talking to this 30-year-old (I'm 24.) we hit it off really well on our first date. during our second date we had the following exchange

Me: You probably don't wanna drink too much since you gotta drive home(she lives an hour away)

Her: I thought I was staying at your place tonight

Me: *on the inside I'm * but on the outside I'm yeah, sure. you can do that

Her: You were supposed to say "no, it's a little too early for that and I wanna get to know you more." That was a test, you failed that one

I played it off, laughed it off a bit and she wasn't mad or anything. after our date she texted me saying she really liked me but she didn't wanna rush into anything and wanted to take her time

my thing is I genuinely do like her and I see the potential for something special, beyond just some jumpoff shyt. but shyt, I'm not gonna turn it down if she offers...regardless of how early lol. but do ya'll think i should've responded different when she said that?

She's already playing stupid games and giving you tests


You're 24, she's 30......bushes breh, no way a chick that old should be playing stupid games. When you're 30, you'll still be able to get chicks that are 22-24, why lock yourself into some 30 year old who does the same shyt.

 

[Ohene]

She's already playing stupid games and giving you tests


You're 24, she's 30......bushes breh, no way a chick that old should be playing stupid games. When you're 30, you'll still be able to get chicks that are 22-24, why lock yourself into some 30 year old who does the same shyt.

basically. My first thoughts were, "bytch is this old and shes playing games?" But dude saiid he likes her and I wasnt tryna be offensive

 

[Malta]

basically. My first thoughts were, "bytch is this old and shes playing games?" But dude saiid he likes her and I wasnt tryna be offensive

I just couldn't, my reaction would have been and then she would have never heard from me again.

My philosophy has always been if you like me, show me, if you don't show me, I've got no time for stupid ass games.

 

[winb83]

Straight up told this chick if I'm your superman you're about to splatter on the pavement. Needless to say she didn't appreciate what I said.

 

[Drew Wonder]

I just couldn't, my reaction would have been and then she would have never heard from me again.

My philosophy has always been if you like me, show me, if you don't show me, I've got no time for stupid ass games.

she probably assumes like a lot of women that if she gives it up too fast I'll immediately put her in the jumpoff category instead of looking to build a relationship

but yeah, I would've appreciated a simple "so are you just tryna fukk or are you looking for something more" rather than a "test"

aside from that whole thing she's cool though. if she starts conducting more "tests" then yeah, I'll end it. but i'm not gonna dip out just based on that one exchange

 

[Malta]

she probably assumes like a lot of women that if she gives it up too fast I'll immediately put her in the jumpoff category instead of looking to build a relationship

but yeah, I would've appreciated a simple "so are you just tryna fukk or are you looking for something more" rather than a "test"

aside from that whole thing she's cool though. if she starts conducting more "tests" then yeah, I'll end it. but i'm not gonna dip out just based on that one exchange

And she'd be right in her assessment, the issue is she thought offering was a good idea and then testing you on your response? This isn't science class, what guy is going to say no to her test, she basically asked a rhetorical question and then judged you on the response that she already knew the answer to.

Fam, you have to ask yourself if she's doing this on the 2nd date, what do you think she'll be doing in the future. What other types of games and tests is she going to have in store for you. Does this chick have kids too?

 

[Drew Wonder]

And she'd be right in her assessment, the issue is she thought offering was a good idea and then testing you on your response? This isn't science class, what guy is going to say no to her test, she basically asked a rhetorical question and then judged you on the response that she already knew the answer to.

Fam, you have to ask yourself if she's doing this on the 2nd date, what do you think she'll be doing in the future. What other types of games and tests is she going to have in store for you. Does this chick have kids too?

nope, no kids.

 

[Malta]

nope, no kids.

Are you ready for kids?

Cause women between 27-31 that don't have kids, generally want kids.

You start a relationship with a 30 year old woman that doesn't have kids, you better believe they are apart of her immediate plan for the future.

 

[Drew Wonder]

Are you ready for kids?

Cause women between 27-31 that don't have kids, generally want kids.

You start a relationship with a 30 year old woman that doesn't have kids, you better believe they are apart of her immediate plan for the future.

hell nah I'm not ready for that.

but she hasn't pressured me or even brought that up (i mean if she did after only two dates I'd be )

when I approached her initially I thought she was my age(she looks young for her age) so I was kinda when she told me she was 30, knowing that they tend to look for something more serious at that age

but I was sick of a lot of the bullshyt I've been through with girls my age so I figured I'd try something new. and maybe I'm just used to talking to women without much of a personality or conversation skills but so far I dig the fact that we can talk about meaningful things, plus we share a lot of common interests(we're both writers)

I'll also point out that she didn't have this super serious demeanor when she gave me that test. she likes to joke around a lot. but I guess I assumed that even though she was on the outside when she tested me in her head she was