Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

Get this my girl got mad at me because I don't get angry supposedly. I laughed and said there is a time to be angry and this is my personality. I've been through enough situations in my life where I learn to harness my emotions, I don't scream or get upset at every little thing and there is the door because I'm not changing into some Chris Brown rollercoaster. She started to cry and said I didn't mean it like that bla bla.

And I hit back I said I don't care about your little tests I see them a mile away, and your trying to provoke me, il see you tomorrow and click.

 

[MAGNETO.]

Been getting a lot of shyt tests at work from girls tbh.
When you call 'em out they start apologizing and back tracking

Spoiler

 

[MikelArteta]

I don't know if I'm just used to docile white woman or what .

 

[Ohene]

I don't know if I'm just used to docile white woman or what .

i know how you feel man. same shyt here. all these black girls do is complain

imagine how worse itll get when you fukk her eventually

 

[Ghanaian Armor]

Had a couple of Brothers I know on FB complain today about uncovering Women's hidden intentions, secrets and games etc. So thought I would re-post this here:

List Accurate as of August 2015, this is from a combination of friends and my own experience along with repeating themes I've seen online. This guide is primarily for Brothers dealing with American Women. The list for Foreign Women I can make which differs slightly on many points (sometimes there are completely different red flags to look for, and others you can overlook):

Comprehensive Red Flag checklist in Women (Long-Term Relationship standards) Automatic Disqualifiers which indicate you should end it IMMEDIATELY:

• Talks explicitly about sex before the 3rd date, p*ssy size characteristics and dikk size of previous partners
• b*stard children (even 1), More than 1 abortion
• Fake hair components longer than 6 inches - Too concerned with latest trends and superficial appearances
• Too much make-up combined with poor diet - Signals she does not like to deal with root issues (the root issue being poor skin due to poor nutrition habits) will let herself go likely and generate high medical bills later in life
• Does not insist on splitting the check on the 3rd date, and does not even offer tip - Will not contribute to the household financially
• Asks these 3 questions before the 3rd date (this does not apply to Women you've known before you decided to start dating, in which case they should already know this information): What do you do (asking about specific role name and responsibilities), Do you own a home/live alone, What (brand/year etc) car do you drive - Play close attention to facial reaction on your answers - Asking all in the same date she is trying to mentally record and categorize your priority in her book - Immediately leave the date. Tone and the sequence of the questions is most important here at the end of the day use your gut. If it seems artificially inserted and timed with a certain period of silence err on the side of caution.
• If the date feels too much like a job interview cut the cord, she is "mate shopping"
• Asking too much about your relationship with your mother (and to some degree your Father) - Cut the cord...She is trying to screen out Momma's boys which ironically indicates she has a habit of picking those types of Men which can become a self-fulfilling prophecy - She will inevitably suggest "Why don't you invite your Mother/Call your Mother" and request she become more involved in your family life - Then later in the relationship she will point the finger at you and say "You are prioritizing your family over me".
• Constantly re-affirming that you are not an alcoholic, gambler or cheater etc. - (i.e. nitpicking - "Aren't you drinking too much tonight? - When you've only had 2 drinks) Means she is either projecting her own bad habits upon you or similar to the prior problem - She chooses Men with these problems and therefore her subconscious mind expects the same from you.
• When you first have sex if she is stating rules of what she will and won't do before you get down (before you've even tried anything) there is a problem. Leave immediately.
• Women who have a box load of magnum condoms in their dresser that look less than a year old
• Women who never invite you over to their apartment (roommates or not), specifically ones who say something along the lines of "It is too messy right now"
• Women with cars that have a messy interior and are poorly maintained, likewise Women who do not want you to see their car or home - They are looking to hide a problem and not fix it, they will do the same in the marriage
• Women who have more than one cat, and two or more larger dogs
• Gym rats - More than 2x a week (unless they are overweight and trying to change that)
• Women who have a lot of money to spend on you but their job does not equate to that level of money (they are either receiving alimony, child support for a child they are hiding, on the pole, hiding a relationship, etc.)
• Women who had a weak father and strong mother in the household
• Women whose Mother died at a young age and had a weak father
• Women whose Father died when they were a teenager
• Adult Women whose Father died in the past 5 years, Mother within the past 2-3 years
• Women who had a domineering older sister
• More than 10-15 pairs of shoes
• Women who have been sexually abused or raped by a close family member or friend (By a random stranger the impact is not as permanent for some reason, since there is no trust established in that relationship to be broken) However, Women who have been raped at all in the past 5 years point blank period - Automatic Do Not Proceed

