Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

From a relationship standpoint, I’ve seen it all. How to be a deadbeat, how to be put on child support, how to be a stepdad to another kid, how to bust your ass trying to co-parent when you already got kids from a different relationship… NEVER in my personal life have I seen a man be with one woman and build a home together with their children.

Having to watch my mother basically be a mother to grandchildren at her age… not being able to live life since her youngest son is in college.. breaks something inside of you, something that you don’t want to repeat for her sake and your own.

All that accumulates to my sex/romantic life. Once I entered college (2019) I found myself being cautious of who I slept with or got into a relationship with.. in hopes in not repeating the mistakes I’ve seen. Left some p*ssy on the table, which later made me question if I’m too harsh on myself or if I’m instilling the right discipline in myself.

as somebody who recently went through a pregnancy scare ...trust me when i say you are not too hard on yourself. its merely discipline
my life was flashing before my eyes during the scare. She was on birth control and I pulled out...but she took her IUD out a day after due to pain she was having and supposedly somehow got magically pregnant
til this day i dont know if she was seeking attn or if she was telling the truth and aborted but i dont really care. simply counting my blessings

since then i have been sitting on my hands and leaving p*ssy on the table myself until my girlfriend moves over here from France

 

[VertigoKnight]

Took pawg I mentioned last week out on a second date to give her and it one more chance to see if she was just fronting the first date out of formality (I mentioned no kiss or intimacy). Same exact thing happened and I asked if she wanted to kick it at her place after the SECOND place we went to. She said not her place so I was already checked out, but we went to a 3rd place--my old bar from a few years ago. Ended the night, no kiss again. Bushes . Wasted 3 weeks on someone who isn't emotionally available. I had asked her some time ago about thoughts on intimacy and got a vague ass response about feeling safe. On top of that during the date it became very clear to me from what she was saying that she is having an existential crisis. Anyways on to the next. No more wasting time and I just need to be more direct in the beginning. I'm not doing this anymore...giving the benefit of the doubt. Hell to the nah.

Did she push for the date or did you ask her?

A chick wanting no intimacy and by that I include stuff like holding hands or gentle touching would be ringing alarm bells for me. I have enough female friends who tell me they know what guys they’d want kissing them and from there they hope the guy picks up on that energy, That also goes for guys they’re aren’t feeling,

I met up with a white girl I met last week, we made out on the first date and she very clearly was into me, but we didnt fukk as we both discussed it, but I knew she was ready to be intimate.

She came round my house yesterday evening and we had sex. This chick you were dealing with sounds like yeah she should not be out here dating.

They're the most annoying kind of chicks out here. I'm not expecting sex on a first date but I'm expecting some sign she's actually into me not being ambivalent.

 

[VertigoKnight]

Messed up
I deleted this chicks number

she called me today and I was like who is this

Do you archive messages? I found that's very useful when a chick tries to get back at you after an extended time away.

 

[MikelArteta]

Do you archive messages? I found that's very useful when a chick tries to get back at you after an extended time away.

nah I just totally deleted her number
If I don’t hear from a woman for Two weeks I delete.

 

[VertigoKnight]

nah I just totally deleted her number
If I don’t hear from a woman for Two weeks I delete.

I usually delete the number but keep the messages if any have been sent.

 

[MikelArteta]

as somebody who recently went through a pregnancy scare ...trust me when i say you are not too hard on yourself. its merely discipline
my life was flashing before my eyes during the scare. She was on birth control and I pulled out...but she took her IUD out a day after due to pain she was having and supposedly somehow got magically pregnant
til this day i dont know if she was seeking attn or if she was telling the truth and aborted but i dont really care. simply counting my blessings

since then i have been sitting on my hands and leaving p*ssy on the table myself until my girlfriend moves over here from France

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

Did she push for the date or did you ask her?

A chick wanting no intimacy and by that I include stuff like holding hands or gentle touching would be ringing alarm bells for me. I have enough female friends who tell me they know what guys they’d want kissing them and from there they hope the guy picks up on that energy, That also goes for guys they’re aren’t feeling,

I met up with a white girl I met last week, we made out on the first date and she very clearly was into me, but we didnt fukk as we both discussed it, but I knew she was ready to be intimate.

She came round my house yesterday evening and we had sex. This chick you were dealing with sounds like yeah she should not be out here dating.

They're the most annoying kind of chicks out here. I'm not expecting sex on a first date but I'm expecting some sign she's actually into me not being ambivalent.

I know what you mean. No I asked to meet up twice but at that point we had been talking every day. We did hold hands at the 3rd place, so there was that lame shyt. But anytime you tell me "I don't know what I feel anymore" and then when I say it sounds like you're having an existential crisis, you agree? You don't know what you want or who you want it from, and you shouldn't be dating. I especially hate going out with former church girls or current church girls, the ones whose families are still involved and now they've chosen not to do it--it's always a problem, whether it's sex or intimacy. Too sheltered in life. In the past I would have entertained her but I've learned from experience that a girl never changes her mind. If she starts off like that, it will probably stay like that. And on the offshoot you do get a door open and mess around, it will soon close again.

 

[VertigoKnight]

I know what you mean. No I asked to meet up twice but at that point we had been talking every day. We did hold hands at the 3rd place, so there was that lame shyt. But anytime you tell me "I don't know what I feel anymore" and then when I say it sounds like you're having an existential crisis, you agree? You don't know what you want or who you want it from, and you shouldn't be dating. I especially hate going out with former church girls or current church girls, the ones whose families are still involved and now they've chosen not to do it--it's always a problem, whether it's sex or intimacy. Too sheltered in life. In the past I would have entertained her but I've learned from experience that a girl never changes her mind. If she starts off like that, it will probably stay like that. And on the offshoot you do get a door open and mess around, it will soon close again.

Absolutely. Well at least you can say you tried and she didn't return the energy. But it definetly sounds like she needs to take a time out from wasting peoples time trying to date.

 

[semicko82]

fukk that ho ass nikka and all his butt buddies in this thread

 

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[International Playa]

After a break up, how long do u suggest to take time to work on yourself before dating.

Broke up with my ex end of January, got my first date since the break up next week.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

After a break up, how long do u suggest to take time to work on yourself before dating.

Broke up with my ex end of January, got my first date since the break up next week.

Only you can measure that, but you have to be truthful in how much time that is.

Are you mentally and emotionally prepared to speak to another woman? Physically, are you where you want to be to maximize your value in the market? Is this woman getting the best version of you and not some salvaged byproduct of a break up?

 

[J.E.T.S]

After a break up, how long do u suggest to take time to work on yourself before dating.

Broke up with my ex end of January, got my first date since the break up next week.

nice. You took time to heal. Soon, as I got dumped I went out fukking up a storm.

 

[International Playa]

Only you can measure that, but you have to be truthful in how much time that is.

Are you mentally and emotionally prepared to speak to another woman? Physically, are you where you want to be to maximize your value in the market? Is this woman getting the best version of you and not some salvaged byproduct of a break up?

nice. You took time to heal. Soon, as I got dumped I went out fukking up a storm.

I'm not really ready to be dating, I need 2 more months off.

However this woman has huge potential, we click personalitywise, she has a great job, she my type looks wise, very smart, a bit too nerdy & too religious though. She was too hard to pass up till I'm fully ready. I will see how it goes, if nothing progresses with her, I will chill for 2 months till I get back to dating.

 

[Ahadi]

Only you can measure that, but you have to be truthful in how much time that is.

Are you mentally and emotionally prepared to speak to another woman? Physically, are you where you want to be to maximize your value in the market? Is this woman getting the best version of you and not some salvaged byproduct of a break up?

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