Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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CrossBones
Louder than words
one of the things thats good to get into the habit of doing, is controlling the texts and the conversation. that doesnt mean you talk all of the time, and order her around, it means that you set the pace and requirements for her to get down with you. now its hard to have the perfect thing to say, because there is never a perfect thing to say. but what I mean is that the best thing you can do is be forward and honest about what youre doing and what you want out of her.
see if youre not on a punishment/reward system, then youre off on the wrong foot to begin with. if youre not ignoring, - or if youre in a relationship, calling out the bullshyt - then youre basically saying that whatever shes doing is okay with you. you dont want to meet up? okay... let me still talk and try to get time with you. youre not free this week? okay, let me text you all of the time and try to be up under you. you dont want to pick up or answer back a text? okay, let me just keep trying ... hey beautiful ... hey wasup ... wyd... I havent heard from you in a while ....
theres no punishment in that system. youre still rewarding her with attention and offers. thats what makes a man look "thirsty." constantly being open and free for her changing schedule shows her that its okay to do that. you cant be too flexible with women or any relationship. because if you are, then it looks like youre desperate and on their time. you start looking like her doormat. it gives people, anyone really, free reign to do what they want and have you on the backburner, because it looks like its cool with you, youre still gonna be waiting.
set the boundaries and treat people fairly. reward them if theyre with your program, give them space and/or ignore them if theyre not down with your show. and regardless of what happens, its cool because you shouldnt let other people affect you seriously anyways. but whatever happens, no passes. its either reward or punish
see if youre not on a punishment/reward system, then youre off on the wrong foot to begin with. if youre not ignoring, - or if youre in a relationship, calling out the bullshyt - then youre basically saying that whatever shes doing is okay with you. you dont want to meet up? okay... let me still talk and try to get time with you. youre not free this week? okay, let me text you all of the time and try to be up under you. you dont want to pick up or answer back a text? okay, let me just keep trying ... hey beautiful ... hey wasup ... wyd... I havent heard from you in a while ....
theres no punishment in that system. youre still rewarding her with attention and offers. thats what makes a man look "thirsty." constantly being open and free for her changing schedule shows her that its okay to do that. you cant be too flexible with women or any relationship. because if you are, then it looks like youre desperate and on their time. you start looking like her doormat. it gives people, anyone really, free reign to do what they want and have you on the backburner, because it looks like its cool with you, youre still gonna be waiting.
set the boundaries and treat people fairly. reward them if theyre with your program, give them space and/or ignore them if theyre not down with your show. and regardless of what happens, its cool because you shouldnt let other people affect you seriously anyways. but whatever happens, no passes. its either reward or punish
the bossman
Superstar
Shouldn't even be asking chicks for their number in 2015. I just give them mine and keep it pushin. They not gonna take the time to hit up a dude they have no interest inLook just use this simple premise:
Every time you text a girl say you want to meet me after ______.
____ should be:
- Out with my boys
- Working late or out with co-workers
- After Gym/Running Errands like Laundry, Bank etc.
Convey that your time is valuable and you will get to know her in person. Say I am going to be in this area from these times you are welcome to join.
Give her 3 opportunities. If she doesn't at any point offer alternatives or ask you to move times she is not interested. Charge that bytch to the game and get another card for your deck.
You should be rolling at least 10 cards in your deck if you are under 25, at least 5 under 35. A big problem is that you need to make a good first impression. They are not gonna be excited to meet you again unless you blew their socks off.
This is why Men should not be asking for any and every Woman's phone number in 2015 unless they trying to make a marketing call list.
9 out of 10 females you meet you will not have anything in common with or any chemistry with. View it from that perspective and be more selective in who you ask for their phone number. Unless they are really interested and giving off a lot of indicators as such don't get their contact info. Just keep it moving.
MollyGalaga
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So this how last night went down
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She's making it very clear that she doesn't want to take it to that level, she respects you guys friendship, and she's not over he last ex breaking up with her. Believe her and don't press the situation. Any thoughts of you being able to change her mind about you two, toss that shyt out the window and continue to move on with your dating life. If you play this back and fourth with her, you will get burned and will only have yourself to blame because she is clearly telling you right now what she doesn't want.
DeuceZ
Li pitit gason
Brehs here's a text snippet from a broad I met in the club friday...didn't even have to talk to her...looked her into the eyes n handed her my phone
Hey what's up
Yesterday, 12:30 PM
what you got planned for the day ?
I might go to the spa with my girls, you?
service my Furiozo....wanna hang out with ya though /
That's cool, word? And do what?
hang out something casual
what do you like to do ?
Okay, I like shopping, eating out, getting drinks with friends, most of the time I'm at school so it just depends.
You?
Yeah...i’m in school too....
what r you in school for ?
What school do you go to?
Im majoring in education
usf....will tell you more when I see ya in person....face to face conversations always better looool
Yesterday, 12:47 PM
Oh really? Thats cool. And that's true.
you stay in tampa ?
Yesterday, 1:18 PM
Yeah. You?
Yesterday, 1:23 PM
aye so after your plans with ya girls lets either hit a yogurt spot or you could come out for drinks n conversation
Yesterday, 3:46 PM
Sure that sounds good.
