Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DaRealness]

I haven't been in this thread for a while, but I got a few things to add soon. I'm gonna respond to the posters who asked me about my upcoming holiday in Dominican Republic.

I just need to catch up on the last few pages.

 

[sixsixtwo]

It’s Their Game |

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

It’s Their Game |

You go on Reddit? Ugh, shyt is the worst there.

 

[kevm3]

What's up family? I been missing for a while, but I'm back. I'll have a few new things to post soon.

 

[CrossBones]

Probably why that bytch got in my face all aggressively, just looked at her like tf is your problem.


That's a good interpretation of the quote, and I like that you got something different than I did, that way we can swap knowledge.

What I got from it is that every man will take a loss, his ship of love will eventually sink, unfortunately there's no way of us stopping it from sinking because it takes experience to know how to control the situation and steer your ship away from disaster. This quote is in reference to leaders who acquired land through others help, fortunately the difference between us and these rulers of inherited land is that we'll always be kings of our kingdom and we'll always get opportunities to apply knowledge gained from past failures and steer our way to success, and as for the kings that are being referenced in this quote, they'll never be kings again after they are dethroned.

As I go on I'll be posting more quotes from this book just to drop some knowledge, so that we can use this knowledge and apply it to our lives.

I like that. thats also a good interpretation, I see what youre saying in that eventually a lot of ships do sink, and taking that L in a relationship might be inevitable.

as you said, the ideal course to take would be to have an eye open and to see things ahead of time (look at the signs, look at the history, and mark the red flags), and then steer your ship away from disaster. or minimize the eventual impact. in other words, do not to attach your sense of self worth and your whole life into a bond with someone else.

men who tie their own value into their relationships tend to fall harder than the rest. its a sucker bet to take first of all, and its also a false confidence that theyre riding on. these are the kinds of men that feel like theyre only doing good because a woman is in the picture with them. they are the lost ones. they tend to force things and ignore the warning signs.

sure its bad to lose in a relationship, but men who fall apart from it are not seeing things clearly. you only really lose when you defeat yourself. and youre really only out of the game if you quit on yourself.


alright maybe you had some time, some feelings, and some money spent on the girl. and just like that it could all be gone. but seeing as how afterwards you still have time, you will still have the ability to connect to people, and you will have more money in the stash and also more money to make, things really wont be that bad. treat your life like its a business. you made it, you make the decisions, and you are in charge of getting the shyt to run smooth. men just need to take certain precautions and failsafes for their ship and be prepared.

to do that a man needs to understand that a woman doesnt validate you, you validate yourself. a man has to make himself, its not the woman who does that.

seeing as how you cant control someone all the time, then you definitely can not control how theyre going to feel about you. thats another thing about pua, and what many soft dudes fail to realize. you cant force someone to like who you are. they either do or they dont.

you can put on a welcoming, disarming face for a while, but if the person doesnt really know you and you had to manufacture a personality for them to like you, then theres no way it could last. another way to sink your ship is to build it on false pretenses and to think you can go far on a lie.

its one thing to work on your approaches, your confidence, and your conversation skills, and its another to swipe a template and use it for your whole game


finally, if you did build something genuine with your woman and it failed - then you just accept that. but remember that you kept it real. always look for the signs, but proceed to move on. realize you cant blame yourself for someone elses failures. men need to stop begging, stop crying like girls, and stop looking like theyre below these tramps out there who are just running game on them. get over that shyt and step past it. reward good behavior, and punish the bad. always be the adult in the situation. dont entertain any silly games and disrespect - youre in control of your ship, and you have to keep it that way

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

What's up family? I been missing for a while, but I'm back. I'll have a few new things to post soon.

wlc back..was wondering where you bounced to

 

[kevm3]

Let's speak on principles. Principles are those guiding rules for your life. One of the most important area to develop principles is in the area of friendship. Before you seriously start dealing with women, you need to develop your principles in regard to your friends. Here are a few rules in regards to friendship.

1) Never dismiss your friends for a woman
When you start dealing with a woman seriously, you can get to the point where you start distancing yourself from your friends and allowing yourself to be only in the presence of your woman. This is a HUGE mistake. I've had friends for 15 years or more. Can I say that about a woman? Now, when you get married, you become more busy and you have your family life to take care of, but even then, never completely neglect your friends. Who will you leave on if your woman ups and leaves you?

