Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[TRUEST]

girl I've been seeing casually for about 4 months comes to my place last night to watch True Detective
I offer her a drink, a smoke, something to eat
she says she's not hungry, she got her own j, and no to the drink because if she starts drinking she'll have to spend the night
im like, "cool"
She asks me if Im hungry. I tell her "I'll probably cook something later."
She sideyes me like shyt.
She offers me the j. I tell her "Im good for now"
She sideyes me some more
I turn on a show she's been wanting to check out
She spends the first scene bytching about the show
By the second scene, she snaps and says im acting like I don't want her around

im like "I don't want you around? "I, the guy that had you come over 2 hours before true detective started so we could chill before..I, the guy that offered you wine, weed, and food?

turns out, she's mad cause when she turned down the drink, I didn't immediately give her the greenlight to stay over

thing is, she never stays over at my place
claims she doesn't sleep well at other peoples houses
she's literally never stayed nor wanted to stay
but all of sudden, she's "assuming" she was spending the night and mad at me for not making confirmation


this basically turned into her tryna punk me into inviting her to stay, to which I hit her with the

at that point, the vibe was merked. shyt was awkward as hell

she was there all of 15 minutes

10 minutes after leaving, she calls. I ignore.
Then she texts, saying "im coming back, please let me in"
I hit her with the again

She then decides to sit in her car just in case in changed my mind. I didn't and she eventually got the point and bounced.

I sat up with the the rest of the night. What was I supposed to do?


I lightweight know what I was "supposed" to do. But why?

Just say you wanna stay over

whatever

just had to get that off my chest

just be honest. u werent really feeling her like that. had u been, u wouldn't be on here talking about u let a girl sit in the car without letting her in.

 

[DAlbert]

just dropped a chick I actually liked this time cause I felt she was putting me in #2 , only talked to her for a few weeks but still

and we just hung out talking for hours non stop and shyt.... Im having a hard time getting over it cause that ass was so phat

life moves on brehs

 

[NerdNash]

Smh I did it breh.

Blocked her number from my phone and my daughters (was that too harsh?)

I gotta get this fukking voodoo off me. It's gonna be hard but I'm not gonna fold this time no matter how bad I want to

Smh

Either I'll hear from her or she gone forever.

Day 1 brehs wish me luck



@kevm3
@Emperor_ReinScarf

 

[NerdNash]

I'm gonna have to camp out in here.

shyt gonna be rough. I gotta do this tho. For my own sanity. She got me bugging the fukk out and she knows it. Spoke to her today and she said...

"you sound miserable"
"You fukked up" (Her favorite line)
"I tried to be friends but you can't, you trip out"
"You need to do what I do and go out and enjoy yourself"
" Down the line you might not even care"

Ether to my soul ...

but this morning it was .. " I love you, I really do"

smh

I was texting her sister and even her sister said "Cut off all contact and let god deal with it"

@kevm3
@Emperor_ReinScarf

 

[DAlbert]

I'm gonna have to camp out in here.

shyt gonna be rough. I gotta do this tho. For my own sanity. She got me bugging the fukk out and she knows it. Spoke to her today and she said...

"you sound miserable"
"You fukked up" (Her favorite line)
"I tried to be friends but you can't, you trip out"
"You need to do what I do and go out and enjoy yourself"
" Down the line you might not even care"

Ether to my soul ...

but this morning it was .. " I love you, I really do"

smh

I was texting her sister and even her sister said "Cut off all contact and let god deal with it"

@kevm3
@Emperor_ReinScarf

 

[Fatboi1]

I'm gonna have to camp out in here.

shyt gonna be rough. I gotta do this tho. For my own sanity. She got me bugging the fukk out and she knows it. Spoke to her today and she said...

"you sound miserable"
"You fukked up" (Her favorite line)
"I tried to be friends but you can't, you trip out"
"You need to do what I do and go out and enjoy yourself"
" Down the line you might not even care"

Ether to my soul ...

but this morning it was .. " I love you, I really do"

smh

I was texting her sister and even her sister said "Cut off all contact and let god deal with it"

@kevm3
@Emperor_ReinScarf

You'll be telling this story to someone down the line laughing about it one day.
You'll be good.

