I’m not looking for anything = I’m not looking for anything from you
I’m not looking for anything serious = FWB
At least from my experiences
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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I’m not looking for anything = I’m not looking for anything from you
I’m not looking for anything serious = FWB
At least from my experiences
It could mean 100 different things to be honest.
Part of a female's game is "open and honest" communication. And I don't mean game, as in she's trying to consciously manipulate you. Nothing of the sort. This is her "communication" style, her "love language".
Most women aren't "open and honest". (unless it serves them) They want you to "just get it". Especially in affairs of the heart.
So they throw these bombs out, and we - with our masculine nature - see it as a puzzle to solve. We're just supposed to get it, when it's unclear as hell. So we find ourselves turning these random statements over in our minds, seeking counsel from veterans and elders, sometimes even other females.
But you'll never figure it out. She probably doesn't know what she wants.
Forget what she says, and watch how she moves.
In terms of seeing how she moves,
1) You're still getting at other broads, REGARDLESS (irregardless even!),
2) You keep doing what you're doing with this broad.
So even if she's finding herself attracted to you in a deeper sense, in a long term sense - you continue on the drill mission, break her back, while you're doing the same with other chicks.
As the nursery rhyme goes, "Kiss the girl, and make her cry".
I met her last week at a music event, then a day after I hung out with her and a friend for an hour and a half so this will br our first date
I'm not unfamiliar with sleeping on the first date and I'll definitely try if I get the signals but im not going to press it if I get declined if that makes sense. My ex and I slept on the first date and were together for almost four years.
But I'll post what happened.
You seem pretty invested already. Hope it works out but let it play out…
Not so much invested but this is one of the first women in a while since my break up 7 months ago that I feel is more aligned with me.
If I feel a woman is making things effortless for me I'll reciprocate.
I went on a date with another woman maybe two weeks ago from my past. She's been fickle so I'm making myself less open and available. I travel a lot for work, for example i was out of town for half this week. My time is finite and I let women know this.
At this stage of my life I'm looking for a life partner
skyrunner1
Superstar
I always look at shyt like that as some type of reverse game type shyt.. She could be tryna get you to put your cards on the table by making that statement.. All this stuff is to arm men because in reality most want men to play the game with their hands tied behind their backs while women can move freely and manipulate the situation in their best interest..
skyrunner1
Superstar
How long you know this chick breh?Got a date line up tonight. She seems very much what I'm looking for in a woman and aligned with my values. Driven, dresses well, poise, no tattoos (a rarity considering where I live) or crazy ass piercings. Politically moderate. Spiritual which is good because I run into a lot of agnostic/atheist types in my city and I'm more spiritual myself. If I have kids with a woman I want to be able to have a moral framework for our kids and we can decide if we want to take our children to church, etc. Also I think it's good for us to have a basis for our own personal spiritual journey.
I have to commend her for saying that she thinks its a good idea to delay sex during courtship in order to know someone well. I put her into a different category saying that and see that she's long term potential. I tend to err on the side of understanding if someone's sexually compatible right off the bat but from what I've gathered she's very methodical and deliberate in her dating. It hasn't still stopped me from being sexual in our conversations.
She's very much into self improvement and becoming the best version of herself and I can tell she's well read. I've ran into a lot of women that are on that "Live Laugh Love" type of vibe. This girl seems like she wants to aspire to get things out of life.
GORGEOUS faceand we have great banter and chemistry from our interactions. The only negative I can think is that she is a bit slimmer than I usually go for but she's into weightlifting and fitness so maybe I can thicken her up
I'm not gonna take her seriously. If she wants to fukk I won't even entertain her
Really don't have time for it honestly. I'm tryna advance in my career and get my shyt to where I want it to be. p*ssy can be bought but you can't buy a loyal genuine wife who you can vibe with naturally. All the other hookup shyt is for the birds. It gets old and it's a distraction
How long you know this chick breh?
Just a little over a week.
I'm about to post up the date.
Date went well, great compatibility/chemistry. Fun conversation and we made out a few times and during our conversation she said stuff to me like "You should read to me sometime!" and "You seem like you'd be a great cuddler. You're so warm!" etc
I didn't get her back to my place. One thing she was on her period. I'm not gonna do the Red Wings. Been there done that. But even if that wasn't the case IMO she eventually got tired (slept in my car lol) after being on a date for over three hours. Why? Late reservation on my end, 9PM, plus HORRIBLY SLOW service.
A portion of the date we were waiting on our meals and they were saying that they're short staffed, etc. This is happening a lot post-COVID. Make your dates early evening (5 - 7) so you have ample time to do stuff.
Last girl I dated the for two months between Dec - Jan I met at 6 and ended up sleeping with her at 10. Give yourself time vs making a late dinner like I did lol .
I know some of y'all were laughing at the delaying sex part but all you need is 7 - 10 hours with a girl of SOLID comfort to get them to sleep with you. I seriously doubt given the signals that she will make me WAIT.
I've met a few women in the past that say "no hookups" and end up sleeping with them in two dates or less. It's just something they say as a form of resistance but if they're into you they'll break their own set rules.
I didn't get her back to my place. One thing she was on her period. I'm not gonna do the Red Wings. Been there done that. But even if that wasn't the case IMO she eventually got tired (slept in my car lol) after being on a date for over three hours. Why? Late reservation on my end, 9PM, plus HORRIBLY SLOW service.
A portion of the date we were waiting on our meals and they were saying that they're short staffed, etc. This is happening a lot post-COVID. Make your dates early evening (5 - 7) so you have ample time to do stuff.Last girl I dated the for two months between Dec - Jan I met at 6 and ended up sleeping with her at 10. Give yourself time vs making a late dinner like I did lol .
I know some of y'all were laughing at the delaying sex part but all you need is 7 - 10 hours with a girl of SOLID comfort to get them to sleep with you. I seriously doubt given the signals that she will make me WAIT.
I've met a few women in the past that say "no hookups" and end up sleeping with them in two dates or less. It's just something they say as a form of resistance but if they're into you they'll break their own set rules.
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I’m low key fukked up rn. Not high or drunk but the conversation I had on the way home I had w the driver. Some old cracker married w kids and I ask how is it for him and he said he loves despite the ups and downs (paraphrasing) and it’s a beautiful experience watching something you raise grow up and transition into adulthood. The part where he fukked me up at was my follow up was what moment did he realize this was the one for him and he said from the moment he laid eyes on her and how he had to basically be in the friend zone for 2 years before she reciprocated those feelings for the honkey. I say all that to say maybe, just maybe don’t give up too easily on a girl if she don’t like you initially or doesn’t fukk u within the time frame you’re accustomed to. He also added how the friend aspect laid a great foundation for their 27 year marriage. I know we live in an instant gratification era and given the climate this method might work, but as they say good things come to those who wait. This interaction makes me want to rekindle what I had I just don’t feel like myself anymore.
You wouldn’t care about the guys she was messing with during that time?
Adjusting what he said to current times, he is right in more ways than one...
Obviously no one waiting 2 years, but if she's checking the list, the fact that you are BUILDING good times and ENJOYING life with each other is setting up a FOUNDATION to where she will put herself in a position to not only have sex, but to INVEST in you and with you...
The problem is the reality check that some men get when they ain't getting that 1st round tko and the bytch they WANT making them "work"...
Every woman isn't going to be some lonely/desperate joint that's gonna fukk YOU off rip...
The pimps had it right all along...
When you base your "game" on conversing with the mind before sex, you get way more Mileage from women....