Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Bigblackted4]

for sure but if you wanna let her hear your voice, why not just call instead?


some chics, youre are better off calling anyway

Oh I’m always a believer in calling but sometimes you don’t want to deal with sitting on the phone and dead space. Like throughout the day it’s perfect

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

Brehs, i was talking to my mom about my ex and she said she hopes my baby momma stays so there is no new man over her grandchild in the household.


How yall feel about this comment?

 

[Balla]

this is why if you do a date you either
1. we going for tea
2.we finna sit our asses at this free ass park and talk
3.I`m going to do something I already planned on doing, if you want to come cool.
If a woman turns down anything you present that is a blessing from God to move on lol

You gotta understand women will never suggest anything, if you do not initiate yall will be texting for ever and in the same instance because you suggested to do something they will assume you gonna pay. this how how dumb the concept of dating is. there is a minority who will offer to pay which is cool but then those often times tend to end up leaning to being masculine.

I'm of the thought that if you are gonna date, go after women who show you a large amount of positive energy and vibes that way you paying for shyt doesn't feel like a chore. Lotta dudes are chasing women and trying to prove themselves (hence the damn i fumbled the ball mindset).

In reality we all human and grown, a woman knows if she wants to fukk you, the dates is just so she doesn't feel like a hoe (if yall met while on vacation she would smash on a ONS and not feel bad because she is never gonna see you again more than likely).

That’s why I always said the concept of whoever asks the person on a date pays.

It’s bullshyt because the man is usually the one who is going to ask and has to because that’s what “real men” do.

 

[Balla]

I'm spending too much money on dates, help brehs. Few women offer to pay something, some will sit back & I end up paying everything.

Where you takin these chicks and how much you spending? Who said you gotta spend bread like that on dates breh?

 

[Mystic]

Ya'll really argue with yall's significant other? Like I don't think we ever had an argument cause I just be trying to understand and find common ground and we work it out.

 

[The ADD]

Brehs, i was talking to my mom about my ex and she said she hopes my baby momma stays so there is no new man over her grandchild in the household.


How yall feel about this comment?

Lol at her thinking that’s going to prevent it

 

[Duke Wy Lin]

He told me, pretty badly. She got there and he went for the hug and she tensed up, and wouldn’t take her mask off for the entire movie. At the end, she was outta there.

 

[NoirDynosaur]

Question for brehs:

If you have chicks from other cities/states/countries, how often do you text them or call them? Just looking for viewpoints.

 

[Rich Spirit]

Question for brehs:

If you have chicks from other cities/states/countries, how often do you text them or call them? Just looking for viewpoints.

Not often, I may hit em up every once in a while. Mostly I'd just hit them if I plan on coming to their cities soon

 

[WIA20XX]

Question for brehs:

If you have chicks from other cities/states/countries, how often do you text them or call them? Just looking for viewpoints.

They keep up with me, I do not keep up with them.

That said, from a non-sexual pov, it's actually a good idea to get into the habit of keeping up with all the people who have touched your life. Friends, Family, homies, chicks you are on good terms with.

In general, men fail to do this, and this is part of the reason that men are much lonelier than women are. We, as men, let those friendships die. Part of that is that we expect reciprocation - and a lot of your friends and family ain't finna call you unless they need something.

* Me ducking calls from fam who need help on the bills*

 

[RaspberryFitted]

They keep up with me, I do not keep up with them.

That said, from a non-sexual pov, it's actually a good idea to get into the habit of keeping up with all the people who have touched your life. Friends, Family, homies, chicks you are on good terms with.

In general, men fail to do this, and this is part of the reason that men are much lonelier than women are. We, as men, let those friendships die. Part of that is that we expect reciprocation - and a lot of your friends and family ain't finna call you unless they need something.

* Me ducking calls from fam who need help on the bills*

I just sent a mass “Happy Thanksgiving” text to my LinkedIn list and my contacts. Received all replies with how my family was doing, how school was, and what my post-graduation plans were.

let folks know you’re still alive.

Part of that is that we expect reciprocation - and a lot of your friends and family ain't finna call you unless they need something.

this is a decision many brehs have to make and stick to: either be a hermit & only reciprocate energy or reach out to folks knowing you might not receive love back. I chose the latter, because I learned I don’t have to be the apple in everyone’s eye. I ALSO learned you never know how much you matter to people

Spoiler: two stories on why reaching out matters

1) A grandmotherly figure in my life assisted my mom during her pregnancy with me. As a result, she had my toddler photo on her fridge. Nun of my siblings or family — just her children and me. Every time I’d visit or call her, she’d always say “I was JUST thinking about you the other day” up until her passing, she always greeted me warmly and made sure her home was a safe-haven for me.

2) Friend of mines told me he wasn’t in the right mind frame & had to step back in September. Told him to keep his chin up. Hit his line a few times with positive shyt. We now talking bout the World Cup as if it ain’t happen.

in short, your words & actions matter. Folks do care about you

 

[Ahadi]

Great posts ^^^

We definitely forget it takes work to keep up friendships as adults.

Also I admit, I’m a one of many humans who os afraid that they won’t receive love back from that person.

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

vs

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

vs

TLDR: women are allowed to have standards and be picky but men get criticized if they have some standards.

And it’s only gotten worse with modern feminism, social media, corporate media, and public bashing of men. Fat women love other fat women because it’s less work they have to do. At the same time, they’re not happy with themselves, so they take pill cocktails to manage their mental health. I watched the whole video and it was spot on

 

[rabbid]

Great posts ^^^

We definitely forget it takes work to keep up friendships as adults.

Also I admit, I’m a one of many humans who os afraid that they won’t receive love back from that person.

i just got tired of doing it. I've been the strong friend for 15 years now. someone else can take over fukk it. organising reunions, trips, groupchats etc. but most likely no one will and alot of people don't appreciate community. I'm not capable of saying "hey how you been" for the rest of my life.