Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Mandarin Duck]

Next weekend?



Why y’all do this

I kept it real with her and told I'm not ready for anything serious. But I also told her I don't expect for her to wait for me either. I'm the one who told her next weekend.

I'm coo with taking things slow right now because I'm new to all this shyt.

If it don't work out I'm okay with that. This really motivated me to put myself out there.

We'll see if she has an excuse by next weekend.

 

[re'up]

I went for it
No p*ssyfooting. Just
"make some time for me next weekend"
We'll see what happens.

For the dudes who struggle with women and hate the whole "just be yourself " advice it's I have to say it's kinda true.

I wasn't really tryna flirt with her or anything. I'm just kinda funny, know how to show my personality and I've been told more than once I make people feel comfortable around me real fast.

shyt the first day we met we was in the parking lot waiting in my car just talking while she waited for her ride.

be mindful of how texting lets you be safe from actual rejection, from what you are saying, you are already doing too much, talking about serious, and taking things slow, just get in person and see what the chemistry, sexually is like.

and also, just in life bro, be direct and lead forward, if this was a business meeting, would you be so hesitant? Give a firm offer, give a real invite, and let them counter, or accept, or reject. That's not saying any dumbass alpha male shyt, just be a person of your word, and not passive.

The reason passivity and just weakness is so encouraged is just FEAR, no one likes to be rejected. But, either play or go home.

all that HEY WYD, WYA, HOW ARE YOU, HOW WAS YOUR DAY is super passive, and ultimately protective of the ego. Talk like I want you here, I want to see you, I want you, like this or lets meet Friday for a drink St/ Regis lobby bar? Let me show you this spot.

see the difference between:

Do you have time for me next weekend? Maybe we can do something or like hang out

Friday? Drinks at the _______ Bar?

 

[The ADD]

I kept it real with her and told I'm not ready for anything serious. But I also told her I don't expect for her to wait for me either. I'm the one who told her next weekend.

I'm coo with taking things slow right now because I'm new to all this shyt.

If it don't work out I'm okay with that. This really motivated me to put myself out there.

We'll see if she has an excuse by next weekend.

I mean you gave her 7 days to come up with an excuse never mind it’s a holiday weekend.

Way too passive unless she’s just another one on your roster.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

be mindful of how texting lets you be safe from actual rejection, from what you are saying, you are already doing too much, talking about serious, and taking things slow, just get in person and see what the chemistry, sexually is like.

and also, just in life bro, be direct and lead forward, if this was a business meeting, would you be so hesitant? Give a firm offer, give a real invite, and let them counter, or accept, or reject. That's not saying any dumbass alpha male shyt, just be a person of your word, and not passive.

The reason passivity and just weakness is so encouraged is just FEAR, no one likes to be rejected. But, either play or go home.

all that HEY WYD, WYA, HOW ARE YOU, HOW WAS YOUR DAY is super passive, and ultimately protective of the ego. Talk like I want you here, I want to see you, I want you, like this or lets meet Friday for a drink St/ Regis lobby bar? Let me show you this spot.

see the difference between:

Do you have time for me next weekend? Maybe we can do something or like hang out

Friday? Drinks at the _______ Bar?

I agree, which is why I didn't ask. I told her
"Make some time for me next weekend"

No question mark at the end.

 

[re'up]

Remember texting someone on the day we were supposed to go out first time

I said something like "Hey, reservation is for 7:00, meet there, or should I pick you up"

Wasn't trying to be anything, and she was like I found that so assertive.

 

[re'up]

I agree, which is why I didn't ask. I told her
"Make some time for me next weekend"

No question mark at the end.

Yes, but there's no real plan, easy to not commit, or back out, or dodge, to no plan See, both/most people hold their cards back, just go all in, all the time, and get used to it, you will get way more yes's. You will feel better about it all, less anxiety, less analyzing text messages. Just be direct. And you will see how most people respond. it's not sales, but it's similar.

she's asking you "buying questions", and you are still trying to sell her, instead of closing. Clumsy, but it's kinda like that.

 

[The ADD]

I agree, which is why I didn't ask. I told her
"Make some time for me next weekend"

No question mark at the end.

Time for what? Texting, endless phone talk?

 

[Ahadi]

I agree, which is why I didn't ask. I told her
"Make some time for me next weekend"

No question mark at the end.

That’s passive as fukk. Speak with your chest Breh.


Time. Place. Dress code.

 

[re'up]

It's easy to start sounding like Josh Hawley or some weird masculinity guru, but technology, texting, social media, have made everyone extremely passive and weak, people are very quick to cancel, change, or no show for everything. All you need to do is ghost, or send a text, and get out of anything, it affects everyone.

but don't be like everyone else, get rejected or accepted on your own terms, it's a relief and change of pace when someone is willing to be more active and direct, without being aggressive, or not respectful. Make someone say no/yes or just ignore you. Drawing the shyt out is weak.

but that's not to say you can't try again later, but texting cute nothings back and forth is a dead zone.

 

[re'up]

and then on a sleepy Saturday afternoon, get a text from this Colombian who is so gorgeous, she makes my heart race faster

and it's a link to this deeply sexual Spanish ballad, walk around naked for me

she has a boyfriend, but is there another read on this? I know sometimes it just about attention and validation. but that's not the kind of songs you share with another man

 

[RaspberryFitted]

Remember texting someone on the day we were supposed to go out first time

I said something like "Hey, reservation is for 7:00, meet there, or should I pick you up"

Wasn't trying to be anything, and she was like I found that so assertive.

From experience, for me I simply omit the “or” statements

 

[re'up]

From experience, for me I simply omit the “or” statements

Just my perspective, trying to put myself in that position, if the date doesn't go well (mine always do) they can just get the fukk out of there, no awkward ride back

Was using a driver and a SUV that night, on some light baller shyt, and I did pick her up

 

[The ADD]

 

[Atlrocafella]

Gym, hygiene, and straight teeth is the fukking cheat code brehs, I’m always amazed at what I can still pull

 

[Brandsdale]

Getting texts 2 days after hitting this Congo girl up talm bout she’s been a little sick and busy with work and away from her phone

I answered simply wishing she feels better and that’s it, but now I feel like I’m at a standstill where if I initiate convo, imma looking begging (mind you, I’m 32 and this chic is 26)