Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Mister_DoItNice]

I'm not in NYC right now. I'm at my base in Virginia. I'm pretty close to Virginia Beach though so the waterfront is a great idea. They actually have a little amusement park there as well. Good stuff.

 

[TRUEST]

I've learned that I have more power than I thought and there's a level of confidence & self esteem you should have. Value yourself over her. In my earlier days, women won just for showing up. Don't be that guy just so you can not be alone, have consistent p*ssy. No matter what they did, I was willing to stick with it because I was insecure & just happy to have girls I liked who wanted to be with me........that made me exhibit outrageously simpish behavior that I just don't stand by anymore. What broke me out of that behavior was dating women I didn't like and seeing how I treated them, how respected myself and how they treated me back vs how I acted around women I liked and how they treated me. There's plenty of women out there, if she's not acting right, she can be replaced. Women should earn the things you do for them, the flowers, the dinners, your exclusivity, your time. It's not just something given out freely.

i have to caution some of you guys on something. the notion here is "look how u treated the chicks u didn't like, see how they were glued to your d1ck. well, treat the chicks u do like that way and viola, you'll see miracles happen".

well, u goto give this some careful thought. the chicks u didn't like, u didn't like them for a reason. there was something about them that made u not like them. and just like u couldn't overlook whatever it was, many other guys out there most likely are the same way. these women aren't glued to your d1ck because of how u treat them (although i will say some are and will be). they're glued to your d1ck mostly because the pickings are slim for them. if you try that with a chick who's got a limitless supply of d1cks on her plate, u goto know what your doing, lest you get tossed to the side for practicing too much fucckery.

the best advice you can take from this thread is basically:

1. Dress NICE!!!!!!!
2. Talk little, but when you do talk, talk with authority. Practice your tone of voice.
3. Be very nonchalant in all your dealings with women. No matter what they tell you, do not let a few hours of bliss paint a false forecast of the future. Women are volatile and like the wind, they change directions whimsically. Be ready for that, and when it happens, deal with it like a warrior who's prepared for battle.


There are many rules to the game, but rule number 3 is the most important. You can dress nice, spit the illest game, but if your inner core is built with feathers, melancholy will continue to plague your existence on this earth. how many times can you rinse and repeat?

When I say nonchalant, oh i wish the hearts of those who read my words can fully understand. True nonchalance cannot be faked. True nonchalance is complete apathy to the doings and goings of others. True nonchalance is tamed pessimism trained to perfection. Expect the worst from others and when they consistently fail to meet your expectations, give them a second look.

when you master the art of nonchalance, believe me when i tell you, age old shackles will be broken. your inner spirit will be set free and the glee that was stolen from you will return and it will show in your face.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

$$$

park and waterfront are free, if dude is in nyc, just walk around the city, if a chick is into you she doesn't care what you do, a dinner and a movie shes been on hundreds of those, now walking sitting by the waterfront or on a park bench as she blabbers on about her life like women love to do = no strain on your wallet.

I remember a date i went on a few years ago and i ended up dating this girl for like 8 months, the first date all we did is sat in a bus stop for like a hour and just talked then we walked like 45 minutes and just talked and that was it

opening up your wallet on the first date sets a precedant of what she is going to expect

That'd be a sick ass date as well. Night time NYC>

Man see and that's the thing too, it's like if you're walking it forces you to converse, there's no being lazy. I think it's a good way to feel someone out, you don't allow them to hide behind all of the bullshyt. I honestly feel like women or most women DON'T even want to go on extravagant dates, unless you set the pace of spending money, like you said.

 

[MikelArteta]

i have to caution some of you guys on something. the notion here is "look how u treated the chicks u didn't like, see how they were glued to your d1ck. well, treat the chicks u do like that way and viola, you'll see miracles happen".

well, u goto give this some careful thought. the chicks u didn't like, u didn't like them for a reason. there was something about them that made u not like them. and just like u couldn't overlook whatever it was, many other guys out there most likely are the same way. these women aren't glued to your d1ck because of how u treat them (although i will say some are and will be). they're glued to your d1ck mostly because the pickings are slim for them. if you try that with a chick who's got a limitless supply of d1cks on her plate, u goto know what your doing, lest you get tossed to the side for practicing too much fucckery.

the best advice you can take from this thread is basically:

1. Dress NICE!!!!!!!
2. Talk little, but when you do talk, talk with authority. Practice your tone of voice.
3. Be very nonchalant in all your dealings with women. No matter what they tell you, do not let a few hours of bliss paint a false forecast of the future. Women are volatile and like the wind, they change directions whimsically. Be ready for that, and when it happens, deal with it like a warrior who's prepared for battle.


There are many rules to the game, but rule number 3 is the most important. You can dress nice, spit the illest game, but if your inner core is built with feathers, melancholy will continue to plague your existence on this earth. how many times can you rinse and repeat?

