Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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RaspberryFitted said:
A woman can be interested in and still not understand the sacrifices, dedication, and effort it takes to maintain a strong relationship

there’s posters in here that can attest to that statement.

defeatist or me being a realist?

you can doing all the vetting and pre-screening in the world and still end up with a woman who doesn’t understand the ebbs & flows of a relationship.

so if brehs are on their purpose and these options flame out or refuse to live up to their potential, is it because we not doing enough or because we didn’t vet correctly? :jbhmm:

I tried. Re-read your post, try to understand if my perspective was off, but I still stand on my stance.

Gym, studying for certifications, working up the corporate ladder or establishing, being involved with Church or community — a Man can maximize his entire portfolio and STILL encounter women who are not on the same page or refuse to pour into the relationship.


so when I hear that “We lead, they follow” rhetoric I laugh because it’s as if society is afraid to tell women they aren’t doing their part.

then again, you started off your original post with “got high as shyt yesterday” so :jbhmm:
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I’ll be honest, what you’re saying has merit, I don’t want to downplay anyones personal level up experience and say you’re not doing enough however if we keeping it real, we probably aren’t doing enough, FOR OURSELVES.

Gym, certs, going up the corporate ladder…..that’s basic shyt any ambitious person should already be doing.

Do you know how to prepare food for yourself?
Do you know how to protect yourself?
Do you know how build with your hands?
Are you financially secure to bring a child and comfortably raise them by yourself?
Are you articulate and have adept vocabulary?

THATS what being on your purpose is.

You can comfortably do all of that and if a woman is added to that mix it wouldn’t be a problem. Just like if she’s not in your life it isn’t a problem either.

The main focus I’m getting at and I feel you’re looking over it a bit, is be greater for yourself and not care about what the other gender wants.

If you encounter women that’s not on the same page? You on your purpose, acquiring knowledge, you chillin.

You vet a woman and they don’t understand relationship dynamics? You wasn’t pressed about them in the first place.

Also me getting high shouldn’t disparage any of what I’m saying.
 
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Black Excellence said:
I’ll be honest, what you’re saying has merit, I don’t want to downplay anyones personal level up experience and say you’re not doing enough however if we keeping it real, we probably aren’t doing enough, FOR OURSELVES.

Gym, certs, going up the corporate ladder…..that’s basic shyt any ambitious person should already be doing.

Do you know how to prepare food for yourself?
Do you know how to protect yourself?
Do you know how build with your hands?
Are you financially secure to bring a child and comfortably raise them by yourself?
Are you articulate and have good vernacular?

THATS what being on your purpose is.

You can comfortably do all of that and if a woman is added to that mix it wouldn’t be a problem. Just like if she’s not in your life it isn’t a problem either.

The main focus I’m getting at and I feel you’re looking over it a bit, is be greater for yourself and not care about what the other gender wants.

If you encounter women that’s not on the same page? You on your purpose, acquiring knowledge, you chillin.

You vet a woman and they don’t understand relationship dynamics? You wasn’t pressed about them in the first place.

Also me getting high shouldn’t disparage any of what I’m saying.
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Your initial point was Men make relations with Women harder on themselves and my counter to that was Women should also take accountability in complicating a good situation.

Absolving them from that with “well, we’re suppose to be leaders!” talk has married Men being slaves or soliciting prostitutes/hookers for sex.

That is all I wanted to touch on. Everything else you said, while solid advice, has been repeated in this thread for over 6,000 pages to where it should be ingrained by most brehs on here/lurkers
 
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RaspberryFitted said:
Your initial point was Men make relations with Women harder on themselves and my counter to that was Women should also take accountability in complicating a good situation.

Absolving them from that with “well, we’re suppose to be leaders!” talk has married Men being slaves or soliciting prostitutes/hookers for sex.

That is all I wanted to touch on. Everything else you said, while solid advice, has been repeated in this thread for over 6,000 pages to where it should be ingrained by most brehs on here/lurkers
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Yes women should 100% take accountability.

Perhaps I did absolve them but it’s only because I expect them to make decisions fueled from estrogen.

I apologize for flooding up the thread for redundant talk in context to your last part.
 
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:lupe: relationship tho?
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That face is exactly where I’m at with it too lol.

She has me intrigued though because

  • She takes feedback + accountability (or so she claims)
  • I told her I have no interest in marriage she said that’s fine
  • She’s good on her own (got a masters in public health administration)
  • She’s very feminine
  • She likes country living & wants to learn how to fish & farm
  • She’s big on learning I sent her a comic book recommendation and by the end of the day she was sending me older issues of Spider-Man and asking which she should read first

We’ll see though :yeshrug:
 
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