Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Jesus Shuttlesworth]

All these games we're (m & w) have to play with each other...and folk wanna get married, too...u playing games til deaf?

" Imma sleep over Steve house, tonite, can't have her thinking she and the kids "got" me."

No shots at my brehs...i get it (hate the game , not the player). But, I feel better not being in the game.

#singlessquad

You looking at it wrong, breh. There's no games (plural) it's just THE game. Kobe and LeBron play a game too, don't mean it's for kids.

But in reality, it's not about creating an illusion. You really SHOULD have shyt going on in your life. Your time really SHOULD be valuable. You really SHOULD have options. What woman would wanna be with a man who sits at home on the couch all day? Think about it.

It's only "games" if you're not sincere. And that will only lead to disaster anyway. Can't front like a socialite when you're really a hermit because at some point that will all come to light.

Shouldn't even be asking chicks for their number in 2015. I just give them mine and keep it pushin. They not gonna take the time to hit up a dude they have no interest in

Can't co-sign this, breh. You let chicks pick spots and drive too?

Never relinquish that power position and give her control of a situation. Be a man. Have some balls. She will respect you for it. Guaranteed.

So this how last night went down
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just copy n paste it and remove the space between the period and imgur. I did that for a reason.

So what happened at the party? Did you fukk?

I got a rule: don't fukk with broke chicks. Has nothing to do with money. She seems like she got some deep emotional shyt going on that you may not wanna be involved with long term. She sounds way too dependent. Obviously there's the daddy thing. Sounds like she used her ex as a crutch. No one should be depending on anyone else for happiness. That's a clear sign of instability.

If you decide to move forward (and I would caution against that given her apparent state, but I don't know her or the situation), I'd stick to short answers to dissuade this kinda talk. You trying to fukk or be this chick's therapist? That's with any chick. Don't allow her to make you into a texting buddy. If you keep texting long paragraphs then that's exactly what you will become in her eyes. Anytime she's feeling down she's gonna text you. Don't be that guy. Keep your answers short and direct. And kinda be a dikk. Chicks love that.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

What y'all think about approaching a female while she working

 

[satireprod]

I really hate this backburner shyt that some women do. If you're gonna give me my L, let me gracefully take it and be about my way. But folks just have to keep a finger on something they don't want, just to know they have it. Some selfish shyt right here.

That's exactly how I feel bro. Sooner than later, if it's going to be done.

 

[PinotNoir]

Maybe he'll come back and explain how he met her, not sure. I mean I get everything in her life is hectic right now BUT if I recall right, when he asked was she still with her boyfriend she said "No but I talk to somebody though" which means she's not messed up enough to be messing around/sleeping with the other guy right?

No I've seen mentally unstable people maintain romantic relationships. She's talking to someone which to me means that person is priority at the moment in her dating life, any others are just options. I'd tell your friend to take it easy focus on other things personally he should move on because if someone wants to be with you they will, no excuses. I know it's easier said than done but you must have discipline and lookout for yourself. It seems like your friend really like this lady but he shouldn't let his emotions rule look at the present and right now she doesn't seem too interested in him other than satisfying her ego at times. The dating game is tough, everybody talking to multiples at once. It's tough and you have to use your head to feel your way through the bs. A lot of times the obvious is staring us right in the face but we choose to ignore until it's too late.

 

[PinotNoir]

[QUOTE="bmack21, post: 15591118, member: 21157"]I really hate this backburner shyt that some women do. If you're gonna give me my L, let me gracefully take it and be about my way. But folks just have to keep a finger on something they don't want, just to know they have it. Some selfish shyt right here.[/QUOTE]


Yes it's very selfish it's like they don't want you but they don't want no one else to have you. I must admit I did this to one guy I really liked but I knew we were incompatible and I held on eventually he screwed me over, oh he got me good. I'm a brehette btw but it's not right stringing people along. Just be upfront.

