Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Damn bruhs I'm feeling like a dirtbag...

Been with my girl like 6 years, never cheated ( got a little head, Common said they ain't really cheating), haven't had sex with another girl.

This chick I met out randomly on some friendly shyt been sending my pictures and shyt now talking about she'll give me one weekend to do whatever I want to her , one time deal. :wow:

I'm strong bruh, but I don't know if I can turn that down.

“When God wants to bless you, He sends a person in your life. When the devil wants to destroy you, he sends a person in your life”

Need to cut that out, because ask yourself is it worth it.

Let's say you fall and do the deed, what if she contacts your girl? what if she has a disease, what if she gets pregnant, what if you become so attached it becomes more than one time. The worst thing you can do is even take the slight chance of messing it up with a good woman, you'll be regretting it for the rest of your life.

FLip the roles, what if your chick right now was getting dikk pictures in her phone, and a dude getting all hot and warm with his words, and she went ahead and did it how would you feel?

Only you can make the decision though breh :sas1:
 

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Lets not forget the GOAT patrice oneal :patrice:
Yo. I had to rep you for the Patrice Oneal Reference.

I was in the car last weekend on a road trip listening to Mr. P. He dropped a lot of gems in that stand up session especially the part about jobs and the chick in the mailroom. :lolbron:
 

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man you see us talking about how these women get down out here. If you willing to toss a solid woman way to play around, you're going to regret it. Easy women will always be around, but that woman you can start a family with won't.
 

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man you see us talking about how these women get down out here. If you willing to toss a solid woman way to play around, you're going to regret it. Easy women will always be around, but that woman you can start a family with won't.

And things always have a way of being found out. I keep telling brehs how the wrong women can attempt to destroy your life hell I'm a living testament to that.

And I forgot to add, if you are considering this and your not even married yet are you sure you should be getting married to her? what's going to happen when your married and have a kid, and sex ceases, maybe you need to hit up some marriage counselling because marriage doesn't fix issues, the longer you go with her like this the more inclined you will be to step out at one point.
 

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And things always have a way of being found out. I keep telling brehs how the wrong women can attempt to destroy your life hell I'm a living testament to that.

And I forgot to add, if you are considering this and your not even married yet are you sure you should be getting married to her? what's going to happen when your married and have a kid, and sex ceases, maybe you need to hit up some marriage counselling because marriage doesn't fix issues, the longer you go with her like this the more inclined you will be to step out at one point.
Tomassi has a good theory on why Marriage counseling doesn't work and I tend to agree. I won't spoil it for those who haven't read the book but it coincides with your message that there is a reason why women file for divorce 80% of the time.

I believe it is somewhere along the lines of this:

Once its gone, its gone. Counseling doesn't help because attraction isn't negotiated or a compromise, its spontaneous.
 

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Tomassi has a good theory on why Marriage counseling doesn't work and I tend to agree. I won't spoil it for those who haven't read the book but it coincides with your message that there is a reason why women file for divorce 80% of the time.

I believe it is somewhere along the lines of this:

Once its gone, its gone. Counseling doesn't help because attraction isn't negotiated or a compromise, its spontaneous.

thats after the fact, i meant pre marital counselling my bad.

not marriage counselling sorry about the error
 

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In this society, there's a lot more bad ones being born when it comes to marriage than decent, so if you want to throw a hundred dollar bill away to go picking up pennies, then you'll regret it later.

I think what these books do is provide the readers with tools to weed out the pennies so they can seek the 100 dollar bills. Sometimes you have to collect pennies to get to the bill.
 

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I think what these books do is provide the readers with tools to weed out the pennies so they can seek the 100 dollar bills. Sometimes you have to collect pennies to get to the bill.

This brotha already said he had a woman he's been with for numerous years. This woman he's talking to now that will give him a weekend to 'do anything'... what can she realistically do for him under than give him sex? She already knows he has a man, so why would you want to wife up a woman that's fine with being your sidepiece or trying to steal you from your current woman? Women like that are trouble.
 

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thats after the fact, i meant pre marital counselling my bad.

not marriage counselling sorry about the error

Yeah for sure. One thing that confuses me and maybe other books discuss is how can the authors on one hand preach that actions speak volumes and that we should always watch what they do and not what they say, and then on another hand go to pre/post marriage counseling?
 

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In this society, there's a lot more bad ones being born when it comes to marriage than decent, so if you want to throw a hundred dollar bill away to go picking up pennies, then you'll regret it later.

I agree, especailly in this day of the hook up generation, finding a good woman grounded that is loyal and faithful is RARE
 
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