Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

You are correct, I apologize for being judgemental and pointing fingers of my own.

As for lending a helping hand, it seems like single dudes would rather hear advice from other single dudes as opposed to successfully married ones

You guys will probably just say my wife is going to turn into a hoe and leave me

havent visited this thread in a minute. But yea I hear what you mean with this post.
However when you say something like only one poster has said anything material, and then say you only looked at the first couple and last couple pages, you sound ignorant

 

[Ohene]

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Men have to be weary of women who use them for emotional support. She'll use her dude for her physical needs then come to yo' ass for emotional comfort or to feed off the attention her dude either never gives her or stopped giving her after he got bored of her ass. He's getting the ass & blowjobs, you get to talk to her for hours


Now, this is about to delve into super simp territory but, it is what it is. I was a chump. Shorty was my most serious relationship. I know she loved me but, I loved her a whole lot more. I used to think she was the one that got away. We didn't work out and she chose another nikka over me and got married (we're both 24). Our history stretches way back to before high school, so it was kinda hard not to speak to each other, and with me being a real big simp for her, I entertained her even though she was married to another nikka, that she chose over me We'd go for months without speaking, then sporadically, we'd talk all day, facebook/chat/text/email, with calls every now & then, that she usually initiated. I liked talkin to her but, I should've knew what time she was on when she'd say shyt like....."I wonder what would've happened with us blah blah blah......." which always had me like....

It didn't dawn on me until I caught up with another ex of mine one day. Now, it was inverse with her. Shorty would wash my dirty drawers w/o hesitation but, at the time I was : : towards her because I kept comparing her to girl #1. Now, I could have her again tomorrow if I wanted but, I never abused that and its a reason why I didnt. I let her go cold turkey when I dumped her and never started communication again because I knew leaving communications open like that would just make it more difficult for her to move on and honestly, I want her to be happy. If I kept tabs on her like my ex kept tabs on me, the only reason I'd be doing that would be for selfish reasons, looking for attention or keeping her on reserve for later


I realized that what the other girl was to me, I was that for the first girl : : I knew my motivation for keeping tabs on her, I still loved her. But what was her motivation for staying in contact with me? Putting me on "emotional support/backup/break in case of fire" status and framing it under the long history (which began as a friendship) we had growin up together. Maybe her husband was on some bullshyt that day, then she hit me up knowing I still carried something for her, getting the attention that she needed or whatever. Now that I look back on it, a married woman should NOT be communication with old boyfriends, let alone saying half of the shyt she'd say : : Cant even get mad at her cuz I allowed her to do that.


In short brehs, cut off all communication with these bytches after a breakup : Even if you once had that p*ssy, you can still be placed in the friendzone

Thank you YBE as I've been trying to tell this same msg to some of my real life homies.

@BlueJay This is exactly what I told ____ about. But he dont wanna listen. You nikkas need to realize I dont speak out of my ass.

I have never listened to the stories of another chick I know because I had alterior motives but simply because I am a nice guy and if a person needs advice I'll do my best to help them (while not sabotaging the dude or other parties cause I dont know their side). Even with that though the issue is a lot of these girls dont look for advice but validation for their actions or desires. You will continuously hear the same things/stories over and over again. The intelligent will realize the cycle and nip it in the bud and say something along the lines of:

"Look, based on what I've heard, you need to do X because Y will happen and otherwise, Z will happen. I've told you this already but you dont wanna heed to my advice so I suggest you talk it out with dude as opposed to me."

Most will get bent and say youre selfish, you dont understand or get it, youre an a$$hole blah blah blah. But its necessary. Theres no such thing as male and female friends in the traditional sense. Believe that.

I once had a girl that I was "friends" with sabotage my chance at getting it in with her friend (we were just flirting during group assignments and shyt but she was uncomfortable because apparently she felt the friend was breaking the code based on what she told her friend about her feelings for me ). Girl is very sexy but I wanst tryna get at her at that time like that (we had a tiny fling in the past) so I was like . After sabotaging she told me some shyt about how she wants to break up with her boyfriend eventually and just take some time to herself to be single but ultimately she wanted to be with me. Can you imagine that? So I'm supposed to wait til dude gets injured for my chance at a shot, when I got a starting position // try out waiting for me on another squad (not to demean myself). I just let her sit back and tell on herself. Nevermind me but the fact she did all this while having a boyfriend was disgusting even though they had a rough patch during then among other periods. It was then that I knew the deal for sure about M-F friendships.

PS: That was like October 2011
The two of them are still together

 

[sixsixtwo]

 

[TRUEST]

ok brehs so i still have my ex from my last relationship on facebook and it's fukking irking me IDK why i can't seem to block her. Just thinking back on the bullshyt she put me through and reading her bullshyt status updates strengthens my anti-simp behavior but at what cost? I know i'm breaking major laws by having her on facebook. I just wanna floss on that bytch but i think i'm wasting time.

delete that b1tch asap. or deactivate your facebook for a few months. if u dont, u'll be setting urself up for a serious heartbreak. seeing pictures of ur ex with her new man or men will murder your soul, incinerate your inner being and disperse the ruins in a sea of hot magma

 

[My neck and my back]

You are correct, I apologize for being judgemental and pointing fingers of my own.

As for lending a helping hand, it seems like single dudes would rather hear advice from other single dudes as opposed to successfully married ones

You guys will probably just say my wife is going to turn into a hoe and leave me

your first appearance in this thread were you belittling the advice that was given, now it was to offer advice but you felt we didn't want it? you just wanted some attention nikka fucckouttahere with this shyt

 

[Jahmal]

You guys will probably just say my wife is going to turn into a hoe and leave me

I hope she does

 

[Jason B]

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Thank you YBE as I've been trying to tell this same msg to some of my real life homies.

