Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Mr Hate Coffee]

Now some new nikka just swoops right in and gets the benefits of it all.

Yeah that's the worst. New nikkas be eatin good off of the work you put it. It doesn't last long tho... Eventually the newness wears off and she'll think about you again. Just gotta live your life and not worry about it.

Your friend aint shyt for telling you some stuff that would ruin your day tho. smh

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

heartbreak is a lot like chicken pox brehs...the younger you are when you get it, the better...often the worst situations come when dudes are in their late 20's or even 30's and then experience a tough heartbreak for the first time

if you in highschool/college age and you get that first heartbreak, consider it a blessing, you learned the lesson early

HUUUUUUU!!!!!

I was an arrogant lil sonofabish until I got that heartbreak reality check at 28. I still remember my grown ass crying in the bed and not wanting to eat during the holidays. My mom just left me alone. (I don't stay with my mom but I was home for the holidays )

But you aint never lied. I used to look at my homies growing up and laugh at the dumb shyt they'd do when they had their hearts broken. On some "nikka man up!" type shyt.

But when it happened to me I understood it all. I understood every sad R&B song ever made when it happened. I definitely wish it would have happened earlier because it's drastically affected me during a time period when I really should've been vetting potential wifeys. But oh well, everything comes with time.

 

[Mr.Plan B]

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[Mike Ock]

HUUUUUUU!!!!!

I was an arrogant lil sonofabish until I got that heartbreak reality check at 28. I still remember my grown ass crying in the bed and not wanting to eat during the holidays. My mom just left me alone. (I don't stay with my mom but I was home for the holidays )

But you aint never lied. I used to look at my homies growing up and laugh at the dumb shyt they'd do when they had their hearts broken. On some "nikka man up!" type shyt.

But when it happened to me I understood it all. I understood every sad R&B song ever made when it happened. I definitely wish it would have happened earlier because it's drastically affected me during a time period when I really should've been vetting potential wifeys. But oh well, everything comes with time.

Haha very true. It stings a little more though when you've also lived with that chik. The breakfasts and dinners, her doing the laundry, even her keeping you eating healthy….all gone once she leaves. I was a mess for a minute after. My current girl's been with her fam in Cali since Monday and it's been a hella weird feeling without her here. I wouldn't even be up right now if she was here.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

I definitely wish it would have happened earlier because it's drastically affected me during a time period when I really should've been vetting potential wifeys. But oh well, everything comes with time.

When you see that dusty ass bytch in a couple years and you out with your better looking and more sophisticated chick she gon be like and and you like

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

Definitely got some #HOH resolutions for 2015

 

[MikelArteta]

Raises hands

One of my mentors put me on some game today.

He said, "Coffee, it's real simple man. When you meet a chick, she's either gonna build with you or destroy you. That's it."

shyt had me like I've seen a lot of chicks tear some good men down.

 

[MikelArteta]

Novelty is one hell of a drug for emotional women

Yeah that's the worst. New nikkas be eatin good off of the work you put it. It doesn't last long tho... Eventually the newness wears off and she'll think about you again. Just gotta live your life and not worry about it.

Your friend aint shyt for telling you some stuff that would ruin your day tho. smh

 

[MikelArteta]

Sometimes it's not age, also the girl and how much you invested.

I got over my ex fiance in a few months my first heartbreak, took me nearly 5 years of muckery up and down with my last ex

HUUUUUUU!!!!!

I was an arrogant lil sonofabish until I got that heartbreak reality check at 28. I still remember my grown ass crying in the bed and not wanting to eat during the holidays. My mom just left me alone. (I don't stay with my mom but I was home for the holidays )

But you aint never lied. I used to look at my homies growing up and laugh at the dumb shyt they'd do when they had their hearts broken. On some "nikka man up!" type shyt.

But when it happened to me I understood it all. I understood every sad R&B song ever made when it happened. I definitely wish it would have happened earlier because it's drastically affected me during a time period when I really should've been vetting potential wifeys. But oh well, everything comes with time.

 

[Swing]

Not a coli topic breh but I'll write a little in this thread This is a chick I met twice.

So, I took her out to eat and we had drinks after.

I'm teasing her a bit during dinner and she tells me Im mean. I ask for a doggy bag to give what we didnt eat to a homeless dude outside, she said no thats disgusting. I keep busting her balls a little bit, we get to the bar and she buys drinks for us.

