To add, I asked her close friend at work (they new each other from another office) if she knew why this new co-worker was being short with me all of a sudden...she said she didn't know while smiling but would ask her, but I told her not to because I wanted to ask myself during break.
An hour later I go back to the friend to ask her something work-related and she said she couldn't help it and asked the new co-worker if she was mad at me. She said the new co-worker told her something but didn't want to tell me what and wanted the two of us to talk it out. I asked her what she said and she started cheesing again.
Later on break I approach new co-worker and asked her why she was acting different, she plays dumb says she's not. She was busy so I said we'll talk later. At the end of the day, I go up to her again before I left. I said I don't appreciate you being short with me and if she was mad at me then it's best she kept it real and tell me why. She said if she was mad at me she would be given me one word answers. I told her that's exactly what she was doing. Even though there were instances during the day where we would conversate more times than not it was one word answers. I asked for her number at the end, she gave it to me but said "I'm giving it to you but for work purposes only"
I made the initial text on the spot, her phone was charging. This was yesterday at like 7 or 8 last nite. No text back response since then.
Do you think she liked you, when she was being super friendly? From my POV, unless there was flirting and she was only being that way with you, I wouldn’t have assumed she was interested. For instance whenever I start a new position, my goal is to make a good impression so I might go out of my way to be very social and try to learn what I can from people who work there, then as o adjust and get busier with work I won’t be as social or as interested in learning anymore(assuming that I’ve learned everything I needed to already about the culture). I’m nice to all of my coworkers including the males. I have a few white male associates who regularly by my desk to chat. Or who if I see them in the hall I’ll stop and make conversations with them. I’m not interested in any of them.
So with that being said, I wouldn’t have assumed she was interested just because she was overly friendly. I also wouldn’t assume she stopped being as friendly because she was interested and you did something to slight her.
But by bringing it to her coworkers attention, they now know you’re interested in her. You probably should have just played it cool and acted like you didn’t notice or gaf that she was no longer as social.
Anyway based on her coworkers reaction I can’t say what it is that may have happened. Yes, she could like you, and got her feelings hurt(and that’s why the coworker smiled and didn’t want to say) or you could have done something that annoyed her or that she didn’t like and she was talking shyt about you but the coworker didn’t want to get involved(but it had nothing to do with liking you). She could find you creepy or thought you were interested and she pulled back. Right now at my job, both girls I work with talk shyt about the other to me, all the time. I smile and find it funny. The things that irk them about each other are small things. They obviously don’t have romantic feelings for the other. I don’t go back and blab, but if one were to confront me I might do what your coworker did, and stay out of it, and ask that they work it out without me.
All to say that I wouldn’t interpret this as anything serious until you can confirm that she’s actually feeling you. It now sounds like an awkward situation, she may think you like her now, etc. tread cautiously. If I don’t respond to someone’s text within the same day they text me, (mad or not) I’m usually not very interested in them, they aren’t a priority, I get back to them when I feel like it.
Shout out to the high interest girls who make it easy
