Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

The word of God is true knowledge, people really need to read the scriptures more. A man should always be a confident leader because a society with weak men is a weak society in general. More of us need to stop trying to be "nice guys" and learn how to be good men.

i posted up bible verses before, even if you are not a christian the bible offers guidelines how to get a virtuous women, how not to mes with a bad woman etc., that good virtuous women are precious as rubies

it also shows you the downfall of men who messed with bad women, king ahab, samson etc.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Yeah the whole telling a woman your secrets thing is a no-no. I been in relationships where I told females everything and guess what? When the arguments came,she threw it back in my face.This is why I keep a poker face,with a chess player's mentality.When a female ask you questions always think it out.See women remember what they want to remember.If you tell them gossip or a deep down secret,they will remember that. When it is something simple like leaving their shoes over at your house they choose to ignore it.You got to always be a step ahead of her,,,thats what us men are...we are leaders.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Let me share a quick personal story. I was in a relationship with a woman when I was younger. I use to have a quick temper and would occasionally slip with a curse word every now and then.(Yea it was bad but nobody is perfect) getting back to the story.I met a young woman who was into the church.She saying how she never curse etc..So im thinking she can help change my ways.When I would curse,she would get upset.She literally had me on some "dag nam it" type stuff So I completely stopped cursing,in other words I transformed a part of my personality at the time.However I wasnt comfortable,it just didnt seem natural.Eventually her and I broke up.Whats funny is at the end....guess who was doing all the cursing?Thats right her.. it caught me off guard like the moral is...never ever change who you are.Although im not condoning cursing your girl out...but if somebody tries to change you and mold you into THEIR image....it should bring up a red flag.YOU should want to change for yourself not because of the relationship. One thing about Love is...love is about toleration.What will you tolerate and what you wont. Nobody is perfect and there will always be 1 habit...she will hate and 1 habit you will hate.

 

[MikelArteta]

Yeah the whole telling a woman your secrets thing is a no-no. I been in relationships where I told females everything and guess what? When the arguments came,she threw it back in my face.This is why I keep a poker face,with a chess player's mentality.When a female ask you questions always think it out.See women remember what they want to remember.If you tell them gossip or a deep down secret,they will remember that. When it is something simple like leaving their shoes over at your house they choose to ignore it.You got to always be a step ahead of her,,,thats what us men are...we are leaders.

Yup
Now I don't tell females crap about my past relationship just that it did not work out

 

[twan83]

I remember this one girl i was messing with tried to put her sex game on hold for me for ALL THE WRONG REASONS.

Na im cool with waiting it aint a big deal to me especially if we aint EXCLUSIVE. Cuz i can get sex elsewhere when i want it since we aint on that level of seriousness yet
The thing with this situation was she was a big time swimming fan and i wasn't down with that shyt.

She wanted to teach me how to swim and go to some lake and i was like we can go but i ain't getting in no DEEP ASS WATER.

We were only talking like a month tops so far she was cool people but then she said this shyt

if you jump in the deep water WE CAN fukk TONITE

im like seriously

WTF i look like jumping in some deep water knowing its my fear u think GIVING IT UP FINALLY is gonna make me want to do it.

She said YES DEAD SERIOUS

So i was like you held out this hold time just to offer me the GOODS to swim you aint worth it

If you were holding out just cuz u wanted to wait for the right time thats cool but on some SWIMMING JOINT i aint this

I got my shyt and left no JOKE

Following night she came over to give me sorry SEX ;) and never was heard from again

 

[Swing]

Can we get some different red flag situations up here? Cuz I be slipping sometimes, realizing that sh1t 2, 3 weeks after they happen.

I was out by a lake with this one girl, real peaceful... out the blue she asked me what I would do if someone try'd to kill us here, I gave her the and made a joke, if someone bout to kill us Imma throw u infront of him and run lol... Later I found out she hand a crazy ex stalking her ass

 

[twan83]

One thing i learned is sometimes the perfect woman to wife up and u know can end up being in the friend zone cuz of her actions

I knew this one chic she was paralegal, mom a RN, dad regional manager of MCDONALDS they had mad dough

she was ok looking but on the inside she was SHE WAS WHAT I WANTED IN A WOMAN.

I met her back in the day on aol chatroom we would chat it up and she was really feeling me she told me one day its time to meet and that she would come to my barracks in high heels in a robe with only underwear and panties and ready to fukk on site

SHE DID THAT EXACTLY NO JOKE i was like this is PARADISE

we would end up dating for months she had a kid too which i didnt mind DAD wasnt part of his life.

anyways we would kick it at her place and mines fukk all the time but something felt off really off and i couldnt put my finger on it till later

We were bout to have sex one day and i said I CANT. I started to realize she has everything i wanted in a woman but for some DAMN REASON I SEE HER AS FRIEND ONLY.

Somewhere down the line she got caught in my friend zone and i think why was cuz she felt too much like a homey instead of a lover

shyt had me mad as fukk that i felt that way cuz she had what i wanted but i couldnt shake off that FRIEND ZONE shyt i couldnt even fukk her no more thats how bad it was

She be that female i play madden and 2k with all the damn time and i think that also didnt help the case

i know i cant be the only one that has happen too

HERE IS THE KICKER.

A yr later she called me cuz she moved to florida and was getting paid 6 digits. She knew i was debating on getting out army. Said plz give us a try again.

