Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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WIA20XX said:
If it feels like he's compromising, that starts the mental calculus.

He's thinking, "I did X,Y,and Z for you. And I'm expecting A,B, and C from you. "
Dudes keep score, and expect females to hold up their end of the bargain.

Hoes don't do math that doesn't work for them.

She's not only expecting him to come out - but to take charge of whatever bs she wants to go to. Even if she isn't expecting that intellectually/consciously - that's what she's going to respond to.

The ultimate problem, sounds like they have a quasi 50/50. Not a leader/follower, captain/first mate, boss/capo type situation.

And that goes back to whether he was giving her guidance and direction (and expecting her to follow) from the very beginning of the relationship.

Moreover, it don't sound like she's worried about him stepping out and meeting someone better. Cause if she did, she'd self moderate/self-censor.

I'm betting, she feels free to do and say whatever. That's fine when your lifestyles match up, not when it doesn't.

I used to be ol boy, that's why I'm all up in this.

I thought the solution was to find a homebody type female - turns out, homebody is only at home, cause she ain't got no one to do anything with......
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Lmfao ain’t that the truth bout the homebody shyt. I don’t wanna sound like that, but females really be mostly the same.

4sho at the start of the relationship is how it’s usually gonna stay.
 
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RealCrownHeights said:
Dating in big cities is expensive af man, If it were up to me I would chill all weekend but girls want to dress up etc. My girl and I went out, she bought tickets to Alvin Ailey, and I bought dinner and drinks, not even at a 5-star joint -$160. I brought 4 nips too to pregame, and a joint (estimate ($30) bought her a Alvin Ailey souvenir cup that broke while walking because I was holding too much stuff ($25) :beli: Then after the show, she wanted to go out, against my wishes, she paid for drinks fine. Then she had on heels and was tired of walking, so uber home -(She paid $28) Ikea the next day, uber back because she bought a lot of furniture -$35 Uber then I bought lunch and dinner because she had no groceries- Uber Eats -$48-In retrospect I should've cooked but damn. Was thinking of buying a car, they just put a damn bike rack around the corner from my crib and it was already hard to find parking and there's a school across the street.
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What city you in? cause that’s a bit much for a Uber bill

If this is what you and your girl do every weekend then something’s gotta give
 
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D'Lo Brown said:
He needs to exit now. Aint no fixing someone that simply is who she is
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If he hasn't communicated with her his concerns, then he has himself to blame..

It depends on alot of nuances, but if she just needs to be reined in, then it's potentially salvageable...if he doesn't know how to do that, then yeah, might need to cut ties and start over
 
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Mind you we had been talking for a few days flirting and shyt. Hadn’t even met her yet.Chick leaves in Miami. She unfollowed me couple days after. As if I would buy you sneakers cause you’re fine on ig:russ:. These chicks are funny. Aw and I’m sure she must have ended up getting them from a sucka.
 
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WIA20XX said:
If it feels like he's compromising, that starts the mental calculus.

He's thinking, "I did X,Y,and Z for you. And I'm expecting A,B, and C from you. "
Dudes keep score, and expect females to hold up their end of the bargain.

Hoes don't do math that doesn't work for them.

She's not only expecting him to come out - but to take charge of whatever bs she wants to go to. Even if she isn't expecting that intellectually/consciously - that's what she's going to respond to.

The ultimate problem, sounds like they have a quasi 50/50. Not a leader/follower, captain/first mate, boss/capo type situation.

And that goes back to whether he was giving her guidance and direction (and expecting her to follow) from the very beginning of the relationship.

Moreover, it don't sound like she's worried about him stepping out and meeting someone better. Cause if she did, she'd self moderate/self-censor.

I'm betting, she feels free to do and say whatever. That's fine when your lifestyles match up, not when it doesn't.

I used to be ol boy, that's why I'm all up in this.

I thought the solution was to find a homebody type female - turns out, homebody is only at home, cause she ain't got no one to do anything with......
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Well when we first started talking, she wanted to go out every weekend 3 days a week and expected the man to pay. That wasn't happening and shyt gets repetitive. However, when we do go out, we make it up by going to like 3 places and that adds up. I tell her she's fine if she wants to go out with her homegirls to brunch and shyt and I can chill. Before the Alvin Ailey shyt, we been inside most weekends besides us seeing Black Panther 2. The problem is, she makes a lot of money and still complains about cost of living and bills etc but always wants to go out because she wants to work hard play hard
 
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360dagod said:
You have a problem on your hands sir....

As someone who played ATM, you gonna have to put a stop to this immediately..
Because it's gonna get SUBTLY worse and you won't notice it until you look at your bank account and ask where did my money go...

The past is the past, so you gotta live with what you allowed..

But yeah, you gonna have to curb this asap
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I been adamant about "I don't have it this week" etc etc. She seem to understand that. I'm def not funding the relationship though and she def pays. It's more so like 60/40
 
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Deathstroke said:
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Mind you we had been talking for a few days flirting and shyt. Hadn’t even met her yet.Chick leaves in Miami. She unfollowed me couple days after. As if I would buy you sneakers cause you’re fine on ig:russ:. These chicks are funny. Aw and I’m sure she must have ended up getting them from a sucka.
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I would of transitioned the convo to sneaker talk.. “oh those are dope! Reminds me of Black Cat 4s” maybe would of asked how many pairs she owns.

the screenshot and the “?????”.. wasn’t fw that approach. Simps do buy shordi’s, sneakers so you doing that was basically you saying “these right queen?! 🤓“

I could be overthinking.. it ain’t never that serious. Probably could of done the above and she still could of been a dikkhead :manny:
 
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re-evaluating my romantic life these past few months has been:

y’all gave me plenty of gems, so won’t ask the same tired questions. Pride, ego, impatience, overthinking, forgetting his placement in the game, forgetting it’s a numbers game, lack of tangible resources and overall forgetting all this shyt is simple — all the ailments of a young buck who can’t see the forest for the trees :blessed:

I’ll be ight.
 
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