Many times a Woman will willingly offer up this information but sometimes you'll have to do some investigation. Facebook is your friend here. Call me a creep if you want but you need to check her posts dating 2 years back from the present. Too much ranting and raving about exes = Automatically discard her. Do not bring up anything you see on her Facebook, just keep it in the back of your mind. Doing this could save your life as there could be a jealous ex lurking somewhere she has conveniently neglected to tell you about.

Do not let her tag you on social media until it's been 1 year in and you've completed some initial screening such as meeting many of her friends (and hopefully extended family, not necessarily parents).

 

[Ghanaian Armor]

A lot of people ain't gonna believe it because they don't want to believe it because it's not really a pleasant thing to believe.
It's something life forces you to accept by bashing you over the head over and over with realities that shatter your mental fantasies. A few more experiences and he'll see what it is.

Sometimes I wonder what environment these nikkas are born or raised in.

My family has been teaching me about hoes since I was 12. They used to call me the artful dodger because I never got caught up, ever.

And by hoes I don't mean the streetwalker looking type there are hoes in many shapes, sizes and forms. Ones that work corporate jobs earning 65k+ are by far the worst. They are expert level hoes of the doberman or German Shepard breed.

 

[Ohene]

• Women who had a weak father and strong mother in the household
• Women who have been sexually abused or raped by a close family member or friend (By a random stranger the impact is not as permanent for some reason, since there is no trust established in that relationship to be broken)

talking to a good girl right now and i know all the red flags...she's a good person and has many qualities i look for in a woman....but shes also clinically bipoloar/clingy

it's sad but its the truth. These are some of the most obvious red flags

 

[Ghanaian Armor]

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[Ohene]

brah your underestimated what ignoring these hoes does to their heads. the less attention you pay to them the more they will want you. its a fukking game to them.

yes...but that shyt will fade. either you dont really want them and will continue playing the game and having her at your disposal. or you like her...will want her and she'll start gaming you.

reincar is referring to situations where you want the girl. if she really wnts you...she will be yours. those girls youre referring to dont want you..tthey just want to conquer the challenge

 

[Ohene]

Jesus Christ......That's what actually scares me about longterm relationships.

I've had women flip on me after a few months, after a year but after 4 years is scary...

That's why the concept of marriage is a bit insane to me. You make lifetime decisions based on a very short phase of your life.

I wish you the best breh

real talk. i feel like deep down a lot of older married folks arent happy either....content maybe but not happy

 

[Ohene]

one of the hardest things at a man is trusting or opening up to another chick when one has done you wrong, it messes with your psyche. Your like in the edge of tomorrow and every day is like new relationships all start the same, chicks uttering nice phrases and ish but its like you knwo wha twill happen next but how can you avoid it from not happening. I've had like 11 women tell me they love me, not one is still around. And it kinds of mess me up nside, because if the girl I'm with one day were to tell me she loves me, it would just be like number 12 and thats something I'm working on to blot out the past memories and not let it have a hold on me

And thats the thing with breakups after a long ime, its like getting back on the training wheels, 5 years gone and it may take you months or even years to get to a point where your open to a relationship again, then you gotta start from scratch, dating this and that finding a girl matching up to qualities you desire, hoping it works out etc. etc. so nauseating.

