Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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yeah...which is fair, in a sense. I've always been cool with telling me stories but I would say don't show me some poor idiot's texts, even if it's lame or pathetic, it's just too personal.

and I would add, don't show anyone my texts, and once someone said "well I would never have to show yours"

the implication being because I wasn't acting embarassingly. but texts are an inherently personal thing that become funny almost the minute you take them out of the context of that thread.
 
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Panther said:
If im torn i don't choose. Personally im only making that move when i have a clear cut person I want to lock in with. If none of the women are head and shoulders above the rest then what's the rush?
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A little more complicated than that. I have a chick I'm living with but feel I made a bad choice cause even though she has good qualities her sex drive is really low with me having sex with her only once or twice a week.

Was thinking about this other chick I was talking too who I did shrooms with but she a little too free spirited and her house was dirty. I fukked her a few times but just cut ties with her cause she love too loose fukking with couples and shyt like that lol.
Byronml said:
You slowly phase the others out, BUT, also make sure the one you want to be exclusive with, wants the same with you.
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Most definitely, good advice.
VertigoKnight said:
Yeah you have to be careful. Especially if the one you want is a bit iffy on you.

Me personally I observe if she is chasing me or putting herself in my orbit and making things easy.

One chick I see, would drive an hour to come and see me, no questions asked, as she wanted to see me in person. That told me a lot. She would feel sad when she had to return home.
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Facts if she drive to see you then she is serious about you for sure.
Apollo Creed said:
Why choose? Enjoy em all unless it's becoming a burden
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lol I'm in a space where I had all my fun. Trying to find a lady to settle down with at this point and start a family. Talking to new women now a days is a burden for me and really annoying lol.

Like it's cool when you hit it off but to find a solid one is hard.
Hacksaw Jim Thuggin said:
it will be obvious in my experience...she'll automatically separate herself from the pack....

but take your time....and dont rush....she'll want to ...they all want to be wifed quick if they're on those apps
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Shoot I wish I would have seen this advice sooner not to say I rushed it but living with the chick I'm with now showed me maybe I should have took even more time. We dated for over 2 years but I wish I saw more of the red flags sooner. The intimacy just ain't enough with sex only twice a week. If this is my future with her it just won't work lol
 
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I don't know what to tell y'all but shyt is simple. You assume by simp I mean men she's talking to rather than just men that shoot their shot repeatedly and get ignored but keep trying, most of whom she doesn't know. Women do this all the time with their guy. She told me about how one dude made her uncomfortable and how Arab men are controlling and I told her to tell me about her simps so we could laugh. She sent me screenshots, which I edited. Nothing more, nothing less.

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She's not even Christian :dead:



The fact that you thought by "simps" I meant, dudes trying to get at her and how "disrespectful" it was shows you're not a solid dude because you naturally go to worst case scenario and lack communication skills. If you're like this with men I can't imagine how you communicate with women. All you've shown me is deep down you know you're not that dude and fell into a ball of insecurity and assumptions when really it was just jokes.

She told me Arab men get mad at her when a dude even heart reacts her posts. Sounds like they post on the Coli going by how apparently "disrespectful" she is. :mjlol:

Anyways, between these messages, how she approached me first, and that one thread with the 6 foot 8 breh, I've really solidified my conclusion that going up to women and trying to shoot a shot is a pointless affair. Let the woman come to you. If she likes you, she will try to make things happen and let you work your stuff. Going through my own history this proves to be true.
 
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Redwood said:
If everyone did this thread and Sosuave.net wouldn't exist. :francis:
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I think 1) the pill + 2) the ability to work kinda messed up the "dream" for women.

Went from having a good husband and family - to trying to have it all/and ending up with nothing.

Someone posted "Chicks went from wanting a man and not a child, to having a child and no man..."
 
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Space Cowboy said:
I don't know what to tell y'all but shyt is simple. You assume by simp I mean men she's talking to rather than just men that shoot their shot repeatedly and get ignored but keep trying, most of whom she doesn't know. Women do this all the time with their guy. She told me about how one dude made her uncomfortable and how Arab men are controlling and I told her to tell me about her simps so we could laugh. She sent me screenshots, which I edited. Nothing more, nothing less.

gIzICXc.jpeg


She's not even Christian :dead:



The fact that you thought by "simps" I meant, dudes trying to get at her and how "disrespectful" it was shows you're not a solid dude because you naturally go to worst case scenario and lack communication skills. If you're like this with men I can't imagine how you communicate with women. All you've shown me is deep down you know you're not that dude and fell into a ball of insecurity and assumptions when really it was just jokes.

She told me Arab men get mad at her when a dude even heart reacts her posts. Sounds like they post on the Coli going by how apparently "disrespectful" she is. :mjlol:

Anyways, between these messages, how she approached me first, and that one thread with the 6 foot 8 breh, I've really solidified my conclusion that going up to women and trying to shoot a shot is a pointless affair. Let the woman come to you. If she likes you, she will try to make things happen and let you work your stuff. Going through my own history this proves to be true.
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At the end of the day it’s your relationship so if that’s what y’all do as an activity and y’all happy :hubie:
 
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Guvnor said:
A little more complicated than that. I have a chick I'm living with but feel I made a bad choice cause even though she has good qualities her sex drive is really low with me having sex with her only once or twice a week.

Was thinking about this other chick I was talking too who I did shrooms with but she a little too free spirited and her house was dirty. I fukked her a few times but just cut ties with her cause she love too loose fukking with couples and shyt like that lol.


Most definitely, good advice.

Facts if she drive to see you then she is serious about you for sure.


lol I'm in a space where I had all my fun. Trying to find a lady to settle down with at this point and start a family. Talking to new women now a days is a burden for me and really annoying lol.

Like it's cool when you hit it off but to find a solid one is hard.

Shoot I wish I would have seen this advice sooner not to say I rushed it but living with the chick I'm with now showed me maybe I should have took even more time. We dated for over 2 years but I wish I saw more of the red flags sooner. The intimacy just ain't enough with sex only twice a week. If this is my future with her it just won't work lol
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i understand....i ended up in a relationship with one like that...to this day the finest woman ive ever been with but she had serious sex hangups....it will become a problem down the road for you
 
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Hacksaw Jim Thuggin said:
i understand....i ended up in a relationship with one like that...to this day the finest woman ive ever been with but she had serious sex hangups....it will become a problem down the road for you
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Yeah sucks cause she is a good woman otherwise but no real passion with her and her sex drive is too low. I wish there is a way to improve things but that's not the case.
 
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