Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Closure comes from within you and never from another individual.

People will illustrate to you who they are at their core. The issue that arises sometimes is that people become blinded by the person we want them to be and the dreaded disease of hope seeps through hoping that they will change back to what pulled you towards them + when they desired you.

I just need to get this off my chest, talk to them one more time, find out why they are not talking to me anymore, see them once more, just tell them how I feel, one more kiss, ask a gazillion questions and get answers and then I will feel much better……….

Some cold uncut truth…….

1) I just need to get this off my chest – Yeah go ahead and write that letter/text/e-mail pouring out your heart with a bit of a manipulative mindset to guilt trip.

The Outcome = a) Stop Harassing me b) no reply c) I’m sorry you feel this way, you meant a lot to me d) oh wow, I’ll be right over apologizing and begging for another chance

2) If someone dumps you, no longer talks to you or has any interest to talk to you = they are just not into you and that’s all the closure you need.

Because closure is basically the course of action of letting go; there is zilch the “offending party” can articulate or do that will make you feel better about being discarded.

So don’t sit around hoping/desiring for a moment identified as conclusiveness (closure), because the likelihood is that there will not be one speck of an instance in time where after “closure” everything will be flawlessly well subsequently. Instead gaze ahead and be prepared/marinate on excursion of restoring yourself however hard that may be.

 

[Jahmal]

 

[TheArchitect]

where do i meet a introverted stoner girl?

YAssssss, someone answer this man pleaaase....

 

[Sleepy Walker]

where do i meet a introverted stoner girl?

The weed man
The corner store buying something to put the weed in.
Wal-Mart late at night because she'll have the munchies and it'll be less people out.

 

[EQ.]

YAssssss, someone answer this man pleaaase....

prolly at smoke shops or shopping at whole foods or local co-ops etc

 

[Atlrocafella]

yep hell look how emotionally men are, if a chick doesnt reply to their msg on a online dating site they get angry and throw insults, or they just flat out disrespect, men will do anything for vagina nowadays.

hell you dont even have to look good anymore as a woman, as long as yu have a vagina you can be overweight, rude and obnoxious with 4 kids and there will be a man you can rle over

Dudes just got to learn to keep the emotions in tact. That's one of the biggest things a woman can use against you.

I don't go back and fourth with these women, trying to win back their attention or affection. You fall back on me? Cool, I'm just going to fall back on you.

 

[MikelArteta]

Dudes just got to learn to keep the emotions in tact. That's one of the biggest things a woman can use against you.

I don't go back and fourth with these women, trying to win back their attention or affection. You fall back on me? Cool, I'm just going to fall back on you.

as I got older I no longer concern myself with things I have no control over

 

[MikelArteta]

One tip to leading a effortless life in regards to dealing with women is to is stop worrying about things you have no control off. Just concentrate on being yourself and if a woman does not like what you offer shrugs find one that will. You can't control whether someone will like you, however you can control to not chase or invest when you realize she is not interested. You can't control whether a woman will cheat on you, however you can control what you will do when you find out she is cheating on you. You can't control whether a woman will love you or even care about you, however what you can control who will you love and who you will care about. You can't control if a woman you were feeling gets cold and distant, but you can control to sever the ties and walk away with your dignity intact. So you can sit around and bite your nails, stalk her facebook/instagram/twitter, get angry/frustrated/sad or you can just enjoy life and stop worrying about things you have no control over.

 

[MikelArteta]

anyways breh im telling you to be careful i was fed all that bs to try and inflate my ego by a chick, the whole I'm not like that bla bla. I remember when she asked why have I been single for so long and I told her I don't trust most women out there they are multi daters flirting with like 10 different guys, and she told me I'm not like that

anyways the great thing about facebook is that even though your not friends with someone just typing in their name and photos they liked so like Jane doe photos liked you can see all the photos they liked, same with jane doe photos commentated all the photos they commentated on, so I just did a bit of checking up and what do you know, this brehette was commentating on a bunch of dudes photos left and right flirting and ish and liking photos, and this chick was smiling up in my face putting on a act like she was a innocent brehette only interested in me

always a step ahead

 

[Medulla Oblongata]

Nowadays, it's rare to find a woman who isn't into social media. And we know how "bad" social media can get

 

[Medulla Oblongata]

So, Recently I got into an argument with my GF about our feelings for each other. She doesn't exactly have the same feelings that I have for her. She likes me, just not as much as I like her. This quickly turned into us bickering about many different subjects all during the course of one night. Now, something that you do need to know is my GF does suffer from depression and Bipolar disorder. She takes meds for the conditions, and normally she is fine.

