Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I used to mess with the stripper and I bagged her because I didn't treat her like a stripper. I met her through a mutual so it was a little different but she pretty much told me she liked me because I didn't treat her like a stripper.
Wouldn’t that be a good thing?

Sounds like she didn’t feel judged by you
 

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My homie and I were talking about it afterward, and they always wonder why I don't participate. and it's not for moral reasons, not really, and it's not the money, and he was saying well it's all the same. and I do truly understand skipping the pretense, also kind of struggled to really explain why it was different. but maybe if I need to explain it, there's too big a divide already. The best I can come up with this second, is a place like that streamlines everything into this very basically traditional system, with near zero barrier to entry but in that process loses, obscures, or blurs any real sense of intimacy, connection, or actual mutual desire.

I'd say the vast majority of single men see women, pursuing women, and sex as something that's largely financial.

"Money over B's"
"You'll lose money chasing women, you never women chasing money"
"You're paying for it with the dates, why not cut to the chase"
"Sexual Marketplace"
"B can't get a dollar out of me, cause I'm mf'ing P-I-M-P"

The culture reinforces it.
Low Class Women reinforce it, with their "gotta make 9 figs"
Educational/Professional Class "good" women reinforce it, "So what do you do"

There's no argument that will make them rethink their philosophy and actions.

But....

If you ever look at sexpats/whoremongers - even though it's all Pay for Play - they still try to improve themselves, they still try to be nice and chivalrous.

A lot of those Westerners In Asia guys prefer a live-in GF (that costs a lot more) than a new hottie every day.

IMO, a lot of cats believe in the big lie, live their lives accordingly, but are lying to themselves about what they really want.
 

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I'd say the vast majority of single men see women, pursuing women, and sex as something that's largely financial.

"Money over B's"
"You'll lose money chasing women, you never women chasing money"
"You're paying for it with the dates, why not cut to the chase"
"Sexual Marketplace"

"B can't get a dollar out of me, cause I'm mf'ing P-I-M-P"

The culture reinforces it.
Low Class Women reinforce it, with their "gotta make 9 figs"
Educational/Professional Class "good" women reinforce it, "So what do you do"

There's no argument that will make them rethink their philosophy and actions.

But....

If you ever look at sexpats/whoremongers - even though it's all Pay for Play - they still try to improve themselves, they still try to be nice and chivalrous.

A lot of those Westerners In Asia guys prefer a live-in GF (that costs a lot more) than a new hottie every day.

IMO, a lot of cats believe in the big lie, live their lives accordingly, but are lying to themselves about what they really want.

Never does the economics feel more real or cutting than in a place like that. And there is some truth to that, third world country. Women travel from interior Mexico to work there and provide for their families, the poverty In Mexico drives down the cost of 'goods', which enables men to purchase what would be out of the range or out of access. I can meet and do meet those pornstar type ones, but it's not something I can just access with $120 dollars if I am meeting them in normal settings.

but both my friends were framing approaching THOSE women in a formal setting of prostituion, as basically the same as approaching her in a coffee shop, and I was just laughing. Like it takes maybe 10% of the confidence to approach the baddest girl in the strip club and buy her a pre fixed $30 drink and take her to a room.

but what I was thinking about is, there's not a single relationship my boy has that's not basically just tricking. It just made me grateful I guess.
 

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but what I was thinking about is, there's not a single relationship my boy has that's not basically just tricking. It just made me grateful I guess.

A lot of guys see every relationship as tricking. Lot of them in this very post.

Instead of just handing a chick a stack, cats hand over their lives. Time, Effort, Attention, and the money goes to a 3rd party (restaurant owner, grocery store, all the other things a man does to entertain.)

Bread or Time, the man always pays...

That's the mentality. That's what they tell other people. The type of thinking eats them alive.

The logic of the market consumes everything.

It's a lot like cats that read Mao/Marx and everything is a class struggle.
They read Malcolm, and everything is a race struggle.
Soak up "the red pill", and every woman is out to take your bread and sleep with the next man.

