Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

My post from another thread today, I wanted to throw this in here because I posted in here about this 2 years ago almost, and wanted to share the conclusion. Partly as my own processing of this, but also to say, how much I appreciate the site and all the posters, this thread in this instance. I have always been a perceptive, intelligent person, and didn't have major issues with women, mainly with actual romance, but this thread helped me articulate, and form some of my more insightful thoughts on relationships with women, and women themselves…and my friends, and others now constantly use me as a source of advice and counsel, which is cool.

So, this girl, I sent Valentines Day flowers to, and we got closer and closer, but always had that guard up and would always pull back….I finally just said fukk it, and wrote was basically a love letter and gave her that, and $500 bracelet that was perfect for her, no simp….i am just someone whose time may be limited, I have to make most of it, and I truly cared about her. So, put it all out there, and then went back and forth, for months as she clung to me, slipping up her and there with those clear signs she was really into me, and I just had to finally get closure and move on, because it was unhealthy as fukk for me. In the end, it was good thing, I got to be there for and do nice things for someone I like, and if I hurt a little…it's a price I can live with.

I had that talk yesterday,… girl is Iraqi with a range of issues…..Her brother and I are like family, and I fell for her hard, years ago, she basically has no education past hs, no career except working in families store, religious low self esteem, unable or unwilling to do anything else, and zero support she is a women in an Iraqi patriarchy, and is mid 30's….Very sheltered, she had 1 ex who she was with since 15 to late 20's…and since has had no relationships (or much sex, presumably at all…and I really tried with her, I had to really push her to hear that 'Im not ready'….which was a relief, because it was an agonizing process, and I put myself all the way out there. And I am self aware and perceptive, without arrogance to know she really likes me…she just can't do it, she has her security blanket and won't let go. And she really went thru the whole process, or something similar, when that talk happened….denial, slight anger, acceptance…and finally 'you can call me for anything, someone to talk to, money, anything, except a date..not ready for that', I just said if she was ever ready, I hope i would be too, and if not please find someone who really loves her…and thats it from me. I said everything I wanted to say. Best advice is always make what you want clear, never be deceptive, and be ready to walk away, no anger, no regret, no resentment. More then a little raw, because I genuinely love her,…but it can't be any other way right now. Yeah I am all in my feelings on my kevin Gates shyt today. And of course, theres are too many girls known, and unknown to me that would be with me…to put myself through anymore of that.

nikka go get that bracelet back

 

[SpacelySprockets]

Brehs I need your help

So I met this chick last year in the fall semester at school cuz we had class together and sat next to each other. We ended up talking a lot and doing work together and I pretty much walked her to the bus stop everyday after class, me being as desperate as I was at the time, I thought we had something special building. We got to know a lot about each other. So I finally ask her for her number the last week of class and she gives it to me, I text her throughout the break to dry responses that take centuries for her to send. So now im figuring this isnt going to go anywhere at this rate so I ended up texting her telling her how I felt about her. It wasnt mutual she said she only see's me as a friend blah blah blah so my soul is burning but I still wanna try to do mission impossible and make it out of the friendzone.. we never even talked again cuz I texted her a few days later and she didn't respond to me so I just said fukk it. We would see each other on campus here and there during the spring semester and just not say anything.. it wasnt awkward for me I was just like nikkas get curved everyday b.

So this years fall semester ive been running into her a lot more often than before but we still didn't speak not one time and at that point I didnt really care either. Last week during finals week I was in the library with another chick studying for finals, then she walked in and sat not too far from us. Then when we were done studying I went to the cafe to get something to eat.. lo and behold I end up running into her again, she's right in front of me in the line to get food and im just like. So I get my food, she's there with her friends waiting to get all of their food.. I go sit my plate down at a table and go to the bathroom real quick, I come back and her and her friends are sitting right in front of my table.. didn't give it much mind, ate and kept it moving.

A day later I get a text from her, December 2014.. mind you the last time we talked was probably December 2013, a whole year. She's like "hey we see each other so may times and never say hi".. me being the dumb simp I am entertains the convo and talks to her.. im not saying anything crazy tho, then she's saying how she missed talking to me and how last time we talked she was shy now she's changed. I'm not sure what to make of it.. why did she randomly hit me up a year later after curving me? Did she really just wanna see how I was doing or is she having 2nd thoughts on curving me? What should I do

 

[International Playa]

My post from another thread today, I wanted to throw this in here because I posted in here about this 2 years ago almost, and wanted to share the conclusion. Partly as my own processing of this, but also to say, how much I appreciate the site and all the posters, this thread in this instance. I have always been a perceptive, intelligent person, and didn't have major issues with women, mainly with actual romance, but this thread helped me articulate, and form some of my more insightful thoughts on relationships with women, and women themselves…and my friends, and others now constantly use me as a source of advice and counsel, which is cool.