Yesterday, 7:45 PM
I'm almost done taking care of furiozo....so r u now free ?
Yesterday, 7:53 PM
I'm out right now with a few friends but I should be going back home a little later
Yesterday, 8:34 PM
I guess it's for drinks then let me know
Yesterday, 9:06 PM
Okay than
Yesterday, 10:50 PM
free now ?
Yeah I'm almost home. Where do you want to go for drinks?
bar Louie's ?
Today, 12:16 AM
I guess we off for tonight ?
Today, 12:20 AM
We might have to reschedule for tomorrow. I haven't went home yet, still out with my girls
Today, 2:00 PM
hey
Today, 2:37 PM
What's up
Today, 2:45 PM
drinks at boba louie’s at 6:05?
Today, 2:48 PM
We might have to do something else. I'm 20 years old they won't allow me at the bar.
ok some casual pizza hangout place then.....or have you ever had amarula ? It’s cream like drink we drink back home
Today, 11:01 PM
you could have said straight up ain't sh!t happening mate
....If any mistakes made please advice so I can improve on the next one....I'm a firm believer in no fap so ya know a nikka can be a little aggressive
what u know bout that Amarula breh
I been talkin to one recently who fits most of the shyt you described like paying/offering to pay all that, stays by my side, only interested in me when we out. She do seem real classy but it is the bolded that concern me and why I haven't pulled the trigger on a relationship. She is out with her friends at the club quite a bit and she says she goes for them because they ain't got nobody else to chill with but it's hard to believe, she could be truthful in that she ain't there lookin for dudes but I don't know if I believe it and I don't know if it's within my boundaries to tell her leave that shyt alone. So I just ain't pullin the trigger
If that's the only thing she does that bothers u, I would just leave it. Don't stress her about it. But when random n1ggas start texting her phone or she starts talking to u in a disrespectful tone, that's when u need to check her. Be on the lookout for these 2 things and don't let it slide the first time u see it.
Mr Hate Coffee
Veteran
Brehs it never ceases to amaze me how women can make themselves the victims. I have a crazy ex who even when she's in the wrong will have the nerve to flip shyt and make me be the bad guy. 
Because of this I've told her to never contact me again. I can't deal with the negativity brehs.
Because of this I've told her to never contact me again. I can't deal with the negativity brehs.
Brehs it never ceases to amaze me how women can make themselves the victims. I have a crazy ex who even when she's in the wrong will have the nerve to flip shyt and make me be the bad guy.
Because of this I've told her to never contact me again. I can't deal with the negativity brehs.
i know all about it. they say not to argue with women but the way with which they flip sh1t, if u dont say ur piece (however short it is), they'll go on believing the crap they've' concocted in their head. and when they tell the story to their friends, they'll paint u down so bad the friends will do nothing but side with her. thats why i hate arguing over the phone. i like to keep things in text so when they show that sh1t to their friends, at least one of them will point out the obvious to her.
b_priest9mm
A work in progress...
I'm not going to say that I'm starting to hate women...but my mind is straying down a dark path and I'm having some bad thoughts.
I figured I'd post here instead of making a thread, but it's all starting to become too much.
The inherent biases, the outcries about menial bullshyt like being looked at (while we're at it, the fact that I feel like I can't be aroun, the fact that we have to choke on our thoughts and feelings because everything is our fault (and if we do harbor these thoughts, we're "whiners" and "misogynistic", it's much easier to simply shame us rather than work toward a solution), the fact that it seems like nothing we do is enough.
I'm at wit's end, simple as that. I don't want to feel this way, I really don't...it's not natural, but the confusion is manifesting itself into other, worse things.
I guess the point of all this is that I could use a little help and perspective.
I figured I'd post here instead of making a thread, but it's all starting to become too much.
The inherent biases, the outcries about menial bullshyt like being looked at (while we're at it, the fact that I feel like I can't be aroun, the fact that we have to choke on our thoughts and feelings because everything is our fault (and if we do harbor these thoughts, we're "whiners" and "misogynistic", it's much easier to simply shame us rather than work toward a solution), the fact that it seems like nothing we do is enough.
I'm at wit's end, simple as that. I don't want to feel this way, I really don't...it's not natural, but the confusion is manifesting itself into other, worse things.
I guess the point of all this is that I could use a little help and perspective.
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MaccabeanRebel
All Star
Life is literally to short to stress over women but don't hate them.... I think you are over thinking it..if you keep running into women with those qualities u dislike then learn to filter them out.
Reginald Noble
Banned
The problem is you are getting pulled into her pace. fukk all of that dramatic mess.
I would not mess with a female who daddy died recently and was involved with any Man during that time period. She will never forget his ass and there's too many Women in the world who don't have daddy issues to be bothered with that mess. Now I've met Women whose daddy died when they were younger and they are strong and resolute (in the true sense, not fake) but they are few and far in between.
satireprod
Superstar
I must have copied the homie's link wrong...whst happened?
Reginald Noble
Banned
satireprod
Superstar
Oh ok, do you think she's flat out trying to curve him, or is she trying to keep him on the backburner for later?