When I say nonchalant, oh i wish the hearts of those who read my words can fully understand. True nonchalance cannot be faked. True nonchalance is complete apathy to the doings and goings of others. True nonchalance is tamed pessimism trained to perfection. Expect the worst from others and when they consistently fail to meet your expectations, give them a second look.

when you master the art of nonchalance, believe me when i tell you, age old shackles will be broken. your inner spirit will be set free and the glee that was stolen from you will return and it will show in your face.

i agree but your somewhat wrong, the majority of chicks have options, women want what they can't have, what they can't tame, by not showing interest, giving her attention, not caring at all what she is doing makes her want you even more

the person who cares less in the relationship, or in dating is the one who holds the power.

 

[MikelArteta]

That'd be a sick ass date as well. Night time NYC>

Man see and that's the thing too, it's like if you're walking it forces you to converse, there's no being lazy. I think it's a good way to feel someone out, you don't allow them to hide behind all of the bullshyt. I honestly feel like women or most women DON'T even want to go on extravagant dates, unless you set the pace of spending money, like you said.

dinner and a movie , spending like 60 bucks and most of it is spent eating, or just quiet in a theater

girls like to talk i say let em, youll find out most things you need to know, all the lies, and the "every guy i dated was a a$$hole" etc comes out


you just sit there with the look

 

[MikelArteta]

I'm not in NYC right now. I'm at my base in Virginia. I'm pretty close to Virginia Beach though so the waterfront is a great idea. They actually have a little amusement park there as well. Good stuff.

nice and cheap, win her a little teddy bear my nikka

i also like to play a little games, "i can only stay till 1030, have plans", then i stay till like 1115, and she'll feel aww he really likes me he stayed extra

"oh look at the time i got to go"

quick hug, i had fun let's do it again, i'll keep in touch.

get out of there 20 min later gets a text

 

[sixsixtwo]

The Power of Makeup

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

Man I love this thread so much. Chopping up game here has given me so much to contemplate. Looking forward to the summer.

 

[MikelArteta]

The Power of Makeup

ive said it numerous times most women are not anything special without their deception, heels (making them taller than they are), push up bras (making their sloppy pancake titties look firm), but pads and garters (to make thier shape look perfect) and makeup (to hide every pimple, herpes, imperfection, and make their plane jane face look better than it is)

most women are just PLAIN, notice their instagrams and facebooks every picture is them in makeup looking their best but we know better

 

[George Gooney]

It does match up in a way because when she got pregnant he didn't do shyt and broke up with her. I know of him because we have mutual friends, so I was told some of the shyt he did to her and some of the shyt he didn't do for her. She doesn't talk shyt about him, but sometimes she makes slick comments about him. Like the other night she told me he doesn't pay for shyt or child support because he says he is always broke.

If the dude really wanted to be with her then he would've made an real effort. He didn't even come to her birthday dinner because he said he is broke.

She acts like he still cares about her, but we can see that the chances of them getting back together are slim.

you're playing with fire dealing with that chick... You're in a very dangerous place dealing with a single mom who's baby daddy is still alive trust me I know...

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

So I just got back from my date with the Russian girl. It was cool, we met at Starbucks and they ended up being closed. So we got in her car and went to panera (some sandwich and soup place) on our way there we spoke about life and the topic of living came up in which she said she lived alone, and asked if I did too. I felt quite embarrassed to say I live with my mom (although I'm just 21) but explained to her that I'm transferring to a university and am going to move out soon. Anyway besides that I felt comfortable, we got to the place and I paid for her coffee and we sat outside and talked for 2 hours about life and such and I think that's where I really won her over because she got to see how mature I was and goal and career driven as well as intelligent. After about 2 hours we headed back to Starbucks to drop me off. Which was cool because when we first met up I initiated the hug motion and she responded, but when she dropped me off she initiated that she wanted a hug. So we hugged, I said we should go out on the weekend and she responded that she doesn't work Tuesday and Thursday so that'd be better, so I told her I'd call her Wednesday to set up something, then said bye and got out.

Bad thing is that I know her sisters which are my age, and hopefully they don't try and talk down on me to her. Besides that it was a good night, she's definitely one of the prettier girls I've been on a date with and we can really communicate on like a mature adult level.

Edit:funny thing was I ran into people that I knew while we were out, an older white guy and some Turks. I think it caught her off guard because me being fashionable and shyt that I'd know people and be cool with all kinds of people.

 

[kevm3]

I'mma have to agree with avoid taking most of them single moms too seriously, especially JUST after they just had the baby. Every time they see the baby, they are going to start thinking about the father, because it's his kid. One way you know a brotha still has action is if a woman starts talking bad about him unprompted... females love dealing with men they complain about. You are putting yourself in a very dangerous situation... pretty much you are putting yourself into the role of provider-man, while broke as a joke baby daddy avoids his responsibilities, but is still lurking in the background.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

dinner and a movie , spending like 60 bucks and most of it is spent eating, or just quiet in a theater

girls like to talk i say let em, youll find out most things you need to know, all the lies, and the "every guy i dated was a a$$hole" etc comes out


you just sit there with the look

Lol can you imagine spending money and time with a woman at dinner. It just seems shytty to be stationed in one place watching each other eat. LOL then have to pay, fukk that.

