Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ahadi]

you can do all of that and she can easily say I didn't ask you to do all of that and it blows up in your face. she prob fukks with the other dudes more because they don't do shyt like this. I had an ex I did a lot for and it blew up in my face too. never did I go the extra mile for a girl again unless maybe they asked. you can give them the world but it doesn't matter cause they move based on emotion.

Yup. That’s exactly why I do the bare minimum. Women respond better to low investment.

I’ve had patterns of women feeling “pressured” because every date we would go to a concert, or go to an event, or go to dinner. But when I was “lazy”, happy hour or straight to the crib, I was respected more.

Now grated, I realized though, if women feel “pressured” or say “i didn’t ask you to do all that” the women probably don't like you like that.

 

[VertigoKnight]

The sick thing is this guy knew the vibe and still went out of his way to impress this bytch.

Doing all that for a chick screams let me impress you with monetary shyt. Knowing deep down this chick doesn’t respect you on any level. But you scared to lose something you dont even have.

Texting other men in your presence, and he’ll still fukk with her and she knows it.

Pathetic shyt. I pray this video is fake. But knowing this gen sees even humiliation as clout. It's probably all real.

 

[WIA20XX]

Yup. That’s exactly why I do the bare minimum. Women respond better to low investment.

I’ve had patterns of women feeling “pressured” because every date we would go to a concert, or go to an event, or go to dinner. But when I was “lazy”, happy hour or straight to the crib, I was respected more.

Now grated, I realized though, if women feel “pressured” or say “i didn’t ask you to do all that” the women probably don't like you like that.

I often wonder if "mal-adaptive" behavior is natural, or it's something that's learned from personal experience, their girlfriends, culture.

The bar for boyfriend/husband is HIGH.
The bar for casual sex partner is LOW.

Given the lack of birth planning, that means the bar for Daddy is much lower than it should be - and we get these bad kids running around with no committed parents in their life to provide, protect, and guide.

On the man side of things - I think we also do this to some extent - chase after voluptuous broads that we don't even want to have conversations with after the act - but for the "good" man - if she "turns up" pregnant - we will try to make that unworkable situation work....

 

[skyrunner1]

I often wonder if "mal-adaptive" behavior is natural, or it's something that's learned from personal experience, their girlfriends, culture.

The bar for boyfriend/husband is HIGH.
The bar for casual sex partner is LOW.

Given the lack of birth planning, that means the bar for Daddy is much lower than it should be - and we get these bad kids running around with no committed parents in their life to provide, protect, and guide.

On the man side of things - I think we also do this to some extent - chase after voluptuous broads that we don't even want to have conversations with after the act - but for the "good" man - if she "turns up" pregnant - we will try to make that unworkable situation work....

I think people are scared to really shine light on cultural changes in our community in these times, because if it was really studied it would be clear that majority move on short term mating/dating strategies all the way up until and past ages people should be marriage minded. Listen to people speak and its very clear marriage is not valued and there is a hair trigger to end relationships it seems now based on nothing but neverending feeling of happiness which is impossible.


Also there are ALOT of ripple effects that have consequences to choices we make that people didnt think would happen, when birth control/abortion hit the scene, unintended reaction is men were more likely to walk away from a situation because the women has choices. Aint no more shotgun weddings.

With a legitimate boyfriend option a women wants HIGH investment cues, because she wants to be sure she is making "right choice".. In the old school pickup stuff they mentioned this and it has gone under different terms as space evolved (Dad/cad, friend/lover, boyfriend/fukkboy, alpha/beta), alot of it based on their research and going out and testing. There is a reason they would always tell a guy update your wardrobe and change behavior (because consciously or unconsciously these things would be giving off cues to women on how they would categorize you.

If you are getting comments like "you would make a great dad some day" and you are in your teens or early 20s, you hustling backwards.. Been there, lol.. You want to give off lover vibes those comments change to "I know you got hoes" even if you dont have any, that lets you know you are in a much better zip code of where you want to be. But again thats all giving off short term dating cues which women are very keen on when they request swag bad boy types..

And I am just typing this stream of conciousness out for myself and others as Im sure you are aware of this and got great understanding of it overall.. Hopefully it makes sense..

