Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Brehs, how do y'all deal with women you don't know if you can trust?
Its easy to say "if it feels off, throw her in the bushes", but sometimes I do overthink things and have been wrong before.
And honestly, I'm not one to date multiple chicks at once. I just can't. Don't have the time, no the patience to keep up with multiple conversations, or every little mundane thing they say.
Current chick, she'll go for hours without texting me back sometimes(like today havent heard back from her since 630pm..its midnight now) ....but when I dont reply to her for an hour she'll text me back like, "Hellooo?" or "ok guess you're busy, bye" and one time before our first date i didnt reply within 20mins and she said, "do you even want to go out with me?" Honestly, I do that on purpose bc she does it....
BUT she has up to this point made great efforts to hang out with me. Only issue is, I don't know if I'm getting anywhere. We've gone out to eat multiple times, yes I've paid. Nothing too expensive, but I'm still paying. It hasnt gotten too touchy-feely yet like I expected it to. Just some end of evening tight hugs and i kissed her on the cheek a couple of times, but I'm not seeing a physical effort on her part.
Here's the prob, we met thru mutual friends, plural. I want her to know that I'm NOT down for a non-physical hang out/go out situation , but I also don't want to come off looking like a jerk/thirsty and for it spread around to the ppl we both know.
We're supposed to go out again tomorrow night and so we'll see. Tomorrow may be the final straw for me bc I'm not gonna be a sucker. She's not young, so I know she's not naive to things.
What do I do? Why do I keep meeting bad women?
@LeVraiPapi @George Gooney other brehs?
I'd say your first issue comes from the bolded.
One is a consequence of the other. You overthink things cause when you are speaking to one female, you don't tend to have other options so you keep that one girl on your mind. Also makes you less likely to bush when your instincts tell you that you should.
I'll let you in on a secret. I don't think most men who have a roster of women really want a roster, but the game is volatile. One week you have 4 ready to go, next week 3 have ghosted on you and your down to one. I couldn't imagine just speaking to one woman in this day and age but each to their own.
Secondly the underlined. Not to sound cynical but of course she makes effort to come meet you breh, she gets to eat for free and you pay.
Most girls out there aren't turning that down, even if they have low interest in breh and that's the harsh realities.
How many times is multiple times? Like others have said if you have been out more than like 3 times and it hasn't got beyond a platonic vibe it might be too late.
Hope it goes well for you later breh.
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Man I don't need anymore distractions but playing music draws people especially women in.
So given my current living situation I'll be straight up because I don't care about missing out on p*ssy.
So given my current living situation I'll be straight up because I don't care about missing out on p*ssy.
African_brehda
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Brehs, how do y'all deal with women you don't know if you can trust?
Its easy to say "if it feels off, throw her in the bushes", but sometimes I do overthink things and have been wrong before.
And honestly, I'm not one to date multiple chicks at once. I just can't. Don't have the time, no the patience to keep up with multiple conversations, or every little mundane thing they say.
Current chick, she'll go for hours without texting me back sometimes(like today havent heard back from her since 630pm..its midnight now) ....but when I dont reply to her for an hour she'll text me back like, "Hellooo?" or "ok guess you're busy, bye" and one time before our first date i didnt reply within 20mins and she said, "do you even want to go out with me?" Honestly, I do that on purpose bc she does it....
BUT she has up to this point made great efforts to hang out with me. Only issue is, I don't know if I'm getting anywhere. We've gone out to eat multiple times, yes I've paid. Nothing too expensive, but I'm still paying. It hasnt gotten too touchy-feely yet like I expected it to. Just some end of evening tight hugs and i kissed her on the cheek a couple of times, but I'm not seeing a physical effort on her part.
Here's the prob, we met thru mutual friends, plural. I want her to know that I'm NOT down for a non-physical hang out/go out situation , but I also don't want to come off looking like a jerk/thirsty and for it spread around to the ppl we both know.
We're supposed to go out again tomorrow night and so we'll see. Tomorrow may be the final straw for me bc I'm not gonna be a sucker. She's not young, so I know she's not naive to things.