 

[PinotNoir]

What y'all think about approaching a female while she working

Depends on the approach and the type of job she's working. Is it business, service etc etc

 

[satireprod]

No I've seen mentally unstable people maintain romantic relationships. She's talking to someone which to me means that person is priority at the moment in her dating life, any others are just options. I'd tell your friend to take it easy focus on other things personally he should move on because if someone wants to be with you they will, no excuses. I know it's easier said than done but you must have discipline and lookout for yourself. It seems like your friend really like this lady but he shouldn't let his emotions rule look at the present and right now she doesn't seem too interested in him other than satisfying her ego at times. The dating game is tough, everybody talking to multiples at once. It's tough and you have to use your head to feel your way through the bs. A lot of times the obvious is staring us right in the face but we choose to ignore until it's too late.

as for the bolded...Yeah that's what I meant by my question. I agree. She got him on the back burner.

as for the underlined...I'm a dude that really talks to one woman at a time..which puts me at a disadvantage...I think the thing that balances it out is that it appears I talk to multiple women at a time...which is sort of weird but it makes sense at the same time.

 

[PinotNoir]

as for the bolded...Yeah that's what I meant by my question. I agree. She got him on the back burner.

as for the underlined...I'm a dude that really talks to one woman at a time..which puts me at a disadvantage...I think the thing that balances it out is that it appears I talk to multiple women at a time...which is sort of weird but it makes sense at the same time.

I talk to one guy at time, but I'm saying if the situation looks dark, it's best to let go and move on. You're one of the rarer guys so good going for not playing around. I think when people talk to many at once they tend to not take anyone serious and are more privy to playing games and testing. But keep being yourself and eventually that diamond will be found.

 

[satireprod]

I talk to one guy at time, but I'm saying if the situation looks dark, it's best to let go and move on. You're one of the rarer guys so good going for not playing around. I think when people talk to many at once they tend to not take anyone serious and are more privy to playing games and testing. But keep being yourself and eventually that diamond will be found.

Yeah as a young man it's not easy..TRUST lol and yeah it's not necessarily wrong talking to multiple people, I think as long as they're honest..I fully agree with you that by definition when you do that you tend to not taking anyone serious
And as a woman for the underlined would you say that more women talk to multiple people or just one at a time?

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

Depends on the approach and the type of job she's working. Is it business, service etc etc

she's a waitress but I'm I just wanna get to know her

 

[PinotNoir]

she's a waitress but I'm I just wanna get to know her

Awww...that's cool. You've got some maneuvering to do. Does she seem friendly towards you, make eye contact, smile and is it generally busy? Maybe you can slip her your number or business card.

 

[PinotNoir]

Yeah as a young man it's not easy..TRUST lol and yeah it's not necessarily wrong talking to multiple people, I think as long as they're honest..I fully agree with you that by definition when you do that you tend to not taking anyone serious
And as a woman for the underlined would you say that more women talk to multiple people or just one at a time?

I think for women it's more of an options/backup thing when talking to multiples. Usually there's a main guy and then the friends waiting in the cuts. It depends on the woman and end goal. If she just wants to use guys then each will supply a need, ie money, dinner, listening ear, and so forth. The end goal is key. It's important to ask questions in the beginning such as the type of relationship she's looking for etc and watch actions. It seems both genders talk to multiple people at the same time to me.

 

[HaterGz]

Dope ass thread.

 

[satireprod]

I think for women it's more of an options/backup thing when talking to multiples. Usually there's a main guy and then the friends waiting in the cuts. It depends on the woman and end goal. If she just wants to use guys then each will supply a need, ie money, dinner, listening ear, and so forth. The end goal is key. It's important to ask questions in the beginning such as the type of relationship she's looking for etc and watch actions. It seems both genders talk to multiple people at the same time to me.

the bolded
The underlined yeah it's good to ask questions but I've found that with a lot of women you can ask questions but they'll give the same PC answers...it might be better to look at her actions....

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

Awww...that's cool. You've got some maneuvering to do. Does she seem friendly towards you, make eye contact, smile and is it generally busy? Maybe you can slip her your number or business card.

Yeah, Its a spot I like to hit and on weeknights is can get pretty slow so we've chatted a few times. She remembered a convo we had a couple months back and brought it up. last time I was there she was like "hey it's been a while how are you!" but idk it's her job to be friendly u know. I feel weird when people are working