So, this girl, I sent Valentines Day flowers to, and we got closer and closer, but always had that guard up and would always pull back….I finally just said fukk it, and wrote was basically a love letter and gave her that, and $500 bracelet that was perfect for her, no simp….i am just someone whose time may be limited, I have to make most of it, and I truly cared about her. So, put it all out there, and then went back and forth, for months as she clung to me, slipping up her and there with those clear signs she was really into me, and I just had to finally get closure and move on, because it was unhealthy as fukk for me. In the end, it was good thing, I got to be there for and do nice things for someone I like, and if I hurt a little…it's a price I can live with.

I had that talk yesterday,… girl is Iraqi with a range of issues…..Her brother and I are like family, and I fell for her hard, years ago, she basically has no education past hs, no career except working in families store, religious low self esteem, unable or unwilling to do anything else, and zero support she is a women in an Iraqi patriarchy, and is mid 30's….Very sheltered, she had 1 ex who she was with since 15 to late 20's…and since has had no relationships (or much sex, presumably at all…and I really tried with her, I had to really push her to hear that 'Im not ready'….which was a relief, because it was an agonizing process, and I put myself all the way out there. And I am self aware and perceptive, without arrogance to know she really likes me…she just can't do it, she has her security blanket and won't let go. And she really went thru the whole process, or something similar, when that talk happened….denial, slight anger, acceptance…and finally 'you can call me for anything, someone to talk to, money, anything, except a date..not ready for that', I just said if she was ever ready, I hope i would be too, and if not please find someone who really loves her…and thats it from me. I said everything I wanted to say. Best advice is always make what you want clear, never be deceptive, and be ready to walk away, no anger, no regret, no resentment. More then a little raw, because I genuinely love her,…but it can't be any other way right now. Yeah I am all in my feelings on my kevin Gates shyt today. And of course, theres are too many girls known, and unknown to me that would be with me…to put myself through anymore of that.

Lets keep it real breh, that was simping. Buying a woman gifts in the hopes of her liking you or trying to convince her to like you, IS SIMPING. I bought a woman a drink in the club last Saturday, I felt like I was simping because I bought the drink in hopes of her giving me a bit of time to spit game in her ear. She gave me her number, called her the next day. We joked around and had small conversation, I then straight up asked do you wanna hang out and I communicated my intentions. She said NO, I just said OK cool, I haven't talked to her since and never will. Never again will in this life try and convince a woman to like me.

As a man, you need to decipher quickly if a woman is feeling you or you will get used for your money and time. As soon as you know the woman aint feeling you, let her go. Never try and convince a woman to like you or show her that you are good enough for her.

The best relationships are when the woman likes you. She will be there for you anytime to serve you with anything you need. Get with women that like you always!!!!!!!!!! It will enhance your life more than anything. Women are here to enhance your life not diminish your life. If a woman is not enhancing your life, she is NOT "the one", kick her to the curb!!!!!!!!!!111

I will leave you with great words that stood out to me from the pimp game that applies to casual dating.

"The b1tch has to like you first and foremost" - Unknown PIMP

 

[International Playa]

Brehs I need your help

So I met this chick last year in the fall semester at school cuz we had class together and sat next to each other. We ended up talking a lot and doing work together and I pretty much walked her to the bus stop everyday after class, me being as desperate as I was at the time, I thought we had something special building. We got to know a lot about each other. So I finally ask her for her number the last week of class and she gives it to me, I text her throughout the break to dry responses that take centuries for her to send. So now im figuring this isnt going to go anywhere at this rate so I ended up texting her telling her how I felt about her. It wasnt mutual she said she only see's me as a friend blah blah blah so my soul is burning but I still wanna try to do mission impossible and make it out of the friendzone.. we never even talked again cuz I texted her a few days later and she didn't respond to me so I just said fukk it. We would see each other on campus here and there during the spring semester and just not say anything.. it wasnt awkward for me I was just like nikkas get curved everyday b.

So this years fall semester ive been running into her a lot more often than before but we still didn't speak not one time and at that point I didnt really care either. Last week during finals week I was in the library with another chick studying for finals, then she walked in and sat not too far from us. Then when we were done studying I went to the cafe to get something to eat.. lo and behold I end up running into her again, she's right in front of me in the line to get food and im just like. So I get my food, she's there with her friends waiting to get all of their food.. I go sit my plate down at a table and go to the bathroom real quick, I come back and her and her friends are sitting right in front of my table.. didn't give it much mind, ate and kept it moving.

