Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

Self defeatest attitude .

Set what you want to achieve and work towards it.

Expect the great not disappointments.


What kind of girls do you like?

Been doing that longer than i can remember but sure, odds are we will have this same convo 5 years from now

 

[Brandeezy]

Self defeatest attitude .

Set what you want to achieve and work towards it.

Expect the great not disappointments.


What kind of girls do you like?

What do you mean? I like girls that are attractive to me, like the one in your avi. I don't care about race either

 

[MikelArteta]

I meant like what type, personality, career, loud , shy etc. Etc.

What do you mean? I like girls that are attractive to me, like the one in your avi. I don't care about race either

 

[Brandeezy]

I meant like what type, personality, career, loud , shy etc. Etc.

Preferably quiet or a mix since i'm for the most part a quiet person. Funny, fun loving etc. person and I don't care about the career as long she's doing something for herself

 

[TRUEST]

Thanks breh but i think i'm done with dating sites. I've been off and on different sites for about 6 years now and nothing has come from it. I don't think I have the looks or height to compete online with everyone else so I think i'm better off. Problem is that I don't know where to go from there, I barely have any experience with women. 1st date i went on was a pity date that one of my older coworkers set up and during the date she told me i needed to find some friends. She stopped talking to me after that. 2nd one was this girl off Tinder who lived near my job so I met her at an ice cream shop after work. We talked for like 30 mins then she stopped replying to me the next day after the date was over. Apparently i'm not better than a dude in jail in Arizona because that's who she is seeing now. She flies there once of month to see him according to her FB and this was happened 2 years ago. Only hobbies I have are video games, listening to music and reading comics, which is something I just got into.

but if there's anything u need to work on, it is how to internalize ur insecurities so it doesn't show in how u talk.

when talking to chicks, never say anything that resembles this:

"i know i'm not much to look at"
"i know i may not be your type"

based on what you've said, i consider ur case a bit of an extreme one. which is fine. but u need dating sites. if u approached a chick in real life, she will tear u to shreds based on what i'm gathering about ur personality.

dating sites help to learn how to socialize with chicks u may never see again.

most people who do online dating have horror stories like urs. it aint nothing to get discouraged about.

 

[Brandeezy]

but if there's anything u need to work on, it is how to internalize ur insecurities so it doesn't show in how u talk.

when talking to chicks, never say anything that resembles this:

"i know i'm not much to look at"
"i know i may not be your type"

based on what you've said, i consider ur case a bit of an extreme one. which is fine. but u need dating sites. if u approached a chick in real life, she will tear u to shreds based on what i'm gathering about ur personality.

dating sites help to learn how to socialize with chicks u may never see again.

most people who do online dating have horror stories like urs. it aint nothing to get discouraged about.

Doesn't help though when the majority of them don't reply back. I guarantee you that the 1st 3 pages of my search will not reply back on POF

 

[TRUEST]

Doesn't help though when the majority of them don't reply back. I guarantee you that the 1st 3 pages of my search will not reply back on POF

dude its not about the reply man. a ton of chicks can reply to you and still NOT meet up with you. personally, u'll be making a big mistake if u neglect the online angle, especially given ur situation.

 

[Brandeezy]

dude its not about the reply man. a ton of chicks can reply to you and still NOT meet up with you. personally, u'll be making a big mistake if u neglect the online angle, especially given ur situation.

So how is online dating suppose to work then with no replies? Just sit there and wait like i've been doing. and look a pics all day. I don't understand your point

 

[MikelArteta]

So how is online dating suppose to work then with no replies? Just sit there and wait like i've been doing. and look a pics all day. I don't understand your point

it should only be a outlet like i mentioned before have a porfile posted and just mesage a few chicks log off dont worry abut it sign in rinse and repeat, its when you invest so much in old that you end up and frustrated

 

[Pyrexcup]

online dating if you really want to meet chick you have to do it irl if you are a non-white male, online dating is extremely hard for non-white males, blacks especially. Only use online dating as an extra avenue it should not be your main source

 

[Brandeezy]

it should only be a outlet like i mentioned before have a porfile posted and just mesage a few chicks log off dont worry abut it sign in rinse and repeat, its when you invest so much in old that you end up and frustrated

Ok

 

[Brandeezy]

online dating if you really want to meet chick you have to do it irl if you are a non-white male, online dating is extremely hard for non-white males, blacks especially. Only use online dating as an extra avenue it should not be your main source

That's what I figured...

 

[MikelArteta]

online dating if you really want to meet chick you have to do it irl if you are a non-white male, online dating is extremely hard for non-white males, blacks especially. Only use online dating as an extra avenue it should not be your main source

ive had 1,000 tinder matches twice
and when i was just having fun with okcupid a few weeks ago i got 40 msgs and 100 quick match likes in two days

 

[Pyrexcup]

ive had 1,000 tinder matches twice
and when i was just having fun with okcupid a few weeks ago i got 40 msgs and 100 quick match likes in two days

all those matches means fukk all. How many of those matches did you actually meet? I know this is the coli and all but lets not pretend that black men are eating off dating sites, yes one or two can be eating off pof/tinder or w.e but in general black men aren't eating off dating sites. Dating sites requires hard work, does not matter how many messages/matches or w.e you are getting unless those leads are actually converting into you meeting the person. I too have gotten matches on tinder but the amount of matches who actually want to meet up are very few which is why i suggested that @Brandeezy should only use online dating as an extra avenue and not as his main source.

 

[sfgiants]

online dating has been
i dont even consider it "online dating" because the moment one of these broads reply i'm meeting them within 2-3 days if my schedule permits. i'm not "getting to know them" for weeks before online chatting non stop
and for @Brandeezy worrying about response rate.. the worst thing u can do is go in with that mindset expecting all these girls to reply to you.
i've had zero replies for weeks, then i've had 5-6 girls all reply at once wanting to meet up, and then im like fukk cuz i dont have enough time, energy or desire to meet up with all these hos within days of each other
another thing you shouldn't do is expect anything once u do meet them.. thinking you're gona get deepthroated in the parking lot within 5 minutes
that's why u DON'T do dinner dates.. i grab a drink somewhere and walk and talk with them, if i'm vibing with them then we go on to do other things. otherwise if she's wack or actin weird i always have shyt to do and have to leave

i always say, approaching women in person or online is like baseball.. you're gona strike out more times than not, but you can't be scared to swing
one week you might go 0-10 then next week you're batting .300 and you're barry bonds. short memories >>>>>>