Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Reality]

I can’t even express my feelings and state of mind to my wife without her getting mad and invalidating my thoughts. Then she get mad when I don’t open up and communicate with her. Even tho she’s been working on being receptive to “criticism” since we been married.

Been in this exact situation except with a GF instead of a wife. No easy answer breh. In the end I came to the conclusion the requests to "open up" and "communicate" were really requests for me to say exactly what she wanted to hear.

Do you know your wife's love language? This GF in particular's #1 was words of affirmation, so I think that's ultimately where the request for communication came from. She was looking for affirmation vs. open communication as we see it. It's not always the case that women can even understand what we're saying from a rational place.

Do you feel like when you do open up and she gets mad, she's jumping to conclusions and making logical leaps that have you like ? You might even try calling this out: "You ask me to open up and communicate, but if I don't say something exactly the way you expect me or need me to say it, things spiral out of control. I'm not going to be a perfect communicator, but we'll get nowhere if I have to stop and try to guess the perfect wording before expressing myself to you."

 

[Malik1time]

Should I up my Instagram game up? I haven’t post anything in 4years I post random stories maybe once every 7months
A female friend of mine told me yesterday “don’t you think you a little too mysterious? Like no one knows how you doing” mind you I deactivated my Facebook years ago , my Snapchat has been dead for years…..


I wonder if it’s ruining my game when I dm women
Maybe that’s why I’m shooting 0-249

 

[twan83]

Hope you and the kids are doing alright, and hope she’s a good mother/figure to them.. sheesh

this happened over a decade ago I got remarried and had 2 more kids in new marriage plus wife daughter from baby daddy we been married for bout 12 years now

I’m in the military too
So she is the breadwinner but then said fukk them kids?
If it ain’t one thing it’s another. I’m sure she initially wanted to separate during the postpartum shyt but couldn’t bc u played a supporting role, so she skedaddled the next opportunity, which was u getting medically separated.

na I was breadwinner but once that discharge happened that shyt got cut in half so she had to work when she wasn’t before and was a stay at home mom
Na it wasn’t that cuz she had it postpartum 1st kid we had together not the 2nd one cuz we were really good place at that time
She just was lazy and didn’t want the responsibility more than anything then she got tired of my shyt as I was going thru medical depression while I was going thru it all
Reality is this cuz she did admit it too me afterwards she didn’t want to be responsible anymore and wanted freedom to enjoy herself so when u lose all that and have to be the adult u grow resentment so she checked out once I got sick and had to still deal with kids
Once I got my footing I dealt with kids and didn’t matter to her cuz she let them other women also tell her same shyt cuz before I was sick we were straight but it is what it is could care less in long run she got remarried had another kid joined the military then got out as e6 as a contractor
I got remarried had more kids
Our youngest daughter don’t even know her since she left at 1 1/2 years old and our son was 4 at that time barely
Gonna adopt my other daughter when she turns 18 cuz she wants me too and have my last name while my wife will adopt the other 2 kids once they turn 18
We’re waiting cuz we don’t wanna deal with the baby daddy drama and my baby momma drama in case these fools all of sudden wanna pop up and act like parents out of spite cuz we doing adoption and need go thru them but if we wait till 18 they adults and kid can make decisions themselves

 

[RaspberryFitted]

Should I up my Instagram game up? I haven’t post anything in 4years I post random stories maybe once every 7months
A female friend of mine told me yesterday “don’t you think you a little too mysterious? Like no one knows how you doing” mind you I deactivated my Facebook years ago , my Snapchat has been dead for years…..


I wonder if it’s ruining my game when I dm women
Maybe that’s why I’m shooting 0-249

This isn’t just a woman thing. For strangers to be interested in you, you do have to show you have activities and a life going on. My mentor told me to update my LinkedIn profile with accomplishments and activities I’ve participated in, so employers can get a glimpse of what I do.

I understand being turned off posting your entire life online, but we live in a new world KS has a livestream about that lone wolf shyt being played out.

 

[Ahadi]

Should I up my Instagram game up? I haven’t post anything in 4years I post random stories maybe once every 7months
A female friend of mine told me yesterday “don’t you think you a little too mysterious? Like no one knows how you doing” mind you I deactivated my Facebook years ago , my Snapchat has been dead for years…..


