Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Damn, do you think her mother misses you or wishes that you two were still together?

Why? Did you want her to have the baby? Reminds me of the godfather when Kate has the abortion behind michaels back and he slaps the shyt out of her.

i dunno, dont ask or bring it up, and no longer care

i would have rather had input in the situation, going behind the back of the person you are supposed ot marry 6 months later

 

[MikelArteta]

saw this in jbo

Porn Stars Before and After Their Makeup Makeover (93 pics) - Izismile.com

makeup = deception to the 9th degree

 

[kevm3]

I'm going to expand this thread to just talking about man knowledge as well. It's very important to have your business in order and put women in the proper context of your life. If you are one of those guys who spend all your time, money and resources dealing with women, you are going to be in dire straits. Enjoy women, but put them in the proper context and start handling your life business.

 

[kevm3]

You got to get your business in order
Dealing with women is fun, but I've seen a LOT of cats who spent all their early 20s chasing women around, buying all these clothes, buying these jewels... they did all of this to catch women, but what do they end up with in their 30s and 40s? That's right, not much. All chasing coochie will leave you with is empty pockets, a memory, a possible std and unwanted pregnancies.

So with that said, you really got to hone in on your education and not just your school education. You have to put the mentality together to where your program will last over the long-term. We're going to start getting into this knowledge soon.

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

"Girlfriend of over three years decided to break up with me a few weeks after our anniversary. Her reasoning was that she didn't feel like she should be "tied down" during this phase in her life, and should be experiencing her freedom while she's at the age that she can. By this, she means that she wants to fukk a bunch of random guys (and indeed, has slept with 4 already in the past three weeks since this has happened). She doesn't want to be in a relationship, she just wants a bunch of random/fairly random encounters (she still sees guys after sleeping with them the first time). She's never been single before, and has apparently gotten the urge to experience the "slut-life" (her words, not mine).

So, that would be fine and all if she just wanted to be done. I might be able to handle that okay, but here's the kicker: She's said that when she's done "spreading her wings" she'd love it if we could get back together, and hopes she can "make it up to me". This has pulled my heart every which way since, unfortunately, I'm absolutely in love with this girl. She hasn't given me a time table or anything, and admits she has no idea how long she'll be doing this for."

Read more: Girlfriend [20F] decided she needs to be "free" for awhile from me [22M] : relationships

shyt actually hurts me inside a little bit to read this, i feel for that breh


he so :inlove:, but if his breh came and described a similar situation. he'd be like drop that chick

 

[Liquid]

I have some pretty good stuff for this thread very soon. Give me a couple of minutes as things have been going crazy for me and my inner circle lately.

 

[MikelArteta]

shyt actually hurts me inside a little bit to read this, i feel for that breh


he so :inlove:, but if his breh came and described a similar situation. he'd be like drop that chick

Men love hard

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[Turbulent]

Yeah that's a good point man, I guess I just feel like why even go through all the bullshyt, why not just cut to the chase that way I don't waste any of my time and I take the path with the least resistance because I'm not into playing games and letting shyt bother me. If anything I'd rather just not talk to her knowing that she's going to try n pull something like that later on down the road. But yeah thanks for the advice g.

Funny thing is I was actually at Starbucks today getting coffee and studying, this cute Russian girl came in and sat by herself in a corner next to some other women at a table. After some long debating (I didn't want to get rejected in front of a group of other women) I went to and spoke to her. I ended up sitting down and we talked for a good 15-20 minutes. Turns out she's 24 and goes to my school (3 years older than me). I got her phone number and told her we should get coffee sometime. I'm wondering should I hit her up or not. Just bc I have doubt in my mind like when I asked she said "umm sure that'd be cool" although she did say I seemed sweet and well put together and we held a long conversation, plus she's 3 years older than me idk if she'd even wanna deal with a young guy.

i think you're too worried about what she may or may not be thinking.I won't act like i don't worry about it at all. it's something i'm working on. it doesn't matter if usually she's not interested in younger guys. I forgot who said it but "Attraction is not a choice." If she's attracted to you, no matter how "wrong" you are for her (wrong age, height, race, culture, financials, etc) even if you're wrong in all that she'll find a way to justify to herself why being with you is ok or an exception. Attraction is not a choice. but you won't know for sure until you present the option of kissing you, sleeping with you, spending time with you, etc. you present that option and she'll choose depending on attraction, not on how you meet her expectations directly.

the most important thing is to focus on what you want out of it, present the options to her and always be ready for the possibility that she could choose the option of not messing with you. The trick is to set the options in your favor. If that girl is attracted to you but kinda hesitating, don't play her game. Instead once you feel like you have charmed her enough, you make your move. if she hesitates, you tell her straight up what your intentions are and how you feel and tell you respect her boundaries but at the same time it's not what you want so you'd rather not talk anymore. Do it without bitterness in your heart and very genuinely. don't even be ashamed of how you feel. see now you just presented two options to her.