 

[darius19]

I’m just focused on finding a girl I can build with and getting out of this dating shyt. The dating pool out here is bleak, even noticeably worse than it was just 5 years ago.

 

[Ahadi]

Oh black men don’t deserve to smile.

Edit: Wrote them a letter. Tired of this foolishness.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Sounds like a feminist. That's the problem with most of these women. They really haven't been raised to be wives. You can see that by their past lifestyle. Until they accept the fact they were indoctrinated and sold on pagan/goddess worshipping/feminist ideas, they can't really change their way, even if they start going to church. They still are blind to their indoctrination and will cause problems for themselves until they recognize it and willingly start to change that mindset.

Pardon late response you right.Older the woman less likely she transforms her ways. There is reason most of these women are single.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

I’m just focused on finding a girl I can build with and getting out of this dating shyt. The dating pool out here is bleak, even noticeably worse than it was just 5 years ago.

I aint trying to discourage you but dating pool is done. After 30-35 women want their retirement plan and a baby (Thats their going away gift). Women arent trying to build as they get older. We men build women take .

 

[The ADD]

I aint trying to discourage you but dating pool is done. After 30-35 women want their retirement plan and a baby (Thats their going away gift). Women arent trying to build as they get older. We men build women take .

Some will

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Some will

Some will build?True always exceptions but a woman in 2023 trying to build?

 

[The ADD]

Some will build?True always always exceptions but majority of woman trying to build?

What’s the point in saying you aren’t trying to discourage somebody and then present something as an absolute when you know it’s not?

 

[Rocket Scientist]

What’s the point in saying you aren’t trying to discourage somebody and then present something as an absolute when you know it’s not?

How are you going to tell me all due respect ,You can lie to the young man all you want. Im speaking truth. Yes there is good women and bad women some wanna build but majority dont. I dont know why thats hard to believe. I dont know how old you are but if you an older cat you know the game by now and how the dating pool is.You say there are women wanting to build ok now where are these women.Edit:I saw your point before you edited your original statement

 

[re'up]

Just back from a week in Miami. Was at Jaya at The Setai, Faena, Edition, The Ritz, Giselle, E11, met a few women within an hour of each other. So many stunning women and everyone very open and eager, staring up and down. Loved it.

But back home, the sheer whiplash from ghosting and switching from seductive in person encounters to ghosting is just so hard to predict and analyze. Who ghosts and who comes back out of nowhere. And this is all meeting in person, no SM, and no apps.

I ran into 4 women in one day, my first day back, in Whole Foods, and two people texted me, I hadn't talked to in months, and then the person I connected with a week ago, had the whole convo lets go out when you are home, and she's like pelase text me, and then she doesn't answer, I'm left with this incredibly flirtatious text thread lol I can only assume something changed with Valentines. Because her and I were looking at each other like we were ready to go to bed right then, staring at each other as we walked away like you see in movies.

The theory I try to embrace is unconditional positive regard, as in just feel love or positive for everyone.

 

[darius19]

I aint trying to discourage you but dating pool is done. After 30-35 women want their retirement plan and a baby (Thats their going away gift). Women arent trying to build as they get older. We men build women take .

I feel you breh. I just hit 30 this year, I’m trying my best to grab one of the rare 25 year olds with a decent head on her shoulders, or at least in a way where I can guide her into becoming a great wifey type. That’s what I meant when I said “build”. I’ve already set myself up well in terms of career, physique, life experience, etc.

That’s all I can really hope for at this point lol

 

[Ohene]

I feel you breh. I just hit 30 this year, I’m trying my best to grab one of the rare 25 year olds with a decent head on her shoulders, or at least in a way where I can guide her into becoming a great wifey type. That’s what I meant when I said “build”. I’ve already set myself up well in terms of career, physique, life experience, etc.

That’s all I can really hope for at this point lol

I think part of the issue could be we live in big cities where the values are just different and not the most conducive to long term relationships

Everything in big cities is fast paced and about entertainment, pleasure, novelty, experiences etc. Whereas in long term relationships, monotony, stability and routine is a real thing.