2) Never allow women to get in the way of you and your true blue potnas.
This is very important. You should never allow women to start putting bugs in your mind to start double crossing your potnas. If you see your friend's woman staring at you, don't look too long at her and don't allow her to cut herself into deep conversations with you. Basically, do not allow her to open doors to start interacting with you on a deeper level. Real friendships are valuable and rare and you do not want to lose them being a snake type of dude. I would say you are a sucker if you would give a million dollars for a shot of sex... but I would say you are a double sucker if you would give up a friend for some cut because real friendships are priceless. Know how to control your johnson.

3) Know how to pass a woman along
If you and your boy are out and both of you see a woman and you're really feeling her, but you see the woman is feeling your potna more, stay real, keep your emotions in cheque, realize that there will be tons more women that you will really like, and pass that woman his way like a football. Shortstopping the woman and trying to block her from getting to your friend is lame behavior. Send her his way, but on another token, never become that woman's little messenger. If she asks you about him, give your boy her number and let that be the end of that. Sometimes women will get real disrespectful if you are not careful and try to get you to go back and forth delivering messages to your boy. Don't fall into that role and always make sure a woman respects you. For example if she walks up to you and doesn't say hi or take the time to ask you about you but instead asks you, "How is your boy doing," tell her, "I know you got better manners than that. I'm not your messenger. You got his number so give him a ring."

4) Discuss these things with your potnas ahead of time
It's critical for everyone to have a firm understanding of these rules just in order to keep problems to a minimum. Women can and have destroyed several long-lasting friendships and in the end, a man has lost both his great friend and his woman by allowing a woman to introduce fraudulent behavior into the mix. You better snip these things in the bud before it happens.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

I like that. thats also a good interpretation, I see what youre saying in that eventually a lot of ships do sink, and taking that L in a relationship might be inevitable.

as you said, the ideal course to take would be to have an eye open and to see things ahead of time (look at the signs, look at the history, and mark the red flags), and then steer your ship away from disaster. or minimize the eventual impact. in other words, do not to attach your sense of self worth and your whole life into a bond with someone else.

men who tie their own value into their relationships tend to fall harder than the rest. its a sucker bet to take first of all, and its also a false confidence that theyre riding on. these are the kinds of men that feel like theyre only doing good because a woman is in the picture with them. they are the lost ones. they tend to force things and ignore the warning signs.

sure its bad to lose in a relationship, but men who fall apart from it are not seeing things clearly. you only really lose when you defeat yourself. and youre really only out of the game if you quit on yourself.


alright maybe you had some time, some feelings, and some money spent on the girl. and just like that it could all be gone. but seeing as how afterwards you still have time, you will still have the ability to connect to people, and you will have more money in the stash and also more money to make, things really wont be that bad. treat your life like its a business. you made it, you make the decisions, and you are in charge of getting the shyt to run smooth. men just need to take certain precautions and failsafes for their ship and be prepared.

to do that a man needs to understand that a woman doesnt validate you, you validate yourself. a man has to make himself, its not the woman who does that.

seeing as how you cant control someone all the time, then you definitely can not control how theyre going to feel about you. thats another thing about pua, and what many soft dudes fail to realize. you cant force someone to like who you are. they either do or they dont.

you can put on a welcoming, disarming face for a while, but if the person doesnt really know you and you had to manufacture a personality for them to like you, then theres no way it could last. another way to sink your ship is to build it on false pretenses and to think you can go far on a lie.

its one thing to work on your approaches, your confidence, and your conversation skills, and its another to swipe a template and use it for your whole game


finally, if you did build something genuine with your woman and it failed - then you just accept that. but remember that you kept it real. always look for the signs, but proceed to move on. realize you cant blame yourself for someone elses failures. men need to stop begging, stop crying like girls, and stop looking like theyre below these tramps out there who are just running game on them. get over that shyt and step past it. reward good behavior, and punish the bad. always be the adult in the situation. dont entertain any silly games and disrespect - youre in control of your ship, and you have to keep it that way

Quoted for the truth. You've made a damn good point especially with the last paragraph. Definitely taking this shyt to the grave.

 

[CrossBones]

Let's speak on principles. Principles are those guiding rules for your life. One of the most important area to develop principles is in the area of friendship. Before you seriously start dealing with women, you need to develop your principles in regard to your friends. Here are a few rules in regards to friendship.

1) Never dismiss your friends for a woman
When you start dealing with a woman seriously, you can get to the point where you start distancing yourself from your friends and allowing yourself to be only in the presence of your woman. This is a HUGE mistake. I've had friends for 15 years or more. Can I say that about a woman? Now, when you get married, you become more busy and you have your family life to take care of, but even then, never completely neglect your friends. Who will you leave on if your woman ups and leaves you?

