Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Kartel13]

Man, I remember when I first got on POF 2 years ago, I was eating left and right. I had 1 hoe after the other. Ended up dating one for a few months before I cut it off because it didn't work. After that little run, POF has never been the same for me so I deaded my account. Tried Okcupid but that never went anywhere aside for a few responses.

I eventually got on Match and had some success. I just got on it with a living social deal and got a few bites but nothing major. Gonna chill on the online dating scene and just do other activities.

One thing i learned is that blacks have it bad out here. On match, I rarely see "African American" as a preferred ethnicity. The ones that do, are the girls I have most success because I'm a dark skinned Latino.

 

[Kartel13]

I can help breh
No Homo

What are your interests your hobbies?

Honestly it's easy to eat off dating sites, have a decent written profile a couple decent pics and write a generic message and you'll be fine.

I've probably met like 25 girls online in the past 4 years.

Because your so busy etc the best thing is to create a dating profile and I'll help you construct what to write in there

The thing about being a male is that chicks ain't making the first move or hitting on you.

In all my life only one woman has ever approached me in real life, and if your shy and a introvert you get frustrated



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Breh, real talk, I never got the entire story on what happened to you with your ex. All I know is that she cheated on you with your ex as you 2 were set to get married. What happened after that? Did you just dead it or did you try to work things out?

 

[MikelArteta]

Im at work now but I have a pretty good profile with some decent pics. I just think that its harder because im the minority in my area and I dont know how to write a message. I also have SA which has gotten way better these last couple years.

Well its prob how your writing your profile.
Paste what you wrote in your description.



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[MikelArteta]

Breh, real talk, I never got the entire story on what happened to you with your ex. All I know is that she cheated on you with your ex as you 2 were set to get married. What happened after that? Did you just dead it or did you try to work things out?

She didn't cheat that was another broad


The story is somewhere in this thread lemme see if I can find it

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[T-K-G]

Brehs, I know that this is going off the current subject but I need some advice.

For the last year and a half, I been working on myself with improving my confidence, social and leadership skills. I have joined my company's Toastmasters club, taking on more of a leadership role with my team at work, change my workout rountine and most importanely, improve my social skills with women. But for some reason, everytime I chatting or kicking it up with a female, I keep getting the nice/good guy label.

It doesn't matter how much flirting, trash or sweet talking that I do, it seem that these women can just sense it in me and toss me to the side. For example, when I went out to the bar last night, this chic that is a regular there was wasted and her "ride" was with her dude. I told her that I would take her home if needed and she said "I know you would, you are a good guy " Also, this chic that I was chatting it up with outside, told her girl that she should hook up with me because I seem like a good guy. Plus with the fact that when I had my date last week and even she said that I was a nice guy. What do I got to do to get these chics to see me as a legit option? Do I need to whip it out, smack them on the ass or talk dirty from the get go (sarcarism)? I not trying to look for wifely or a relationship right now, but a brother wanted to be taken seriously by these females. Any tips on how to approach women w/o looking like a nice/simpish/thirsty fool would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

im just blunt with females with it comes to everything and that seems to work just talk to em the same way you would your nikkas dont try to be polite just because they're female

i dont think they want to be treated nice for no reason, it's like they subconsciously want to "earn" it from you if that makes sense

 

[MikelArteta]

the story of a simp

this was like 2007, my former friend the ones who party i met my ex fiance got engaged and married we were both in the wedding and right after then a few weeks later my gf at the time we were dating for like 3 years told me how she doesn't want to wait till she finishes school for marriage anymore . Before this we decided once i finished law school and once she finished school ( she wanted to be a professor at a university (im pretty sure she is now as she was at the top of her class ). So yeah me as a simp put aside my dreams at that time, dropped out of law school got a job (where i work now), bought the engagement ring went down on one knee and asked her to be my wife.

Was I ready ? nope

i was a pussified male who was scared of maybe I would lose her,, 6 months before the wedding date, i find out from my former friend the same one who introduced us, how my fiance had a abortion because she wasn';t ready for a kid at that moment, so yeah i dropped out of law school and this cyunt couldn't just put aside her career goals for little while instead killing my seed wipes tear

I tried to forgive but i couldn't the trust was gone, went to counseling and all that, but she had no remorse a cold hearted russian, so I ended it, i finally grew balls and ended it.

anyways that was 4 years ago

Since then I've become a scholar in the game of relationships and how women think. I stay a step ahead and im no longer that weak emasculated man, yeah my heart got carved out stomped on and thrown in the garbage but it made me a man, it changed my whole thinking and process on life, my dealings with everyone. It's like i had tommy john surgery on my whole insides no homo as i came back stronger, wiser, faster

Here it is


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[kevm3]

One of the quickest ways to turn the tables on your current situation is to improve your dressing style. Dressing fly won't necessarily get you a girlfriend, but it will get you a lot more attention. When you start hearing women tell you things like you are very handsome by pretty women, like it or not, it will improve your self-esteem. Now I would never base my self esteem around the approval of women but it is nice knowing that your efforts are recognized.

