Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Rich Spirit]

So many guys want to be meek not ask for her number and move her off the app and just talk to a chick for a week with good morning messages and all, then wonder why a chick is lukewarm.

Another thing is men who don't know what they want to do. It’s such a simple thing and I thought most men were on it, but according to my female friends it seems not. and these are not demanding women they cool and chill but some of these guys can't do the bare minimum.

If I’m inviting a woman out I know what, when and where. Guys asking women where they should meet and what she wants to do. Then get baffled when her energy is meh

And like I’ve said if a chick is already feeling you. It can be anywhere. A park for a walk, a coffee shop, a free museum but you’ve shown that you know what you’re doing and you have a plan for your time together.

The amount of women I’ve bagged with a simple inexpensive date where we can talk in person. Then the second date is usually at my place or hers for dinner and then sex.

Sex by the second date?

 

[Killigraphy]

So yall just on apps now? No cold approaches?

We went over that; covid literally made it so that cold approaching was a myth. Two years had Tindr, PoF, Hinge, etc, skyrocketing. I always advise cold approaching, if you have a job/hobby that makes you interact with people, even better. Most men need to learn to socialize in general, because what a lot of people think is cold approach, is more like being a dork in front of girl, anxious and panicky. I'm a natural, so it was never a problem but a lot of men out there just suck talking to people in general.

 

[VertigoKnight]

Sex by the second date?

Ha yes, when I was more ruthless it would be on the first date. These days I want to know the energy before I smash.

But we definitely making out on a first date.

 

[Rich Spirit]

So yall just on apps now? No cold approaches?

I'm still on apps, but lately I've been meeting people through social groups. So much easier to get a feel of these women in person rather than these apps.

 

[Rich Spirit]

Ha yes, when I was more ruthless it would be on the first date. These days I want to know the energy before I smash.

But we definitely making out on a first date.

Teach me your ways

 

[Reality]

this was a good ass question

We’re in the early talking stages. Honestly if I didn’t see that she was posting IG stories, I wouldn’t have cared that much. Also, I know if I’m feeling someone, I’m not going to ignore they text all day.

Is she just not that into you? Probably, but not 100%. Maybe she's of the mindset she's not taking the dating apps seriously, so all the dudes she's talking to are getting that treatment. You will probably never know with certainty.

You've just gotta be operating in the mindset that women need to earn that super-interested vibe from you outside of dates. Having 1 or 2 good dates, confirming you had a good time and want to do it again, and then just letting 2 or 3 days pass without saying anything else is totally fine. I promise you. Only when she starts pressing you with the wifey-esque "good morning" & "how's your day going?" texts do you respond with that same energy.

You as a man are taking the initiative in providing the upfront structure/timing of the progression of the relationship. For me, a woman isn't getting more than a date a weekend with maybe a Thursday meet if I like their company and we're sexually active. If they want to accelerate the relationship faster than that, trust me, they will. Each and every time.

Teach me your ways

Not too complicated man. Just be comfortable raising sex in a topic during your date. What works for me is asking why their relationships haven't worked out after some rapport. Inevitably I get asked and give the very real reason of a lack of sexual chemistry. And if you're good at conversation you can pull off a turn into talking sex w/out it being awkward or forced. Any woman nodding fervently in agreement on the lack is most likely on the same page as you. Shouldn't be shy at all about asking them for a nitecap at your spot.

Me personally, I make a habit of asking for them to come back on the 1st if they pass my crazy filters and don't come off prudish off rip. The most common "no" response has actually been some version of "No, I can't let you hit it on the 1st night because I'm not that girl. But we could have fun on our 2nd" vs. a flat out no. Just establish some sexual rapport during the date and then ask confidently at the end of the night breh.

 

[YaThreadFloppedB!]

Is she just not that into you? Probably, but not 100%. Maybe she's of the mindset she's not taking the dating apps seriously, so all the dudes she's talking to are getting that treatment. You will probably never know with certainty.

You've just gotta be operating in the mindset that women need to earn that super-interested vibe from you outside of dates. Having 1 or 2 good dates, confirming you had a good time and want to do it again, and then just letting 2 or 3 days pass without saying anything else is totally fine. I promise you. Only when she starts pressing you with the wifey-esque "good morning" & "how's your day going?" texts do you respond with that same energy.

You as a man are taking the initiative in providing the upfront structure/timing of the progression of the relationship. For me, a woman isn't getting more than a date a weekend with maybe a Thursday meet if I like their company and we're sexually active. If they want to accelerate the relationship faster than that, trust me, they will. Each and every time.

+rep; felt

We actually met at my homegirl’s kickback. I don’t do dating apps lol. But we caught each other staring and she separated from her friends and put herself in my proximity so I could approach.

The convo was great and she ended up introducing me to her friends that she left and they were digging me as well especially when they told me they were East African and I brung up the conflict going on over there.

The last thing she texted me was that she’s having a content day coming up with her friend and said i’m more than welcome to join, but if not she’ll also let me know when she’s free so we can kick it. She’s kinda poppin on IG (12k followers) and TikTok bc she models for fashionova and some other brands.

