Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The Jewnited States]

Not smash. Unless you want to relieve the same type of drama

 

[jay83]

This bytch had the nerve to text me today, after an entire week of not responding talking about:

I'm sorry for the late response, this week just had been really crazy for me and I wanted to make sure I could respond to your text thoughtfully. I really do want to continue seeing you and I have been looking for someone to join me on this journey through life and I'm happy to have met you etc etc


I didn't even respond. I'm not mad as much as I'm offended that she wouldn't actually ghost me, or come with a better lie

Just respond with a thumbs up.

 

[The ADD]

This bytch had the nerve to text me today, after an entire week of not responding talking about:

I'm sorry for the late response, this week just had been really crazy for me and I wanted to make sure I could respond to your text thoughtfully. I really do want to continue seeing you and I have been looking for someone to join me on this journey through life and I'm happy to have met you etc etc


I didn't even respond. I'm not mad as much as I'm offended that she wouldn't actually ghost me, or come with a better lie

If I didn’t know better I would say you were making this up because this line is nutty.

 

[The Jewnited States]

If I didn’t no better I would say you were making this up because this line is nutty.

Full text:

"No not at all! I just have not had time to respond thoughtfully to your message and I wanted to make sure I did that. Lots of very crazy things have been happening this week and taken my attention.

I really appreciate your full honesty and communication once again. I agree that we share many interests and are able to have meaningful conversations that other people aren’t able to have. And thank you for your kind words about me I have been looking for someone who is on this journey of spiritual growth as well and am really glad to have met you, and definitely want you in my life in some capacity as well. I would love to keep getting to know each other’s souls and hanging out in person. "

 

[BaggerofTea]

You need a gang of broads in that case.

Cause a lot of dudes cash out the first time they get some attention, regardless of how into the girl they are.

ive learned this

when "dating", its best for a man to have 2-3 women he is talking to at once.

If one acts crazy, you can pivot to the next one

 

[Lieutenant Daniels]

This applies to life in general but for the sake of this thread it’s about women. Something that took me way too long to learn was that you should judge women by what they do. Their actions. Women are always trying to pivot to not look like the “bad guy”. So in @The Jewnited States situation if he goes nuclear and ignores her (or appear bothered by her disappearance for a week) she can the justify that it’s HIS fault the situation imploded even though she NEVER had any serious intention on developing anything romantic with him and in reality HER behavior is the reason the situation wouldn’t/never progress.

I live by the mantra of “if she wanted to she would”.

In my opinion the reason modern dating is the way it is is because women don’t want to admit that they are more pragmatic and distant emotionally than the average man. Due to the abundance of women snitching on themselves on social media men are starting to see that in reality women say one thing but do another. Men in mass are learning (through redpill and other media) that women are doing the most for the men that do the least. Growing up we have been brainwashed to believe that women are the emotional ones when in reality they move between men pragmatically and will forget you ever existed. They naturally have a “I can easily find another one” mentality. Like a couple posters in here said it’s best to always keep a rotation. Doing so make a man naturally move like women do. And instead of fantasizing and locking into one woman we’d keep things casual. Which ironically draws women in.

It sucks because as you get older you just want that ONE down ass chick. I personally don’t have the energy to juggle multiple women. Got too much crap going on in life.

 

[Amo Husserl]

... always thought it was paradoxical that we want 'em to be freaks, but be offended when we find out they freaks...
Shyt got me some typa tight. Like... like, how you competin' with men for women then get mad when she gotta high body count from other men you competin' with? I think men are a metaphor for sperm and issa million of us tryna get to one woman... or sumn shyt like that... I'm blown AF..

 

[Ohene]

I "broke up" with ol girl I was talking about a few pages back. Haven't talked to her or seen her in a few days. Haven't reached out at all. My guess is that she will reach out to me by the end of this week once the loneliness and need for dikk kicks in.

In the meantime I got a date lined up with a younger chick that I have gone out with a couple times already. Our schedules haven't been lining up in the last few weeks because I work morning to afternoon and she works afternoon to night. We scheduled to meet up today for an early lunch. Come morning time she sends me a text being really apologetic and explaining to me that she has been up all night consoling her roommate and taking care of her because she was going through some shyt. She asks if we can reschedule for her off day this week.