A day later I get a text from her, December 2014.. mind you the last time we talked was probably December 2013, a whole year. She's like "hey we see each other so may times and never say hi".. me being the dumb simp I am entertains the convo and talks to her.. im not saying anything crazy tho, then she's saying how she missed talking to me and how last time we talked she was shy now she's changed. I'm not sure what to make of it.. why did she randomly hit me up a year later after curving me? Did she really just wanna see how I was doing or is she having 2nd thoughts on curving me? What should I do

Never try to convince a woman to like you or waste time in your mind trying to figure out how to make her like you. Put her in the friendzone, because it gives you access to all the other females in her life. She has female friends, female cousins, sisters, aunties, a mother. One of them will bound to like you.

 

[NerdNash]

Quick Little Gems Dealing With Women Pt. 27 (By KevM3) | The Nerd At The Cool Table | http://bit.ly/1AAr6yw

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

Another chick i met at the club wants to kick it tonight after her ugly sweater party.

Said she has a flight in the morn and I "promised not to keep her out too late"

The only thing is, I dont remember what she looks like. I just remember she was the first # I got that night. Which is good because I was most sober

 

[SpacelySprockets]

Never try to convince a woman to like you or waste time in your mind trying to figure out how to make her like you. Put her in the friendzone, because it gives you access to all the other females in her life. She has female friends, female cousins, sisters, aunties, a mother. One of them will bound to like you.

Yea at this point even if she did actually like me I wouldnt wanna wife her up now, I wouldve last year but a lot changes in 12 months. I have options now these days I just wanna smash and not commit anyway

 

[Kenny West]

Brehs I need your help

So I met this chick last year in the fall semester at school cuz we had class together and sat next to each other. We ended up talking a lot and doing work together and I pretty much walked her to the bus stop everyday after class, me being as desperate as I was at the time, I thought we had something special building. We got to know a lot about each other. So I finally ask her for her number the last week of class and she gives it to me, I text her throughout the break to dry responses that take centuries for her to send. So now im figuring this isnt going to go anywhere at this rate so I ended up texting her telling her how I felt about her. It wasnt mutual she said she only see's me as a friend blah blah blah so my soul is burning but I still wanna try to do mission impossible and make it out of the friendzone.. we never even talked again cuz I texted her a few days later and she didn't respond to me so I just said fukk it. We would see each other on campus here and there during the spring semester and just not say anything.. it wasnt awkward for me I was just like nikkas get curved everyday b.

So this years fall semester ive been running into her a lot more often than before but we still didn't speak not one time and at that point I didnt really care either. Last week during finals week I was in the library with another chick studying for finals, then she walked in and sat not too far from us. Then when we were done studying I went to the cafe to get something to eat.. lo and behold I end up running into her again, she's right in front of me in the line to get food and im just like. So I get my food, she's there with her friends waiting to get all of their food.. I go sit my plate down at a table and go to the bathroom real quick, I come back and her and her friends are sitting right in front of my table.. didn't give it much mind, ate and kept it moving.

A day later I get a text from her, December 2014.. mind you the last time we talked was probably December 2013, a whole year. She's like "hey we see each other so may times and never say hi".. me being the dumb simp I am entertains the convo and talks to her.. im not saying anything crazy tho, then she's saying how she missed talking to me and how last time we talked she was shy now she's changed. I'm not sure what to make of it.. why did she randomly hit me up a year later after curving me? Did she really just wanna see how I was doing or is she having 2nd thoughts on curving me? What should I do

She saw you with another chick....so that pulled some attraction to your favor.

But it's probably more about something that went on in her life.

If you try her again DO NOT go about it the same way you did last time....that was terrible. Pretend like that shyt never happened.

 

[karim]

Stop Entertainer this bytchshe was the one who didn't respond to your text, now all of a sudden she wonders why you guys never say hi? Tell her to gtfoh with that shyt.Nothing good will come out of hanging out with her again.

Brehs I need your help

So I met this chick last year in the fall semester at school cuz we had class together and sat next to each other. We ended up talking a lot and doing work together and I pretty much walked her to the bus stop everyday after class, me being as desperate as I was at the time, I thought we had something special building. We got to know a lot about each other. So I finally ask her for her number the last week of class and she gives it to me, I text her throughout the break to dry responses that take centuries for her to send. So now im figuring this isnt going to go anywhere at this rate so I ended up texting her telling her how I felt about her. It wasnt mutual she said she only see's me as a friend blah blah blah so my soul is burning but I still wanna try to do mission impossible and make it out of the friendzone.. we never even talked again cuz I texted her a few days later and she didn't respond to me so I just said fukk it. We would see each other on campus here and there during the spring semester and just not say anything.. it wasnt awkward for me I was just like nikkas get curved everyday b.