Looking back will just keep you situated in the quick sand, and trust me breh it didn't matter what you did the outcome would have been the same

I dunno reincar and ren...it sounds like the girl was simply having a depressive episode. It's not fair to tell homie that she did him wrong because if you know anything about depression...its not just a state it's a mental illness. One can argue that while making a good decision for himself...@Ren is actually the one doing her wrong (but that is without knowing all the details of how shes been acting in these last four months. THat being said I agree with Ren saying how it affects your thinking. Mine too. I know all too well how easy it is for a girl to leave you willingly, circumstantially or worse being taken from you. Life is complex.

It's nothing for a girl to

A) Have some sort of circumstance that forces her to leave you (ie. moving to a new country for a job opportunity, having an ill family member in another state etc.)
B) Willingly leave you (ie. Losing her feelings from you)
C) Being taken from you (self explanatory)

Regardless...in these situations you have to do what youre comfortable with. If you are comfortable dealing with bullshyt behaviour from a woman you love while you try to get her back on her feet...then do that. If you aren't then ditch her and beware of the prospect that you never find a girl as good / she bounces back.

If youre comfortable with a long distance relationship, engage. If not, evade.

etc.

 

[Ohene]

that is what's terrifying. i would be lying to everyone of my brothers on here if i told y'all i'm all fukk this bytch and she never had me. there was moments where it was perfect. there was moments where i legit thought i had a ride or die. that shyt is a level of fukked up i cant even comprehend. what if i had had kids with this woman? what if i had married her? in 4 years i never saw a side of her that she decided to just unveil in one night outta the blue. that is terrifying. that shyt makes me never want to trust a bytch again and i would be lying if i said i wasnt legit hurt by that shyt.

we were going on 5 years and i dont even remember what it was like being in the game. thats the hardest part. i gave her everything and in a flash between a couple months ive got nothing to show for it. i cared for her so of course im worried but the anger i feel is way too real. you wasted my motherfukking time. you wasted 4 years of my life and then flipped on me. could it have been worse? absolutely my nikka. she could have been a raggedy ass bytch that went behind my back and i realize that but i can't say this shyt doesn't scar me just as much. she had my defenses completely down and i never saw the shyt coming so i'm going into this completely unprepared. my word of advice to my brothers would be to always keep your guard up even when you're in heaven. ive fukked over women and ive done some dumb some shyt i aint proud of in the past but i was grown by this point. i cant think back and pinpoint a single moment where i could have treated her better because i was mature by this point. and that shyt flipped on me on a dime. these women out here aren't like us regardless of who you dealing with. they can find an unhappy situation no matter what you do. they can decide they're bored no matter what you do.

and the sick shyt about it is i know she's gunna be one of those bytches that turns 30 and panics and locks down some unfortunate nikka who doesn't see it coming. onto the next.

fam...this shyt sounds more serious than what the initial story implicates.what did she do fam

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

Got called "negative" today because I told some friends of mine that I wouldn't approach a girl unless I knew that she was at least somewhat physically attracted to me in the first place and said that women were every bit as visual as men are, and that the only difference is that women get insulted for it...so I made it clear that I was on their side.

I still got taken to task and called all kinds of names like "scared", etc.

Then I brought up the point about how girls complain all the time about "creeps" and men that they're clearly not into approaching them and giving them unsolicited attention, so finally, when a guy who's clearly not entitled agrees with them on the issue, they still complain!

There is no making these hoes happy.

/grinds my gears

I told a couple girls in my class that I think around the same way that I don't worry about a single thing (school, relationships, anything, etc.) and they found it both fascinating but confusing as well (as people in grad school can be high strung anxious a lot). they're always confused about the idea about being so laid back and waiting for interest, like some women can't process the thought when it seems quite obvious to me that women are going to find ways to be around guys they wanna be around. I think one of them likes me low key but she seems immature so I don't worry about it - if i cant be the first option dont bother

