Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The_King_of_Everything]

this, plus, take the ex out of the equation, you never want to get back together with an ex.

as far as the rest of them goes

The Bottom bytch Theory - YouTube

I don't know if any of these girls are bottom bytches that seems like a hood booger attribute.


And as far as the ex then goes its my fault why we broke up so.... Idk

 

[karim]

I don't know if any of these girls are bottom bytches that seems like a hood booger attribute.


And as far as the ex then goes its my fault why we broke up so.... Idk

you want her to have the qualities of a bottom bytch, even if you call her something else.

there are two approaches to this. either you take the romantic "when you know you know" approach, which means none of them qualify, because otherwise you would know.

the other approach is you select a woman based on specific qualities you are looking for. this is where the bottom bytch comes into play. basically, you want a woman you can rely on and who has your back no matter what.

 

[Reindeer of the Roc]

My old heads used to always tell me to get with a woman who loves you more than you love her.

When I was younger I never understood it because most of the girls who was feeling me more than I was feeling them, I wasn't attracted to them or there was no connection.

Maybe, it's because as men we love the chase, the challenge. We like to have the girl that everybody wants that none of them can get. And we get this girl, thinking she is the prize because of all the attention surrouding her. But in reality, we've dated a girl that chose us. We didn't choose her. She has all the options. We put in more effort to get her. She probably didn't put in any effort. Each and everyday we're thinking of ways to please her and make her happy, but is she really reciprocating? Probably not, because she doesn't have to. And if we fall short of her expectations, she will leave us and move on to her other options. Why do we put ourselves in these situations? We end up all anger and bitter because we feel like we wasted and invested all this time in her and got nothing to show for it. Whereas, she invested very little if anything. And even if she did like you, or even love you, she knew she had you wrapped around her finger and that you weren't going anywhere.

She didn't have to do anything for you, and it was okay. Sure, you would get mad and acknowledge that you're being taken advantage of, but if you spoke up about it, she would check you and possibly break up with you. It's a tiring process to keep thinking about ways to make or keep somebody happy. But this is inevitable when you date somebody who you love more than they love you.

Now, imagine a woman who just genuinely enjoys being with you. You don't have to do anything special, and she still enjoys your company. She finds everything about you cool, sophisticated, and sexy. She admires you. She's so into you and hangs onto your every word. She's loyal to you because she is decisive about where she wants to be. There are no unrealistic expectations. Now who wouldn't want a relationship like this? Now here's the kicker. I guarantee we all know a girl like this. But we didn't want her. And it's cool.... Maybe she's not attractive, maybe shes not your type. You can't really dwell on the past, but you can reflect.

There's more longterm value and the possibility of loyalty from a woman who is into you for who you are, not who you present yourself to be or what you can do for her. I appreciate women with a genuine interest in me. Now, I wouldn't force attraction because that's a recipe for disaster. But sometimes it's not about what you want, but what you need. If there's a mutual attraction and she treats me good, I'm going to go with the flow. But never again will I invest a woman who feels like I'm merely an option.

Brilliant.

 

[Medio]

Brehs,

I used to be a nice guy, like I was pretty nice to girls and not want to offend them in anyway. I'd get no play from it whatsoever. Recently, over the last year or two i've became less nice, but not exactly a bad boy. This has paid off somewhat, I do get more play and girls find me more attractive but the sad part is I realized i'm still too nice because after a while girls tend to fade from me and I realized it's because i'm being too nice and not bad enough, being too available, things like that. So now I realize I have to take it up another level, which is things like saying no more, not texting back, just basically keeping mystery, borderline not giving a fukk but still keeping interest. I feel I can do this. I feel bad for guys who are forever stuck in the too nice zone and never realize this, and it's pretty sad.

 

[Turbulent]

Brehs,

I used to be a nice guy, like I was pretty nice to girls and not want to offend them in anyway. I'd get no play from it whatsoever. Recently, over the last year or two i've became less nice, but not exactly a bad boy. This has paid off somewhat, I do get more play and girls find me more attractive but the sad part is I realized i'm still too nice because after a while girls tend to fade from me and I realized it's because i'm being too nice and not bad enough, being too available, things like that. So now I realize I have to take it up another level, which is things like saying no more, not texting back, just basically keeping mystery, borderline not giving a fukk but still keeping interest. I feel I can do this. I feel bad for guys who are forever stuck in the too nice zone and never realize this, and it's pretty sad.

you don't have to take it to another level. be who you want to naturally be and let it evolve organically. don't try to force it. Cause if you purposely try to be tougher for a girl, you're still following a girl's lead. Don't change to get more women. Change for you.