@BlueJay This is exactly what I told ____ about. But he dont wanna listen. You nikkas need to realize I dont speak out of my ass.

I have never listened to the stories of another chick I know because I had alterior motives but simply because I am a nice guy and if a person needs advice I'll do my best to help them (while not sabotaging the dude or other parties cause I dont know their side). Even with that though the issue is a lot of these girls dont look for advice but validation for their actions or desires. You will continuously hear the same things/stories over and over again. The intelligent will realize the cycle and nip it in the bud and say something along the lines of:

"Look, based on what I've heard, you need to do X because Y will happen and otherwise, Z will happen. I've told you this already but you dont wanna heed to my advice so I suggest you talk it out with dude as opposed to me."

Most will get bent and say youre selfish, you dont understand or get it, youre an a$$hole blah blah blah. But its necessary. Theres no such thing as male and female friends in the traditional sense. Believe that.

I once had a girl that I was "friends" with sabotage my chance at getting it in with her friend (we were just flirting during group assignments and shyt but she was uncomfortable because apparently she felt the friend was breaking the code based on what she told her friend about her feelings for me ). Girl is very sexy but I wanst tryna get at her at that time like that (we had a tiny fling in the past) so I was like . After sabotaging she told me some shyt about how she wants to break up with her boyfriend eventually and just take some time to herself to be single but ultimately she wanted to be with me. Can you imagine that? So I'm supposed to wait til dude gets injured for my chance at a shot, when I got a starting position // try out waiting for me on another squad (not to demean myself). I just let her sit back and tell on herself. Nevermind me but the fact she did all this while having a boyfriend was disgusting even though they had a rough patch during then among other periods. It was then that I knew the deal for sure about M-F friendships.

PS: That was like October 2011
The two of them are still together

Yep. It is never a good idea to be a woman's therapist when their is a so-called friendship. It usually makes the guy who play this role appear like he is hating and throwing salt on the next dude's game. Personally, I avoided partaking in this type of activity by being indifferent to a woman's problems in relationships because most of the time,the woman is on bullshyt. If something was NEVER an issue before (based on what the female has involved herself with), why is it an issue all of a sudden now?

 

[Malta]

Just for a clear idea on why I love Brazil, look at the women in this video, and understand that a lot of the women down there in Salvador dress just like that and have similar styles/complexions and wear their hair much the same way -




It's like one gigantic afro-centric city with extremely high family values If you're a single man and aren't traveling you're not living.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Just for a clear idea on why I love Brazil, look at the women in this video, and understand that a lot of the women down there in Salvador dress just like that and have similar styles/complexions and wear their hair much the same way -

SÃO SALVADOR GAL COSTA.HD - YouTube


It's like one gigantic afro-centric city with extremely high family values If you're a single man and aren't traveling you're not living.

i had to pause the vid for a second and just re-evaluate my life


i cant fukkin wait for spring for my next travel































breh no pun..the fukk u thinking leaving brazil

 

[Ohene]

Yep. It is never a good idea to be a woman's therapist when their is a so-called friendship. It usually makes the guy who play this role appear like he is hating and throwing salt on the next dude's game. Personally, I avoided partaking in this type of activity by being indifferent to a woman's problems in relationships because most of the time,the woman is on bullshyt. If something was NEVER an issue before (based on what the female has involved herself with), why is it an issue all of a sudden now?

Yup, its a shame that not enough dudes know this. Just like the girls who dont listen to advice, my friend who kept talking to the girl for whatever reason gets a from me any time he mentions that bytch name. He knows what it is at this point and has even acknowledged I'm right. He wanna step into the trap thats his problem.

 

[semicko82]

Yup, its a shame that not enough dudes know this. Just like the girls who dont listen to advice, my friend who kept talking to the girl for whatever reason gets to any time he mentions that bytch name. He knows what it is at this point and has even acknowledged I'm right. He wanna step into the trap thats his problem.

I had a crush on a girl just like that, everytime i would just speak she would start complaining about her man. So one day she started yapping about her latest drama with her man. Then i hit her with this literally. The look on her face priceless.

 

[Newzz]

You are correct, I apologize for being judgemental and pointing fingers of my own.

As for lending a helping hand, it seems like single dudes would rather hear advice from other single dudes as opposed to successfully married ones

You guys will probably just say my wife is going to turn into a hoe and leave me

I'm successfully married breh and I have contributed some advice of my own in this thread

 

[kevm3]

what i find interesting is if a woman finds you too perfect, you become boring to her. The woman I couldn't shake was the one that found 'things wrong with me' and almost looked at me as some kind of project that she needed to fix up. Me, I didn't feel anything was wrong with me so it created constant clashes and all of this drama... and when that drama is there, babygirl will not go anywhere.

 

[Malta]

i had to pause the vid for a second and just re-evaluate my life


i cant fukkin wait for spring for my next travel































breh no pun..the fukk u thinking leaving brazil

I ask myself that every week

 

[Jason B]

what i find interesting is if a woman finds you too perfect, you become boring to her. The woman I couldn't shake was the one that found 'things wrong with me' and almost looked at me as some kind of project that she needed to fix up. Me, I didn't feel anything was wrong with me so it created constant clashes and all of this drama... and when that drama is there, babygirl will not go anywhere.

This is exactly what I emphasized in one of my earlier posts in regards to a man's behavior dealing with women. It seems like you pretty much have to play the role of an immoral,disrespectful,grimey,no-good dude to not only keep women interested but to also be taken seriously by women in sense that they will not try play games with you. This shyt is still makes no sense but I, for the most part, have to come to terms with this mindset possessed by many women.