I have a big house a maid and u aint gotta work u can just stay home with her son and she would spoil me rotten with money.

WHO SAYS NO TO THAT shyt


I DID FELLAS

Friend zone effect fukked me up

 

[twan83]

Can we get some different red flag situations up here? Cuz I be slipping sometimes, realizing that sh1t 2, 3 weeks after they happen.

I was out by a lake with this one girl, real peaceful... out the blue she asked me what I would do if someone try'd to kill us here, I gave her the and made a joke, if someone bout to kill us Imma throw u infront of him and run lol... Later I found out she hand a crazy ex stalking her ass

We'll try to put some up but try to catch them sooner and tell us and we can point you on the right PATH so you dont fukk UP

 

[darius19]

kevm3 you need to put some of this shyt in a book homie

 

[Nintendough]

Can we get some different red flag situations up here?

Okay, I have one.

Lets say you are in a relationship and your lady has a few single friends. She tells you that she wants to go out with them to a party that isn't exactly a nice get together. Lets say its something on the lines of a frat party, a house party with kegs or a tacky club. If you were to respectfully disagree with the idea and she were to tell you that it isn't your choice, how would you react to this? How would you react if she decided to break up with you a few hours before the party and came to the conclusion that she made a mistake and wanted you back?

 

[twan83]

Okay, I have one.

Lets say you are in a relationship and your lady has a few single friends. She tells you that she wants to go out with them to a party that isn't exactly a nice get together. Lets say its something on the lines of a frat party, a house party with kegs or a tacky club. If you were to respectfully disagree with the idea and she were to tell you that it isn't your choice, how would you react to this? How would you react if she decided to break up with you a few hours before the party and came to the conclusion that she made a mistake and wanted you back?

First off she would be wrong for even trying to go knowingly putting herself in that situation is WRONG.

If you tell her respectfully and she still goes she dont give a fukk about you or respect you

If she broke up with me i would be like THEN SHE AINT WORTH shyt and NOT WORTH MY TIME IN THE FIRST PLACE AND I WOULDN'T EVEN CONSIDER THE THOUGHT OF GETTING BACK WITH HER

here is the reality:

Any female who puts herself in a position that could cause cheating and knows it IS WRONG DEAD WRONG.

I can understand if she didnt realize it cuz of lack of common sense you just respectfully point it out and tell her and break it down and if she still on IM GONNA DO WHAT I WANNA DO. She never respected you, probably already cheated on you or plans on it sooner than later.

 

[Shameonyou]

One thing i learned is sometimes the perfect woman to wife up and u know can end up being in the friend zone cuz of her actions

I knew this one chic she was paralegal, mom a RN, dad regional manager of MCDONALDS they had mad dough

she was ok looking but on the inside she was SHE WAS WHAT I WANTED IN A WOMAN.

I met her back in the day on aol chatroom we would chat it up and she was really feeling me she told me one day its time to meet and that she would come to my barracks in high heels in a robe with only underwear and panties and ready to fukk on site

SHE DID THAT EXACTLY NO JOKE i was like this is PARADISE

we would end up dating for months she had a kid too which i didnt mind DAD wasnt part of his life.

anyways we would kick it at her place and mines fukk all the time but something felt off really off and i couldnt put my finger on it till later

We were bout to have sex one day and i said I CANT. I started to realize she has everything i wanted in a woman but for some DAMN REASON I SEE HER AS FRIEND ONLY.

Somewhere down the line she got caught in my friend zone and i think why was cuz she felt too much like a homey instead of a lover

shyt had me mad as fukk that i felt that way cuz she had what i wanted but i couldnt shake off that FRIEND ZONE shyt i couldnt even fukk her no more thats how bad it was

She be that female i play madden and 2k with all the damn time and i think that also didnt help the case

i know i cant be the only one that has happen too

HERE IS THE KICKER.

A yr later she called me cuz she moved to florida and was getting paid 6 digits. She knew i was debating on getting out army. Said plz give us a try again.

I have a big house a maid and u aint gotta work u can just stay home with her son and she would spoil me rotten with money.

WHO SAYS NO TO THAT shyt


I DID FELLAS

Friend zone effect fukked me up

 

[twan83]

I dish out that SELF ETHER ON MYSELF
I have no problems telling my past and my L's so you guys can see my MISTAKES

If you see them maybe you wont make the same one's i do or your in the same situation and you read that and you learn to do the right thing from reading my stories

This thread is to help people and my past situations that ive been thru gives you a glimpse of my many mistakes

 

[kevm3]

honestly, you did the right thing not being a move in gigolo. As nice as that sounds, that really ain't a position you want to be in, moving in with her, being her live-in man nanny, watching her son, chilling at home while she's working and all that. When she can't have her way with you, best believe she will bring up who is paying for this and that.

 

[twan83]

honestly, you did the right thing not being a move in gigolo. As nice as that sounds, that really ain't a position you want to be in, moving in with her, being her live-in man nanny, watching her son, chilling at home while she's working and all that. When she can't have her way with you, best believe she will bring up who is paying for this and that.

You speak the truth but i wasn't seeing it that way at that time i was seeing her as man i dont want to be living with a ROOMMATE who is a GOOD fukk

but that was one of my many situations i went thru and many more i have coming to tell up in here this happen around 2003