2) Never allow women to get in the way of you and your true blue potnas.
This is very important. You should never allow women to start putting bugs in your mind to start double crossing your potnas. If you see your friend's woman staring at you, don't look too long at her and don't allow her to cut herself into deep conversations with you. Basically, do not allow her to open doors to start interacting with you on a deeper level. Real friendships are valuable and rare and you do not want to lose them being a snake type of dude. I would say you are a sucker if you would give a million dollars for a shot of sex... but I would say you are a double sucker if you would give up a friend for some cut because real friendships are priceless. Know how to control your johnson.

3) Know how to pass a woman along
If you and your boy are out and both of you see a woman and you're really feeling her, but you see the woman is feeling your potna more, stay real, keep your emotions in cheque, realize that there will be tons more women that you will really like, and pass that woman his way like a football. Shortstopping the woman and trying to block her from getting to your friend is lame behavior. Send her his way, but on another token, never become that woman's little messenger. If she asks you about him, give your boy her number and let that be the end of that. Sometimes women will get real disrespectful if you are not careful and try to get you to go back and forth delivering messages to your boy. Don't fall into that role and always make sure a woman respects you. For example if she walks up to you and doesn't say hi or take the time to ask you about you but instead asks you, "How is your boy doing," tell her, "I know you got better manners than that. I'm not your messenger. You got his number so give him a ring."

4) Discuss these things with your potnas ahead of time
It's critical for everyone to have a firm understanding of these rules just in order to keep problems to a minimum. Women can and have destroyed several long-lasting friendships and in the end, a man has lost both his great friend and his woman by allowing a woman to introduce fraudulent behavior into the mix. You better snip these things in the bud before it happens.

100. its good to see you back here dropping gems.

to add on, one of my principles, and actually is extremely important for me and my personal code is this: always be about your word.

men need to have their word mean something. it needs to resonate, and it needs to be taken seriously. its not just for others to look at and take you seriously, its for you to do the same with yourself. a man stays true and can show hes about his word. so when we you say we're gonna do something, then do it.

be all the way real with what you say to your folks. your word makes your character, so its not for you to play with. and if you establish your word just to make it look like it means something, then eventually it will show

this is why I dont fukk with fake people, and fake women. cut those out. I detest those who flake out a lot. when someone says theyre going to do something, and they dont, it looks bad. those with small petty excuses and afterwards tend to just disapear, show poor character. you cant trust them so dont. I dont take people very serious after they show me they like to just talk and not do



look, no ones perfect, but if someones going around lying, bragging, and making their word look like its only for play; then they will be taken for a joke. dont make promises you wont keep. and in a relationship, a woman will not accept that. you will get taken for.

when I say Im going to do something, I make sure I do everything I can to make it happen. I dont do excuses, and while there are times when maybe something couldnt happen and possibly plans fall through, you still have to make sure you put in a real good effort to show you were about it. you did what you could. put an honest effort into it. do whatever you can that is in your power, and if something doesnt work out, then just own up to it and accept it. but be genuine with your efforts, because it will show.

when you have your word mean something, its going to overpower all the other chatter. it will put you a league above the phonies. your closest friends and people will listen to you more. it elevates every interaction you will have. when you can back up your word, when you speak - it will always mean something to whoever you are talking to.

all you have in this world, is your balls and your word ...

 

[kevm3]

Keep your heart in your chest
- As men, it's a neverending conflict. We definitely have emotions but we're creatures that have to know how to keep them in our chest. As a man, we always have to maintain our dignity, composure and strength even when our emotions try to push us in the contrary direction. This is what makes the price of real manhood so high and is why it is so very eagerly sought out by women. A real man knows how to keep his emotions and thoughts under control. There are several times when you are feeling a certain way and just want to express your deepest thoughts and feelings to a woman, but knowing that if you do so, it will put you in an inferior position so you learn to keep it to yourself. That is something that is very difficult to do, but really distinguishes you as a man... Knowing when to keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself and knowing how to express them without coming off as weak. Remember, when you start showing weakness with a woman, that is when she will cast you asunder.

 

[sixsixtwo]

You go on Reddit? Ugh, shyt is the worst there.

Man, I'm on Reddit everyday.. I know..

On a brighter note, I want to give you mad props -- I see you dropping serious heat in this forum.. Not naming names but I've seen you go toe to toe with various manginas of which there are aplenty in TLR..

 

[kevm3]

I'm going to break you cats off another bar of this realism. When you go about choosing women, you have to pick amongst the ones that CHOOSE YOU FIRST. In other words, she's shown definite interest in you without you having to do anything to impress her. For the most part, a woman likes you without you even speaking to her. Once you've past the bar of the 'unspoken like,' then you must make sure you only increase her desire and not decrease it.