I wonder if it’s ruining my game when I dm women
Maybe that’s why I’m shooting 0-249

Mysterious game works for me. But you should have a balance of posting maybe once a month? Or engaging on social platforms.

I don’t post as much because there are too many wolves out here. Hating or desperate to ruin your success.

 

[360dagod]

Should I up my Instagram game up? I haven’t post anything in 4years I post random stories maybe once every 7months
A female friend of mine told me yesterday “don’t you think you a little too mysterious? Like no one knows how you doing” mind you I deactivated my Facebook years ago , my Snapchat has been dead for years…..


I wonder if it’s ruining my game when I dm women
Maybe that’s why I’m shooting 0-249

To be honest...

Might as well start COMPLETELY over if you are relying on old connections..

 

[Ahadi]

Do y'all notice how like 90% of these online dating profiles these females make all have the same type of mantra about not looking for hookups or sex, etc?

They're basically telling on themselves. They know what the deal is.

All these bytches are hungry



Or want “acts of service & gifts” or want to eat some of your food, etc.

 

[1thouwow]

Been in this exact situation except with a GF instead of a wife. No easy answer breh. In the end I came to the conclusion the requests to "open up" and "communicate" were really requests for me to say exactly what she wanted to hear.

Do you know your wife's love language? This GF in particular's #1 was words of affirmation, so I think that's ultimately where the request for communication came from. She was looking for affirmation vs. open communication as we see it. It's not always the case that women can even understand what we're saying from a rational place.

Do you feel like when you do open up and she gets mad, she's jumping to conclusions and making logical leaps that have you like ? You might even try calling this out: "You ask me to open up and communicate, but if I don't say something exactly the way you expect me or need me to say it, things spiral out of control. I'm not going to be a perfect communicator, but we'll get nowhere if I have to stop and try to guess the perfect wording before expressing myself to you."

Yeah words of affirmation.

 

[Bossyyyyy]

This isn’t just a woman thing. For strangers to be interested in you, you do have to show you have activities and a life going on. My mentor told me to update my LinkedIn profile with accomplishments and activities I’ve participated in, so employers can get a glimpse of what I do.

I understand being turned off posting your entire life online, but we live in a new world KS has a livestream about that lone wolf shyt being played out.

When he’s talking to the men, I fw bro

 

[MollyGalaga]

*documented that social media is a bane on everyones current existence*

"screw that, stop being such a lone wolf on IG"

 

[MikelArteta]

Should I up my Instagram game up? I haven’t post anything in 4years I post random stories maybe once every 7months
A female friend of mine told me yesterday “don’t you think you a little too mysterious? Like no one knows how you doing” mind you I deactivated my Facebook years ago , my Snapchat has been dead for years…..


I wonder if it’s ruining my game when I dm women
Maybe that’s why I’m shooting 0-249

I have zero social media not even a linked in

 

[Max.]

It’s hard finding women who are down with me having 2 in my life

My ex spoiled me when we were in a relationship. We both were setting hoes out together

I miss that

man my side bytch has been goat so far!!!

huge ass…doesnt trip…no pregnancy worries…

i just go over for a hour…3 times a week…get head and fukk….she on her period so i told her to suck me off till i bust…man i busted a huge nut in Her mouth and she took every drop…

 

[Max.]

Do y'all notice how like 90% of these online dating profiles these females make all have the same type of mantra about not looking for hookups or sex, etc?

They're basically telling on themselves. They know what the deal is.

Most women that post that are
1)hoes that been ran thru and want bf now

2)girls that have been used for sex alot…and tons of guys came to the realization she aint she but p*ssy..she probably fukks dudes out of her league but gets gassed up by simps so her mindset is she deserves a 6’6 nba player

 

[DapMeUp!]

I have zero social media not even a linked in

I keep getting notifications that people employers have checked my Linkedin but it's just an empty profile

Any social media I create at present will go the same way I just don't care enough to post shyt
I will next year though for business purposes.

 

[Ahadi]

Y’all might be on to something with these coffee dates.

A few minutes to understand if there’s a vibe and what you’re dealing with.



She paid for her own coffee too. Let me know how to move from jump.