 

[The_King_of_Everything]

this, plus, take the ex out of the equation, you never want to get back together with an ex.

as far as the rest of them goes

The Bottom bytch Theory - YouTube

you want her to have the qualities of a bottom bytch, even if you call her something else.

there are two approaches to this. either you take the romantic "when you know you know" approach, which means none of them qualify, because otherwise you would know.

the other approach is you select a woman based on specific qualities you are looking for. this is where the bottom bytch comes into play. basically, you want a woman you can rely on and who has your back no matter what.

Well if that's the case I can take two of the list.

 

[Sharp]

Brehs,

I used to be a nice guy, like I was pretty nice to girls and not want to offend them in anyway. I'd get no play from it whatsoever. Recently, over the last year or two i've became less nice, but not exactly a bad boy. This has paid off somewhat, I do get more play and girls find me more attractive but the sad part is I realized i'm still too nice because after a while girls tend to fade from me and I realized it's because i'm being too nice and not bad enough, being too available, things like that. So now I realize I have to take it up another level, which is things like saying no more, not texting back, just basically keeping mystery, borderline not giving a fukk but still keeping interest. I feel I can do this. I feel bad for guys who are forever stuck in the too nice zone and never realize this, and it's pretty sad.

You always want to be authentic

Rule of thumb: If you have to constantly think about to how to behave or react to a certain situation, then you're not being authentic.

The key is to be yourself. If you like the changes you've made, then that's cool. But if you're changing to attract women, then you're going to be miserable because you're putting up a facade. You'll never be able to express your true feelings and be who you really are if you do this.

Be yourself, but have standards. Things that you won't tolerate from a woman should be black and white. If a woman texts you and you want to text her back immediately, then do so. You shouldn't use your behavior to dictate or influence hers. Let that woman be who she truly is, and that way you can find out if she's really into you and what she's about.

Better yourself for you and only make changes that are natural, not contrived. It all goes back to attracting woman who genuinely have interest in you, and the only way you can do that is by being yourself and being comfortable with yourself in the process.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

chick i been trying to get with for the last few months,..shes been playing games and staying fickle

so finally put the brakes on her now shes blowing my text

 

[CrossBones]

I remember when a girl I was seeing hit me with the surprise one two combo in her talk, where shes asking you some dumb question, but she really wanted you to answer another one. like you can tell this was some shyt out of cosmo or something.

thats what I get for dating a young thing who was still a little immature.



she says: "If you could change one thing about me, what would it be?"

I thought for a second, knowing its a trap. I said "Id make it so youre not lactose intolerant. you could have all the cheese and milk youd want. you could enjoy all that stuff like you said you want to."

she says "what?! so THATS what you dont like about me?"



I said "thats not even the same question. I was helping you out. why dont you just ask me what you want to know in the first place. anyways, Im not playing this game."

which is what I should have said in the first place.

I shouldnt even have played. that was a rookie mistake. you try to talk your way in and out of some stupid, emotional ass non logical question, and theres no good way to do that.

when you get hit with that surprise talk, that dumb question time, or those silly games, dont even play. dont even TRY to make her happy or dance to that song. just avoid it. say youre not playing along and you dont even want to discuss it. youll be happier, and youll avoid having a conversation which isnt worth your time.

 

[Turbulent]

I remember when a girl I was seeing hit me with the surprise one two combo in her talk, where shes asking you some dumb question, but she really wanted you to answer another one. like you can tell this was some shyt out of cosmo or something.

thats what I get for dating a young thing who was still a little immature.



she says: "If you could change one thing about me, what would it be?"

I thought for a second, knowing its a trap. I said "Id make it so youre not lactose intolerant. you could have all the cheese and milk youd want. you could enjoy all that stuff like you said you want to."

she says "what?! so THATS what you dont like about me?"



I said "thats not even the same question. I was helping you out. why dont you just ask me what you want to know in the first place. anyways, Im not playing this game."

which is what I should have said in the first place.

I shouldnt even have played. that was a rookie mistake. you try to talk your way in and out of some stupid, emotional ass non logical question, and theres no good way to do that.

when you get hit with that surprise talk, that dumb question time, or those silly games, dont even play. dont even TRY to make her happy or dance to that song. just avoid it. say youre not playing along and you dont even want to discuss it. youll be happier, and youll avoid having a conversation which isnt worth your time.

i actually enjoy playing their silly games sometimes. I get a wicked pleasure out of showing them how illogical their whole thing is and then showing them their guilt tripping won't work on me.

the trick is to call their bluff 10 times out of 10 and to never bluff yourself. when im chick tries to start a BS fight, stand your ground no matter what if you're right. No matter how silly it is, you have to show her she can't manipulate it in her favor. Logic > her feelings. And if she tries to make it bigger or tries to leave you over it, let her leave.

