Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ahadi]

my life has been much more easier and enjoyable when I stopped expecting common decency from women.

Big facts.

 

[Max.]

You in Toronto?

Naw im in nor cali

 

[BeeGoinCrazy]

This nikka I follow on ig said this

edit: white folk think that’s my post I was just tryna hear what the Coli had to say.

 

[Malik1time]

I think my ex wants me to respond or react she keeps posting shyt on Facebook throwing subliminal shots/showing off she went to the spa blah blah at first I was thinking like 2 can play that game but my older brother told me to move silent and peep shyt don’t react cuz that’s what she wants
Funny thing is imma see her next weekend cuz it’s one of our friends bday

 

[PharaohAtem]

I think my ex wants me to respond or react she keeps posting shyt on Facebook throwing subliminal shots/showing off she went to the spa blah blah at first I was thinking like 2 can play that game but my older brother told me to move silent and peep shyt don’t react cuz that’s what she wants
Funny thing is imma see her next weekend cuz it’s one of our friends bday

Just went through the same thing. Haven’t seen my “ex” since school ended and haven’t talked to her in months. First I seen her was at my homies bday thing and shorty was hella bitter. Shorty lit me up in front of the guys. I didn’t want to ruin the night and say something back because that would’ve got her mad as shyt and she was the one paying for everything. She ended up spending 350 that night. She gonna text me a few days later and ask me if I can depend on her. Me wanting to use her to get stuff for me, said yes .

 

[NYC Warrior]

fukk is wrong with some of ya'll nikkas in here? nikkas going in bytches raw, nikkas telling bytches I love you, nikkas getting into long ass arguments with bytches thru text.

No wonder these broads out here got the upper hand.

Who raised ya'll?

 

[MollyGalaga]

“Imma call you rn thats cool”

“Yeah”

*no answer*

 

[BeeGoinCrazy]

“Imma call you rn thats cool”

“Yeah”

*no answer*

bytches lie all the time b

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

I have a topic. When a chick is boring, or if you find the conversations boring. Is that her fault or yours?
To make the topic clearer I want to state that the chick actually likes you and messages you a lot to hang out.
Chicks can be fukking boring

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

The biggest thing I'm noticing about women is how many don't assume positive intent. It's amazing how many women are reluctant to give the benefit of the doubt and create negative situations by simply believing that one exists. Not everyone is out to play you, hurt you, or take advantage of you. It's the most amazing form of confirmation bias. You make the choice on what your beliefs are. If you change your beliefs, you can quite literally change the way you see the world.


All that said, many women are flat out being damaged by no good men. Straight up. If you're going to wife something, find someone who hasn't been hurt and put through the wringer. Many women are truly never the same afterwards and you'll never really know the type of woman you're dealing with until you have a conflict or an issue and see how she responds,

 

[Everything Zen]

i don't think i miss being single as much as i just miss the freedom that comes with not being accountable to a partner tbh

it's been 7 months and i'm still not accustomed to reporting my comings and goings to her

 

[Canon]

went out on a date and chick was kind of blah and cut it short because a fukk buddy texted me towards then end


another girl i actually like texted me but i was a little out of the way

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

The biggest thing I'm noticing about women is how many don't assume positive intent. It's amazing how many women are reluctant to give the benefit of the doubt and create negative situations by simply believing that one exists. Not everyone is out to play you, hurt you, or take advantage of you. It's the most amazing form of confirmation bias. You make the choice on what your beliefs are. If you change your beliefs, you can quite literally change the way you see the world.


All that said, many women are flat out being damaged by no good men. Straight up. If you're going to wife something, find someone who hasn't been hurt and put through the wringer. Many women are truly never the same afterwards and you'll never really know the type of woman you're dealing with until you have a conflict or an issue and see how she responds,

Easy to say all that from a male perspective. It's easier for us to give someone the benefit of the doubt or find some positivity in someone. Nobody is trying to constantly fukk us. We don't live in a reality where rape or assault is a gigantic possibility wherever we go.

There are good dudes out there with good motives but she can't drop that mindset just for a couple of dudes.

And if I ever have a daughter I'm a tell her that shyt. .

 

[SATAN]

i don't think i miss being single as much as i just miss the freedom that comes with not being accountable to a partner tbh

it's been 7 months and i'm still not accustomed to reporting my comings and goings to her

You shouldn't have ever needed to do that in the first place.

That sounds more like probation than s relationship lol

Keep that in mind whenever you do choose to be in a relationship with someone.

 

[DaRealness]

There is a lot of variables that come in mind though.

First, if a dude is nice because that's who he is then he should remain nice. There is a difference between being a nice person and being someone who can't stand up for themselves or believes in boundaries and morals. A dude is losing if he changes how he acts for a female. For example, he believes he has to be an a$$hole to get a female when he's probably a good dude at heart. It's straight-up losing for a man to lower himself to that. Now if he's pretending to be a nice dude just to get laid it's a different type of story. Dudes will snap on their own grandmothers or best friend of ten years for leaving the lights on in the bathroom but will let a girl they just met break all the rules just so he can smash. That's the corny shyt right there.

As for some mothers punking and softening their sons, it's somewhat true but not all of the time. I mean shout out to moms because they're awesome but not all of them are innocent as the public tries to display them as. I grew up with a few dudes who's mothers were straight-up a$$holes that punked their sons in public for absolutely no reason. And of course, I knew what brehs was going through at home behind closed doors. The common factor was always the same for these moms though. They either hated the dad or he wasn't present at all so in some weird way they take it out on the children.

Another reason why moms soft dudes up at a young age is because they love them. There is never any ill-intent when it comes to this variable. They are the codependents in their sons' lives as they give advice on dealing with women. But that's when the father needs to be present more than ever. A mother's love is unconditional and a child always needs that father to hit them with a dose of reality when need be.

Everything can be solved if a breh has a strong male role model to teach him. This could be their fathers, step-fathers, uncles, older cousins and so on. And if they don't have dope male figures to follow then they should try to find a source through media. I listen to dudes like Dante Nero, Joe Rogan, Charlagmane Tha God, Lord Jamar, T.K. Kirkland, etc. A lot of them dabble in the same medium but all dudes with different personalities that have one thing in common. They are up there in age.

Respect your elders is a saying for a reason. A lot of them have wisdom that the youth could use. But in our culture, especially hip-hop, we look at you as trash once you hit a certain age. This leaves young men being softened up by their moms and their role models are 20-year-olds who never make it past 25. The result is brehs nowadays have women issues, discipline issues, common sense issues, morality issues, self-esteem issues, and a shyt ton of other things.

This is my point and most people don't even speak on this. I've seen it countless times over the years. They take all that hate out on their sons because they chose to mess with a man they knew was no good in the first place.

It may not always be a deliberate sabotage, but other times its subconscious. A lot of these women know they ain't shyt, so deep down they feel as if they warn their sons about the no good women out there then they are actually telling on themselves. Men are way more inclined to warn their daughters about men than women are to warn their sons. It's always the father (if he is around) who warns their sons. Like you said, a male role model is vital.

As for being a genuinely nice person, yes by all means be that. However the reality is, life is harsh and sometimes you will have to tweak certain things about yourself in order to adapt and survive your environment.