A: she follows your lead.
B: she doesn't get your presence anymore.

she has NO third option of "we could just be friends " Once you make her understand that she can't force you to give her that third option (and again don't do it like an ultimatum) then her level of attraction will dictate which option she chooses. If the level of raw attraction exceeds the importance of the "sacrifice of power" you require of her then she'll choose to follow your lead REGARDLESS of what her expectations and "standards" are.

Always be ready for her to choose B when the time comes and never invest time, money or emotions you can't afford to lose. This post was heavily influenced by The Black Phillip Show and i strongly suggest you check out some of the show if you haven't already. (lol, i feel like i'm the show's unofficial spokesperson and i'm not even getting paid)

 

[CrossBones]

I was sick most of this week, but I was at work any fukking ways.

I took yesterday off though, and as soon as I got out and about, I felt better.

anways, when I was eating I met three asian girls out snapping pictures and doing them, having fun or whatever. they kind of circle around and I holla, and start taking pics for them. we get closer and start talking. see I was eating at this steakhouse/sports bar type of place and they were just there. its hardly somewhere that you go around, snapping pics like its something of a special occassion. so, I can see that theyre having fun, and Im now I made myself a part of it by playing with them. for you shy dudes out there, you have to interact in order to get something out of your experiences. I just start opening up and directing them.

then one of them sits down next to me and laughs, and starts looking at me and shyt. like eying me, but in a ... I dont know ... innocent way? I start playing back with her, and you how that goes.

but we're going strictly off of body language, because she doesnt talk much.

so her friend comes by and tells me that shes visiting from china, and that her friend likes me. so this quiet girl, she offers her hand, real polite and lady like, then giggles. it was different. as a whole, this thing felt real easy going and not forced. as if there was no pretension, and no jumping of obstacles, as we were just feeling each other out through positive body language, and joking around. it was weird. like you dont think they make a lot of women like that these days.

let me make this clear, a lot of times, miami is ratchet central bruhs. and if not, you got the stuck up, upper class cubans and college chicks that prefer a dude with the fancy rides and all that. rub elbows with celebs or whatever. not to say you cant get with that, but your game better be A 1 and your approach has to be almost non caring. see arrogance works. sure theres other types, but best believe me theres plenty of stuck up types and straight hood mamis.

as I see it, even as the cultural hub that it is, when the women are raised here you can see just how much the american way influences women. I never understood that whole foriegn woman fascination that a few of you talk about, but I think I sort of get it now. thats not to say one is necessarily better than the other, but the approach, and dispositions are definitely noticeable.

so Im trying to talk to the quiet girl, but she doesnt speak much english. they were getting up to go but she does this, strange thing where she tapped my shoulder, then covered her mouth and giggled like she was going to say something but held back and got embarassed. I of course got the numbers by pulling out the phone and motioning her to call me sometime thats just player instinct, I wasnt fully serious. I usually get the digits before me or a girl bounces after we had some fun and what not. Im nto gonna lie, Im a little rusty, as Ive been out of my LTR since middle of last year.

I got her to put her number in my phone. which is a good move - she feels less awkward when you hand over a piece of your property for her grab and use.

but really, she didnt know what the fukk I was saying most of the time. her friend did, but Im not trying to go on a chaperoned date. I dont even know if I will call her, since how will she know what the fukk Im saying. earlier I told her so what do you think of miami? she says "thank you" and smiles

the point isnt that Im trying to get with this one, but that I see a general difference in how her and her friends were, compared to the majority of women I see out here.

so finally my question is: how would yall deal with a female who shares very little of your language? I know some of you traveling gurus know better and have experience with that. I dont. I always said, that its important to have a chemistry and personality from a woman so you can vibe with her, but if you cant even talk, the ways that you can connect with her get real limited

 

[Medio]

I was sick most of this week, but I was at work any fukking ways.

