Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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PaperEnterprise
It's the inner strength..
I stopped caring. I did all that game shyt, gets tiring...I honestly want sex from women. I can strongly like a girl and if she wants me to chase, im out.
This one girl, I asked out. She said no. I never asked her again...just kept it at hi and bye...ny friend tells me she was asking about me this past weekend. Told him to tell her to suck dikk.
This one girl, I asked out. She said no. I never asked her again...just kept it at hi and bye...ny friend tells me she was asking about me this past weekend. Told him to tell her to suck dikk.
O.iatlhawksfan
Devoted Joel Embiid hater
From my experience some girls play hard to get when they really like you
Youseenmywork
KING
I can honestly say i dont like this game we in with women . I dont play the game in fear of what i would become. I dont want to look in the mirror and not be able to recognize the same man in that mirror just to get women. I know me and i could be an animal out here ..but i know its not me. Dont let these women turn into something you not just to keep them intrested. I really look at women like the enemy cause i have to do all types of thing to be desirable and a women just has to look good and show up.
PaperEnterprise
It's the inner strength..
A few of my friends tell me the same...since my teenage years ive never chased girls. I got apoiled, my first few relationships were great. I asked the girls out n they were up front about what they thought.
Im 33, ill be damned if im having bytches say i dont get the message or am a stalker lol.
I feel sometimes women dont like you but like the attention...but hey u may be right...
I should show more patience cause at times women think I got a gang of women to choose from because I dont simp...
Only if they knew im in bed, posting on the coli. Ha
Saysumthinfunnymike
VOTE!!!
I didn't realize how much hate I have in my heart. Even today as I try to move on with someone new, these thoughts creep into my head. I think it could negatively impact the new girl and it already negatively affected how I am at work. Some days I was a zombie or it felt like I was asleep. It was time to go home and I didn't know where the day went. It was time to drive home and I don't remember how I got there.
I think my main problem was that I ignored a lot of obvious issues she had because I wanted to believe she was the fine little innocent thing I first met. I chalked up her previous relationship and how we got together before it was really over to "that must have been his fault" and I bought into this idea that she was stuck and once we were together things would be different and we would be happy. It seemed that way at first but again, I ignored the signs.
its still early
its part of the cycle of being cheated on
Hurt/pain
Humiliation
Desperation
Numbness
Anger
Kenny West
Veteran
god yall can be so dramatic sometimes.
flirting with women and learning to do so doesn't require some drastic change in character or who you are. Only thing that may change is how the boost in testosterone will effect your swag and libido.
Why can't you be yourself and get women too? It's easy, fun, sustainable in the long run and it's real. Are people not multi-faceted? Can you change while still being you? Don't say you can't, every day real nikkas turn down their radios when pulling into their workplace parking lot and talk proper in the office cause they wear that "mask" to put bread on the table. And you do too. You're not the same person on here as you are with your mom. I know you ain't say the bolded to nobody you know irl. this shyt doesn't have to be that complicated my dude
And while I agree not to change for the interests of women (or anyone for that matter, only you have to live with all the choices you make) , what makes you so resistant to this change? You don't sound that happy at all with this man in the mirror you so desperate to cling to. you want a girl. you don't want to be in the game, but this animal you could be would get what you want....if you wasn't scared
How long are you gonna drift around mulling about who you could be? You gonna get old and tell your little nieces and nephews about the animal that you coulda been so they can go?
Change your mindset about women. nobodys your enemy for liking what they like, that's stupid. this notion that you have to sacrifice yourself to be desirable is all in your head and to me just sounds like a pathetic excuse. I bet animal-man you're so afraid of would get out of bed in the morning every day feeling like just himself is enough
but is the cold oatmeal worth it?
its crazy all the hoops, games, time we all put in with the end goal being one woman who you don't have to do ish for who will totally be into you and maybe you end up marrying her.
the game
It's definitely not worth it. I remember growing up essentially having the idea that we have to 'put up' with what a woman does... those mood swings, the nagging, etc. Why? Because we were raised in a society that told us simping was where it was at.