I literally was talking to this girl daily, every single day for about 6 months straight and even flew over to Japan and met her and her fam(Her fam thought we was friends). I smashed and had a great time. I came back, we still talked everyday but I kind of wanted to keep her as a main in case I go back over there again and then things just started getting sour.

We eventually stopped talking because I found out she was ttalking to someone else after I told her let's be friends.. Even though I INITIATED the friendship, I couldn't deal with it. I just cut her off for good and went about a week without talking to her. It was weird not getting texts at the same time every day but I got over it in about a week. She texted me yesterday morning like "Hey what's up?" and i replied 12 hrs later like "I'm good."
She just said "Thanks for sending my mom messages ." and I said "Ok" and she sent a "thank you" sticker back. I didn't even say anything back to that. I had recently texted her Mom since her Mom was in the hospital and since she was just nice to me when I was there..

The old me would've been trying to slip a convo in there on some "Soo.. what's up?" and shyt but I didn't even care. Deleted the text and kept it moving. I don't even care for her no more. Basically you can't be friends with an EX like that.. Maybe years later when you're with someone else on some cordial shyt but nah after a breakup just leave her alone.

 

[NerdNash]

You'll be telling this story to someone down the line laughing about it one day.
You'll be good.

I literally was talking to this girl daily, every single day for about 6 months straight and even flew over to Japan and met her and her fam(Her fam thought we was friends). I smashed and had a great time. I came back, we still talked everyday but I kind of wanted to keep her as a main in case I go back over there again and then things just started getting sour.

We eventually stopped talking because I found out she was ttalking to someone else after I told her let's be friends.. Even though I INITIATED the friendship, I couldn't deal with it. I just cut her off for good and went about a week without talking to her. It was weird not getting texts at the same time every day but I got over it in about a week. She texted me yesterday morning like "Hey what's up?" and i replied 12 hrs later like "I'm good."
She just said "Thanks for sending my mom messages ." and I said "Ok" and she sent a "thank you" sticker back. I didn't even say anything back to that. I had recently texted her Mom since her Mom was in the hospital and since she was just nice to me when I was there..

The old me would've been trying to slip a convo in there on some "Soo.. what's up?" and shyt but I didn't even care. Deleted the text and kept it moving. I don't even care for her no more. Basically you can't be friends with an EX like that.. Maybe years later when you're with someone else on some cordial shyt but nah after a breakup just leave her alone.

6 months? Lmao

nikka I've been with her for 7 years. That's why it's hard. 6 months I wouldn't even care breh cmon lol

 

[MikelArteta]

Smh I did it breh.

Blocked her number from my phone and my daughters (was that too harsh?)

I gotta get this fukking voodoo off me. It's gonna be hard but I'm not gonna fold this time no matter how bad I want to

Smh

Either I'll hear from her or she gone forever.

Day 1 brehs wish me luck



@kevm3
@Emperor_ReinScarf

You have to do whats good for you, when your no longer wiht someone you owe them nothing. Not friendship, not answers, not closure, not why. It's time you put yourself first

 

[MikelArteta]

You'll be telling this story to someone down the line laughing about it one day.
You'll be good.

I literally was talking to this girl daily, every single day for about 6 months straight and even flew over to Japan and met her and her fam(Her fam thought we was friends). I smashed and had a great time. I came back, we still talked everyday but I kind of wanted to keep her as a main in case I go back over there again and then things just started getting sour.

We eventually stopped talking because I found out she was ttalking to someone else after I told her let's be friends.. Even though I INITIATED the friendship, I couldn't deal with it. I just cut her off for good and went about a week without talking to her. It was weird not getting texts at the same time every day but I got over it in about a week. She texted me yesterday morning like "Hey what's up?" and i replied 12 hrs later like "I'm good."
She just said "Thanks for sending my mom messages ." and I said "Ok" and she sent a "thank you" sticker back. I didn't even say anything back to that. I had recently texted her Mom since her Mom was in the hospital and since she was just nice to me when I was there..

