Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Longest relationship y’all have had and how did things “end”? Were their signs before the final closing? Who ended things you or her?

help the younger or inexperienced bruhs out before they fall into the same trappings as yourself.

I've had two 3 year relationships

One ended when she cheated we were young though, signs looking back we were young it was three yeaers both were too chicken to dump.


Other was my ex fiance . Really were no signs I was caught off guard. Literally went from being so happy telling her Friends and family to giving me back the ring and sorry I can't do this.

Was like a foster kid finally be accepted in a new family everything going well , thinking your going to get updated then one day being told sorry it's not working out and you back in foster care.

But if anything it opened my eyes and removed the scales I don't really care anymore. If it doesn't work out with a chick no worries.

 

[Serious]

Yep a chick could get cheated on and abused in every relationship before you. You treat her well and suddenly it's still not good enough


That's why I always say it doesn't matter what you do for a woman. Women aren't like men

The fact that we universally have the same experience says a lot

 

[Serious]

I had a date last night with this red haired white chick. Wholesome type or maybe I'm projecting that on her: 34, no kids, getting masters, medical lab scientist, introvert, doesn't drink, goes to church but getting away from Christianity, doesn't have many friends, and busy with work. Met on bumble. Texted back and forth for a few days before last night. We went to Mexican restaurant. I paid. Had a great convo and she didn't really want it to end so we went and got dessert. Stayed til everyone left. Finally called it a night at 10. Didn't kiss.

She had told me that with affection she has to warm up and feel safe, so I didn't expect it...but I kept getting this lingering feeling she wanted me to come over, but I couldn't tell. Kept biting her lip, staring in my eyes but would sometimes look down, there felt like chemistry but in my past whenever I go out with a wholesome girl and don't make a move out of respect of what the woman has said about affection/intimacy, I end up losing out and not going on a second date bc they really did want it and were just full of shyt. It's always wholesome ones like thst for me that fukk my whole game up, and the truth is its because deep down that is exactly what I want. I am truly hoping she ain't full of shyt.

Texted her when I got home, like she asked, said I enjoyed talking to her and meeting her and thought she was cute. She replied that she had a lovely evening this morning. I responded to thst and said glad she enjoyed herself bc I did as well. Haven't heard shyt since this morning. With her personality that's not surprising but there's always the chance I'm playing myself

I wouldnt read too much into it early on.

I would use this time to consider how you see this chick. Is it a fling, gf, wifey etc. Then play it accordingly. It could be nothing or it could be something. Don't reck your brain though.

With that said, if a chick is really feeling, even if she's "holding" herself back, just taking a little initiative goes a long.

Kissing on the first date aint that big deal.

 

[Ahadi]

Why are you all matching / dating old women?

 

[Koli_Kat]

I matched with this girl last year on hinge and she was cold etc and unmatched me. I see her again on hinge and usually when I see a chick on hinge I’ve talked to or met before I usually remove them so I don’t see em again.

I said what the hell and liked hero little write up she matched back with me and poof we meeting up tomorrow

Be careful, chicks that usually stay on Apps to long usually aren't quality. Good ones get snatched up and off the apps fast

 

[MikelArteta]

Be careful, chicks that usually stay on Apps to long usually aren't quality. Good ones get snatched up and off the apps fast

 

[Sonny Bonds]

What is up with some of these women on these apps?

She suggested me picking her up to get food like around midnight. When I said, "Wait you're serious?" She told told me nevermind because it seemed like I asked what hood she lived in to just make small talk (that's what I was doing).

Later, she hints at it still being an option. When I'm cool with it, she freaks out and accuses me of trying to lure her. Then she blocks me. I'm not even the one who suggested hanging out. I was cautious and slow with my conversation.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

Why are you all matching / dating old women?

They’re desperate and can easily be manipulated once you get past the “but the age difference” phase they ramble on about.

like, the fellas ya age ain’t on shyt, you on this app at your age so I know you DEFINITELY ain’t on shyt.. and we both grown on this app so fukk you hesitant about

 

[Serious]

They’re desperate and can easily be manipulated once you get past the “but the age difference” phase they ramble on about.

like, the fellas ya age ain’t on shyt, you on this app at your age so I know you DEFINITELY ain’t on shyt.. and we both grown on this app so fukk you hesitant about

@Hennessypapi put us on game a while back.