 

[Mickey Kane]

redpillschool comments on A very insightful analysis of the nature of relationships - "Man affections vs boy affections"

Best post in this thread so far.

 

[kevm3]

Best post in this thread so far.

Here is the actual post for people too lazy to click the link

http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/..._insightful_analysis_of_the_nature_of/c83z3qx
The site is down here's a cached copy

Man affections vs boy affections

a while back i finally figured out what makes a good relationship.

most of the gamey talk is all focused on getting laid. getting laid is the easiest thing in the world, after you do it for a while. what’s not nearly as simple is to maintain an excellent relationship. i’m going to venture out on a limb and say that MOST relationships are crap. and yet it’s really just two fundamental principles, that determine the success of any relationship. it’s ridiculous that it took me so long to figure this out.

my relationships used to be sort of average. have a girlfriend, sometimes you get along, sometimes you don’t. sometimes she’s a c*nt, sometimes she’s nice. sooner or later there are the annoying bits of jealousy and wondering if she’s cheating, and then all the arguments and breakups. standard shyt.

to figure out why most relationships suck, eventually you have to look at the type of emotional connection you are seeking:

emotional validation from your partner
being able to ‘trust’ your partner
support from your partner
sort of, almost unconditional love from your partner, ‘as you are’
seeking approval from your partner
there’s more aspects, but that’s probably enough to make the point we’re getting to.

we are simple creatures. we are programmed to have an emotional connection to the opposite sex. to get a little weird about it for a second though, think about how this programming expresses itself:

there are only two types of man-love our brain is wired for.

one, the love you got, wanted to get, hoped for, maybe experienced – from you mother, as a child. that’s a key kind of emotional connection to the female. and, as much as that sounds fukked up, it’s the type of connection most men are trying to find again in their adult life – from a girlfriend / wife.

seriously consider this. look at the few bullet points above. what kind of ‘love’ is that? let’s not judge it, just look at it objectively. that’s how most men view love. they don’t think about it consciously, but that’s the love they got to experience as a child.

here’s some news: no girl will ever love you like your mom did.

before we get a bit more into that, let’s look at the other type of man-love our brain has wiring for:

the love a father has for his daughter.

again, we have to remove all the incestous, sexualized, weird bits of it, and just look at the emotional components that drive the type of interaction, expectation, dependence, and outcome. how does a father love his daughter?

giving emotional validation to the child
rationing trust, with having ‘hand’ – control
providing support
molding her in his image
giving approval, as long as the child does at it is supposed to
compare these bullets to the ones above. how do you feel about that? take out the mother / daughter thing. just look at the giving & taking ratios, look at where the control lies.

there is always control in a relationship. question is just – who has it?

there is no other emotional romantic connection wiring in our brain. it’s either seeking the love you got from your mother as a child, or creating the love you get from your offspring.

everything manosphere talks about fits into this model. the whole concept of ‘beta’ is embodied in how men deal with women who they want maternal love from. they are the weak ones, seeking approval, expecting this ocean of support, putting a woman on a pedestal. and guess what – it works for shyt. mom love is done after you are grown up. realizing that means having to step away from that, coming to terms with the fact that this kind of emotional bond is DONE. being a man means being at the top of the social hierarchy. on the flip side, relationships suddenly work incredibly well when you treat a girl not like an adult that you look up to, an adult that you seek validation from – but like a child.

think about it. shyt tests? from an adult, maybe. but a child? how do you treat a child who shyt tests you? well … a lot of men haven’t grown up enough to be called men, so they still wouldn’t know. but for some of us, all that’s missing is this conscious realization. you don’t seek the validation of a child, do you? you don’t ask a child if it’s ok for you to go out, do you? when you want a child to do something, how do you address it?

i’m not saying, ‘be a dikk’. you still game children, a lot. you want to reward them for good behavior. dealing with kids isn’t easy, either. but if you figure that out, then you also figure out a healthy relationship with a girl. i don’t really believe that the ‘a$$hole game’ is a fully evolved strategy. it’s just better than wanting a replacement mom. so when a girl has the choice between a grown up (who is an a$$hole) vs a sniveling boy who wants a mother – she will of course pick the a$$hole.

but give her the choice between a father figure, an a$$hole, and a sniveling boy and the father figure will win, every time. part of that is giving validation, creating boundaries, being clearly in control.

if you want a great relationship, start reading parenting psychology books (not the new age feminist ones). and dog training books. you can take this however far you want, once you get comfortable. xsplat likes to go full on daddy. it’s a genius move. a bit depraved? maybe. but better than the advocates of game stuff who act like children themselves – basically saying ‘treat girls like you are 12 and in a sandbox with a girl’. and better than mainstream culture which puts out disney shyt and romantic comedies that all emulate maternal love relationships (which don’t exist).

my relationships have become something entirely different since i started taking the father figure approach. girls love it. they are willing to do anything and everything, and the general bullshyt from girls is maybe 5% of what it used to be – before i figured this out.