The missing part is the vocal entonation, feeling, and emotion evoked from real conversation, which is lost through the emotionless medium of text.
This is 100% true. Do you ever look at the texts you sent like 10 years ago, and see what they were like? This is way before we realized how different text communication was.
My texts are mostly pretty good, a lot of them sound really smooth, but sometimes I was ghosted, and I used to take it really seriously, like damn, I went too over the line with her. Now, I can see that they just weren't willing to give me a straight up answer. I should post some of the dumber texts I sent.
There is a concept called "thin slicing" where you can take very small samples of someone's writing/texts and get an idea about who they are, and what they are like. We all have enough posts on here to get pretty personal look at each each other, but even a few posts would reveal something. I could do it with everyone in here. We all could. Texts are the same way. You don't want to take this too far, but here's some stuff I remember from that book:
-extra use of emojiis signals anxiety/neourotic
-elongating words like wowwww signals emotional intensity
-Over use of exclamation points signals neourotocism "oh my god!!!!!!"
-heavy sarcasm is a lack of openess
- There's little clues about people, how they respond to things, like the overly personal text, where someone just segues into their problems, even if you don't know each other well. I have seen that.
-There's also like a cluster analysis of word use that points in a certain direction. If you did my texts, you can see a lot of
desire,
want,
gorgeous,
love,
attractive,
always,
decadent,
glamorous, excited
-what I take notice of:
tired, annoyed, depressed, never, overuse of the word singular I, overwhelmed, a lot of self deprecation, inability to take a compliment
. This coming from a man that has a 21yr old son and my daughter 10yrs. Her mom follows my lead in regards to me correcting her so it’s all good on that front.