The old me would've been trying to slip a convo in there on some "Soo.. what's up?" and shyt but I didn't even care. Deleted the text and kept it moving. I don't even care for her no more. Basically you can't be friends with an EX like that.. Maybe years later when you're with someone else on some cordial shyt but nah after a breakup just leave her alone.

you know when you can be friends with an ex? when your both dating new people and don tcare and by that time you'll have no incentive to talk.

Especially with women when they are talkign to or in a new relationship other men don't exist till troubles arise

 

[Hollywood Co]

Been years since I posted in this thread....

Broke up with my ex back in May and its been an odd transition back into the single life. Smashed a few women since the breakup but dating is boring at best, down right terrible at worst. I do understand kinda what's contributing to it (still involved with my ex and not wanting to spending bread on entertaining//dating women) but it was never this complicated to pull attractive I actually vibe with.

I'm just ranting but man dating can be as frustrating as it can be fun

 

[MikelArteta]

I'm gonna have to camp out in here.

shyt gonna be rough. I gotta do this tho. For my own sanity. She got me bugging the fukk out and she knows it. Spoke to her today and she said...

"you sound miserable"
"You fukked up" (Her favorite line)
"I tried to be friends but you can't, you trip out"
"You need to do what I do and go out and enjoy yourself"
" Down the line you might not even care"

Ether to my soul ...

but this morning it was .. " I love you, I really do"

smh

I was texting her sister and even her sister said "Cut off all contact and let god deal with it"

@kevm3
@Emperor_ReinScarf

stop talking to her man, anytime you do you'll set yourself back
now everything is back on you, its your fault we cant be friends, its your fault your acting like this bla bla

honestly sometimes this is needed, when your ex is so mean to you and says such hurtful things that even when you feel like contacting her the desire

man its been 7 years, do you want to spend the next 7 in this back and forth feeling thsi way?

 

[Fatboi1]

Been years since I posted in this thread....

Broke up with my ex back in May and its been an odd transition back into the single life. Smashed a few women since the breakup but dating is boring at best, down right terrible at worst. I do understand kinda what's contributing to it (still involved with my ex and not wanting to spending bread on entertaining//dating women) but it was never this complicated to pull attractive I actually vibe with.

I'm just ranting but man dating can be as frustrating as it can be fun

Man I can't even remember the last time I "dated" a girl. I don't look at it like it's "dating" i just talk, hang out somewhere if I can and then call it a done deal. All this setting up, going somewhere to eat meh. When I went to Japan, I chose where to go even though I was new in country lol. I refuse to get caught up in this shenanigans. If I like a girl, she like me then we talk and If I'm going somewhere invite her on some "Hey I'm going to the store to get something wanna ride?" If the chick feeling you she'll go. Last chick I was dealing with before this japanese chick used to go with me to freaking Shoprite of all places. We mainly hung out at home and watched movies. Only chick I never smashed yet spent time with .

 

[MikelArteta]

Been years since I posted in this thread....

Broke up with my ex back in May and its been an odd transition back into the single life. Smashed a few women since the breakup but dating is boring at best, down right terrible at worst. I do understand kinda what's contributing to it (still involved with my ex and not wanting to spending bread on entertaining//dating women) but it was never this complicated to pull attractive I actually vibe with.

I'm just ranting but man dating can be as frustrating as it can be fun

I found dating easier when I was younger mainly because as long as a woman looks good your like meh, but as you get older so many other things come into play. What she does for a living, does she have kids, where is she going in life, her relationship history, religion etc. etc.

when i was 20 even 25 as long as she looked good that was all that mattered.

It's like being a athlete when your young you just care about the money, the big contracts, but when you get older and become a vet your sick of losing and just want to win so even if your a free agent you will only sign for a contender or a winner and that narrows the amount of teams you will play for.

The amount of women I'm interested in is so small compared to the past.

 

[NerdNash]

You have to do whats good for you, when your no longer wiht someone you owe them nothing. Not friendship, not answers, not closure, not why. It's time you put yourself first

My nikka this is exactly what she told me she's on. That's the zone she's in. I need to get in it

 

[MikelArteta]

My nikka this is exactly what she told me she's on. That's the zone she's in. I need to get in it

you will breh with time, every day you don't talk to her, check up on what shes doing it'll shrink

It's like a tumour and every day you stay away is like chemo and radiation itll shrink and shrink and shrink