Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Marriage counseling doesn't work more times than not because a woman's decision-making is often based upon emotions, and when she has 'checked-out' emotionally, you can't logically attempt to convince her to stay. She's more likely emotionally tethered to another man, and while she may be with you in body for a couple more months, mentally, and emotionally, she is elsewhere. You'll just get that cold husk of a woman while she's finding a way to get out.
 

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Yeah for sure. One thing that confuses me and maybe other books discuss is how can the authors on one hand preach that actions speak volumes and that we should always watch what they do and not what they say, and then on another hand go to pre/post marriage counseling?

pre marriage counseling is great, because an array of issues that you may not have asked are brought up, without it feeling weird you asking it.

I've sat in on a session before and the questions asked like "say you find out your child is down syndrome would you abort the pregnancy"

deep questiosn you wouldn't really think about asking someone but could come up
 

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I agree, especailly in this day of the hook up generation, finding a good woman grounded that is loyal and faithful is RARE

Exactly, and once you 'cross that line' and introduce cheating into the equation, if you get caught, it's never going to be the same. Shes either going to be distant or going to attempt to pay you back with some infidelity of her own. Never reward loyalty with disloyalty. If you have a down-for-you woman, don't punish her by rewarding these scandalous women.
 

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This brotha already said he had a woman he's been with for numerous years. This woman he's talking to now that will give him a weekend to 'do anything'... what can she realistically do for him under than give him sex? She already knows he has a man, so why would you want to wife up a woman that's fine with being your sidepiece or trying to steal you from your current woman? Women like that are trouble.
Im not sure how something like that would work as I would advise against dealing with such situations, especially those with many complex layers that are more negative than positive.

That scenario deals with risk that I cannot calculate.
 

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Marriage counseling doesn't work more times than not because a woman's decision-making is often based upon emotions, and when she has 'checked-out' emotionally, you can't logically attempt to convince her to stay. She's more likely emotionally tethered to another man, and while she may be with you in body for a couple more months, mentally, and emotionally, she is elsewhere. You'll just get that cold husk of a woman while she's finding a way to get out.

yeah I don't believe in marriage counseling, I mean't pre marriage counseling. After the fact is useless, because like you said she's checked out emotionally and once a woman has lost attraction or no longer feels anything for her husband etc. its done its over,
 

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pre marriage counseling is great, because an array of issues that you may not have asked are brought up, without it feeling weird you asking it.

I've sat in on a session before and the questions asked like "say you find out your child is down syndrome would you abort the pregnancy"

deep questiosn you wouldn't really think about asking someone but could come up

Right. I believe that is true. Perhaps I am stating my question wrong. What I mean is how do you know a woman is being truthful in the counseling session. If we are to believe their actions and not their words.
 

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Right. I believe that is true. Perhaps I am stating my question wrong. What I mean is how do you know a woman is being truthful in the counseling session. If we are to believe their actions and not their words.

who knows :manny:, can just hope.
Some are one on one sessions etc.

All I know if I'm getting married I'm taking every step possible, pre marital counselling, making sure i'm 100% ok with her past, testing her in different scenarios, i aint going to be the scmhuck again, nor the dude finding dirty text messages in her phone as she contemplates to allow a breh to beat it up one time.
 

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who knows :manny:, can just hope.
Some are one on one sessions etc.

All I know if I'm getting married I'm taking every step possible, pre marital counselling, making sure i'm 100% ok with her past, testing her in different scenarios, i aint going to be the scmhuck again, nor the dude finding dirty text messages in her phone as she contemplates to allow a breh to beat it up one time.
Props. Better safe than sorry.
 

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“When God wants to bless you, He sends a person in your life. When the devil wants to destroy you, he sends a person in your life”

Need to cut that out, because ask yourself is it worth it.

Let's say you fall and do the deed, what if she contacts your girl? what if she has a disease, what if she gets pregnant, what if you become so attached it becomes more than one time. The worst thing you can do is even take the slight chance of messing it up with a good woman, you'll be regretting it for the rest of your life.

FLip the roles, what if your chick right now was getting dikk pictures in her phone, and a dude getting all hot and warm with his words, and she went ahead and did it how would you feel?

Only you can make the decision though breh :sas1:
Thanks bruh needed to hear that

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Didn't someone say once p*ssy has been the downfall of great men and cities in history. shyt can blind you sometimes.
 

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Thanks bruh needed to hear that

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Didn't someone say once p*ssy has been the downfall of great men and cities in history. shyt can blind you sometimes.

"puzzy remains undefeated"

and yep it has brought down many men, I'm telling you breh as a man who has been gutted, cheated on etc., if you got something good don't mess it up or even take the chance of getting caught and messing it up.

It's like having an a plus in your class then for the final exam thats only worth 5% you decide to cheat get caught and get kicked out of the school, it ain't worth it breh.

5, 10, 15 minutes of pleasure could cost you a lifetime of a great woman. I know its hard to not give into desires but hell you could lose everything
 

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Ah relaxing on the sofa one day watching TV, a trailer for a new movie that will be out in a few weeks comes on. Wow the battle scenes they look so beautiful and look at the colors oh my gosh how glorious.

The release date finally approaches and out of curiosity the decision to read a few reviews pops up. Shockingly the film is getting panned across the board as a meaningless film shot beautifully but no plot and negative connotations. The desiribaility to see the film has waned tremendously and the decision has been made not to waste money or time to see it anymore.

Is it not amazing for a two hour movie that caught the eye of many with a short beautiful trailer people will do their research before they commit.

However, in terms of dating or even entering a relationship if the person is “hot, sexy, beautiful, rich” they will disregard everything else. The first thing you see in someone is a trailer that just shows only the good portions, the beauty, things that entice and attempt to reel you in. The trailer can be amazing but the movie utter horse manure, just like in life it is up to you to do the research and decide whether to waste your time and commitment.

I can't stop writing breha :mjcry::mjlol:
 
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