The KEY knowledge you need to have in your mind when dealing with women is her behavior matters most. She must treat you like the man that is above her. If not, you will always be frustrated with her, chasing her around, etc. A woman that is truly about you WILL find the way to make time for you. She WILL respond to you promptly. She will be respectful to you because she doesn't want to lose you.

Where a lot of guys lose is they want to choose the woman instead of having her choose him first. They go out and start to deal with some woman they like, but she doesn't necessarily like him. In that scenario, she has the advantage. You like her more than she likes you, and then you start working to get in her graces and try to make her like you. Just based off of that small information, how can you be considered the boss when you're the one doing the working? Like I said before, it requires emotional discipline. You will come across many women that you really like, but you have to learn to dismiss them if they don't really like you... otherwise you will put yourself in a losing position where you are trying to impress the woman and get in her graces... and you will end up never impressing her because women want BOSSES, not BUTLERS. When you start working for a woman, to impress her or start doing her all of these favors, when you become a common butler to her. You will never get the respect of a boss by doing such. Control your likes and refuse to deal with women that you like more than they like you. It's difficult, but once you get into a habit of doing it, it will save you a ton of trouble.

 

[sixsixtwo]

All Girls Are Spoiled Children

 

[Turbulent]

i don't know if y'all will agree with me on this but i made a post about Chris Brown's new single Fine China and i thought it kinda fits in here.

here's the song

yo, even the lyrics are fukking on point if you pay attention.

it's kind of like pimpish shyt disguised as tricking/simping

"when you're mine, i'll be generous"

"just act like you're my girl and let's skip the basics"

"you're irreplaceable, collectible just like fine china"

he's basically telling her he loves and treats her right because she's his thing. and he's saying he'll only be generous and treat her good if she's his (meaning if she submits), if she stops being his, he stops treating her good. at first when i heard irreplaceable i thought but he's actually saying she's irreplaceable collectible, meaning he has other chicks but she's irreplaceable like the crown jewel of his collection and THAT's why she's getting good treatment (like you would treat a #1 spider-man comic book in mint condition). he's not trying to earn her love. his love and affection is not needy. he already has her love and he's loving her back because she's that thing in his collection that stands out.

he's telling her all that but it's so smooth that she loves it. it has an illusion of simping but that,s a trojan horse to infiltrate her mind with pimpness. and that's why she loves it. Kudos to whoever wrote the lyrics

 

[Medio]

3) Know how to pass a woman along
If you and your boy are out and both of you see a woman and you're really feeling her, but you see the woman is feeling your potna more, stay real, keep your emotions in cheque, realize that there will be tons more women that you will really like, and pass that woman his way like a football. Shortstopping the woman and trying to block her from getting to your friend is lame behavior. Send her his way, but on another token, never become that woman's little messenger. If she asks you about him, give your boy her number and let that be the end of that. Sometimes women will get real disrespectful if you are not careful and try to get you to go back and forth delivering messages to your boy. Don't fall into that role and always make sure a woman respects you. For example if she walks up to you and doesn't say hi or take the time to ask you about you but instead asks you, "How is your boy doing," tell her, "I know you got better manners than that. I'm not your messenger. You got his number so give him a ring."
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Yea yo,

One time me and my college friends met up in the city for a night out, we went to the bar first then the club after. One of my college friends who is a chick brought her friend along, who is a chick, this girl was soo bad, smart latina chick, sexy as hell. She was kind of the like the 3rd wheel of the group because she was the only one who didn't go to our school so I thought it'd be a good time to talk to her, so basically i was chatting her up at the bar and shyt, then we go to the club and we were dancing and chilling whatever, mind you everyone in my group is aware of what's going on. so then my boy who is like my brother who was trying to hook up with some other girl in our group at the bar, the girl i'm with seen him try to hook up with her and he was also dating some girl, anyways this dude is decided to try to @ holla the chick I was with the whole night, im like wtf my dude, so then i go to the bathroom and he's in there also and he's like 'its on for her', i'm like wtf? ya lame. (theres madd girls in this club, he's talking to girls already and he just happens to NEED this girl i'm trying to get at).. so anyways i leave this chick for a little for some reason and then i go back to try to get her number or go somewhere with her or whatever and she left because my boy was coming on too strong. smh.. yea nikkas just gotta know to pass a women along. all my other friends knew i was trying to get some but he was just trying to be on some next i have to have every girl shyt.