What do I do? Why do I keep meeting bad women?
@LeVraiPapi @George Gooney other brehs?
breh, after the first or second date, the only hanging out you should be doing is when you invite her over, or you go to her spot. Ask her where her mind is, and let her know you are not trying to be just friends. Please, always make your intentions clear from the onset. And get her to feel comfortable when you are together alone, try to get physical breh. And you seem too bothered about looking thirsty, i'll rather be the guy who went in for the kiss and failed, than just sitting there conversating. Make a move breh, please.
in fact, hit her up and change todays plans and ask her to come to your spot, or you to her, her answer will let you know wassup
Restarted my Tinder account and once again I'm shocked to see chicks I was messing with in Jan and Feb still on here. Still using the same pictures.
It's kinda sobering that many of these women are probably never going to find a man that they actually want. Or they're going to have to lower their standards signifcantly . Tbh many of them are probably earning so much money they don't really need a man per se. But these are women in their mid thirties. Cant be fun going home to an empty apartment every night or buying a dog or cat as an affection substitute.
Two years from now you’ll log on and they will still be there
Brehs, how do y'all deal with women you don't know if you can trust?
Its easy to say "if it feels off, throw her in the bushes", but sometimes I do overthink things and have been wrong before.
And honestly, I'm not one to date multiple chicks at once. I just can't. Don't have the time, no the patience to keep up with multiple conversations, or every little mundane thing they say.
Current chick, she'll go for hours without texting me back sometimes(like today havent heard back from her since 630pm..its midnight now) ....but when I dont reply to her for an hour she'll text me back like, "Hellooo?" or "ok guess you're busy, bye" and one time before our first date i didnt reply within 20mins and she said, "do you even want to go out with me?" Honestly, I do that on purpose bc she does it....
BUT she has up to this point made great efforts to hang out with me. Only issue is, I don't know if I'm getting anywhere. We've gone out to eat multiple times, yes I've paid. Nothing too expensive, but I'm still paying. It hasnt gotten too touchy-feely yet like I expected it to. Just some end of evening tight hugs and i kissed her on the cheek a couple of times, but I'm not seeing a physical effort on her part.
Here's the prob, we met thru mutual friends, plural. I want her to know that I'm NOT down for a non-physical hang out/go out situation , but I also don't want to come off looking like a jerk/thirsty and for it spread around to the ppl we both know.
We're supposed to go out again tomorrow night and so we'll see. Tomorrow may be the final straw for me bc I'm not gonna be a sucker. She's not young, so I know she's not naive to things.
What do I do? Why do I keep meeting bad women?
@LeVraiPapi @George Gooney other brehs?
You gotta get her on a physical date....
Clubs/those arcade/food spots etc..
These modern day women need instant stimulation
A dinner date is like me giving my lil cousin a jeru da damaja album to listen to...
You gotta be high energy out the gate...
LeVraiPapi
Redemption is Coming
You gotta get her on a physical date....
Clubs/those arcade/food spots etc..
These modern day women need instant stimulation
A dinner date is like me giving my lil cousin a jeru da damaja album to listen to...
You gotta be high energy out the gate...
Exactly. Be physical with her but dont mention you don't wanna be friends and wanna be physical. Thats how these girls are wired lately.
In the end, no matter how much we type on here about a situation with a woman, none of us can know the true ins and outs of a situation someone else is describing. We're not in that person's shoes.
So we read and then offer advice based on our own experiences and our mindset on women.
I take and appreciate everyone's advice unless it's just stupid lol. You run it thru the filter of your situation and apply it accordingly where/if it fits
That's what this thread is for.
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All of this.
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As far as not trusting her. Thats a good thing. Always expect women to do some unexpected shyt. Seems like you might have taken too long to escalate this situation with her. When y'all hang out are you being playful and sexual? The texting thing is just women being women. They usually respond back fairly quickly if you got them open. You might need to do a soft restart with this girl.Brehs, how do y'all deal with women you don't know if you can trust?
Its easy to say "if it feels off, throw her in the bushes", but sometimes I do overthink things and have been wrong before.