For whatever reason it irritated me a bit. I understand where she's coming from, this chick seems like a genuinely sweet person and I know her roommate is one of her childhood best friends. I tell her yeah it's cool if we reschedule. I follow it up with a text basically asking her to be as transparent with me as she can, so that we are both on the same page and neither of us is pursuing something that isn't there, investing energy and time for nothing. I tell her straight up that I enjoy talking to her, I appreciate how intelligent she is and that we have similar interests. She has a nice calm energy about her and does not give off ho vibes even a little bit. I let her know that I am not necessarily looking to jump into a long term relationship right away because we are still getting to know each other, but I know enough to know that I wanna stick around and discover more. I tell her straight that I find her to be very pretty and sexually attractive. I'm just being honest, I wanted to put that all on the table right now and if that's cool with you, then let's continue on. If you're not on that wave, then it's better that we get that out in the open now so that neither one of us is wasting time.

She hits me back with this reply:

"Yes, you totally make sense. I know that my attention is going in so many directions right now with my job, making new friends, [roommates name], still getting adjusted here, etc and I know that makes it hard for me to be fully present with you, and for that I apologize, as I don’t like making anyone feel that way. I really like who you are as a human and feel that we have so many things in common. I really enjoy spending time with you as well. I would like to keep getting to know you better. I don’t feel that it’s the right time for me to jump into a new relationship right this second just because I’m going through a lot of changes and still pretty fresh from my previous relationship. But I enjoy your energy and your company and our conversations. I would love to keep hanging out and doing fun things together, and I will be better about sticking to plans. My life usually isn’t this chaotic, lol. I appreciate you being upfront and honest about your thoughts and communicating "

I can't do much but take her for her word and see if the actions follow through. So far she's been pretty good about that. There's a chance she's just keeping me as an option in case no better comes around. There's also a good chance im so jaded that I start reading between the lines when I don't need to. She's had ample opportunity to ghost me or let the text messages dwindle down to nothing, but she hasn't. As of now, I will see if she follows through on our plan to get together this week, and feel it out from there.


I am so rusty with this dating shyt and somewhat cynical from past experiences or Internet babble that I'm second guessing myself all the time trying to find the angle that she's playing me from.

Thoughts?

@trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In @Ohene @The ADD @cyndaquil @skyrunner1 @Gloxina

i'm just seeing this now.

i dont know if you needed to preempt everything but it seems like the reaction was positive. i can relate on the jaded stuff

somedays i dont know if i am jaded or just better at spotting bullshyt though

 

[Ohene]

You like her and enjoy spending time with her but you aren’t necessarily looking for a relationship…
So she basically mirrors your response…

I mean ultimately what is this younger girl supposed to gain from spending time with you?

And I’m not saying that to be a bytch. You basically said “I’m feeling you, but I’m not trying to rush into anything, but why aren’t you making time for me?”

As the poster above stated, certain things are better discussed in person.

I don’t know how old she is but if you’re literally in different stages of life you have to understand that younger people prioritize things little differently. Especially if she’s a nice girl, her friend is actually having legitimate issues and she’s juggling meeting up with a guy who “likes her and finds her sexually attractive but isn’t looking for a relationship right now”. Friends are your life at certain stages of life, again- especially if something real actually happened to her girl.

What’s she really going to lose out on? A man who makes it clear he wants to hit but isn’t sure if he’s looking for a relationship… that’s basically every dude who approaches a young woman. LOL

Again not being a bytch but that’s essentially what you TYPED.

Now, if she’s as chill as you say she might not look into that as deeply as me. But…if she analyzes this the same way you analyzed her reason for canceling…


Things happen. You were juggling two women and dropped one. So now you’re likely more sensitive to what’s happening with this girl because you don’t have the other one.
She may be juggling more than one guy (like you were) or it may just be you, but she has an active life and things going on.

Sounds like she wasn’t hounding you when you were clearly busy spending time with another woman so…

very well said . you gotta spend more time in here

 

[The Jewnited States]

This applies to life in general but for the sake of this thread it’s about women. Something that took me way too long to learn was that you should judge women by what they do. Their actions. Women are always trying to pivot to not look like the “bad guy”. So in @The Jewnited States situation if he goes nuclear and ignores her (or appear bothered by her disappearance for a week) she can the justify that it’s HIS fault the situation imploded even though she NEVER had any serious intention on developing anything romantic with him and in reality HER behavior is the reason the situation wouldn’t/never progress.

I live by the mantra of “if she wanted to she would”.

In my opinion the reason modern dating is the way it is is because women don’t want to admit that they are more pragmatic and distant emotionally than the average man. Due to the abundance of women snitching on themselves on social media men are starting to see that in reality women say one thing but do another. Men in mass are learning (through redpill and other media) that women are doing the most for the men that do the least. Growing up we have been brainwashed to believe that women are the emotional ones when in reality they move between men pragmatically and will forget you ever existed. They naturally have a “I can easily find another one” mentality. Like a couple posters in here said it’s best to always keep a rotation. Doing so make a man naturally move like women do. And instead of fantasizing and locking into one woman we’d keep things casual. Which ironically draws women in.