On the other side, chicks reading bell hooks/G. Steinem and every man is an oppressor.

The logic is inescapable.

If something is rare, but happens, it's best to stick to some rigid ideology to escape harm...
 

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A lot of guys see every relationship as tricking. Lot of them in this very post.

Instead of just handing a chick a stack, cats hand over their lives. Time, Effort, Attention, and the money goes to a 3rd party (restaurant owner, grocery store, all the other things a man does to entertain.)

Bread or Time, the man always pays...

That's the mentality. That's what they tell other people. The type of thinking eats them alive.

The logic of the market consumes everything.

It's a lot like cats that read Mao/Marx and everything is a class struggle.
They read Malcolm, and everything is a race struggle.
Soak up "the red pill", and every woman is out to take your bread and sleep with the next man.

On the other side, chicks reading bell hooks/G. Steinem and every man is an oppressor.

The logic is inescapable.

If something is rare, but happens, it's best to stick to some rigid ideology to escape harm...

If you in a relationship it's nothing wrong with taking care of your woman or keep her maintained as long as it's within your means.

When you blowing random money you don't have on a random hoes that is trickin.

If it's her birthday or she going out with you to an event or something, it's nothing wrong with getting her hair and nails done, she is a representation of you to the world.
 

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When you blowing random money you don't have on a random hoes that is trickin.

What's random money?
Where's the line?

If you take a chick to Wingstop - is it tricking if you pay for her meal?

Chili's?
Red Lobster?
Cheesecake Factory?
Ethiopian spot?

Sushi?
Korean BBQ?

French Bistro?

New hot restaurant?
Michelin Guide?

The financial mindset consumes everything.

It makes much more sense to deal with hookers once you start to calculate what you're spending on dating random broads, or god forbid a GF or a Wife.

Any chick you see regularly is more expensive than the randoms.
 

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What's random money?
Where's the line?


If you take a chick to Wingstop - is it tricking if you pay for her meal?

Chili's?
Red Lobster?
Cheesecake Factory?
Ethiopian spot?

Sushi?
Korean BBQ?

French Bistro?

New hot restaurant?
Michelin Guide?

The financial mindset consumes everything.

It makes much more sense to deal with hookers once you start to calculate what you're spending on dating random broads, or god forbid a GF or a Wife.

Any chick you see regularly is more expensive than the randoms.

For me when I'm spending anything out of my norm. If I don't buy bottles at the club when I'm by myself I'm not going to start buying bottles just because a woman is with me.

If I don't eat at 5 star restaurants every week. I'm not going to start now doing that to impress a woman.
 

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Wouldn’t that be a good thing?

Sounds like she didn’t feel judged by you
it was a good thing my point was bytches especially bad bytches don't want a guy that fawns over them. they want a guy that they see is higher status than them if that makes sense. man should be seen as an authority figure to his woman so to speak. you gotta treat them nice but don't treat them like they are better than you especially because they are bad. most bytches don't even like or respect themselves so how can they like or respect you if you put them on a pedestal? shout out to patrice oneal the gawd learned this from him.
 

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this white shorty I met at a wedding likes me but im worried about doing anything cause a friend of mine used to date her

the nikka got a girlfriend of over 2 years now but they apparently still talk from time to time

maybe I just leave her alone?
 

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this white shorty I met at a wedding likes me but im worried about doing anything cause a friend of mine used to date her

the nikka got a girlfriend of over 2 years now but they apparently still talk from time to time

maybe I just leave her alone?
Define date

If they were just smashing and hanging out :manny:
 

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this white shorty I met at a wedding likes me but im worried about doing anything cause a friend of mine used to date her

the nikka got a girlfriend of over 2 years now but they apparently still talk from time to time

maybe I just leave her alone?
Recreational use only anything more and your prong jelly on your self...

Me personally I wouldn't...
 

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could you just hit him and tell him what you want to do? tell him it's not a problem for you

'remember that one girls Kristina, yeah, I'm going to hit her up....'
 
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