The text convo was good as well and she always responded promptly. She just went cold all of a sudden after I reminded her about this playlist she wanted to send me, but I don’t do double-texting…so I’ll just have to leave it at that.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

The convo was great and she ended up introducing me to her friends that she left and they were digging me as well especially when they told me they were East African and I brung up the conflict going on over there.

Next time, don’t do that.

 

[YaThreadFloppedB!]

Next time, don’t do that.

maybe but they were from Tigray and impressed. Her friends were like how do you know about that all wide-eyed.

I didn’t give an opinion about it

 

[KeysT]

maybe but they were from Tigray and impressed. Her friends were like how do you know about that all wide-eyed.

I didn’t give an opinion about it

With American women this would be bad because they are stupid and uninterested in world politics. I think in this case you letting them know you had some knowledge on their culture is a win.

 

[Rich Spirit]

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Not too complicated man. Just be comfortable raising sex in a topic during your date. What works for me is asking why their relationships haven't worked out after some rapport. Inevitably I get asked and give the very real reason of a lack of sexual chemistry. And if you're good at conversation you can pull off a turn into talking sex w/out it being awkward or forced. Any woman nodding fervently in agreement on the lack is most likely on the same page as you. Shouldn't be shy at all about asking them for a nitecap at your spot.

Me personally, I make a habit of asking for them to come back on the 1st if they pass my crazy filters and don't come off prudish off rip. The most common "no" response has actually been some version of "No, I can't let you hit it on the 1st night because I'm not that girl. But we could have fun on our 2nd" vs. a flat out no. Just establish some sexual rapport during the date and then ask confidently at the end of the night breh.

you right breh, i think it’s the fear of rejection that’s getting in the way from me

 

[RaspberryFitted]

maybe but they were from Tigray and impressed. Her friends were like how do you know about that all wide-eyed.

I didn’t give an opinion about it

it’s a case by case basis and since she’s from there, it made sense. I just shy away from politics, religion (if they’re agnostic/atheist I don’t even speak to them), and socioeconomic problems when first talking

With American women this would be bad because they are stupid and uninterested in world politics. I think in this case you letting them know you had some knowledge on their culture is a win.

I roll my eyes anytime I see a woman want “deep conversations” or state they’re sapiosexual.

9/10 they’re stupid, surrounded by stupid people, and want to flex whatever knowledge they’ve learned on you. This results in them putting you in a box. Or they’re boring.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

once you dont really care and keep it moving and keep swiping just makes things so much easier. invited this girl over for a third date said she thinks she has covid and kinda been playing games. I asked her Saturday how she is doing and that's the last time I contact her. Got more matches and 2 new numbers off Hinge plus meeting this other girl for the first time this week.

Just gotta have that abundance mindset and not give a fukk. I also am good talking through text so that helps.

Gotta move fast with these apps plus its more fun that way and I ain't got time to waste.

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Since not eveyone is good at texting let me give some game hopefully help someone else out:

Text with a purpose - Don't ask dumb shyt and don't ask too many questions. I usually ask the same few questions. What do you like to do for fun? what do you do for work? find a common interest and talk about that.

Save the convo for the date - Guys waste too much time trying to get to know a bytch through text. Texting is only to build rapport early on and get them comfortable enough to meet you in person. Save the deeper stuff for the date. The first few dates is really where you see what type of women she is and if shes a jump off or wifey status or ain't shyt.

Try to meet up or get the number asap - Some girls will give you the number after the first day, some won't. Respect there decision but if they don't give it just say well I was just trying to meet you in person. You can still talk to them through the app but set up the date asap. If you are talking for more than a few days you need to get the number or try to meet up asap. Women like a man that takes action.

You pick the time and the place - When asking them to meet up you set it up and do it on your terms. Its more fun this way and its more like you are inviting them to do what you want instead of letting them decide. I hate bowling so I'm not gonna ask a bytch to go bowling but I took a bytch to bar/arcade and she liked it and I liked it so it was a win win.

Send one follow up message if they don't respond in time - People are busy and you never know what's up with a bytch. I talked to this bytch all last weekend. Didn't hear from her all week. Thursday I sent "Is anybody in there?". She responded that same day and said sorry it's been a busy week. She also didn't give me her number but we talked about getting coffee this week.

Do not use emojis and do not simp - Leave the emojis to the bytches and don't simp over a bytch you don't even know. be a man.

Slip in stuff that makes you look good - I have tattoos, my own company, crib, and place. I will casually slide this shyt in plus I work out and box so slide in some shyt and humble brag.

All of this above is just to get you to the first date. Dating in person is a whole other story but the above shyt has personally helped me.

It's still a numbers game tho so don't get discouraged remember you are the man and just keep swiping. when you get a bytch who is feeling you they don't play games and it makes your life easier. don't make shyt more difficult than it needs to be life is tough already.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

you right breh, i think it’s the fear of rejection that’s getting in the way from me

Biggest thing I learned is “are you what you want the other person to see you as?” If you desire casual sex from these women, are you someone who walks and talks like that’s what they offer?

This plays a part in rejection because if you are confident in what you offer, there’s no reason to be scared of a no.