She obviously likes you in some kind of way from what you've said so far. Sounds like a good start! I say go for it, won't hurt to try.Yeah, Its a spot I like to hit and on weeknights is can get pretty slow so we've chatted a few times. She remembered a convo we had a couple months back and brought it up. last time I was there she was like "hey it's been a while how are you!" but idk it's her job to be friendly u know. I feel weird when people are working
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Still ask questions and actions are key. whats the PC answer? May I ask your age or the range you're dating in because it's important?the bolded
The underlined yeah it's good to ask questions but I've found that with a lot of women you can ask questions but they'll give the same PC answers...it might be better to look at her actions....
You looking at it wrong, breh. There's no games (plural) it's just THE game. Kobe and LeBron play a game too, don't mean it's for kids.
But in reality, it's not about creating an illusion. You really SHOULD have shyt going on in your life. Your time really SHOULD be valuable. You really SHOULD have options. What woman would wanna be with a man who sits at home on the couch all day? Think about it.
It's only "games" if you're not sincere. And that will only lead to disaster anyway. Can't front like a socialite when you're really a hermit because at some point that will all come to light.
Can't co-sign this, breh. You let chicks pick spots and drive too?
Never relinquish that power position and give her control of a situation. Be a man. Have some balls. She will respect you for it. Guaranteed.
So what happened at the party? Did you fukk?
I got a rule: don't fukk with broke chicks. Has nothing to do with money. She seems like she got some deep emotional shyt going on that you may not wanna be involved with long term. She sounds way too dependent. Obviously there's the daddy thing. Sounds like she used her ex as a crutch. No one should be depending on anyone else for happiness. That's a clear sign of instability.
If you decide to move forward (and I would caution against that given her apparent state, but I don't know her or the situation), I'd stick to short answers to dissuade this kinda talk. You trying to fukk or be this chick's therapist? That's with any chick. Don't allow her to make you into a texting buddy. If you keep texting long paragraphs then that's exactly what you will become in her eyes. Anytime she's feeling down she's gonna text you. Don't be that guy. Keep your answers short and direct. And kinda be a dikk. Chicks love that.
it depends on the interaction or vibe u get from the female when u first approach her. most chicks will call ur phone on the spot (without you asking them to) when you ask for their number. asking for a chick's number, especially one who's interest level ur unable to accurately gauge, is a sure way to devalue yourself in her eyes. i've had chicks tell me they enjoy turning down guys. dont give them that opportunity.
u goto be swift and flawless with the mouthpiece in order to ask for the number without actually coming off as "asking".
and if u cant accurately gauge her interest, give her ur number. be like, when you get a chance, you should hit me up. i know a few good places we can go to great a bite to eat or drinks.
satireprod
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I'm 26 so the dating age is around 25-32....PC answer meaning most will say they're looking for a nice guy, someone who treat them right, something serious...etc
and yeah asking questions is important...can't be upset when you don't ask question BUT there are a lot of women (people in general, I just date women lol) that say one thing but if you look at their actions they tell a different narrative
Oh okay you're still young. I wouldn't totally look at it as their being PC because that's probably what they meant at the time but later feelings change, things happen. It's human nature but I agree watching actions is very telling.
satireprod
Superstar
Yeah but a lot of times people are actively doing things that are contradictory (Dating guys that don't fit anything they say they want) It would be different if its in the complete past but a lot of people are still currently in that mode
If you look at people's trail, they normally reveal who a person is...not always but mostly
26 is young...lol cool
True, people are fickle. You've got a great head on your shoulders and know what you want. Good going!!!
satireprod
Superstar
Yeah thank you. Truth be told, I just graduated law school(a busy three years) and just want to meet a woman that's strong minded, compassionate (to others) and capable of loyalty. You seem really cool and level headed yourself and you always give great advice on here.
Wow congratulations on graduating law school. That's a huge accomplishment. Which area of law do you plan on practicing? You have goals are working towards them, this is what I like seeing from men instead of just chasing women and letting their careers/personal life fall by the wayside. Those are excellent qualities to have in a mate.