It sucks because as you get older you just want that ONE down ass chick. I personally don’t have the energy to juggle multiple women. Got too much crap going on in life.

Part of the conundrum of modern dating life is that it is advantageous to keep people at arms length, treat everyone with suspicion, assume the person you're messing with also has other people on deck. It helps to move that way to protect ourselves from the hurt that comes with opening up and investing in a person that doesn't reciprocate. There's only so much you can truly put yourself out there, get played, get hurt, and then go back out there and try again hoping the next one will be different.

After a while though, we get to where we are now, where everyone is suspicious of everyone else, everyone is hedging their bets, everyone is waiting for the other shoe to drop. Anyone can look at social media and dating apps and see that certain segments of the population have innumerable choices when it comes to partners. Problem is that it's an illusion of choice. Sure they show up as an option to talk to, but how many of those people are truly what they say they are? How many people that say they are looking for a serious relationship, REALLY ARE? Perhaps they are looking for a serious relationship until the next seemingly best option slides into their DMs and sells them a dream.

We can't know, and in many ways it doesn't matter. The paranoia has already permeated the dating pool. Constantly wondering if the person you're dating is as invested as you is just as bad as having them not be.

As you pointed out, it only makes sense for a man to have a few options on deck so if one broad starts coming at you sideways, you can pivot to another that may be more with the program. Likewise, a chick can be juggling numerous dudes and weighing the pros and cons of which one(s) can give them what they want/need right now. That might change later, but by then, they've already alienated a few dudes and left them jaded.

More and more jaded people enter this modern dating pool and carry a level of baggage, insecurities, and unrealistic expectations that doesn't allow for strong and lasting relationships to be formed. Where does that leave us as a society? What will the future generations learn from this pivotal moment in human relations? We are literally living in an unprecedented time, watching history unfold before our eyes. Does this system somehow self correct?

 

[Ohene]

Part of the conundrum of modern dating life is that it is advantageous to keep people at arms length, treat everyone with suspicion, assume the person you're messing with also has other people on deck. It helps to move that way to protect ourselves from the hurt that comes with opening up and investing in a person that doesn't reciprocate. There's only so much you can truly put yourself out there, get played, get hurt, and then go back out there and try again hoping the next one will be different.

After a while though, we get to where we are now, where everyone is suspicious of everyone else, everyone is hedging their bets, everyone is waiting for the other shoe to drop. Anyone can look at social media and dating apps and see that certain segments of the population have innumerable choices when it comes to partners. Problem is that it's an illusion of choice. Sure they show up as an option to talk to, but how many of those people are truly what they say they are? How many people that say they are looking for a serious relationship, REALLY ARE? Perhaps they are looking for a serious relationship until the next seemingly best option slides into their DMs and sells them a dream.

We can't know, and in many ways it doesn't matter. The paranoia has already permeated the dating pool. Constantly wondering if the person you're dating is as invested as you is just as bad as having them not be.

As you pointed out, it only makes sense for a man to have a few options on deck so if one broad starts coming at your sideways, you can pivot to another that may be more with the program. Likewise, a chick can be juggling numerous dudes and weighing the pros and cons of which one(s) can give them what they want/need right now. That might change later but by then, they've already alienated a few dudes and left them jaded.

More and more jaded people enter this modern dating pool and carry a level of baggage, insecurities, and unrealistic expectations that doesn't allow for strong and lasting relationships to be formed. Where does that leave us as a society? What will the future generations learn from this pivotal moment in human relations? We are literally living in an unprecedented time, watching history unfold before our eyes. Does this system somehow self correct?

its what i consider to be the deadweight loss in society when it comes to relationships. i talk about it in chapter 8 of my book

 

[The Jewnited States]

its what i consider to be the deadweight loss in society when it comes to relationships. i talk about it in chapter 8 of my book

You have a book?

 

[WIA20XX]

What will the future generations learn from this pivotal moment in human relations?

That they need to get the jump on the competition, if they're even still interested.

The way things are trending, there are just less and less couples, thus less and less children.

Redfin noted the number of new one-bedrooms was up 22.2% over the year in the fourth quarter of 2023. The number of new apartments that recently hit the market is near a record high.

I'm sure I could find a better source with 10 more minutes of looking, but society continues to be atomized.

 

[Ohene]

You have a book?

yea i've talked about it before. ive grown in some ways since writing it so there are some things i'd change but im still proud of it

if anybody wants me to inbox a link lmk

 

[The Jewnited States]

yea i've talked about it before. ive grown in some ways since writing it so there are some things i'd change but im still proud of it

if anybody wants me to inbox a link lmk

Lemme get that