If you keep getting the 'you're a nice guy spiel', what are the usual subjects of your conversation? How does a conversation go for you?

 

[MikelArteta]

Man, I remember when I first got on POF 2 years ago, I was eating left and right. I had 1 hoe after the other. Ended up dating one for a few months before I cut it off because it didn't work. After that little run, POF has never been the same for me so I deaded my account. Tried Okcupid but that never went anywhere aside for a few responses.

I eventually got on Match and had some success. I just got on it with a living social deal and got a few bites but nothing major. Gonna chill on the online dating scene and just do other activities.

One thing i learned is that blacks have it bad out here. On match, I rarely see "African American" as a preferred ethnicity. The ones that do, are the girls I have most success because I'm a dark skinned Latino.

It's not just black males but males in geberal

There are like ten males for every female in most cities



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[MikelArteta]

I've recommend this book
No more Mr nice guy

Googl and there is a free pdf

http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/97642.No_More_Mr_Nice_Guy

One quick way to change on the fly
Do the opposite of what your doing now

Buying her dinner stop


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[Kenny West]

Brehs, I know that this is going off the current subject but I need some advice.

For the last year and a half, I been working on myself with improving my confidence, social and leadership skills. I have joined my company's Toastmasters club, taking on more of a leadership role with my team at work, change my workout rountine and most importanely, improve my social skills with women. But for some reason, everytime I chatting or kicking it up with a female, I keep getting the nice/good guy label.

It doesn't matter how much flirting, trash or sweet talking that I do, it seem that these women can just sense it in me and toss me to the side. For example, when I went out to the bar last night, this chic that is a regular there was wasted and her "ride" was with her dude. I told her that I would take her home if needed and she said "I know you would, you are a good guy " Also, this chic that I was chatting it up with outside, told her girl that she should hook up with me because I seem like a good guy. Plus with the fact that when I had my date last week and even she said that I was a nice guy. What do I got to do to get these chics to see me as a legit option? Do I need to whip it out, smack them on the ass or talk dirty from the get go (sarcarism)? I not trying to look for wifely or a relationship right now, but a brother wanted to be taken seriously by these females. Any tips on how to approach women w/o looking like a nice/simpish/thirsty fool would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

Approach women with the personal of yourself as someone who enjoys female company for nothing less than your amusement (similar to how they view simp men)

There isn't a whole lot of detail on the encounter in your post, but if it came to the point where she said "I know you would, you are a good guy" then you probably subcommunicated nice guy aura long before that point. You we're probably (unconsciously) supplicating to her anyway.

The bolded is the only giveaway I have toward that conclusion. If she didn't ask, the fukk you volunteer yourself for? Even if you were just trying to put your bid in, you gotta do it in a more dominant and subtle fashion. "I'll give u a ride if u need me to" bruh you just volunteered yourself to be her fallback option.

If she was wasted and she didn't include u in any plan then she wasn't into you. When a chick is drunk and into you she's = :inlove::inlove: If she isn't moved by you and drunk she may just toy with you or be to your existence. If she's drunk and sure of your simp status she will be toward you.

even if you didn't say anything outright, little things can emit simp waves from your body. like if she hand you her drink or purse real fast and you unconsciously hold that shyt out of reflex....every second your holding it is like your lifebar slowly draining in a video game. You may think nothing of it, but it means something to women.

I'd recommend acting slowly. if you from the south this should be easy. walk slow. talk slowly and most of all REACT slowly. when you're moving at your own slower pace you give yourself ample time to think and keep yourself from being sucked into someone else's pace

 

[Kartel13]

Here it is


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Damn She killed your seed. Were you ready to be a father? I always wondered if my last girl did the same thing.

My homegirl did that to her ex who was a crazy psycho. Dude tried to get her knocked up and eventually did. She ended it with him and found out a few months that she was prego. She deaded it and never told anyone aside from me and a few others.

 

[International Playa]

IFML: Fix My Love Life - Video Dailymotion

Iyanla done an interesting episode on relationships,mostly about female insecurities.The last segment, men and women ask each other things about the opposite sex they would like to know, it was interesting.

 

[Brandeezy]

Thanks for the advice brehs but i forgot to mention that I don't drive (i have a fear of driving) & im below average height (5'5"-5'6")

 

[Kartel13]

Thanks for the advice brehs but i forgot to mention that I don't drive (i have a fear of driving) & im below average height (5'5"-5'6")

 

[kevm3]

Thanks for the advice brehs but i forgot to mention that I don't drive (i have a fear of driving) & im below average height (5'5"-5'6")

Real talk bruh, you got to stand up and face your fears. That's one of the keys of manhood. If you got a fear of driving, have someone go with you at night in a somewhat secluded part so you don't have to worry about traffic and get the hang of the vehicle.

The height part isn't a huge deal either, because I have a potna about the same height as you and women loved him. More than anything, today is your invitation to start the process of stepping it up and being a better man today than you were yesterday. The more you engage in this process, the better off you will be, and as a side benefit, you will attract more attention from women... but more important than dealing with women is handling the critical issues that are in your way as a man.