We keep going back and forth, all in good fun... I lean in for a kiss a couple of times, she seems hesitant. I'm getting tired of that shyt and she notices it. I order another drink...

Now Im getting a bit tipsy and I dont know how we got into this discussion, but all of a sudden:

Her: I have the power. You dont even understand, we're too much alike and one has to give in.

Suddenly she hops out the seat, tells me she's had enough, she never does this but she's leaving. I tell her to sit back down. She goes and grabs her coat, once again tells me she's leaving and I shouldn't tell her what to do. This time I actually ask her nicely to sit back down.

Her: Im going to leave, grab your coat.

Me: Sit

@FLYINHAWAIIAN

The servers crashed and my story got chopped in half, here go the rest tho:

Her: Im not gonna leave with you here, put your jacket on.

Me: If you want to leave, leave. Im not going anywhere, sit down and lets talk like grown ups.

She leaves and I dont run after her ass. I finish my drink and Im out 10 mins later. On my way home I text her, tell her shes grown and if she has problems to deal with that shyt. She replies "I just want you to understand that it doesnt click between us". I reply cool, take care.

Guess who texts me the evening after...

"What are u up to, still mad at me?"

 

[kaiOogway]

One of my mentors put me on some game today.

He said, "Coffee, it's real simple man. When you meet a chick, she's either gonna build with you or destroy you. That's it."

shyt had me like I've seen a lot of chicks tear some good men down.

God damn such true wise words

 

[MikelArteta]

"As a young minister I wouldn’t have considered it possible for me to love any woman. I had too much experience that women were only tricky, deceitful, untrustworthy flesh. I had seen too many men ruined or tied down, or in some other way messed up by women. Women talk too much, and to tell a woman not to talk too much, would be like telling Jesse James not to carry a gun, or telling a hen not to cackle. Can you imagine Jesse James without a gun, or a hen that didn’t cackle, and for anyone in leadership or position as I am. The worst thing in the world that a man could have, is the wrong woman. Samson was destroyed by the woman that slept in his arms. It had been 10 years since I thought anything about a woman or a mistress, and as a minister now I was thinking even less about getting a wife------"

- Malcolm X

 

[Atlrocafella]

Definitely got some #HOH resolutions for 2015

Man I'm #HOH right now, trying to do a massive clean up and rid myself of useless ass females before entering the new year.

 

[MikelArteta]

Man I'm #HOH right now, trying to do a massive clean up and rid myself of useless ass females before entering the new year.

I'm changing my number once the new year start, starting fresh like that

2015 no flaky chicks, no having access to the king anymore

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

http://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/2qb8p9/both_me_33_f_and_my_fiance_33_m_of_five_years/

My fiance and I have been together for five years, engaged for six months. We recently started designing our Save The Dates and had a huge argument over me not changing my last name.

We both have extremely generic last names and a good example of what I'm talking about is Shultz vs. Schultz. It is the difference of a single silent letter.

I explained to my fiance that I do not want to change my last name because I am a journalist and all of my work is tied to my current name. If I were to change my name, it would mess up my future career opportunities. Plus, my name is the 'traditional' spelling while my fiance's is the 'Americanized' spelling.

My fiance has told me that he could not fathom having a wife with a different last name, but his only explanation was that it bothered him. He said that it wasn't about tradition, but it just 'felt wrong to him'.

I already offered that our children would have his last name, but we're at an impasse. It just feels like he doesn't care about how this will impact my career or even that we already share the same last name. The argument was such a huge blowup that I don't want to get married if it means having to give in to what feels like an unreasonable demand.

On top of everything, changing my name would be a HUGE pain in the butt, as I would have to probably do everything over and over again because companies are assuming my last name is misspelled (instead of seeing it as my new married name).

tl;dr: My fiance and I share the same last name, with a different spelling (ex. Shultz vs. Schultz). He wants me to change mine to his after the wedding, I am refusing. I don't want to get married if it means having to change my name.

Everyone on there is pumping this chick's head full of nonsense. I tried to offer a point of contention and folks are disagreeing with me left and right.

I can't believe folks think it's irrational for a man to want his WIFE to take his last name.

I'd have to that chick off gp and tell her to have fun with her career. What's wild is that some folks are telling her she can legally change her name and use her current name for her job but she's so fixated on the "disrespect" of her fiance asking her to change her name. smh.

I've always said I can't marry a girl who won't change her name. Like what the fukk is the point if you can't even get that one small thing as a man.