I took yesterday off though, and as soon as I got out and about, I felt better.

anways, when I was eating I met three asian girls out snapping pictures and doing them, having fun or whatever. they kind of circle around and I holla, and start taking pics for them. we get closer and start talking. see I was eating at this steakhouse/sports bar type of place and they were just there. its hardly somewhere that you go around, snapping pics like its something of a special occassion. so, I can see that theyre having fun, and Im now I made myself a part of it by playing with them. for you shy dudes out ther,e you have to interact in order to get something out of your experiences. I just start opening up and directing them.

then one of them sits down next to me and laughs, and starts looking at me and shyt. like eying me, but in a ... I dont know ... innocent way? I start playing back with her, and you how that goes.

but we're going strictly off of body language, because she doesnt talk much.

so her friend comes by and tells me that shes visiting from china, and that her friend likes me. so this quiet girl, she offers her hand, real polite and lady like, then giggles. it was different. as a whole, this thing felt real easy going and not forced. as if there was no pretension, and no jumping of obstacles, or proving yourself as we were just feeling each other out through positive body language, and joking around. it was weird. like you dont think they make a lot of women like that these days.

let me make this clear, a lot of times, miami is ratchet central bruhs. and if not, you got the stuck up, upper class cubans and college chicks that prefer a dude with the fancy rides and all that. rub elbows with celebs or whatever. not to say you cant get with that, but your game better be A 1 and your approach has to be almost non caring. see arrogance works. sure theres other types, but best believe me theres plenty of stuck up types and straight hood mamis.

as I see it, even as the cultural hub that it is, when the women are raised here you can see just how much the american way influences women. I never understood that whole foriegn woman fascination that a few of you talk about, but I think I sort of get it now. thats not to say one is necessarily better than the other, but the approach, and dispositions are definitely noticeable.

so Im trying to talk to the quiet girl, but she doesnt speak much english. they were getting up to go but she does this, strange thing where she tapped my shoulder, then covered her mouth and giggled like she was going to say something but held back and got embarassed. I of course got the numbers by pulling out the phone and motioning her to call me sometime thats just player instinct, I wasnt fully serious. I usually get the digits before me or a girl bounces after we had some fun and what not. Im nto gonna lie, Im a little rusty, as Ive been out of my LTR since middle of last year.

I got her to put her number in my phone. which is a good move - she feels less awkward when you hand over a piece of your property for her grab and use.

but really, she didnt know what the fukk I was saying most of the time. her friend did, but Im not trying to go on a chaperoned date. I dont even know if I will call her, since how will she know what the fukk Im saying. earlier I told her so what do you think of miami? she says "thank you" and smiles

the point isnt that Im trying to get with this one, but that I see a general difference in how her and her friends were, compared to the majority of women I see out here.

so finally my question is: how would yall deal with a female who shares very little of your language? I know some of you traveling gurus know better and have experience with that. I dont. I always said, that its important to have a chemistry and personality from a woman so you can vibe with her, but if you cant even talk, the ways that you can connect with her get real limited

I once met this chick from Italy, she was fresh from there and hardly knew any english. I went up to talk to her and realized she didn't know english. Didn't end with me getting with her or anything, pretty hard to communicate. but back then my game wasn't as good as it is now so who knows what I coulda done.

 

[CrossBones]

I once met this chick from Italy, she was fresh from there and hardly knew any english. I went up to talk to her and realized she didn't know english. Didn't end with me getting with her or anything, pretty hard to communicate. but back then my game wasn't as good as it is now so who knows what I coulda done.

my idea would be, go out and do things where the activity is not dependant of deep conversations (LOL like a lot of girls out here even reading a lot of books).

the game has to be a lot more pyshical. maybe go out dancing. or something like some drinks and pool table (Im hood, my bad), go to the beach and eat, or rent bikes or something, bowling, miniature golf, or whatever where you spend time close to her, but dont have to depend on speaking to her a whole lot. you can have fun together doing the activity. where does that go? I dont know. Im just saying

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

i dunno, dont ask or bring it up, and no longer care

i would have rather had input in the situation, going behind the back of the person you are supposed ot marry 6 months later

Makes sense, if she's willing to go behind your back over something like that then there's no telling what else. Besides that even though it's her body, it's just as much of your baby as hers. You dhould have input. Sucks about her mom though, seems like she really likes you.

Men love hard

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They really do tbh.

 

[Turbulent]

I was sick most of this week, but I was at work any fukking ways.