And honestly, I'm not one to date multiple chicks at once. I just can't. Don't have the time, no the patience to keep up with multiple conversations, or every little mundane thing they say.
Current chick, she'll go for hours without texting me back sometimes(like today havent heard back from her since 630pm..its midnight now) ....but when I dont reply to her for an hour she'll text me back like, "Hellooo?" or "ok guess you're busy, bye" and one time before our first date i didnt reply within 20mins and she said, "do you even want to go out with me?" Honestly, I do that on purpose bc she does it....
BUT she has up to this point made great efforts to hang out with me. Only issue is, I don't know if I'm getting anywhere. We've gone out to eat multiple times, yes I've paid. Nothing too expensive, but I'm still paying. It hasnt gotten too touchy-feely yet like I expected it to. Just some end of evening tight hugs and i kissed her on the cheek a couple of times, but I'm not seeing a physical effort on her part.
Here's the prob, we met thru mutual friends, plural. I want her to know that I'm NOT down for a non-physical hang out/go out situation , but I also don't want to come off looking like a jerk/thirsty and for it spread around to the ppl we both know.
We're supposed to go out again tomorrow night and so we'll see. Tomorrow may be the final straw for me bc I'm not gonna be a sucker. She's not young, so I know she's not naive to things.
What do I do? Why do I keep meeting bad women?
@LeVraiPapi @George Gooney other brehs?
All this is valid but if you keep seeing them that means they can see you too
The difference is they get so much attention they prolly don't remember you but you remember them
Now who looks worse? No disrespect just some food for thought
All this is valid but if you keep seeing them that means they can see you too
The difference is they get so much attention they prolly don't remember you but you remember them
Now who looks worse? No disrespect just some food for thought
But what you're saying tells the whole story. A below average looking woman on a dating site prob gets 10 messages a day. The good looking ones get prob 30 messages a day.
If they're really interested in finding a relationship like they often claim in their profile, they'd be able to.
They ALL claim, "down to earth girl, not looking for a hookup" But if you're getting hundreds of messages a month you should be able to find a relationship somewhere in there.
Data-Hawk
I have no strings on me.
Brehs, how do y'all deal with women you don't know if you can trust?
Its easy to say "if it feels off, throw her in the bushes", but sometimes I do overthink things and have been wrong before.
And honestly, I'm not one to date multiple chicks at once. I just can't. Don't have the time, no the patience to keep up with multiple conversations, or every little mundane thing they say.
Current chick, she'll go for hours without texting me back sometimes(like today havent heard back from her since 630pm..its midnight now) ....but when I dont reply to her for an hour she'll text me back like, "Hellooo?" or "ok guess you're busy, bye" and one time before our first date i didnt reply within 20mins and she said, "do you even want to go out with me?" Honestly, I do that on purpose bc she does it....
BUT she has up to this point made great efforts to hang out with me. Only issue is, I don't know if I'm getting anywhere. We've gone out to eat multiple times, yes I've paid. Nothing too expensive, but I'm still paying. It hasnt gotten too touchy-feely yet like I expected it to. Just some end of evening tight hugs and i kissed her on the cheek a couple of times, but I'm not seeing a physical effort on her part.
Here's the prob, we met thru mutual friends, plural. I want her to know that I'm NOT down for a non-physical hang out/go out situation , but I also don't want to come off looking like a jerk/thirsty and for it spread around to the ppl we both know.
We're supposed to go out again tomorrow night and so we'll see. Tomorrow may be the final straw for me bc I'm not gonna be a sucker. She's not young, so I know she's not naive to things.
What do I do? Why do I keep meeting bad women?
@LeVraiPapi @George Gooney other brehs?
you aren’t aggressive enough. Females will give you 1-2 times to hit it . After that they lose all interest in you. Yeah she’ll still hang out with you and talk to you. But she’s already looking for someone else.
speaking from experience. She’s friend zoned you . I remember when I had my opportunities and didn’t take advantage of it, you could always tell something was off afterwards.
Don’t believe that whole “ he just want sex, he’s a jerk because of it”. If she feeling you, she wants you to make a move ASAP.