The night that we argued she didn't take her meds, which she says it what made her think the way she did and she apologised for being the way she was. Fast forward a few days later. We talked it out calmly and we forgave each other for our behavior. It was stupid, and it was our first argument in this entire 1 year relationship. She promised to not be "bytchy" (her words, never mine) anymore. Everything seemed like it was going back to normal before the argument.

Fast Forward a few more days. We are hanging out, we meet up with my best friend and decide to get drunk. On the way back to her place, I try to put my arm around her waist and hold her like I normally do. She brushes me off completely. Even makes a snarky comment about it to my Best friend. "Part of me doesn't even want him to touch me."

I'm terrified, but I let it slide and don't try to touch her again on the way there. I didn't want to risk making her mad. I also don't want to ruin the night or waste all the booze we bought.

The night goes on and we are all getting drunk. My GF starts hitting on my Best friend right in front of me. Shes flirting with him and trying to grab his junk right in front of me. Then She says "I'm single anyways." I object, she dumps her drink on me and walks off to the backyard.

My friend, being the bro he is, takes his shirt off and gives it to me. Only wearing his hoodie zipped up. I ask him why shes acting this way. He doesn't know. I told him, to please help me because I think shes mad at me and I don't know why. She's refusing to talk to me.

Now important part here. This guy is my Bro. Best friend, known him for 10 years, grew up with him. He has helped me through everything. Back injury, watches my ass when I'm drunk, loans me money if I'm short for rent. Helped me pay doctor bills when insurance won't cover it. This guy is just amazing. It's never been a problem for him, he wants to help and he gets mad if i reject his help. I always pay him back when I earn extra.

He goes after her, they're outside in the backyard talking. I'm a bit worried, slightly mad and I'm drunk, drinking more than I should. I think I down at least half a bottle of vodka while they are still outside talking. I pass out on the couch.

I hear a loud noise, I wake up it's around 1AM. My best friend comes inside in a hurry and grabs a trash can. My GF starts puking like crazy. She drank way too much. I think this is the worse I've ever seen her. She pukes all over the bed, blankets, herself, she's half naked nothing but bra and panties.

He says she puked all over herself and he helped take off her clothes. I spring into oh shyt mode. I start helping clean up. We grab everything thats dirty and just covered in puke and throw them into the side garage. I get some paper towels and start cleaning up the puke thats on her body. She goes for the trash can and keeps on puking. I'm holding her hair trying to help, and she pushes me away.

I'm still drunk, I feel very woozy, My friend is less drunk than me. He takes over, clearly she wants nothing to do with me tonight. I go grab a fresh clean blanket to hand to him. She pukes all over her bra, he removes it and cleans her and covers her in the blanket i hand him. We pick her up and put her on the bed, which now is just a mattress with no covers. She passes out.

He pulls me over to the side, asks me if I'm alright. I'm still slightly drunk, but otherwise I'm fine. I go to lay down. My friend hits me with the news. They had sex. She had finished the rest of the alcohol. Everything is gone. He says, she kept forcing him to drink with her while they were outside talking.

Im not shocked, but I'm too drunk to be mad right now. I don't got anywhere else to sleep if I storm out. I say fukk it, It's a problem that I will deal with tomorrow when everyone is sober. I know it's bad to argue while drunk. I don't want to say something that I'll regret later. My friend and I go lay down after a bit. I can't remember what else we talked about, other than hes a bit mad that this happened.

Fast forward a few hours, I wake up. It's 6AM I'm the first one up. There she is, completely naked sleeping with my best friend on the couch. I'm not drunk anymore. Im furious. I grab my shyt, and I leave.

They don't wake up till around 11AM. I get a text from her. Where are you? Why did you leave? I ignore it. I'm furious. I don't want to say something that I shouldn't. Around noon, I tell her we are done. It's over and not to talk to me for the rest of the day.

I'm broken. I'm in fukking love with this girl. She's the best thing to happen to me in forever. The last 11 and a half months have been fukking amazing and great. I don't understand how a single argument could start this chain of events. I have never experienced this before.

Shes texting me anyways, "I'm sorry." "Last night is full of so much regret." "Please talk to me." I can't. I can't say anything, I'm speechless. I don't want to be mad at her. I don't want to hate her. But I'm just fukking broken. I feel like I care about her more than she cares for herself. I'm conflicted right now. I don't know how to feel. I don't know what to do. I want to forgive her. I just don't know.

A few days ago my GF and I went with a group of friends on a party bus to a club. We all met at a friend's house. I showed up late after everyone was already pretty drunk. First thing I see is my GF sitting on another guy's lap on the couch. I go up to her and say hey and she ignores me, keeps talking loudly to other people. I take her hand and she looks at me and gives me a little wave then turns away again. We wanted to keep our relationship kind of on the DL at the beginning of the night because her ex-BF was there and he was always super jealous of me (even though we were only friends when they were together). So I think, "All right, maybe we're just keeping it on the DL."

