Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Sleepy Floyd]

Female friends are pointless

They can’t wing men for you.
They become liabilities
They babble about shyt you don’t care about


No benefits at all. You think they’re emotions sway when you’re in a committed relationship, but think about those same emotions when you’re friends with them

You get to smash em

 

[Ohene]

yeah, the main thing is comfort, and reduced pressure, there's one who has been going out with me for like 8 years, some of the more ritualized aspects of dating are dropped, are we going to kiss? Who picks who up? Who pays? it all is kind of not that important.

it's a lot more my style actually, but don't act much different than an actual date. it's the same thing.

all that underscores the idea of how ritualized dating can be.

but a lot of those memes and videos, are essentially saying there are "rules" for both, which is not my approach really, the less rules the better. Have no issue paying, or opening a door, or whatever for a friend, date, family member, all the same shyt to me.

there's a few who always say "if you don't have a date-date just take me"

the bold is my thing.

you have people whose egos get in the way and make them feel entitled to all this shyt that honestly just doesnt fukkin matter in the grand scheme if youre trying to be in a real relationship at some point.

makes dating way more tiresome than it should be. unfortunately its rare to find people - especially women - who think this way because they are the ones who usually benefit from all the stupid norms

 

[Ohene]

part 1

for example, a girl once dissed me because i didnt call us a uber while she was wearing heels. she accused me of being cheap because i used an uber pool on the way there. I was enjoying the date so i figured id walk her home instead so we could continue talking ...didnt realize she was wearing heels either. who wears heels to a museum?

anyways...if she had simply spoke up and said my feet are hurting...you mind calling a taxi? I woulda called. Instead women like to do these dumb tests.

part 2

fast forward a couple years later and a girl and I are talking about pet peeves. she said one of hers is men who are cheap (red flag). i asked her if the example from part 1 serves as an example and she basically said yes - claiming that the way she lives her life she would call a taxi for herself.

needless to say that was in my younger broke days and I have learned. but my question here is ...if you are the type to call a uber...if you are on a date with a man...why not just suggest that you call an uber for the two of you? why does it have to be him and why judge a person who doesnt use uber frequently when if anything its financially responsible. this kinda shyt just doesnt matter lol but its the type of fastidiousness and pickiness that has a lot of women single

 

[Ohene]

its women out here who expect you to be perfect. you must:

follow up the day of to confirm the plans
dress well
be well groomed
pick a good restaurant
open the door for them
pay for the bill
pick them up / drop them off or call an uber accordingly
be funny
be witty
have great conversation etc

these same women wont even show up or be ready for the date on time but expect all of the above
when you realize how lopsided the shyt is, all you can do is laugh and deject to some degree

 

[mag357]

nikkaz in a thread titled "lil gems on dealing with women"..
And they in here talking about it's cool to have female friends

The fukking coli smh

 

[re'up]

the bold is my thing.

you have people whose egos get in the way and make them feel entitled to all this shyt that honestly just doesnt fukkin matter in the grand scheme if youre trying to be in a real relationship at some point.

makes dating way more tiresome than it should be. unfortunately its rare to find people - especially women - who think this way because they are the ones who usually benefit from all the stupid norms

My post didn't include the context for whatever reason, but yeah, going out with someone closer to friends, is usually a lot more relaxed than someone closer to a date, or someone you are dating, even though, for me, the experiences are almost the exact same. But, my homie "A" is going to be a more fun date like 80% of the time, because we have all the chemistry, the connection, she's just nicer? if that's the right word. She's not testing me, or qualifying me, is the more accurate way to put it.

Man, the heels post. exact same thing has happened to me, think she was complaining not about the money, but about walking a block or two in heels, to get to my driver, who was waiting for us. Almost felt like in the moment just telling her to go home lol but look, a lot of people aren't very aware of their own behavior, or good at reading other people. They just go by their own internal script. And that script, often is just very traditional gender roles.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

its women out here who expect you to be perfect. you must:

follow up the day of to confirm the plans
dress well
be well groomed
pick a good restaurant
open the door for them
pay for the bill
pick them up / drop them off or call an uber accordingly
be funny
be witty
have great conversation etc

these same women wont even show up or be ready for the date on time but expect all of the above
when you realize how lopsided the shyt is, all you can do is laugh and deject to some degree

my personal life and posts in this thread have shown me that your post boils down to women who don’t really like you looking for any reason to bush you

 

[re'up]

but, one of the real reasons driving this, is people evaluating their partner for LIFE. So, the stakes for them are so high. I have never, never done that.