Now, I'm like no way, no how. The average woman is bringing VERY little to the table. The only reason they get away with what they do is because men worship their vaginas, meaning men place so much value on it that they're willing to put up with a lack of conversation, bad attitude, flaking, coldness, inability to cook, inability to clean, the little amount of loyalty, etc. If men stopped thinking with their johnson, I guarantee you things would change very fast. One of the main reasons I advise focusing on something else than women is just for that reason. You have to have the ability to simply withhold if you're not getting quality. Men these days are so hungry and thirsty they will do anything for any little scrap of attention they get, no matter how low quality it is.
How does this reflect in our actions? It's why guys keep having the same issues over and over. They are so thirsty they feel they must 'win' over some female. They talk to a female and she's cold and not paying them much attention, so then they start asking, "What do I say next to get her attention? What do I do next? How do I change my personality to make her more interested?" The real answer is you don't. You keep it pushing . You'll have guys retort, "But you'll be alone!" My answer? So what. If I have to feel like I'm walking on eggshells, if I have to constantly question myself, if I have to worry about her cheating, pinning someone else's baby on me, or any such nonsense, I really don't want her in my presence.
What most men are chasing is a fantasy anyways. They are chasing what they IMAGINE this or that woman to be in their mind as opposed to what she really is. They see this big booty freak out in the club and eventually get feelings and think that they can turn her loyal.They think if they game her up right, they can turn her into a cooking and cleaning, down-forever wifey for life. Nah, doesn't work that way. If she's not inherently like that, then you're going to have problems. She might roleplay that for a little while because she likes you, but as soon as those feelings fade, she'll revert to what she originally was.
Biggest mistake men make is overestimating their game and think they can metamorph a woman into something than what she is. At most, they can make her roleplay for a little while until she gets bored. Only a woman can truly choose to change herself or control who she is, and it has nothing to do with what you or I do. There's very few diamonds out there and a lot of roleplayers and chameleons, so the solution? Keep occupied and living and loving life until you find the diamond. Otherwise, learn to enjoy singlehood and solitude and keep it pushing. Getting with a bad woman is way worse than being single. Having a great woman > being single >>> having a bad woman. Men in this day and age need to learn to accept only quality or to keep it pushing. That makes things way simpler... and they need to avoid changing their personalities trying to 'win' a woman over. If you are the prize, YOU are the one that's supposed to be won.
Yep, it's common for us to create fantasies of what a woman is instead of actually looking at reality because :
1) we like her conversation so much or her looks so much that we don't want to believe she's getting around
2) we overestimate our own game and think we got the secret tools to transform a go-getter into a housewife.
Honestly, don't allow yourself to get bitter. You have to come to the recognition that she got over on you, but you're not going to allow her to affect you for long. You're missing out on a lot of joy simply because someone disloyal has such a hold on your emotions. Forgiveness is what severs those ties. Let it go, don't worry about getting back at her, and focus on enjoying life again... Forgiveness doesn't mean letting her come back into your life. It means letting go of all grudges and ill-feelings and simply moving on with life... and believe me, those feelings DO eat you up inside the longer you hold on to them.
Exactly. It's not worth turning into another character... playing around like you're some bad boy or some other such garbage. You may be able to slam a lot of sluts but ultimately you won't be satisfied, and the worst is if you catch something from one of those broads or get her pregnant. Can you imagine having to deal with that go-getter from the club having your child and having to deal with her for the next 18 years? Can you imagine what she's going to teach your future child or the kinds of dudes she's going to have hanging around?
It's crazy.. I was talking to this girl, added her on facebook to see what she was really about. About a year ago her X had to chase her to get her.. She tried to do the same thing to me then i just completely stopped talking to her. Next thing you know, after 3 weeks she's hitting me up everyday. Chase $$$, not bytches
O.iatlhawksfan
Devoted Joel Embiid hater
i remember this one chick I was feeling was playing hard to get. She was like I ain't interested but her friends were telling me she was, I was like
I ain't no mind reader I started fukking with this other chick at school and when she found out she was like 
I was like 
"you ain't want me". Next thing you know she's telling me to dump the broad to get with her
i remember this one chick I was feeling was playing hard to get. She was like I ain't interested but her friends were telling me she was, I was like
they get so jealous when you don't chase them and they see you with the next chick. I don't really like playing games so it's always on to the next.