Don't frame your interactions with women as 'going on a date.' If you come at ol girl with some 'hey beautiful lady, I'd like to take you to dinner on friday night', it pretty much gives the impression that you will be paying. The key is to deal with women that really like you for you, because then you'll be able to tell a woman, "I'm going to be at the park later. You should come up and chill with me." and she'll be down. It's when you deal with those women who don't really like you too much or women who are adamant that you 'take them on a date that will get you to try to pay. Both of these you should avoid.
There's nothing wrong with paying for dates, but that's AFTER she's shown she's down for you and really likes you. When you realize a lot of women are using these dates to get free meals, then you'll cut back on doing that. We, as men, are not here to finance womens' eating habits, especially when they'll deal with another man right after eating the food you paid for. On the other hand, a woman that is genuinely into you and has no problems reciprocating... there's nothing wrong with paying for a meal for her here and there.
That's good. A lot of guys are out here content with just getting by.