I do think there's a lot of kind of contradictory social media noise that influences people, to hyper critique people, based on ever granular standards. Think that's a really reasonable take.

 

[MikelArteta]

my personal life and posts in this thread have shown me that your post boils down to women who don’t really like you looking for any reason to bush you

if a woman likes you it doesn't matter what you do
if a woman doesn't like it it doesn't matter what you do

walking in the rain if she doesn't like you - he's friggin cheap should have called a cab
walking in the rain if she likes you - it was so romantic let me tell you girl

 

[Braman]

Female friends are pointless

They can’t wing men for you.
They become liabilities
They babble about shyt you don’t care about


No benefits at all. You think they’re emotions sway when you’re in a committed relationship, but think about those same emotions when you’re friends with them

Yea women really can’t be friends. There has to be an overt impediment, like she fat or known her since kindergarten. Otherwise she’s just a constant reminder of your failure

Any chick that I smashed and we became ‘friends’ it never worked they always turned catty/clingy/want more

There was 1 exception, best female friend I ever had, all thru text. We smashed at first but it fizzled bc of distance and bc I realized she was batshyt crazy. Shorty said she could astral project, said she be ’knocking demons out in her sleep’ She’d record her friends all coked up fighting it was like a subscription to a reality show She was funny af the only time I ever stayed in contact with a chick and didn’t care about smashing

 

[Braman]

but, one of the real reasons driving this, is people evaluating their partner for LIFE. So, the stakes for them are so high. I have never, never done that.

I do think there's a lot of kind of contradictory social media noise that influences people, to hyper critique people, based on ever granular standards. Think that's a really reasonable take.

Spot on. My last relationship dissolved bc of this, she would complain about hand towels, pots n pans, etc. ‘Your sheets aren’t the quality I get. So if we had kids it would all be on me to take care of things’ Bih if you don’t get tf outta here.

 

[The ADD]

if a woman likes you it doesn't matter what you do
if a woman doesn't like it it doesn't matter what you do

walking in the rain if she doesn't like you - he's friggin cheap should have called a cab
walking in the rain if she likes you - it was so romantic let me tell you girl

Isn’t this all male/female interaction? If you don’t like someone then nothing they do will appeal to you.

 

[Him]

Well it happened! Me and the GF of 5 years finally broke up. I’m a lil sad but not gonna lie I’m giddy to hit these streets again

I actually asked for her hand in marriage..GMB ain’t getting me

 

[Ohene]

my personal life and posts in this thread have shown me that your post boils down to women who don’t really like you looking for any reason to bush you

Agree somewhat

But I think y’all underestimate the egos of women and how jaded or entitled they can be these days. Y’all act like it’s impossible for a girl or man’s mind to change on somebody due to things that transpired during a date.

A girl could be feeling you, but if she very much so does not enjoy the rain, she will not all of a sudden think it’s romantic and will be made you made her walk in the rain. Lets be logical here lol. All it takes is a girl going to get friend describing a date, and her friend saying…”what??? He made you walk home??? Dudes usually get me an Uber “ or get reading some meme on ig to make her think differently

if a woman likes you it doesn't matter what you do
if a woman doesn't like it it doesn't matter what you do

walking in the rain if she doesn't like you - he's friggin cheap should have called a cab
walking in the rain if she likes you - it was so romantic let me tell you girl

 

[Ohene]

I do think there's a lot of kind of contradictory social media noise that influences people, to hyper critique people, based on ever granular standards. Think that's a really reasonable take.

Exactly
You understand what I’m trying to say

Still

There are lots of humble down to earth women who get it and don’t care about none of that shyt. They aren’t always the most attractive though and can be hard to find depending on where you go fishing