I keep casually running into a girl who also goes out with a group that I chill with sometimes and I lowkey mentioned a bar I wanted to go to and she said she was down but I think nothing of drunk conversations (plus they're all a bit younger and I'm just ). I run into her again next week and I ask her what's a good happy hour spot to take my boy to and she invites me to where she's going. then I get a text the next day saying she's down to go saturday if I still want to go that bar. She knew I wanted to go from our convo weeks ago and she initiated the conversation (because i'm not sure I would've brought it up) and that's when her interest in me became obvious. She's great-looking, chill, friendly, and I seem to always end up talking to her at some point at social events.

school's been strange. it's funny a lot of people see me as so confident, I feel like I rolled up into school here after 3 years off from school as more mature and people/females notice. I've not gone out of my way to talk to a single female or anything and I've still gotten more attention than ever before in my life. like women just saying awkward as hell shyt like 'i feel you walk around looking fit like a boxer' or 'you dress so well' or 'we can be gym buddies'. and i'm just alright imo , I just walk around respecting myself and being laid back as hell about everything and people dig it. I'm not trying to mess around in the class though just living it one moment at a time


If you asked me 5-6 years I would feel this generally put together at 25, I woulda thought no way that shy awkward nervous kid would turn into someone who is totally comfortable with himself. All it took was living by the general mantra 'I'm gonna get better everyday' whether that's school, fitness, confidence, emotional maturity, perspective, anything. Also a couple years off working gives you a lot of time to think about your overarching goals in life and working to get there (thank god i'm in school brehs )

 

[Atlrocafella]

I told a couple girls in my class that I think around the same way that I don't worry about a single thing (school, relationships, anything, etc.) and they found it both fascinating but confusing as well (as people in grad school can be high strung anxious a lot). they're always confused about the idea about being so laid back and waiting for interest, like some women can't process the thought when it seems quite obvious to me that women are going to find ways to be around guys they wanna be around. I think one of them likes me low key but she seems immature so I don't worry about it - if i cant be the first option dont bother

I keep casually running into a girl who also goes out with a group that I chill with sometimes and I lowkey mentioned a bar I wanted to go to and she said she was down but I think nothing of drunk conversations (plus they're all a bit younger and I'm just ). I run into her again next week and I ask her what's a good happy hour spot to take my boy to and she invites me to where she's going. then I get a text the next day saying she's down to go saturday if I still want to go that bar. She knew I wanted to go from our convo weeks ago and she initiated the conversation (because i'm not sure I would've brought it up) and that's when her interest in me became obvious. She's great-looking, chill, friendly, and I seem to always end up talking to her at some point at social events.

school's been strange. it's funny a lot of people see me as so confident, I feel like I rolled up into school here after 3 years off from school as more mature and people/females notice. I've not gone out of my way to talk to a single female or anything and I've still gotten more attention than ever before in my life. like women just saying awkward as hell shyt like 'i feel you walk around looking fit like a boxer' or 'you dress so well' or 'we can be gym buddies'. and i'm just alright imo , I just walk around respecting myself and being laid back as hell about everything and people dig it. I'm not trying to mess around in the class though just living it one moment at a time


If you asked me 5-6 years I would feel this generally put together at 25, I woulda thought no way that shy awkward nervous kid would turn into someone who is totally comfortable with himself. All it took was living by the general mantra 'I'm gonna get better everyday' whether that's school, fitness, confidence, emotional maturity, perspective, anything. Also a couple years off working gives you a lot of time to think about your overarching goals in life and working to get there (thank god i'm in school brehs )

This is basically the Mission Statement of this Thread. The brehs have been saying since the inception, Once you work on yourself, and you are happy with yourself, everything will fall into place, and women will take notice.

 

[MaccabeanRebel]

If you were married and there was a life or death situation between your kids and your wife who would you choose?

Me and my girl got into a argument because I said i would choose the kids. She said you can always have more kids...in my head I'm like bish I could always find another wife.

Anyways, she basically said she wants a man who would always choose her first..

Shawty was adopted so I understand her thinking but its totally against my beliefs.