I took yesterday off though, and as soon as I got out and about, I felt better.

anways, when I was eating I met three asian girls out snapping pictures and doing them, having fun or whatever. they kind of circle around and I holla, and start taking pics for them. we get closer and start talking. see I was eating at this steakhouse/sports bar type of place and they were just there. its hardly somewhere that you go around, snapping pics like its something of a special occassion. so, I can see that theyre having fun, and Im now I made myself a part of it by playing with them. for you shy dudes out there, you have to interact in order to get something out of your experiences. I just start opening up and directing them.

then one of them sits down next to me and laughs, and starts looking at me and shyt. like eying me, but in a ... I dont know ... innocent way? I start playing back with her, and you how that goes.

but we're going strictly off of body language, because she doesnt talk much.

so her friend comes by and tells me that shes visiting from china, and that her friend likes me. so this quiet girl, she offers her hand, real polite and lady like, then giggles. it was different. as a whole, this thing felt real easy going and not forced. as if there was no pretension, and no jumping of obstacles, as we were just feeling each other out through positive body language, and joking around. it was weird. like you dont think they make a lot of women like that these days.

let me make this clear, a lot of times, miami is ratchet central bruhs. and if not, you got the stuck up, upper class cubans and college chicks that prefer a dude with the fancy rides and all that. rub elbows with celebs or whatever. not to say you cant get with that, but your game better be A 1 and your approach has to be almost non caring. see arrogance works. sure theres other types, but best believe me theres plenty of stuck up types and straight hood mamis.

as I see it, even as the cultural hub that it is, when the women are raised here you can see just how much the american way influences women. I never understood that whole foriegn woman fascination that a few of you talk about, but I think I sort of get it now. thats not to say one is necessarily better than the other, but the approach, and dispositions are definitely noticeable.

so Im trying to talk to the quiet girl, but she doesnt speak much english. they were getting up to go but she does this, strange thing where she tapped my shoulder, then covered her mouth and giggled like she was going to say something but held back and got embarassed. I of course got the numbers by pulling out the phone and motioning her to call me sometime thats just player instinct, I wasnt fully serious. I usually get the digits before me or a girl bounces after we had some fun and what not. Im nto gonna lie, Im a little rusty, as Ive been out of my LTR since middle of last year.

I got her to put her number in my phone. which is a good move - she feels less awkward when you hand over a piece of your property for her grab and use.

but really, she didnt know what the fukk I was saying most of the time. her friend did, but Im not trying to go on a chaperoned date. I dont even know if I will call her, since how will she know what the fukk Im saying. earlier I told her so what do you think of miami? she says "thank you" and smiles

the point isnt that Im trying to get with this one, but that I see a general difference in how her and her friends were, compared to the majority of women I see out here.

so finally my question is: how would yall deal with a female who shares very little of your language? I know some of you traveling gurus know better and have experience with that. I dont. I always said, that its important to have a chemistry and personality from a woman so you can vibe with her, but if you cant even talk, the ways that you can connect with her get real limited

that's gonna be a tough one if you can't talk to her on the phone. If i were you'd text her and set up the date by text (that way she can just hand the phone to her friend who will translate for her). Once you're in person again, it doesn't matter IMO. Since you don't speak the same language, when you see her in try to focus on connecting with her in a more "human" and basic way. focus more on eye contact, playing with her physically, hold her hand while walking, guiding her by putting her hands on her shoulders maybe, smiling. It's a universal language. The more of that you do, the less you need to even talk or engage her intellectually because you guys will feel good together. You're connecting and she won't doubt herself for following your lead.

beyond that, it really depends what your intentions with her are.

 

[CrossBones]

that's gonna be a tough one if you can't talk to her on the phone. If i were you'd text her and set up the date by text (that way she can just hand the phone to her friend who will translate for her). Once you're in person again, it doesn't matter IMO. Since you don't speak the same language, when you see her in try to focus on connecting with her in a more "human" and basic way. focus more on eye contact, playing with her physically, hold her hand while walking, guiding her by putting her hands on her shoulders maybe, smiling. It's a universal language. The more of that you do, the less you need to even talk or engage her intellectually because you guys will feel good together. You're connecting and she won't doubt herself for following your lead.

beyond that, it really depends what your intentions with her are.

I was thinking hang out, go on a date. I dont see much more. see seems a little innocent too. I dont think shes a virgin or nothing, but I dont want to be some straight a$$hole who tries to take advantage. I also dont like texting, but I guess thats the best idea. I could see a night out with her, but after a while youd think the "not being able to talk" thing would get old quick.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

@CrossBones you should use this one to your advantage, wouldn't it be a good idea to have her friends go out with yaw just that way they can see how much of a good guy you are then they'll probably do half the work for you in convincing her to like you/learn English to communicate with you.