Thank you. I enjoy giving advice because I want people to know the truth so I don't mind sharing the knowledge.
Thank you. I enjoy giving advice because I want people to know the truth so I don't mind sharing the knowledge.
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I Got Game
If she calls your phone on the spot then she's giving you her number, breh.
Maybe your method of getting a number differs from mine, but it's really not that difficult. You vibe. You make her laugh. And then you bounce quick enough to leave her wanting more without playing yourself out. My method is "Be desireless, be excellent, be gone." If you do that it only takes a couple minutes and she should already be in love with the idea of you. My approach is almost like Fresh Prince's "hurry up and gimme your number before I don't want it anymore." If I ask a chick for her number, she should feel honored. That's how I put it down. And no, I'm not a pickup artist. I just make girls fall in love with me then choose which one I want. If I'm attracted to a chick she is not gonna have any idea. Instead, I focus on making them fall in love with the idea of me. Can't get turned down if you have no desires.
Damn I can't even remember the last time a chick declined to give me her contact info.
But anyways, that's just the exchange. After that, I definitely want to be in control of the situation and there's no way to do that if you don't have the number. You're literally at her mercy at that point. fukk that.
Plus everything I been telling yall brehs about TAKING CHARGE.
Women like men with balls. Alphas. Leaders. Cocky a$$hole jerks who they should feel lucky if he finds the time for.
If you do it right, you should never have to worry about getting the number. But the very fact you worry means you're not doing it right from jump. Insecurity will fukk you up far more often than a chick "enjoying turning you down." They enjoy turning nikkas down because they smell like their kitty. 
Now I know there's more than 1 way to skin a cat. But I just don't understand why brehs make shyt so difficult. This shyt is easy, breh.Be desireless. Meaning no thirst, and act like you've been around a beautiful woman before.
Be excellent. Show her your value. Lots of ways to be excellent. Be handsome, dress nice, smell good, be funny, have a sexy voice, whatever...
Be gone. Once you're a "yes" in her mind, get the fukk outta there before you start coming off as thirsty or do something to mess up, thus negating your first 2 steps.
I'm not with this new age role reversal shyt. I ain't waiting on no calls. If a chick doesn't wanna give me her number that's her loss, I keep it moving, head held high. Yall young boys too scared of rejection. Ironically, it's that very fear that leads to most of your rejection. nikka like me let a chick no what's what then politely direct her attention to the wet spot in her crotch area.
satireprod
Superstar
You have a gift for listening and giving great advice.
I want to try my hand at either Tort Law (lawsuits to right grievously wronged parties) Corporate Law or Entertainment Law (specifically Intellectual Property allowing people to keep their rights in intellectual ideas/concepts)
I'm a writer as well and I've finished the script for a legal series. This week I'm going to NY to finish callbacks for Casting before we try to film the pilot. Also got network meetings, so fingers crossed....
The irony is I've always wanted to be either a lawyer or a writer. In law school, I met a bunch of people who were in the entertainment business as producers. With this I'll be able to do both.
And yeah, women say those are excellent qualities but it doesn't always feel like it lol (Pursuing a career over chasing randoms)
Thank you. I try.
That's very interesting law school to tv series. wow where do you get the time to date. I honestly would focus on career development and if you meet someone then great. Take it easy in dating.
That's very interesting law school to tv series. wow where do you get the time to date. I honestly would focus on career development and if you meet someone then great. Take it easy in dating.
satireprod
Superstar
Thank you!Lol everyone always asks me that. But honestly I want both.lol
Super multitasker. Are you somewhere warm or in a cold state?
satireprod
Superstar
No problemThank you!
Super multitasker. Are you somewhere warm or in a cold state?
I try to be. A lot of my friends/family ask me why don't I just try to go the firm route, but I've always wanted to be able to do different things. Writing/Creating/Consulting/Lawyer.. I'm anxious, excited and nervous all at the same time. But I feel like you're not doing anything special if you're not just a little nervous at the next move. AND I want to be able to share that with a woman. Grow together, learn from each other, have experiences.
@the bolded I don't know why I laughed, I'm in a warm state (Texas) but it gets cold in the winter, which is right around the corner.