Them older chicks can fund ya lifestyle too.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

She suggested me picking her up to get food like around midnight

This… this right here is where you should of ignored her. Sounds like some shyt you’d do with a chick you know extremely well and comfortable with.. but still… There’s 12 hours in the daytime and you have the nerve to ask me to get up at midnight to eat?!?! Not even to fukk but EAT

She suggested me picking her up to get food like around midnight. When I said, "Wait you're serious?" She told told me nevermind because it seemed like I asked what hood she lived in to just make small talk (that's what I was doing)

She said nevermind because you reacted as if it was a fairy tale. She stated explicitly what she wanted, and all you had to do was say “what’s your address?” you think about what hood she’s in or if it’s safe internally because they don’t gaf about your concerns

Later, she hints at it still being an option. When I'm cool with it, she freaks out and accuses me of trying to lure her. Then she blocks me. I'm not even the one who suggested hanging out. I was cautious and slow with my conversation

case #1353573 of women talking big game but not living up to it (fellas do it to btw, but this thread is on women) an earlier post mentioned how most women operate on feelings, and that has also made my experience ten times better. All the logistics is a waste of time if the feeling isn’t there, which is why you adjust the energy you’re giving out.

I’m glad she blocked you. Moreso because the situation itself is just sketchy. Accusing you to lure her in? Yeah nah, be a headcase somewhere else. Let her send her address to another breh to eat food with or spend the rest of the night tryna hook in a sucker. Enjoy the All-Star game or this new Euphoria episode

 

[RaspberryFitted]

What is up with some of these women on these apps?

I matched with this one chick. App showed her in Atlanta. FaceTimed her. Found out she was in California. Maybe I’m stupid but I assumed she has connections to here and visits back and forth.

“No, I just changed my location to Atlanta. Just to see, never been”
Attempting to use me for attention or energy. Bonkers man

@Hennessypapi put us on game a while back.


Them older chicks can fund ya lifestyle too.

link me to the game he gave out. I believe him, but they front like they too “mature” for that. You seen my age on the profile shawty don’t shy up now

 

[Serious]

I matched with this one chick. App showed her in Atlanta. FaceTimed her. Found out she was in California. Maybe I’m stupid but I assumed she has connections to here and visits back and forth.

“No, I just changed my location to Atlanta. Just to see, never been”
Attempting to use me for attention or energy. Bonkers manlink me to the game he gave out. I believe him, but they front like they too “mature” for that. You seen my age on the profile shawty don’t shy up now

He lied about his age to appear older

 

[MikelArteta]

I matched with this one chick. App showed her in Atlanta. FaceTimed her. Found out she was in California. Maybe I’m stupid but I assumed she has connections to here and visits back and forth.

“No, I just changed my location to Atlanta. Just to see, never been”
Attempting to use me for attention or energy. Bonkers manlink me to the game he gave out. I believe him, but they front like they too “mature” for that. You seen my age on the profile shawty don’t shy up now

Have had that happen as wrll

Chicks living in the states putting themselves in Toronto and ish

 

[Ahadi]

What is up with some of these women on these apps?

She suggested me picking her up to get food like around midnight. When I said, "Wait you're serious?" She told told me nevermind because it seemed like I asked what hood she lived in to just make small talk (that's what I was doing).

Later, she hints at it still being an option. When I'm cool with it, she freaks out and accuses me of trying to lure her. Then she blocks me. I'm not even the one who suggested hanging out. I was cautious and slow with my conversation.

When it’s confusing, she doesn’t like you.

She just wanted free food.

 

[Ahadi]

I matched with this one chick. App showed her in Atlanta. FaceTimed her. Found out she was in California. Maybe I’m stupid but I assumed she has connections to here and visits back and forth.

“No, I just changed my location to Atlanta. Just to see, never been”
Attempting to use me for attention or energy. Bonkers manlink me to the game he gave out. I believe him, but they front like they too “mature” for that. You seen my age on the profile shawty don’t shy up now

Lazy af and if you click, guess who’s paying for the plane ticket