On the way out of the house she slapped my cheek (not hard, but I have no idea why) and kept walking. We get on the bus. She doesn't respond to much that I say. I sit in the back with her and she moves seats, then I move and she moves. I'm fed up with all this, so I move to the front of the bus with a different group of people and start drinking.

20 minutes later I see her getting intimate with a dude in our group who I hadn't met, touching his face, fondling his neck, kissing maybe? I don't remember. I go back there and I'm pretty drunk. I say, "Hey" and she doesn't respond. I turn her around from the guy and say her name, start trying to talk to her. She says "You hit me" (I didn't, but I wanted her to face me) and she just turns back to him. I'm so inebriated I don't know how to respond. I think about punching the guy (obviously would have been a terrible move) but ending up just going back up to the front.

Then I blacked out for a long time and don't know what happened. When I come to, she's comforting me as I throw up in a trash can. She has this HUGE phobia of people throwing up so she's crying but is still consoling me and saying she loves me. I know that this actually did take a lot out of her to overcome her phobia. Then I don't remember anything else. First time I've thrown up drinking. First time I've blacked out. I usually never even get close to that point.

I told her about what happened--she didn't remember, she was blacked out--and she started crying and saying "I love you" "I'm sorry" etc. Everything in our relationship indicates that is true, except that night. I want to love her, too, but the memories of her with that guy are still there and I'm conflicted. The ball's in my court about whether or not we breakup. I really am not sure what to do.

Two weeks ago my girlfriend and her friends visited another city and met this wealthy power broker. He's probably around 40 something and was interested in getting to know all the girls. Several days ago, he came down to our city for business and texted my girlfriend about possibly meeting up for dinner so he could mentor her. Well, dinner didn't happen because his business ran late and so she met him at his hotel around 10pm. I had told my girlfriend it's ok to meet him but only for a short period of time because I don't feel comfortable with you staying out so late. Anyways, several hours later at 1:40am I get a text from her telling me that she's heading home and not to worry because all they did was chat. We had an argument about how mentoring doesn't occur in hotel rooms, at 10pm, and last till 2am over alcohol. Anyways, we argued about it and she said that I need to trust her. Anyways, we met up the next day and my curiosity got to the best of me and I went through her phone. So these were the text messages that popped up in her phone with the older gentleman after I we had finished arguing and I went to bed.

My girlfriend of 11 years broke up with me saying "She just needs some space now, and we may get back together." I am wondering what the chances are that she actually intends on giving a relationship another shot, or if it was just said to get me to easily sign over the house and let her keep everything.

About four weeks ago she dropped this on me. As far as I knew everything was going great - we had just gone on a nice vacation together, night before had a bunch of friends over for a little get together, and were planning out future together. She said it was because we fight all the time, we honestly haven't had a single fight in 2+ years.

We owned a house together. We bought it about seven years ago, renovated it all, and made it into something we both liked. Wasn't a particularly fancy house, but it was our house. We also had two dogs we got shortly after moving into the house. She now has the house and everything that was in it, I didn't put up a fight for any of it.

She kept saying things like "I'd like to try a relationship again, but I know if you piss me off I'll probably never even talk to you again." Me being the broken heated sap I was tried my damnedest to not upset her. Signed the house over to her (her mother paid off the mortgage for her, I got nothing) and let her keep the dogs and everything we had gotten over the past 11 years. I packed up my clothes, and found an apartment to move into.

So I officially moved out over the weekend, and sitting in my shytty little apartment my mind can't help but keep racing to the idea that I just got manipulated out of everything I had. It just seems that if she really had any intentions on ever making things work there would have been much better options than this.

 

[EQ.]

^^

 

[TheArchitect]

^^

I said the same thing....them stories almost got me legit heated....I would of left the bytch in the 1st story laying in her own vomit, deleted her contacts and never spoke to her again.

 

[Fatboi1]

I'm on the phone with T-mobile talking about upgrading phones and shyt when suddenly it feels like the chick on the other line did NOT want to hang up. She just kept talking and ended up shifting the convo about italians(I think she italian) and dating. She telling me her life story about her abusive marriage, her trying to get over the guy and yadda yadda. She ended up telling me all sorts of funny shyt and telling me how she's funny and looks great but people think she's very high maintenance.

I should've gotten her Facebook or something She said she was 32 with 3 kids and once I heard that I was like ehh .

 

[KingTut]

nikka in the first story is losing hard. would've beat the breaks off homeboy and dikk slapped the bytch before I dipped out.