 

[CrossBones]

i actually enjoy playing their silly games sometimes. I get a wicked pleasure out of showing them how illogical their whole thing is and then showing them their guilt tripping won't work on me.

the trick is to call their bluff 10 times out of 10 and to never bluff yourself. when im chick tries to start a BS fight, stand your ground no matter what if you're right. No matter how silly it is, you have to show her she can't manipulate it in her favor. Logic > her feelings. And if she tries to make it bigger or tries to leave you over it, let her leave.

this girl wasnt going to leave me, I knew that. but it became this back and forth where I have to explain how dumb she sounds ... and sometimes Im not even in the mood. I think if that were to happen to me today Id just look at her like and ignore it.



but youre right that when you show logic, and dont get caught in her emotions, you have the opportunity to open up her eyes and she'll see where she took a mistep. see why its not a good idea to come at someone with those silly things. I mean, sometimes that can be a good thing. sometimes its just

 

[MAKAVELI25]

I remember when a girl I was seeing hit me with the surprise one two combo in her talk, where shes asking you some dumb question, but she really wanted you to answer another one. like you can tell this was some shyt out of cosmo or something.

thats what I get for dating a young thing who was still a little immature.



she says: "If you could change one thing about me, what would it be?"

I thought for a second, knowing its a trap. I said "Id make it so youre not lactose intolerant. you could have all the cheese and milk youd want. you could enjoy all that stuff like you said you want to."

she says "what?! so THATS what you dont like about me?"



I said "thats not even the same question. I was helping you out. why dont you just ask me what you want to know in the first place. anyways, Im not playing this game."

which is what I should have said in the first place.

I shouldnt even have played. that was a rookie mistake. you try to talk your way in and out of some stupid, emotional ass non logical question, and theres no good way to do that.

when you get hit with that surprise talk, that dumb question time, or those silly games, dont even play. dont even TRY to make her happy or dance to that song. just avoid it. say youre not playing along and you dont even want to discuss it. youll be happier, and youll avoid having a conversation which isnt worth your time.

i actually enjoy playing their silly games sometimes. I get a wicked pleasure out of showing them how illogical their whole thing is and then showing them their guilt tripping won't work on me.

the trick is to call their bluff 10 times out of 10 and to never bluff yourself. when im chick tries to start a BS fight, stand your ground no matter what if you're right. No matter how silly it is, you have to show her she can't manipulate it in her favor. Logic > her feelings. And if she tries to make it bigger or tries to leave you over it, let her leave.

I'm not sure if this is what @Turbulent is hinting at, but I'da hit her with the ether right there

:p: What would you change about me?

That face of yours...I mean. Nice ass, Nice body, but the grill

Either she'll realize you're joking or she'll flip out. Either way

As long as I thought it was funny. F*ck I look like playing along with her dumb a*s games?

 

[kevm3]

when them women ask them questions like that, don't answer seriously. take that as an opportunity to bust something humorous on her. you answer those questions directly and she'll get mad, so flip it into something ridiculous

what don't you like about me?
"That you ask me all these crazy questions. gone somewhere magnum pi"

what would you change about me?
"instead of you being an interrogator and asking me all these questions, you'd be a chef and go make me something to eat"

 

[Turbulent]

I'm not sure if this is what @Turbulent is hinting at, but I'da hit her with the ether right there

:p: What would you change about me?

That face of yours...I mean. Nice ass, Nice body, but the grill

Either she'll realize you're joking or she'll flip out. Either way

As long as I thought it was funny. F*ck I look like playing along with her dumb a*s games?

lol, either that or i'd have told her "the fact that you ask silly questions expecting me to answer "baby, i wouldn't change a thing, i love you just the way you are..."

or maybe just say something i genuinely don't like about her and if she gets mad, stand my ground and make her realize that if she doesn't want to get her feelings hurt, maybe she shouldn't put herself in that type of position.



Patrice breaks down that exact type of situation in this O&A clip.

 

[Medio]

You always want to be authentic

Rule of thumb: If you have to constantly think about to how to behave or react to a certain situation, then you're not being authentic.

The key is to be yourself. If you like the changes you've made, then that's cool. But if you're changing to attract women, then you're going to be miserable because you're putting up a facade. You'll never be able to express your true feelings and be who you really are if you do this.

Be yourself, but have standards. Things that you won't tolerate from a woman should be black and white. If a woman texts you and you want to text her back immediately, then do so. You shouldn't use your behavior to dictate or influence hers. Let that woman be who she truly is, and that way you can find out if she's really into you and what she's about.

Better yourself for you and only make changes that are natural, not contrived. It all goes back to attracting woman who genuinely have interest in you, and the only way you can do that is by being yourself and being comfortable with yourself in the process.

So what you're saying is if your a nice guy then be a nice guy because that's who you truly are and you shouldn't change yourself. These are the type of guys who get no play and remain lonely their whole life. nah I don't buy that, i'm not tryna live that lifestyle.

how can you 'make' changes that are natural, that's an oxymoron that makes no sense.
I believe you can be yourself but make changes