So this years fall semester ive been running into her a lot more often than before but we still didn't speak not one time and at that point I didnt really care either. Last week during finals week I was in the library with another chick studying for finals, then she walked in and sat not too far from us. Then when we were done studying I went to the cafe to get something to eat.. lo and behold I end up running into her again, she's right in front of me in the line to get food and im just like. So I get my food, she's there with her friends waiting to get all of their food.. I go sit my plate down at a table and go to the bathroom real quick, I come back and her and her friends are sitting right in front of my table.. didn't give it much mind, ate and kept it moving.

A day later I get a text from her, December 2014.. mind you the last time we talked was probably December 2013, a whole year. She's like "hey we see each other so may times and never say hi".. me being the dumb simp I am entertains the convo and talks to her.. im not saying anything crazy tho, then she's saying how she missed talking to me and how last time we talked she was shy now she's changed. I'm not sure what to make of it.. why did she randomly hit me up a year later after curving me? Did she really just wanna see how I was doing or is she having 2nd thoughts on curving me? What should I do

 

[Grams]

@SpacelySprockets allow her leave it alone.

 

[MikelArteta]

whenevery our writing paragraphs about chicks your not dating, haven't been on a date yet, haven't smashed its bushes!!

and chicks look at desireability, i've already said some chicks look at me like but then when they see my ex, or i tell em about my trysts with model suddenly its tell me more reinscarf

 

[nalej]

Brehs I need your help

So I met this chick last year in the fall semester at school cuz we had class together and sat next to each other. We ended up talking a lot and doing work together and I pretty much walked her to the bus stop everyday after class, me being as desperate as I was at the time, I thought we had something special building. We got to know a lot about each other. So I finally ask her for her number the last week of class and she gives it to me, I text her throughout the break to dry responses that take centuries for her to send. So now im figuring this isnt going to go anywhere at this rate so I ended up texting her telling her how I felt about her. It wasnt mutual she said she only see's me as a friend blah blah blah so my soul is burning but I still wanna try to do mission impossible and make it out of the friendzone.. we never even talked again cuz I texted her a few days later and she didn't respond to me so I just said fukk it. We would see each other on campus here and there during the spring semester and just not say anything.. it wasnt awkward for me I was just like nikkas get curved everyday b.

So this years fall semester ive been running into her a lot more often than before but we still didn't speak not one time and at that point I didnt really care either. Last week during finals week I was in the library with another chick studying for finals, then she walked in and sat not too far from us. Then when we were done studying I went to the cafe to get something to eat.. lo and behold I end up running into her again, she's right in front of me in the line to get food and im just like. So I get my food, she's there with her friends waiting to get all of their food.. I go sit my plate down at a table and go to the bathroom real quick, I come back and her and her friends are sitting right in front of my table.. didn't give it much mind, ate and kept it moving.

A day later I get a text from her, December 2014.. mind you the last time we talked was probably December 2013, a whole year. She's like "hey we see each other so may times and never say hi".. me being the dumb simp I am entertains the convo and talks to her.. im not saying anything crazy tho, then she's saying how she missed talking to me and how last time we talked she was shy now she's changed. I'm not sure what to make of it.. why did she randomly hit me up a year later after curving me? Did she really just wanna see how I was doing or is she having 2nd thoughts on curving me? What should I do

These types of females are the worst. I'd rather have a female say I'm not interested and move on. These trifiling types know males in general are simple animals. They know we chase tail any chance we get so even if they aren't interested in you they will play with you just for the attention. So they can feel better about themselves I guess. fukk these types of females once you get that type of vibe from a girl...bushes.

 

[kevm3]

She's hitting you up probably because 1) she's single again and 2) she saw you with another woman, so it's a fun little mission to see if she can get you back. She wasn't interested before and only wanted to be friends, so what caused this unbelievable shift in emotions?

At most, she'll be sweet and nice until she gets you hooked and will most likely end up getting bored and disappearing again.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

She's hitting you up probably because 1) she's single again and 2) she saw you with another woman, so it's a fun little mission to see if she can get you back. She wasn't interested before and only wanted to be friends, so what caused this unbelievable shift in emotions?

At most, she'll be sweet and nice until she gets you hooked and will most likely end up getting bored and disappearing again.

yep.
she only wants the fun of the chase.
soon as he bites and starts acting interested in her she'll disappear again.
Rinse, repeat

 

[Combat Carl]

I pretty much walked her to the bus stop everyday after class

You automatically friend zoned yourself for this pathetic shyt